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Ngoc Trang hello to all viewers watching the program on Nguon Co Radio channel Today we have the rare opportunity to study together and we are truly grateful The concept of virtue for women in today's society is a rather unfamiliar term The ancients said that whether this era can achieve peace and prosperity depends largely on women Why is that Any national leader any official any director or even a worker is taught by their mothers If a mother is virtuous she will surely raise good children Ancient people also said that loyal ministers come from families with filial sons without a mother's teaching how would children know filial piety Therefore virtue is very important A woman with virtue will bring peace and happiness to the family and her children will be well-raised A child from the time of pregnancy inherits the qualities of the mother Every action gesture and word of the mother affects the child The ancients said at three years old one knows eighty at seven one knows the whole life That is during the first 3 years the first 1000 days of a child's life what it sees hears and experiences shapes its personality habits and temperament Therefore a woman with all the virtues of a woman will demonstrate to her children the best things Thus the child grows up When the child grew up and started school the mother was the one who was with him the most Always observe the child's behavior and personality then guide them into the right path Help the child grow up with the virtues of sages wise men and gentlemen But in order to do this the mother must have sufficient intelligence and the ability to judge in order to educate her child Furthermore if the woman in the family possesses virtuous qualities she will ensure the family's peace and harmony Happiness it strengthens the husband's resolve to go out and work helping the people and the country Therefore it is not an exaggeration to say that in the development of society and the country the role of women accounts for more than half It is not about the woman going out to work but rather these intellect and virtues that bring happiness to the family and stability and development to society I hope the lessons and stories that Ngoc Trang shares from this book on female virtue will provide you with many useful insights Please don't hesitate to share this with others for the merit of sharing is immeasurable What is female virtue The virtue of a woman is her moral character In today's society very few people care about this topic On the other hand many people are interested in how to make money and how to improve their chances and status in society Women are concerned about whether their family is becoming happier and whether their quality of life is higher However the root cause of happiness is never paid attention to In the traditional culture of the nation over thousands of years Ancient people have left us with moral education about the virtues of a modest and kind-hearted woman That is how women achieve the source of happiness in life In the past few years of studying traditional culture Ngoc Trang herself has many insights and has shared them with the audience many times In the life insights articles on the Hành Trình Tương Lai YouTube channel and fanpage Today Ngoc Trang wants to study the book "Women" with you "Women" is a short book with just over 1 800 words It is a moral education book for women written by the Eastern Han Dynasty's Bureau of Court Ladies This is the earliest educational curriculum on women's moral education in Chinese history Therefore we can see that in ancient times They truly place great importance on educating women's qualities Why is that Because there is a saying that The king's virtue originates from the inner chambers "King" comes from the word "king " and "virtue" comes from the word "education and cultivation " The education and cultivation of a nation begins in the inner chambers The main gate is the entrance to the inner quarters where women usually come and go It is beneficial for a maiden's water In a family if one wishes to gain benefits it must originate from the purity of women Therefore since ancient times to have virtuous talents one must first have a virtuous son To have a virtuous son one must first have a virtuous mother To have a virtuous mother one must first have a virtuous daughter Tracing back to the root it is still the mother's place The mother is very important Where do good mothers come from They come from being raised properly Why is this issue being neglected in today's society It's because we have neglected the education of traditional culture In this first meeting let us together reflect on the meaningful lesson of the Holy Mother I would like to share with everyone based on three aspects The first issue is that women in today's society do not clearly understand their own roles What is called "the proper place of a woman" refers to the status of women in society and in the family throughout their lives What is the meaning of life What responsibilities do we have How significant is it If a woman does not know these things it is a troublesome issue Because they will be puzzled and unsure where to start or how to proceed That is why the I Ching says The woman fulfills the inner vessel the man fulfills the outer vessel This is the great meaning of heaven and earth This statement is rarely mentioned these days However it highlights the difference between men and women This is one of the five fundamental relationships in traditional culture It is the relationship between husband and wife What is the difference here It is precisely where the Book of Changes indicates one person handling external matters and another handling internal affairs External family matters are handled by the man It means the man is responsible for the family's economic support Household duties are handled by the woman Women worry about nurturing the next generation of the family Inner career is more important than outer career Why is that Because a woman's mission is to help her husband educate their children "tướng phu giáo tử " "Tướng" means to assist It is to help one's husband become virtuous and to enhance his virtue Let us think about what would happen if we ourselves lacked virtue How can one possibly become a virtuous example for others This cannot happen Oneself is ignorant and still vague and unclear How can you know where someone else's problem is Let alone giving advice to others Teaching children is the art of educating them Comparing the two duties of supporting a husband and raising children it is more important to raise children than to support a husband What is meant by helping one's husband What is meant by being skilled in educating children We are also educating them now But how did they teach their children to become like that When they grow up parents will be very worried and going to school will make the teachers worried This is a very troublesome issue How can we educate our children well First of all we must have the ability to teach A person must have morality and education Therefore when discussing the mission of a woman we can clearly see the difference from here The role between men and women is extremely important The internal role is more important than the external