30 Life Principles Your Asian Parents Never Taught You

in this video we're going to share 30 great life principles that you need to hear as an adult hopefully some of these help you out yeah we pulled these off Reddit I think that the reason why they're more suited for an adult is because sometimes you're going to need a certain amount of repetitions in life to even understand these anyway let's get into number one Andrew not everyone in this life is going to Jael with you and there might not even be a good explanation or rationale for why they don't like you right I think a lot of the times sometimes you meet someone have a bad interaction or just get a sense that hey I don't this person doesn't like me what I do to them what did I do to them how come that person doesn't like me and like sometimes as weird as it is the answer is just you didn't really do anything or they misinterpreted something or or it says more about them than it says about you and I know that in the past when other YouTubers even used to hate on us or like say negative things about them uh us when we never said anything negative about them I used to like sort of care a little bit more than I do now because it says some sometimes people will be angry for their own reasons taking their emotional poison is a choice yeah so I would say sometimes you replay the game footage and be like did I do anything to that person and you just think about it for a few minutes and if you didn't then you just move on with life yep listen guys if someone's toxic let them be Toxic by themselves the worst thing you can do is let their toxins infect you point number two pay the minute uh pay a bill the minute that you get it you will not remember to do it later and this the psychological thinking behind this Andrew is because people don't want to pay bills so if you don't pay the bill right when it's due you'll just put it off and then of course only more bad things will happen yes building this habit of putting off a bill as long as possible because you don't want to pay it it's kind of stupid it's only going to build more bad habits I get the feeling of not wanting to pay bills I get it but you have to do it they're not going to forget about it the company is more organized than you are so they're going to remember and then they're going to hit you with a late fee so just pay it get it over with and move on and a a way of thinking about it too is like did I enjoy this service that I you know that this bill is for or this invoice is for if I extracted the value from it I should enjoy to pay it because that's how transactions in the economy works right you give me a service I give you monetary value it's all good because the whole thing is rolling the the machine needs to be uh oiled from all aspects another thing you can do is actually just at least organize it get a bill organizer I got uh some photos right here Point number three uh sometimes you will hit that older age where nothing really matters except the relationships that you build and Foster along the way do you think that this is a realization that more and more people uh realize as they get older because obviously when you're younger sometimes you want to get flashy material items to stunt and flex on everybody to feel elevated yeah I think a lot of the reason why a lot of people people get flashy items and I think I feel like I was even more into that stuff years ago because you're trying to gain status or you think it's going to help you network or you think it's going to attract people maybe attract women right attract women right like or just yeah people in general to you and just like have this perceived value and uh I think after you become an adult and you've built your own value and you understand yourself then yes those things matter a lot less I don't want to say 0% but they matter are a lot less man right I was going to say for myself I even care less about like cars and watches and cigars not that I ever was like 10 out of 10 in any of those things but I care about them less but I do realize to to provide a caveat some people do use like Porsche clubs and watch collector clubs as a way to build more relationships right so it it just depends on the reason why you're doing things two people can do the same thing but with completely different agendas incentives and motivations um but plus now noways there's a lot more different ways you can build community than the old world ways Point number four trying to avoid suffering just causes even more suffering than if you had just faced the thing head on yeah this is a tough thing in life but uh sometimes the uh tough decision is just uh face it straight up and go through it right you know there's a theory Andrew that that had the Titanic went straight through the iceberg it could have either broken through or at least just stopped the Titanic rather than trying to scrape on the side of the Titanic and the whole ship sinking right well they weren't going to know I mean who they probably thought it could take the hit whatever hit that uh it took but yes you'll never know somebody said look at suffering like a credit card you're going to pay it eventually with interest if you don't pay it off right away Point number five Andrew you should let a stake rest 5 to 15 minutes after it's done cooking it's really important and by the way the stuff on the side of it is not blood It's A protein that looks like blood called myoglobin sometimes uh letting things cool down is good but yeah I mean for steaks and meats yes this is but would you agree though Andrew in a way if we were to relate it to life people are impatient and they just cut into the steak immediately right right right Point number six maybe if you just wait a little longer for things they get better Point number six six people are not thinking about you as much as you think it's called the spotlight effect you think because you're the main character of your own life that you're the main character of everybody's life yes I do think a lot of people are not thinking about you in the same way you think they are if you're the type of person to overthink things you might run through your head and be like this person's thinking this about me this person's thinking this about there's there's a good chance