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And I don't try to prove myself to anyone or try to make myself more loved by others but what I'm doing is my number one lesson. Hi guys, welcome back to my YouTube channel Dang Khanh Hoi Dao Minh. Today I'm going to make a video to share with you about a lesson that is gradually changing my life in recent years. Many people think that when we have some achievements or achievements, we bring lessons like this to share with you. However, from my personal point of view, I think there are some new things and things that I have just experienced that I want to share with you to ensure that those things are very new and just experienced so I understand the most what I'm talking about. And I hope that with a video like this, you can bring some new perspectives or some really useful things to apply in your life. The first lesson I want to share with you in this video is that we have to distinguish who we are and who we want to be. There are quite a lot of models in our lives drawn in the style of family, school, or people around us, or simply society to be able to draw really perfect models. I've been under a lot of pressure for a long time when I started going to college and there was a pressure that the school had to have a good grade and start looking for a job. But the more I experience, the more I realize that I don't fit in with a job where you go to an office in the morning and sit down to do some work, do it over and over again to be able to wait until the end of the month to get paid. I'm not saying that's the concept applied to everyone. That's the first story. That is, we really have to know who we are and how we fit in with things. The process that we find ourselves, find our personality, see if we really fit in with things or say it in a more cultural way, that is, we will find ourselves, see how our strengths and weaknesses are so that we can choose a career, choose a job, or choose a path that is really good. Forget the story that we have to try to copy someone or try to become someone. It's better to become the best version of yourself. In lesson number 2, I want to share with you in today's video that we should focus completely on the strengths we have, not the things we don't have. There are quite a lot of people struggling with things that they are too weak compared to others. And if I'm not mistaken, there is a quote like this, that is, do not compare the ability to climb a tree to a fish because it will always think that it will not be able to do like a fish that can climb a tree, right? In short, we will understand that sometimes each of us will have a special ability. And there is one thing that I was quite impressed with when I read the book Barking the Wrong Tree, that is, the book talks about how the story is done so that we can turn those weaknesses into really different points for other people who are already in this society. Similarly, when we start to find ourselves, we really understand that we are having such efforts, we have such strengths, we have such weaknesses. So when we know completely about ourselves like that, instead of being sad and depressed about things that we don't have, like our height is a bit humble, our ability to speak is not very good, or sometimes we are not good at communicating for others to understand our intentions. So instead of focusing on the points that we don't have, let's find the real points that we are really good at, really better than others. I told you in that book that there are people who have the ability to turn their weaknesses into something special that no one in society has such points. So I will run the same concept when I know what my strengths are. For example, running. Why did I spend a lot of time and sweat on this? Because I know that when I spend time practicing it, I will definitely get results. Similarly, for other areas of our lives, each person will be born with a different occupation, a different career, a different way of making money. So when we start to realize those points, we try to make the most of what we have, and instead of sitting there and being sad about what we don't have, we try to make the most of what we are stronger than others to do better than others in some areas. As for the third lesson I want to share with you in today's video, that is the story of freedom. Later on, when I started to have the ability to make money, I realized that the ability to use our money to buy back freedom was wonderful. However, everyone wants to have that freedom. Everyone wants to be able to do what they like when they wake up, or when they can do anything without being stopped by anyone. And this freedom is usually replaced by discipline. And the more free we want to be, the more discipline we have to have. It has appeared for quite a few years in my own development process. And when I realized that life is not simple, it runs in a way that you just have to get out there and do something so you can have money and you can have freedom, then that's completely wrong. Most of the time, we need to have a certain discipline in everything we do. Simply, the story of making videos on my YouTube channel as well as the story of reading a book or the story of learning English or learning a foreign language is the same. If I have made a commitment every day that I will have to learn from 2 to 3 hours a day, then no matter what reason, no matter what story, no matter what career, no matter what happens in my life, I always have to arrange time to be able to save time for English for 2 to 3 hours. Similarly, the story of running at this time is the same. That is, if I have committed that I will have to achieve the goal of running a marathon at the end of this year, then I have to spend time every day to save 1 to 2 hours for running to be able to train for my results. And many people think that discipline will be a pretty sad thing and sometimes it's pretty tough. However, for me, I see that this discipline can create more success in your life in all areas you do. If you have made a commitment, you have made a commitment to your life that you will do that, then the discipline itself will create such success. Lesson number 4 I want to share with you in today's video is that we should not underestimate small