VOICI LA RÉPONSE QUE TU CHERCHES | Pensée Constructive

By being together, we end up having more freedom than if we were alone. But if you choose the wrong partner, whether at work, in politics, in an institution, in love, in friendship, this partner will ruin your life, and he will ruin your life by taking advantage of your work. So how to decide with whom to associate? Although there are many different characteristics that good partners can have, there is one characteristic that every good partner must have, and this characteristic is loyalty. We cannot live without partners, and in reality, partners can give us more freedom in life. Let's say that I am very good at finding fruits, and bad at lighting a fire. But it turns out that you are very good at lighting fires, and bad at finding fruits. And since I want to sleep near a fire, and you want to eat fruits, we associate. I give you fruits, you give me fire. And so, by being together, we end up having more freedom than if we were alone. But if you choose the wrong partner, whether at work, in politics, in an institution, in love, in friendship, this partner will ruin your life, and he will ruin your life by taking advantage of your work. For example, your boss could ask you to take more and more responsibilities, and this without even increasing you for the new workload you are carrying out. Or an authoritarian government could force you to join a forced labor camp. Or a commercial partner could make you do most of the work, while reaping most of the benefits. The bad partner takes advantage of our work, and turns us into slaves. There is therefore a positive and a negative side to the partnership. And it all depends on the partner you choose. So, how to decide with whom to associate? Although there are many different characteristics that good partners can have, there is one characteristic that every good partner must have. And this characteristic is loyalty. Now, let's consider that loyalty is on a scale from 0 to 100. 0 means absolutely untrustworthy, which would be characterized by a person who will always take advantage of your work if she has the opportunity. 100 means absolutely trustworthy. This person will never take advantage of your work, even if she would take a huge advantage of it. And we can think that everyone has a score somewhere on this scale. And you may be wondering what it means to have a score of 50 or 80 for example. Let's assume that you ask a stranger to give you a 10€ bill in your hand, just as long as you tie your shoelaces and get it back afterwards. Well, for some people, 10€ can be enough to take advantage of you and run away with it, while for others, it will not be the case. But for all those who would not take advantage of you, maybe they would not take advantage of you for 10€. But if you gave him 100€, maybe he would start seriously considering it. Thus, different people have different thresholds from which they could choose to take advantage of your work. And the person who will never take advantage of your work is absolutely trustworthy. So now, how to identify if someone is trustworthy? Is there a benchmark that can indicate the reliability of a person? Well, one of the things that is closest to it is the following. They have long-term relationships with partners who have voluntarily chosen to be in a relationship with them. Why is this a good sign? Well, because it is difficult to falsify. If a person is not trustworthy, it is then unlikely that other people will voluntarily choose to have a long-term relationship with them. And the word voluntary really has its importance. If you are in a long-term relationship with me, because you have no other choice, it is not a sign of reliability. It is only when you have plenty of choices that our relationship becomes a sign of my reliability. But if you try to identify someone as being trustworthy, at that moment you are trying to make a prediction. And there is a underlying problem with this kind of prediction. Predictions are based and drift from the past, and the future does not always look like the past. For example, someone may have been trustworthy all his life, but in his last days, just before he died, he could start scamming all the people he trusted. A plan that he had carefully built and worked on all his life. The ultimate hold-up, or vice versa. Someone may have been a thief all his life, but after a deep awareness, can suddenly become the most trustworthy person you know. Thus, when we make predictions, we always run the risk of being wrong. The future does not always look like the past, and the best way to reduce this risk is perhaps something like a kind of assurance. But there is also another way to reduce our probability of being wrong. You see, your predictions are based on your knowledge. And your knowledge is based on your experiences. And if you have limited knowledge, then your predictions will not be very precise. But if you broaden your life experience by experimenting with new things, and if you broaden your knowledge, you make better predictions. And so, a solid experience can avoid you a lot of trouble. So, how to deal with people who do not let you examine any information of their past on which you could base your predictions? How to know if a new graduate will be useful to you within your company when he does not yet have professional experience on which you could base your predictions? How can you know if a person will be a good friend or a good partner in love if she has never had the chance to be in the past? Well, in this case, it is by experimenting that you will end up with the answer.