they're not uh Point number seven prioritize self-care once you hit 30 you really got to spend spend like almost 2 hours a day on health M interesting yeah I mean I would say that people need to invest a little bit of time in understanding where their body is at and taking action to that you know but I do think that there's a lot of simple remedies but you can get more complicated and soup up your body if you want but essentially there's like you know you know the simple principles of Life yeah yeah yeah I mean obviously everything there's uh you know cryo chamber light therapy there're super advanced stuff but it could even just be aesthetic like go and get a manicure a pedicure go get a massage you know there's like a hundred things out there that people who aren't feeling the best about themselves could try out and at least some of those hundred things is going to help you out Point number eight um we are a lot more like toddlers than we think for example you feel a lot less crappy when you're hydrated fed rested and you've already taken a poop so cuz a lot of people like sometimes they're like they hate their life you know how and we have some nephews one guy's in a horrible mood he just eats something drinks something uh takes a poop he's all better yeah man moods are funny because they're just emotions and emotions can be swung by taking a rest taking a poop drinking something eating something delicious like all these things can affect your mood so in a way your mood is like in a way so changeable so malleable but I think people read into their mood too much they're like I'm feeling bad I'm jumping off a building and you're like whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa whoa there's some other stuff you could do here yeah maybe you just need to treat yourself yeah maybe just get a massage and some electrolytes uh Point number nine uh love only really works when it's mutual and that's why people love dogs so much because dogs will always reciprocate the love that you give a dog ah some dogs though they're not that smart so if you let them off the leash too young they might might not come back that's true like young dogs they they have to be like old enough you got to have raised them long enough but yeah I mean OB yeah I mean for sure love uh I I could see that working I'm not like a guru on this but it makes sense well a lot of dudes in uh middle school or High School Andrew they love their crush and their Crush does not love them back yes I I'll say this there's different types of Love though unconditional conditional I think conditional love is still love because if you violate somebody's conditions then they don't love you anymore it makes sense uh Point number 10 know when to shut up because they was this guy was saying a lot of people are chatty patties and they just talking too much talking themselves into a knot when they didn't even need to do that yeah I definitely think that people don't need to talk about other people like unless if you think that what your friend told you probably shouldn't get out there then you don't need to like share all the information with everyone it's true like you don't have to be fully transparent with everyone right right right I think sometimes people think that withholding information is lying that's just actually just being cautious withholding information also by the way guys I think that Asian kids often times might not talk enough but you got to know what are the right topics to talk about uh there's this whole concept called Goldilocks right you know how when she had the porridge that was too cold too hot just right there's a just right Zone it's like holding a dove not too tight not too loose guys Point number 11 stop being a people pleaser I had to look up what that was I didn't even know what it was a people pleaser is someone who consistently tries to please others even at their own expense um I would just call this a deak rider oh being a deak r i mean you know depending on what world you come from right Point number 12 wash your hands the first thing you do when you get home maybe go to the bathroom even take a shower especially if you've been out all day oh uh definitely wash your hands uh definitely there's uh especially if you live in the city you grabbed a lot of different hor knobs door handles railing breathed on you breathed on you uh touched your the bottom of your pants that sat on this thing so definitely wash your hands when you get home yeah I would say man I just change into basketball shorts oversized aism tea you you're inside clothes versus outside clothes number 13 full body stretch two to three times a week for a minimum of 15 minutes it will actually have a bigger impact than you think yeah yeah yeah yeah I think I think uh stretching is something that a lot of people need to do more of because we're a lot often times we're crouched over our computer or crouched over our phone nowadays and people are not walking around as much to work so uh you it's definitely something that you have to do there's thin layer of fibers Ander that overlays your muscles called a fascia you got to stretch your fascia even if your muscles are stretched it doesn't mean you stretch your fascia even though they're connected uh I love stretch cages but not everybody has access to a commercial gym with the stretch cages uh number 14 Andrew popularity in high school or even on social media platforms none of it really matters it is a temporary Flex of the moment yeah I think that people are prisoners of the moment and one of the interesting things is about uh being a prisoner of the moment on the apps Andrew popularity on one app doesn't even mean you're popular on another app yeah and I think the most the funniest thing is like somebody will have like very no followers right and then have one video hit it big get like a million impressions on like Instagram reals and then people will assume because this person got a million hit video that they're famous or that they're making a lot of money and actually it's not true right it's just not true not not yet they got to do it consistently and I think the weird thing and that's this is why High School minded people and people in high school love social media so much is people like hyper tiny fishbowls with a strict