4 Toxic Quotes You Should NEVER Follow

since the dawn of social media encouraging and optimistic motivational quotes have cheered us up whenever we need them our Instagram and Tik Tok feeds do their best to raise our self-esteem by telling us you got this you're amazing sees the day but do you think this trend always succeeds in spreading positivity in some cases those inspirational quotes might actually overgeneralize the problem and stop us from feeling any negative emotion this is when instead of motivational they become toxic it's important to think critically about the things you read online The World Isn't only black or white what are some toxic quotes you should never follow here are four of them if you really love someone never let them go in the Sea of Love advice this quote seems to resurface quite often and if we were in a romcom it would sound like perfect advice just think of your favorite romantic movie two main characters madly in love go through some hardships and fight for their love they never let each other get away and continue living happily ever after but the real world might not be so romantic there may be some cases when the two love birds simply don't go well together when that happens not letting someone go even if you clearly are not compatible makes your relationship toxic and codependent codependency is defined by the American Psychological Association as a dysfunctional relationship pattern in which an individual is is psychologically dependent on or controlled by another person in a romantic relationship you may commit all your time and efforts into this relationship feel like you depend on each other for happiness and lose a sense of self licensed psychologist Dr Renee exelbert said for very well mind that this Dynamic has also been referred to as a relationship addiction because people with codependency often form relationships that are one-sided emotionally destructive or abusive and even if deep down you both know it's toxic you just can't do what's best Let each other go if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve my best everyone has their bad sides it's normal to not be a perfect partner 24/7 but after the bad days are gone it's our responsibility to work on ourselves and correct the behavior that we know is wrong well not everyone is ready to admit their mistakes and fix their bad behaviors that's where the quote if you can't handle me at my worst you don't deserve me at my best comes to play do you think that this quote encourages those who say it to avoid taking responsibility for their actions this might be a sign of narcissistic Partners according to a 2021 paper published in the journal psychiatria danubina people with narcissistic personality disorder believe they are superior and unique compared to others and they expect to be recognized and treated as such they think they're the best perfect Partners they might be reluctant to admit their flaws but even if they do they don't believe it's such a big deal so if someone says you should tolerate them at their worst you might want to rethink that relationship don't take no for an answer persistence is naturally important for Success would the Harry Potter books even have been published if JK ring took no for an answer and gave up trying after getting rejected by Publishers probably not but when it comes to relationships romantic or platonic some may take this quote a bit too far right into the territory of Crossing people's boundaries Psych therapist Sharon Martin wrote on her webpage that boundaries are imaginary lines that separate you from other people they separate your feelings needs and responsibilities from others and also ensure that others know what's acceptable to you and when someone won't take no for an answer they're actually stepping over your boundaries a study published in the Journal of Occupational Health psychology found that these people are often in positions of power like our superiors or people with narcissistic personalities who often manipulate and control others this shows clear disrespect for others so when it comes to their boundaries no should probably be taken as a definite answer Positive Vibes only would you say you're an optimist is your glass always half full you might think positive vibes only is a great advice to live by and if it works for you that's awesome but in some cases the emphasis on only allowing yourself to be positive and completely ignore the negative Vibes might be detrimental to your mental health sadness is an emotion that has been around since the beginning of our species it's one of the primary emotions that makes us human everyone gets sad sometimes and suppressing that sadness might not be the best idea in the long run a 2018 study published in Journal of Personality and Social Psychology suggests that even if some emotions aren't really pleasant we still need to feel them and deal with them openly and honestly that's what brings us closer to acceptance and psychological health so when we're bombarded by a positive vibes only attitude we're actually met with toxic positivity psychosocial rehabilitation specialist Kendra Cherry wrote for very well mind that this approach to life not only discards all negative emotions but also denies you the support you need to cope so remember negative Vibes are not so bad from time to time so do you agree that these quotes might be toxic in certain situations or maybe you know some other phrases that make you roll your eyes as soon as you see them on your screen we'd love it if you shared your thoughts in the comments and if nothing comes to mind check this video for 12 more phrases that are actually toxic thanks so much for watching and remember you matter until next time