victories in our lives. When I talk to a friend of mine during this time, when I try to share with him about the story I am trying to to be able to train for my results as well as trying to do business. I also told him that I am having certain achievements in my life and he told me that these victories will create for me so that I can do more wonderful things in my life. And when I heard that, I felt quite comforted quite a lot because when I told my story about small victories like that, it will create big victories. And if you have read books like The One Thing or you have studied The Snowball, then you will know that the only thing we focus on is to focus on fighting small things like that and then those small things will create bigger victories in our lives. And a lot of people mention this through their habits and their mornings with things like they can wake up early which is the first victory of the day or they can spend time from 30 minutes to 45 minutes a day so they can run to save money for their health so that later when they accept to play a longer game they will have better health. Similarly, when in our lives with anything we do if we have small achievements small victories in our journey then we will have more faith to try to accomplish bigger things in life. And similarly with the story that I am producing videos on YouTube or I am running or I am doing business just like that at this time I am just doing business then I started to appear in the first stores I have sold some pairs of shoes to some friends and I am trying to improve their health by running every day and when I start to have small victories like that then I start to realize that my life will run like that sometimes we just need to focus on doing small things later when we have small achievements like that, they combine with each other then we will have bigger victories and when we have bigger victories like that then later we will have victories that are a little more terrible than later The fifth lesson I want to share with you in today's video is related to the story that we have to spend money so that we can buy more experiences in our life right from my university years I started to think about this story that is when I have the ability to earn money then besides saving then I will use that money so that I can go to experience to be able to travel more or to be able to buy more books to read or maybe try to do more business so that I can have more experiences live real life in my life and this is the story that I don't always try that I can save my money to be able to buy more things to be able to cover my body to look really cool The only thing in my life that I use money to invest the most is this time that is running I have spent quite a lot of money to be able to buy things to be able to equip for my running story Many people think that those are the parts that I am spending too much money for my running story like that However, that is an investment for my future because I know that in this field with the fact that I invest for myself in the field of health as well as things related to my business or things related to my current job they are all my future investment and that is also a way for me to buy new experiences with this new habit of mine Similarly, when you are young don't try to make money to be able to save money then use all that money to buy something to be able to equip for example, a good phone or a good watch I have never tried to make money for example, have enough money to buy a good phone and then my account runs out of money and then I go again to make money to save money and buy something else Of course, there is nothing wrong with that and that's just how you spend your money However, in my opinion try to be able to balance it with how much we earn and instead of using money to buy more things to pay for ourselves so that we don't have to solve a lot of problems by using that money we can buy more experiences better experiences for our lives It can be a trip or a place you've never been to It's also a new language or a new skill that you can use that money to learn and try to improve your skills so that later when we have a lot of experiences we have a lot of knowledge and our skills are good then the ability that we can attract a lot of that money more in our lives is very normal Similarly, when we have some money I advise you to use that money to be able to experience more To number 6 to talk about the story of working hard To talk about the story of working hard it's probably that I'm a person who always upholds this belief that is the belief of hardworking and I don't know if it's because my origin is born in rural areas when I see farmers people like my parents people around they have to work very hard to be able to make money and it will affect my personality a lot later especially until I start to spend time to try to improve my language ability or try to learn a new skill then I can see how important hardworking is There are quite a lot of people who underestimate this hard work but in the past they had to work very hard to be able to achieve the achievements in their lives at that time For example, the story of learning English learning foreign languages is not like that Many people they often write articles or write some books to tell you that learning English is very simple you don't have to try hard you can still become really good However, in my opinion when I talk to people I listen to their journey to share I see that it is not really true but the hard work it will create a very big result in the story you are doing anything in your life Although there is only one thing I want to emphasize here it is not that hard work will play a role in everything but sometimes it will have to be the thing we need to work hard on that is, we have to filter what we need to work hard on For example, the 10,000 hours rule to talk about how to do the story so we can reach that number to become an expert in some field However, the hard work here is not that we try to do something in 10,000 hours and then after 10,000 hours we will become an expert in that field but we have to work in a way that we have a clear direction we have a clear process to measure our progress after a period of time As for lesson number 7 I want to