hierarchy because actual real life is super complicated to understand Point number 15 ignore people who think that other people in the universe literally rotate around them like the sun oh man I'll tell you this man Hey listen guys don't roast me a lot of only Childs sometimes and in the Chinese Community they can be like this they think like everybody else in the universe is like almost like a role player to their main character yeah yeah and and this is uh some of these people what I feel like is that they're just so that person so that they have to end up morphing a friend group that buys into it but those type of people are never Pleasant to be around but some people I've seen those type of narcissistic people still kind of be the head of a friend group if the friend group if that person somehow adds enough value to the rest of the usually a hot rich girl yeah but from what I've seen guys Point number 16 it's okay say you know I don't know the answer to that but let me get back to you that is a dude I'll tell you that that is a good answer but it only works if you actually want to get back to somebody if you want to be a reliable person within the industry but otherwise sometimes that works on just brushing people off point number 17 always get a second opinion from doctors because a lot of people they don't really know that much about health so the one thing that their first doctor or specialist tells them they Just Go With It mhm yeah I think that this is really key because when I was in Seattle a lot of the doctors are really into holistic medicine and they don't want to do things like they don't want to be like all right like let's approve the surgery but then when I moved to like in New York I noticed all the doctors are like yeah let's get you that surgery right away let's get that fixed so even different regions have different like medical philosophies you yeah obviously if you want to get your issue attended to you got to have people with a more aggressive medical philosophy Point number 18 if your family is legitimately toxic you can cut them out but you might want to keep the door open for them if they ever want to extend you an olive branch yeah cuz I think that that's the key is like you cut somebody out of your life Andrew but you give them the chance to come back in through that door CU they're family right Point number 19 it's okay to express your emotions with your significant other even if you want to argue with them and it's even okay to go to sleep angry because there was this Theory never go to sleep angry but that could lead to a lot of Senseless argu that aren't even that big of a deal that if you just sleep on it you just get over it anyway yeah just depends on how you like to argue and uh how you like to resolve conflicts spending and saving wisely is super Inc uh incredibly important learn to invest and manage your savings yeah I think that it's a lot about spending wisely you know I think if you know something is going to make you more productive it has some salvage value I think that you could look at I think a lot of people they'll spend on things that don't bring them the value and then they'll cheap out on things that could deliver them value number 21 your worth is not tied to your productivity uh necessarily like basically as a Asian a lot of people really feel like their worth their selfworth is tied to their productivity and their career Arc but it's like it's not to say that you shouldn't be productive you should be productive in life but just know that your selfworth isn't tied to your produ productivity right number 22 pay attention to how you feel after spending time with someone and if spending time with that person makes you feel bad stop spending time with them yeah I think this is okay to uh if it's draining essentially if you feel very tired and you need like a break after hanging out with someone for like just 3 hours two hours then that's not a great sign like you got to think about that like who is this person and why is it now maybe they're very smart and they're just talking your ear off and teaching you lots of things and that also makes you tired in a different way but if you're exhausted and you're like you know what I just don't want to see that person for like another month I can only take this person once a month uh and it's not enjoyable then then you you got to I would look at it like cars if you got a V8 engine and it's a a huge uh petroleum usage what are you getting for it so make sure you're getting your money's worth at least cuz some people they're not even offering value and they're still like an energy leech and then that's no good um please they said exercising and avoiding fried foods actually can affect your mental health so a lot of people Andrew know that eating really fatty things or carb things is not good for your body but it actually your body is linked to your mind so I had to look it up Andrew nutrition deficiencies starches that convert into sugar internal inflammation micro gut biom sugar spikes insulin resistance it can even affect the flow of your neurotransmitters energy levels all types of interrelated stuff yeah got to eat healthy is point number 24 do not study industries that don't pay well literally this guy was talking about how he was going into video game concept uh art design and now that field has been completely taken over by AI dang um would you say that Asians usually have this issue because our parents are so hyper conventional and practical in terms of making sure that we're either in like monetary you know like some sort of high functioning business or like stem Fields yeah I feel like that video game design concept major might have been like uh maybe like a V is that a vocational college or one of those specialty colleges you know what I mean like I don't even know if they have that at most universities but yeah I mean guys let's be realistic when you're picking a major I know that you're 18 18 19 years old when you're picking this major which is funny David because people ask essentially you to pick your career when you're 18 or 19 they're like what major do you want to go into and this is going to be a major that does kind of dictate how much money you make essentially unless you make some hard pivots right because