Like a country that can There is no external exchange but absolutely there must be internal management Family is like that what about society What about the country It's the same too In the next part the sutras mention that in a family there is a strict officer that is the parents father as father son as son You you me that is the proper family The family avoids it Then the world will be at peace What does this sentence mean It means that in a family there needs to be a respected and authoritative figure That is the father and mother In a family relationships between parent and child siblings husband and wife One must act according to the principles of propriety Only in this way can the family traditions be maintained Once the family traditions are maintained Then the world will be at peace This statement carries profound meaning and also embodies the essence of traditional culture Therefore studying traditional culture is actually a very simple thing That is the four words that are often mentioned The first two words are The five relationships the two following words are the five constants The five relationships help us understand that there are five official relationships Between people All relationships are inseparable from these five types The Five Relationships include father-son husband-wife elder-young friend-friend and ruler-subject The child understands the way the husband understands the difference the soldier and the ruler understand righteousness and understanding trust The Five Constants are the five fundamental roots of cultivation Our essence is human meaning ceremony wisdom and faith Let us examine each one by one First let us look at What is father-son understanding The meaning of the word "body" is without distinction This lack of distinction means what It means There is no condition in the relationship between father and son That is the first thing The second thing is the relationship betwee Both the parent and the child also need to use reason It must have wisdom We now call it unconditional For example The father has a lot of money but he buys his child a lot of delicious food and toys without any conditions A father like that It is without wisdom it relies entirely on sentiment rather than reason Such indulgence of children is They have completely left the education of their children to chance Therefore the concept of father-son relationship in traditional culture has a deep meaning It is very profound Once you understand this you will know what it means to be a father and son How should a father treat his son Why must a mother multiply We will explain this in the chapter on teaching children in the following section Selfishness cannot go to the extent of indulgence It means not being too lenient but also not being so strict as to hurt feelings It means being strict with children but not to the point of causing emotional harm It harms the kindness The present people do not study they lack wisdom and do not understand what is the correct way This is quite inconvenient The second is the order of understanding You me have the order The order of understanding means between Family members must have a moral order as stated in the Disciple's Rules "Elder brothers love younger brothers " I respectfully say one must uphold their own duties The third thing is the most important which is for the wife to understand The difference In fact the difference in roles between husband and wife is that the husband is the main and the wife is the helper Whe We learn about the importance of female virtue education from the traditional culture which once had a saying to illustrate the significance of female virtue education The world's ruler must avoid human relationships It means that to govern the world well one must first ensure that relationships between people are harmonious Virtue is the relationship between people To avoid the disruption of human relationships one must first correct the roles of husband and wife The husband is the leader within the family Five relationships the relationship between husband and wife is the most important It must be clearly understood and maintained When the main relationship is correct all other relationships will be good because this is the key relationship To make the main and the secondary relationships correct First the woman must be virtuous This means that in a marital relationship the woman plays a crucial role In modern society we They often witness unstable chaotic families filled with resentment and gossip leading to active demands for divorce Among them There are many women If women are determined the family will be peaceful Like the divine pearl of the sea the divine staff that calms the sea So making the big things small and not making the small things big The importance of understanding and listening is the most important thing in a marital relationship To listen means to follow But in modern times when some people mention the term "female virtue" from the past the first concept that comes to mind is Women must be respected by men Three obediences and four virtues are not good Oppressing women's rights not equal to women One stick is already This concept is dead In reality we have not truly understood the genuine meaning within it at all Think for yourself This is a mistake In the education of women in ancient times the character "thính" stood in Behind the words That means the husband's words must be obeyed Why does the husband's words have meaning For a wife there is love for friends there is loyalty for parents there is gratitude In terms of familial love Moral integrity and gratitude can both follow the teachings of the ancients and thus one can become a person of virtue and righteousness What is called compassion righteousness is simply not giving others what yourself do not want Thinking about oneself Then one can infer others False meaning false week A person with meaning that is a person who knows how to follow the ritual Week means to comply corresponds to means to work things must correspond to morality not based on personal feelings But work In this situation the wife must completely obey her husband helping him achieve success Outside inside the house it helps the husband educate the next generation well to inherit his business If not so en the busy husband spends his whole life in the next life there is no one to continue Helping your husband's family Nurturing the next generation is essential It is a very important task With this responsibility how can a wife be said to be Are you not respected Why can't my husband respect me That's impossible A husband to a manager And educate the next generation of his legacy will certainly be highly valued and deeply respected The words you speak your husband It must be taken into consideration because it affects his future career Therefore in a family if there is a situation where It is possible to clearly define the relationship between husband and wife so the sutra in each family will be relatively easy to recite Usually there is a saying that each family Everyone has a difficult right to recite This difficulty is because women do not understand the reason and when working they dream Ambiguous therefore it will be ruined by household matters preventing the family business from thriving Couples Especially the wife