Cảnh Giới Cao Nhất Kiểm Soát Cơn Nóng Giận: Biến Kẻ Thù Thành Bạn Tâm Giao - Đông Tây Kim Cổ

The highest limit of controlling anger turns the enemy into a friend. Shakespeare once said, Who can keep calm in a state of panic, steadfast in a state of alertness and alert in a state of anger? That is truly a hero. The gods also said to their descendants, If even your own anger cannot be restored, then who do you want to restore it to? When provoked in a natural way, we want to retaliate and attack the opponent. When someone repeatedly makes a mistake, we can't see it, but it will explode. This will at least make us feel more comfortable. But what happens after anger? Do you regret it? Can the problem be solved? Anger, does it help us achieve the desired result? And is our relationship with the opponent better or worse? A few days ago, my assistant forgot the task I assigned. At that time, I couldn't control myself, I was in a state of panic. I repeated it over and over again and still made mistakes. I wanted to shout like a typhoon and give him a head-on blow. After a while, I thought, he usually takes full responsibility, maybe it's just a momentary mistake, or maybe I'm not in a good mood, maybe I've been busy lately, and I'm too tired. I calmed down a bit and told myself, let's talk about it tomorrow. And to be honest, I feel really lucky because of this arrogant attitude. In life, everyone has to face unsuitable situations, it's only then that we choose which attitude to deal with. One is to calm down, be careful in responding. Two, get angry and cause a lot of conflicts later. There are also many stories about the profound science of anger. Right after this, the audience of Dong Tay Kim Co let's take a look. The consequences of anger are often more frightening than its cause. The story of a woman who wrote a letter to a famous writer, Charlie Carnegie, related to the play telling the story of President Lincoln on his radio station. In it, there are many wrong days. That woman really liked President Lincoln, so she wrote a letter with a very angry tone, saying, if you don't even know the most basic information about the life of Lincoln, it's best not to live. This is an insult to President Lincoln. If you don't have enough information, it's best to collect information and then speak. Writer Carnegie is now very famous and has written many books. This letter made him feel disappointed. He was very angry and immediately replied with a letter with the same tone. When he finished writing the letter, it was past working hours. The assistant had returned home and couldn't help him send it away. He immediately put the letter on the table and planned to send it the next morning. The next morning, when he was going to bring the letter to send, he looked at it again and thought, I was too hot. That woman doesn't live like that. She doesn't deserve me to be angry. Moreover, if you look at it from one perspective, she also has the right place. He tore up that letter and wrote a completely different letter. In the second letter, there was no anger. On the contrary, he thanked her for helping him realize his mistake. Then he thought, if in 12 hours my love had such a big change, why didn't I wait a few more days before sending this letter? He made a test and put the letter back on the table. In the evening, he read it again. This time, he wanted to edit a few more words in it. By Saturday, it had become a completely different letter. The woman behind had been proven to be a very good person. Mr. Carnegie described her as one of the best friends in his life. That day, if his assistant was still there and the original letter was sent, what would happen? Of course, he would have one more enemy. His actions were calm, his mood was harmonious, his brain was calm. In ancient times, Phung Dao and Hoa Ngan were good friends and had a very good relationship. One day, Phung Dao asked the newly married couple to visit Hoa Ngan. Coincidentally, Hoa Ngan had asked the Marquis to go outside to see if Phung Dao was alive. So, Hoa Ngan asked Phung Dao how much his shoes were worth. Phung Dao calmly nodded his head and said, It's very expensive, only 500 dong. Hoa Ngan immediately got angry and slapped the Marquis on the cheek. Phung Dao said, Buy all 1000 dong. At this time, Phung Dao slowly lifted his left foot and said, This is also 500 dong. Hoa Ngan was so embarrassed that she did not know what to do. Sometimes, what we see with our own eyes is not necessarily true. Everything, let's wait a little, maybe there will be a better chance. Do not let anger make you unconscious and make reckless actions. It can lead to mistakes When you are angry, do not talk. When you are upset, do not fight. In life, spend more time for calm and awareness. Everything, no matter how bad it is, will have a chance to solve it well. Think carefully, give yourself some time to adapt. He was very fond of sleeping on the bed. One night, while sleeping, he