there's different median like just earning potential like already if you if you pick a psychology degree there's nothing wrong with psychology degrees okay you can still make a lot of pivots in a marketing and other things that make jobs that that make money but essentially in Psychology you're not going to be making like six figures right out of college all you have to do is take a look at macro industry statistics for example multi-millionaires Andrew in America only 4% are artists what percentage of multi-millionaires were psychologists right Point number 25 you don't have to spend all your time making others happy yeah yeah guys what what value do you derive from making people happy what does it do for your life maybe it energizes you and that's good right there's a chance some people are like yo I just love seeing people I it makes me happy to see them happy right some people are truly like that but if you're not and that's okay if you're not like that you have to understand you do what obligation do you have to this person are they your family is it your wife your husband is it somebody your parents whom you owe a lot to right did the parents who took care of you and paid for everything throughout your life yeah you might feel some obligation then but like you have to think about what is your OB obligation to this person right and I think the key is too especially for Asian kids that are watching this you can make your parents in happy in ways that they didn't even predict even if you went and did something else with your life that was more unorthodox that they don't approve of it doesn't mean that it's just like All Is Lost now it's time to get tattooed on your face and go do bunch of substances you know what I mean it's just not an All or Nothing equation you just got to analyze it in a way that nobody's ever taught you to analyze it prior Point number 26 um focus on the things that bring you Joy and try to do those things as much as you can Andrew would you say that boxing brings you Joy yeah I think that you have to find the things that release something in you that are healthy for you and especially if that's sports or exercise or something social um that doesn't take detriment on your body uh obviously sports are social as well um maybe like a chess club or like a book club would be a little bit more like uh I guess on the non- exercise but still Joyful Way but that's like mental and social still yeah I mean for me I love playing basketball outside like five on five like smaller Court outdoor street ball so fun like I would just do it every day if I could if there was a good run and was good weather Point number 27 uh this is just another smaller tip somebody said use safety razors over multi-blade razors multiblade razors were literally invented just to make money there's a huge movement right now Andrew for safety blades only which is single blade razors yeah that I didn't even know about that that this is a actual movement on the internet Point number 28 how learn how to invest at an early age learn the difference between assets and liabilities and please just start to buy assets and less liabilities yeah I mean I think the big problem with a lot of investing advice on the internet Andrew is that it's good but it's so complicated it's already getting into like all these tax deductions and Roth IRA stuff off the bat where it's almost like so overly complicated a lot of people shut their mind off to it right there needs to be a better way a more simplistic way with like different analogies to explain it to people cuz I mean it's almost like uh you know health is as easy as like swap that Frappuccino for Co plain cold brew track your steps track your calorie intake lift three times a week but then how come when somebody's trying to explain nutrition and working out to somebody it's like they need like a 100 pages right right right yeah and I think that sometimes that just really like just goes over people's heads you know like I always just tell people man when it comes to basketball shoes if you're skinny get the Jaws get the Kobes if you're like middle tier get the LeBron 20 21s get The KES and if you're a wide footer get the Jordans like it's pretty easy you don't need like a thousand pages to explain like how to do things uh you can get that granular but you don't need to point 29 it's not my job to fix other people wow um I'll tell you this Andrew we had a distant relative like send uh like you know one of their kids to come stay with us for a little bit to try to like see if we could help them find their motivation in Life or you know what I mean like whip him into shape and then I kind of realized I was like you know you guys raise if you rais your kid a certain way for like 17 18 19 years of their life nobody can go and like fix them in a boot camp mhm I mean is that not true like no it's not your job to fix anybody else right like there's so many things if it takes a village to raise a child it took a village to raise a child the wrong way too Point number 30 know the situations where the shortcut method still gets the job done and is still acceptable for example Andrew I always say floss picks hack squat machines Crocs audio books foldable helmets do I think a audio book is better than reading a real book Andrew do I think a floss pick is better than actually sticking your hands in your mouth and doing that little U shape around the tooth probably not but would you say Andrew that they're better than nothing yeah it's better than you not doing it that is for sure so you kind of got to know the areas in life where it's like the shortcut shortcut cheek hack method it's still going to give you like 60 70 80% good enough anyway guys let us know what you guys think of those 30 life tips in the comment section below like I said this is pulled from thousands and thousands of people on the internet and I think the reason why it's important on our channel to do these micro life tips is because we talk about so much macro stuff that uh sometimes it feels like it could be outside of your control because it's so Bird's eyed top down these things you can change for your life today and then maybe after you change your life you want to change somebody else's life until next time we the hotop boys we out peace