If He’s Not Contacting You, These 5 Things Make Him Chase You Again + 5 Behaviors That Turn Him OFF!

Hi, this is Helena Hart and in this video, I'm gonna be talking about how to get a man's energy coming back towards you again I've just been hearing from so many women here in my community on YouTube who are in a situation like this Perhaps you're in separation with the man you love or maybe a man was coming on strong for a little while But now he's backed off or pulled away or he's contacting you less and less I've been there myself and I know how painful and confusing it can be It can really be hard to know what to do and what not to do when you're in this situation So I'm gonna be sharing both of those things in this video I'll be sharing five mistakes you want to avoid when a man has pulled away or isn't Contacting you right now and five things you can do to get his energy coming back towards you usually stronger than ever before So make sure to watch this whole video to get those five tips at the end And before I get started if this is your first time to my channel Make sure to click the button to subscribe to get all of my videos on how to attract the man and the relationship you want so the first mistake you want to avoid when a man is acting distant or pulling away is you don't want to Panic or blame yourself or beat yourself up and I know it can be easy to do this Sometimes when something isn't going right in our love life The first thing we want to do is replay what went wrong or blame ourselves or beat ourselves up And usually in a situation like this if a man's acting a little distant or pulling away it has nothing to do with us most of the time he could just be stressed out or Dealing with something else and men are so single-focus sometimes time can go by and they don't think about time The same way we do often, you know a couple days of not hearing from a man We're dating can feel like an eternity to us women But sometimes for a man that time can go by and they don't even realize it So you don't want to panic you don't want to blame yourself or beat yourself up it's so important and the second mistake you want to avoid is leaning forward and trying to get Clarity in that moment when you're feeling anxious or coming from a place of lack or insecurity Of course, you know if a man is doing this all the time if he's constantly pulling away or you know If things get too close, he's constantly backing off or acting hot and cold Of course, you don't want to be with a man like that so this is for if you're with a really good guy who just maybe is a little clueless or can get busy with something else and You want to you know, reattract him and get his energy coming back towards you So when a man is not contacting you right now, or maybe he's a little busy or pulling away a little bit I know the tendency to want to lean forward and get clarity But if you're coming from a place of lack or you're feeling really anxious or insecure I would say that's not the time to do that. That's the time to lean back and do these five tips I'm going to share at the end of this video and Then when his energy is coming back towards you if you have to have a conversation about it That's the time to do it. But when you're feeling anxious, I would not advise leaning forward in that moment Something I always say is any action taken from a place of lack or insecurity is always counterproductive it always leads to more feelings of lack if you've ever been in a situation where You're trying to pull something out of a man because you're feeling anxious or insecure Usually that conversation doesn't go very well, right? So that's the second mistake you want to avoid the third mistake you want to avoid in this situation is over apologizing or Over-explaining yourself this kind of goes back to the first one where we tend to want to blame ourselves and beat ourselves up So you don't want to lean forward and say hey, I know the last time we hung out I was acting really needy and I just want to apologize for that You you just want to avoid anything that sounds like that again We're leaning back here or giving him space to come back towards you then if you had an argument or if he pulled away because there was some kind of bad situation or fight if you have to Apologize, that's the time to do it I wouldn't lean forward and just grovel or over explain yourself or over apologize in this moment right now When a man is not contacting you or his energy is not coming towards you the fourth mistake you want to avoid is confronting him or giving him an ultimatum when you're an ultimatum when you're coming from this place of anger or Frustration this could sound something like, you know sending a text that says hey just to let you know You know, you need to really value my time and I don't appreciate you not contacting me this week or something like that now Of course there you can talk about these things when a man's energy is coming back towards you But you can't force a man to want to pursue you and be in contact. It just doesn't work that way I know the tendency to want to like tell a man, you know How it is and let him know that that's not okay And of course, there's a time and a place to do that I would say it's not when he's acting distant or pulling away that behavior We'll just push him further and further away and it won't get you those results you want So it's kind of similar with some of these other mistakes. Of course, you can have a conversation Of course, you can set a boundary But in my opinion my experience the time to do that is when his energy is coming back towards you and then you're going to do This as a response to something he is saying, right? so Responding is a very feminine energy quality Leaning forward and trying to figure something out or tell a man what to do very masculine energy you want to avoid doing that It's this energy exchange, right? If he's pulling away and you just keep chasing him even energetically by thinking about him and obsessing There's no tension there's no reason or pull that he needs to feel to come back towards you all on his own and That that leads me to the fifth thing you want to avoid doing and that is faking Disinterest or playing any sort of game or strategy? I see this a lot in the comment sections of some of my videos women say, you know He's been ignoring me and he just text me. Should I ignore him now? Should I wait, you know three days to respond and anything? That's a game or some kind of manipulation tactic like that is never gonna work long-term You know men you don't want a man to fall for you because of some kind of game you're playing or some Strategy or technique you applied all of this has to be 100% authentic, right? So if he texts you it's fine to respond Of course if you're busy with something else, you know You don't have to drop everything you're doing and just text him back in that very minute that he texts you You know, you want to stay with what you're doing while you're doing it But if he texts you of course, it's fine to reply. You just don't want to be the one leaning forward and Initiating everything in these moments when a man's energy is not coming towards you. So so important So those are the five mistakes you want to avoid when a man is acting distant or pulling away And now I'm gonna go into five things you can do that will help you get his energy coming back towards you and it'll also just help you feel a lot more grounded and secure within yourself and all of these have to be Authentic just like the first five I shared So the first thing you want to do is give yourself a timeline to just not worry about this I know when we're feeling anxious or urgent and we just we want to do something to solve that urgency What's really helpful? I found this in myself and all the women I've worked with who have this tendency It's just to give yourself a timeline. I'm not gonna worry about this