if she understands this relationship then the house will become a house How does the house become a house A family must have four elements just like a room To build a room you must have at least four walls and four pillars That is it Which four walls First there must be a family second there must be family rules third there must be family education fourth there must be family business After the four walls are built this family will definitely have a home A good home will ensure that this house lasts a long time It will be a hundred -year legacy which can be extended further If the family is not virtuous it is said that wealth does not last beyond three generations Eventually it will be cut off What is called family ethics The word "dao" means that family members must have morality I will speak simply clearly that is family members must cultivate virtue and perform good deeds This is called the evil of negligence Be good and follow the right path do not do evil things and do good deeds In the study of traditional culture There is a very important classic called The Classic of the Supreme Ultimate and the Response of Virtue The opening section of the scripture states: "Blessings and calamities have no gate " Good and evil have their own rewards like a shadow following the form Misfortune and blessing have no door they come from the person's own attraction Good and bad karma like a shadow following a shape A couple comes together to form a family how to make this family Never cease to accumulate merit never cease to avoid misfortune know how to welcome good fortune and avoid evil A woman in the family must know this You must do it yourself then guide your children guide your husband to do good deeds and keep doing such things continuously In the story of the common official we see that his wife every day helps her husband accumulate virtue and perform good deeds Once a common man saw his wife sewing a quilt for their child and she used poor quality cotton He asked her why she did that His wife answered that it could save more money could do more Many cotton jackets are given to poor families The number of the ordinary person's network can change from a group network to a personal one Longevity from being childless to having children This is all due to the help of a virtuous wife at home That is why since ancient times a virtuous wife is the one who manages the family A good wife can avoid extravagance and improve herself It affects the husband Teaching children to be useful can change a family even the fate of a clan or a nation A virtuous woman educated and capable of guiding her family along the path of righteousness and goodness This is the true way The simplest way More specifically what is called the Way In the Great Learning there are many analyses that if based on things that are appropriate to Human nature in harmony with its own nature in harmony with the natural law in the universe and when acting it is within the Dao If you act without relying on these you are not in the way Therefore in ancient times the character "de" (virtue) was part of the term "dao yi" (morality) It is related to the word "đắc" in the term "đắc đáo " meaning to achieve It also means that you are following the natural law based on Your nature the nature of a person if you do it you can achieve everything you desire If you don't do it It will not be achieved This is the family way What is meant by family rules It is the Disciple's Rules which the ancients left for us Who is a disciple We are all disciples We are all students of the old sages students of the sages and virtuous men The author once heard Tai Li Hu say that Teacher Chen Jingyu from the Chen family is the descendant of whom The descendants of King Shun were the Shun of the Yáo era Shun Wu Tang Shang At that time the scholar felt very ashamed of himself He had no virtue of King Shun and no scholarly learning So after a few hundred years after a few thousand years Are the virtues of the ancients not gone Will the scholarship of the ancients also be lost It is said that not listening to words People in the past were at a disadvantage right before their eyes Who are the people of the past Our ancestors the grandparents and great-grandparents They are the people of the past We now consider ourselves very smart saying that nowadays we don't need the teachings of the ancients as those teachings are no longer relevant It is up-to-date Is that correct The wisdom of the ancients is completely transcendent across time and space It's really like that because it fits human nature Just being a person the inner things of eternal nature are the same Through the transmission of the original text The original text is not like ordinary language but changes according to the times Transformation It completely preserves the meaning of the ancients We just need to be willing to study and we can know and understand clearly then apply it in our lives Our lives It's very simple What is the method we currently use to educate our children It's a quick method teaching two sentences and wanting the children to memorize them immediately If they don't memorize them we It would be very anxious because I've taught them 4-5 times already How come they can't remember even the parents' call After tha The author turned around to look back at the school raising children in the book of cultivation the correct way of teaching is only when you understand that our way of teaching was wrong Because the way of education We were taught by our ancestors that children are not like that It is different from the way we teach them Read once and immediately Make them memorize but have them read forward read backward read forward until it becomes natural for them to memorize it completely then they will fully internalize it Remember This is in line with their nature without force At first a mother teaches a 3-year- old child for example by teaching She wanted to recite a passage but she felt very upset couldn't memorize it and was eager to go play And one weekend the mother sat across from the child with a small book reading each time each time I remember the past If you read it continuously 10 times you can basically memorize it which is a child with a very high level of insight and innate talent Okay For the child it has to be read 100 times in order to memorize it That's not a problem The result is reading about ten times Sometimes it was completely natural for it to memorize very naturally So sometimes the mother felt really ashamed because she only graduated with a master's degree Even if they have a doctorate they still discard all the intellectual essence and experience that their ancestors have accumulated I myself use the modern methods of today to educate my children This is not in line with natural laws which is why I feel troubled and distressed Good evening this is a lecture by Teacher Tran Tinh Du Once again thank you dear viewers for your time The time spent listening to the original radio has helped us rediscover the traditional culture that our ancestors learned from and followed for thousands of years To preserve family and social stability throughout long historical periods The next video we will continue to explore what is family education Please leave a 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