share with you in today's video to talk about the story that is simple and simple life Before, I often emphasized these two concepts one is essentialism and the second is minimalism Actually, when I started to approach the ideas related to minimalism If you notice, in 2019 I made some videos to talk about this minimalism In fact, at that time I didn't really distinguish that I was a minimalist or a simple person And after a while when I spent more time running and I started to buy more things I realized that my life is not just that I am a simple person but I will be more inclined to a simpler life That is, instead of trying to limit myself to buy something that is not really necessary in my life I will still buy However, I will try to simplify the things I use in my life And when I started to spend more time to learn more about these two concepts related to minimalism and simple life I was more inclined to myself with things related to simple life Because in fact, if I can make a video like this for example I have quite a lot of camera equipment as well as audio equipment Or simply for example, I'm editing your video you can see that I have two computers here to use or simply the books I have or the shoes I have And I think I will not be a person who lives in a simple way that is, simplification That is, I only have one pair of shoes for a running purpose for example Or I just need a device to be able to edit videos Or I just need a device to film Or I just need some books, some books to simplify my book list for example So I think you need to distinguish these two concepts that you are really a simple person or a simple person After a while I think I'm not a simple person and I'm not too faithful to this simple idea You can watch the previous videos so I can talk about simple and simple life so you can really distinguish it And I'm also spending a lot of time so I can learn more about how real life is and how real life suits me And there is nothing wrong if you can try to see if you are in a simple life or a simple life or a life where you need more things in your life then you can find out and find the answer for yourself With the eighth lesson I want to share with you that you will not be able to satisfy everyone in your life In the past, when I first went to college and started reading books or some books I started thinking about how to make people love you However, after a while when I tried I can use all the techniques to make others really love me I realized that in our life there is no way that we have people who love us but there are people who hate us Sometimes it's just simply a story that you will see that sometimes when you hear the voice you hate or sometimes you will see that people hate you because of your hometown or sometimes people hate you because of the achievements that you have or people hate you because of some reason that is in their head can give such reasons and you will never be able to solve all those problems so that people from people who hate you can love you This story means that we will never be able to satisfy everyone in your life even what you are doing to try to make their life really better And there is one more thing I want to emphasize here that no one really cares about your life too much and that's why in the past years I spent a lot of time to read the comments the hate comments from negative comments on my channel However, after a while I did it for 1-2 years even 3 years when I spent time to read a lot of comments like that I felt that the change in my way of working as well as the things I achieved through reading such negative comments doesn't really solve any problems in my life And I also don't try to prove myself to anyone or try to make myself become more loved by others But what I'm doing is the number one thing that I will try to become the best version of myself become myself for people to decide why people hate me or love me That's their story I don't try to spend time to see if people love me or want to support me or want to play as a friend with me I just simply say now I am who I am And whether you want to play with me or not that's your decision Similarly, in our life when we determine that we will live like that that we will not really see that we care see what others think about your life think about how you do then our life will be much easier At that time, we will not stop trying to improve ourselves It's not that we don't stop trying to prove ourselves to others I'm really scared when I talk to people who are trying to prove that they are a person like this they are a person like that This is the lesson to talk about my adult story quite a lot For the lesson number 94 I want to share with you in today's video It's about the story that we are ready to endure pain How? Everyone wants to become some kind of model For example, you want to have a really beautiful body For men we want to have a body that is perfect For women we want to have a perfect body And the images I just mentioned everyone wants in their life However, when we think about the story we have to fight things like that to achieve the image such beautiful results we often try to ignore those parts We sit here we think that a really beautiful body is very amazing very good However, if we think about the story that we have to go to the gym and we start to think about the story that we have to train and do different exercises to improve different areas on your body then you will be very shy not to mention the part related to the rest mode how our nutrition is or similar about the story of making money just like that Everyone wants us to have a very good income we have a source from some business very stable However, when we start get started with that job there are quite a lot of things that we have to do from marketing for that product about how we have to advise our customers how we work with our suppliers those are very long stories and sometimes it's quite stressful in the story of doing those things I mean the story here is that you are ready you will bear the pain when you start to do something For example, the story of playing guitar just like that when you see guitarists they play very good songs However, in the story we fight we can know how hard they try to practice those things you will not