for the next week And you don't want to give yourself a timeline like I'm not gonna contact him for five days and at the end of the five Days, I'll contact him to me. That's just all about him that's keeping your focus on him almost like you're in jail or something kind of counting down the days of When you're getting out of jail, right and it's not you're not gonna be able to work on yourself You're just like waiting for this time to go by so you can just slip back into the same pattern It's not gonna help you long term so give yourself a timeline to just not worry about this don't stress about it You're going to do the four things I'm about to share the next four things and it's gonna help you tremendously just to feel better within yourself And it's also going to get this man pursuing you again. I can pretty much guarantee So the next thing you want to do in this situation is take your focus off of this man Completely and this is what I was talking about a little earlier You don't want to chase him even mentally or energetically by constantly Obsessing about someone who's not right in front of you or not contacting you So you want to pull all of that? Energy and focus and attention that you have on this man right now and put it on yourself and your own life where it belongs Something I always say and it will just change your life if you can learn how to do this So, how do you do this that brings me to the third thing you want to do and that is Retrain your brain to focus on what's right in front of you only Okay, so if a man's not right in front of you right now, he's not calling or showing up on your phone What is right in front of you? There could be all different kinds of things. It could be something you're working on in your business It could be your child or your pet or you could call up a friend and go take a hike go to a yoga class You know do an online course that helps take your focus off of this man a lot of women tell me that they watch my videos when they have this urge to like lean forward and Act out of their anxiety and text a man who's not in contact with them right now So what is right in front of you? You have so many things at your fingertips, right with technology the Internet You could learn a new skill. You could do an art project Anything that totally absorbs your time and your energy and attention where time can just go by and you don't even realize it So if your pattern or habit is I can't stop thinking about this man Who's not right in front of me right now or who's not contacting me. That's your habit. So you have to build a new habit It's like building these new neural pathways in your brain So even just you know Five ten twenty seconds of not thinking about this man who is not contacting you right now That's building a new habit. You're building this new road and it gets so much easier over time So I'd love to hear from you guys. Let me know in the comment section What is it that you do to kind of retrain your brain to focus on what's right in front of you? this helps you get really present really in the moment helps you get out of your masculine energy or out of Urgency and into your body into your feminine energy Which creates this really magnetic pull for not just this man, but for the whole world to come towards you It's a very attractive place to come from getting present in the moment not overthinking or over analyzing Some situation with a man where he's just not doing the job right now, right? So the fourth thing you want to do in this situation is build up your life Outside of this man or this relationship these kind of all build on each other I'm kind of realizing right now so, you know Likely what attracted him to you in the first place was that you had a full complete life You had friends you had a social life You'd like to go out with them on the weekends or you went, you know You did a yoga class or online workout videos or you went to the gym or you went out in nature? You want to build that life outside of him? it can be so easy to just get so small and focused on a man and then when he's not doing what you kind of We're hoping he would do we get angry and we get triggered and we want to try and control the situation, right? so you want to build up that full complete life outside of him and That brings me to the last thing you want to do and this one is so important This will just change your life. It will change all of your relationships with men and that is Let yourself get bored with this lack of momentum So when a man's energy isn't coming towards you right now I know the tendency to have all this emotional charge around it, right? We get angry we get anxious We blame ourselves. We feel terrible so what you want to do instead is just feel bored and turned off with a man's lack of Momentum lack of masculine action towards you I hear from women all the time that tell me they're starting to lose interest and feel bored with a man who isn't stepping up Or following through or doing what a man is supposed to do in the relationship, right? Showing up being there for you following through on his promises so if you can hook up your feelings of chemistry with a man's Masculine action towards you then you've really got something so much of the time are You know subconscious mind can create this spark of attraction and that gets hooked up with a man whose energy is not coming towards you Or even pulling away from you and that can really stir up feelings in us that feel like love But it's not true. Love not in my opinion or experience those obsessive urgent Feelings where you want to just constantly lean forward and make something happen It's more of a it's a man that fits in with your old Toxic relationship patterns or what love felt like to you earlier or earlier in life so if a man's showing up and he's being loving and wonderful and coming towards you and that starts to turn you on and the Men who are emotionally unavailable or hot and cold or they come on strong and then they back off There's a lot of back-and-forth behavior or games when that starts to turn you off That's amazing. You don't need me anymore You don't you got that's the whole thing right there if you can just hook up your feelings of attraction and chemistry With a man's masculine action towards you that that will change your whole life. That's it Then this is all authentic and real and that just creates that space for the right man to step up and all the wrong men Will fade away right and you don't have to micromanage it I'd love to talk some more about that If anyone has questions about this one specifically or really any of these let me know down below in the comment section Also, how do you guys like just this natural unedited way of doing videos where I'm reading off my notes And I'm just kind of talking all the way through Or do you prefer at videos that are more edited and polished? Let me know down below I can get them out faster if I'm just kind of talking all the way through like this without stopping So love to get your feedback and opinion I love you guys And if you're ready to attract the right man for you or attract your man and bring him closer than ever Check out my three keys to attract the man you want reports and audio training totally free on my website Helena heart coaching calm I'll post a link to that in the description and down below in the comment section if you enjoyed this video feel free to give It a like leave me a comment Tell me what you think down below and feel free to share this video with anyone who's in this situation We all know women who are stuck in this pattern with men where? It's just this cycle that they can't get out of and this will help you break the cycle and just ensure that the right man Comes towards you and the wrong men just fade away, and it's just the easiest most natural thing in the world So I love you guys. I hope this was helpful, and I will see you in the next video