dreamed and turned a little, unfortunately, the teapot spilled. The teapot fell to the ground. After waking up, he was very bored. He thought, the teapot is gone, keep the teapot. So he threw the teapot and saw the teapot fall into the flowerpot, so there was no damage. At this time, he cried both angry and regretful. He thought, the teapot is gone, keep the teapot. So he threw the teapot and broke the teapot. But when he stepped out of the door, he looked up and shuddered when he saw the teapot thrown out of the window, still intact and stuck in the teapot. After reading the story, he did not get bored. He just felt sorry for the owner of the teapot, but he was really doing it himself. Obviously, there were two chances to save the teapot, but he could not hold it. This can be seen that actions according to emotions can only bring mistakes in everyday life. In the past, the husband was angry when his wife broke the teapot, right? In work, when there is an unsatisfactory situation, it will make him fall into a financial crisis. In everyday life, if the husband is angry and makes a wrong decision, it is very difficult to save. There is a saying, when a person is angry, anger is the most stupid thing. Sometimes we have to do things without good or bad intentions, in a hurry, just hoping to achieve the result in the future, it will usually bring regret and regret. Before making a decision, give yourself some time to think about it. Don't take your anger as a given. In the Thai law, when a person is angry, he will make a mistake. The Philemon letter in the New Testament of the Bible also writes that when a person is angry, everything will go to hell. No matter what the cause of anger is, you should control it because anger can hurt someone, ruin a relationship, or even make love make you regret for the rest of your life. According to statistics, traffic accidents are caused by angry and aggressive driving. A broken soul is caused by quarreling. Anger makes people die sooner than smoking, drinking, high blood pressure and high cholesterol. The consequences of anger are often more serious than its cause. If you go to jail and ask a number of prisoners there, more than half of them will definitely tell you that if I wasn't angry at that time, I wouldn't be in jail like now. Things that start with anger often end with regret. So don't be agitated. First, calm down and try to wait for a while and wait for the next day to see how you feel. When you look back, I'm sure you'll tell yourself that luckily yesterday I didn't lose my cool and didn't make any decisions. That feeling is a hundred times better than the feeling of anger. What is called wisdom is the voice in your heart when you calm down and feel happy. Remember that although a little bit of anger is more bearable than sadness in your heart, a calm state is the best. Don't see your anger as a natural thing. That's why you have the motivation to get out of it. Deal with work calmly and calmly. Psychologist Ronan once said that the storm of anger usually lasts no more than 12 seconds. At the beginning, it can destroy everything. But when it's over, it's quiet and peaceful. If you can control these 12 seconds, you can get rid of negative feelings. The real enemy when dealing with work often controls the mood first, then comes to work. You have to analyze your mind and then take a look at the situation. Tan Quoc Vien said that when you meet, you need to be calm and calm. Remember the state of panic and worry when dealing with love will be wrong. When there is a situation of emotional confusion, rationality and intelligence, it will decrease and lead to a wrong mistake that can be avoided. And when the anger rises, you should be silent for at least 12 seconds or temporarily leave the environment to make you angry. If you meet something that doesn't suit you, don't rush to make a decision to let yourself have two days to adjust to the state and then go to solve the problem. For what needs to be handled in a calm and peaceful state, this is a way to deal with the situation and at the same time it is also a kind of intelligence that penetrates the force. I will summarize every time I get angry 1. Ask yourself whether this is really important. Once you think logically, you can guess whether you are making a big deal or not. 2. Does this require such a big temper? Does anger have any benefits? This question can help you reduce anger or immediately reduce anger right away. 3. The meaningful things you can do now You can go outside, run a few laps, play a basketball game, clean up the house, listen to music, read funny stories, or turn anger into motivation, struggle to achieve higher achievements and reach higher points in the upcoming competitions. I hope through this video we can all reduce anger and increase tolerance. If you like today's topic, please give a like, subscribe and share the video to your loved ones and friends. And now, Leo Anh says goodbye and see you again.