Keep a Good Perspective

hey kids nice to see you again uh hey so i just uh i i'm gonna do a dab chat on perspective um and when when these type of topics come up i just wanted to be able to share those with you it's a little break from the how to's but i think it's also um stuff that i've shared with my own kids over the years and i wanted to share it with you so um anyway yeah so this one's on perspective i did talk about in my dad chat on integrity about you know having a long-term perspective on the decisions you make um because you'll you know you'll see in your own life you were you'll be young and boy you know it it goes pretty quick so i think it's important to you know think long term about about your life so i do have before we get started though i have a dad joke for you uh do you know that the first french fries weren't actually cooked in france they were cooked in greece ah so anyway um you know so getting back to you know just thinking about your life and thinking about that you know in this life uh everything's temporary in this life you know um we visited uh rome um in 2019 we went there and you know really got me thinking i've shared this actually in some of my interviews too it really got me thinking you know about what kind of legacy i was going to be leaving with my own life um because you know you're there and rome was an amazing city i mean still is don't get me wrong it still is but it was the you know the capital of the the ancient world how kind of everything flew or flowed through through rome um and now you go there and there's just statues you know um and statues that are you know weathered and that sort of thing go to the forum and there's just remnants of stuff um so it's just interesting it really got me thinking and you know thinking about my own life and so i just wanted to share that with that with you a little bit because you know i personally am a man of faith so i have an eternal perspective on my life i understand that everything's temporary um you know um and i've shared my story before about you know when i that you know our family split up when i was 14 i went to live with my brother you know but i wasn't 14 for long i was 18 and then i was 25 and um you know then i had a family and then i my kids are out of the house and now i'm 56 you know so it's uh it's just interesting it goes by so quick and i i know that you've i'm sure you've heard that from uh from people that have shared that wisdom but it is true you know when you're young you think oh those old people well you know what you'll be those old people you know you'll be them one day um we used to look at our uncles and aunts and who have basically all passed now uh you know they were kind of the old people but you know they weren't always old they were young too just like you are or maybe you're my age or maybe you're older than me but it's just interesting i think it's time you know it's good to stop and and think about um about your life and evaluate your your life as you go along and again think long term about your your decisions because boy you know you might be going through something that's tough but you know right around the corner might be something amazing too right so uh yeah you know anyway just wanted to encourage you with that i've also shared you know so i've i've been in sales um for a long time and uh outside sales and and it was uh there's times you know where boy you you get a big account win a new account nah that's amazing and then you lose a big account nah you know uh so i've i've over those years you know having a family it's stressful and that sort of thing uh you know because you wanted to provide and you know it was there was times where it was tough but um i managed to kind of get not too high and not too low but you know you do want you want to enjoy the victories but also again don't get too low when things don't seem to be working out for you because you know you might be trying it might be something um that you're learning through that i love this quote it says sometimes we're tested not to show our weaknesses but to just to discover our strengths i love that you know you you might be going through something to just show that hey you know you you persevered through that and you know maybe you'll be able to share your wisdom with somebody else that's going through some something at some point so um there's a poem i'm going to read at the end called the dash um it's often read at poems or at poems that's often read at funerals um i'm going to leave that in there just so you know that i'm not gonna cut that out uh you know we all make mistakes i try to in my videos also you know do it in real time as best i can so that you know you um you know some cooking shows and that sort of thing you know they leave in or they cut away and oh here's how you do this and then you cut away and then it's this amazing thing that you didn't really get to see the struggles they had and i think that's true also with with home improvement channels you show oh yeah we're gonna take out that wall whoa the wall's gone you know how did you do it though so um anyway getting off on a tangent here but um i think you get the point um so anyway uh this poem is uh read at funerals oftentimes called the dash and it just talks about you know what your life what you know because we're all heading to the fact that we're all going to end up you know passed from this life eventually and so i i think it's it's pretty profound so i'm just going to go ahead and read that right now so it's called the dash and the poem's by linda ellis and i've asked for permission to read this and um you can go to the dashpoem.com uh to to learn more about it if you wanted to but it goes like this i read of a man who stood to speak at the funeral of a friend he referred to the dates on the tombstone tombstone from the beginning to the end he noted that first came the date of birth and spoke of the following date with tears but he said what mattered most of all was the dash between those years for that dash represents all the time they spent alive on earth and now only those who loved them know what that little line is worth for it matters not how much we own the cars the house the cash what matters how we live and love and how we spend our dash so think about this long and hard are there things you'd like to change for you never know how much time is left that still can be rearranged to be less quick to anger and show appreciation more and love the people in our lives like we've never loved before if we treat each other with respect and more often wear a smile remembering that this special dash might only last a little while so when your eulogy is being read with your life's actions to rehash would you be proud of the things they say about how you lived your dash anyway i i i just think that's powerful because you know you know your your tombstone is what you're gonna leave behind but um besides what you've done for others truly so um you know there's this a song by switchfoot of course i'm going to bring switch foot into this right because if you know if you watch my videos you know i really love them i think they got a great way of saying things and it's as simple as life is short live it well it's true you know your life is but a vapor it goes by quick so um you know be thinking about your decisions your choices as you go along and i'm sure you'll do well so anyway just wanted to encourage you it's a good good chance to to reflect and think about things funerals tend to do that you know you tend to kind of reevaluate your life when you go to a funeral but then you know a couple of days go by and then you've moved on so you know it's kind of keep that in in your head to to think about your decision so anyway thanks for watching god bless you and uh we'll see you next time