know that those guitar strings you practice will hurt your fingers and thousands of hours of practice and the time you spend those are the pains that we should ask ourselves whether we are ready to exchange our time our resources to bear such pains or not to achieve the image that you are looking at a very ideal model like that Similarly, about other fields when we start we do some field and we should find an expert in that field to ask them what pains they are bearing they are facing those things so we are ready to ask ourselves whether we are ready to face such things or not Simply with my running story during this time I also spent time talking with quite a lot of runners many years ago I started to understand the pains they have to bear and I see that those pains I can try I can accept in life in stories is to arrange your time as well as your work and about outside how you have to sacrifice about the time and at the beginning of the day how you have to train hard then you will know that those pains those things you are ready to sacrifice instead of doing those things instead of sleeping or instead of those things that feel more comfortable Number 10 We can't change others When I started to spend time to make some videos personal development as well as trying to change others with more positive thoughts the later I realized that the things I'm trying to do with them with those who don't really want to change it doesn't have much effect especially in my own life it's the same There are people I spend a lot of time to advise as well as give them good books to read to help them with financial situations as well as other things in their lives However, if that person doesn't really want to change then you can't change their life and best of all I advise you if you want to change others then start to change your own self These lessons are very useful to me Why? Because I spend a lot of time to talk to them However, it's their own self those things they don't really want to change so what can I do if they don't want to change then I can't change their life This happened I realized when I started to spend time to coach some English classes as well as some skills I realized that there are a lot of people who go to school just for peace of mind They don't really spend time to really desire that they want to change their foreign language and actually to be able to teach people to be able to coach friends who really want to change their English ability or their language ability at some level it will be much easier than people who just go to school and don't really desire to be able to change those parts and at this point I don't try to change anyone else unless they can show me their hard work so that they want to achieve something in the same way if I have the ability to help then I will be able to help in all areas of your life it's the same if we are trying to try something if other people know that you are trying to change yourself change your situation at that time then they are ready if they have the ability to help then they will help it's impossible to help someone who doesn't really want to change but can change them The last lesson Lesson 11 that is, you should start when we are not ready this is the lesson that I personally think is very true in everything I do in my life for example, in the past when I started my business I started to open my English center just like that there were quite a lot of people who stopped me but I still did it later with my Youtube channel it's the same there are quite a lot of friends around me don't believe that I can make videos on Youtube and have viewers or simply later I make a video on the street English learning channel or later I do business at this point when I start to open a shoe store as well as trying to sell the first pair of shoes I also do it when I'm not ready and these things it will give me a process very kind of open so that I can accept the failures that will happen in my life as well as what I do and when you are in a state we are ready we take the first steep steps and we will try to be able to do better later this is the lesson that I see it is very meaningful that you if you can then you spend time to think about it you do something when we are not really ready for those things people often wait for a perfect time in life when people have all the resources to be able to do those things however, the perfect time or that ideal time it often does not come for example, the way we usually think when we have money then we then we start we spend time to be able to learn foreign languages or when we have more time then we can spend time to be able to run or you can read more books or similarly in all other fields we often wait for something to happen in our lives when we have that ideal time we start to do usually that time will never come so when you start to determine to do something for example, you want to change yourself there is no other time that is right now today you do it similar to everything that I have experienced I see that sometimes the failures those things are the things that we should be grateful for what we do not that we should blame ourselves that it is not enough to do those things this is what we young people we think we should have that personality but we should not be too greedy in everything we do to miss opportunities we can achieve better things and things like this experiences like this I told you that's what we use our surrounding resources to buy experiences let's do those things when we are not ready for those things this is the last advice I want to share with you in today's video so in today's video I have shared with you 11 lessons that I have realized in the past few years and are gradually changing my life and as I said right from the beginning of this video these are the lessons that I myself have just experienced and can realize it's not right, it's not wrong it's up to you you will be able to get something really useful to apply in your life in your career path that's what I'm really happy about or comment your opinions about my lessons below this video to ensure that the YouTube algorithm can realize that this video should be watched by many people and thank you for watching my video and I will see you in the next videos in the next weeks