LIFE WILL HIT YOU | POWERFUL Motivational Video Speech Compilation

[Music] I'm in Inglewood living off arbor vitae I want government assistance and I run out of money and I had to buy pampers for Jelani and I have $11 and 42 cents in the bank and I remember wrapping my son in the towel for two days I remember the second day like you said I have my stuff in my hand on Jelani stomach and I said don't worry baby mommy will never be this broke or broken again I was willing to find people have what I didn't have who were living lives that I wasn't living who believed things that I didn't know about and I was willing to become their student I got up every day and I ate a slice of humble pie your conviction what you're passionate about your conviction and your convenience don't live on the same block so if you want to have a conviction for something you to sign up sign up to the inconvenience one thing we have to constantly remind ourselves is to create micro wins to get to our macro wins then we go after the macro win but we only look at the macro win I want you to look at the micro wins and give 5 micro wins under your belt so you can create your message we want to be liked well I woke up and I liked myself today so you'll like is extra my job is they liked me first I was willing to say every day Lisa you like you these are you proud of you Lise are you playing full out every day before I checked in with anybody else the prescription for radical success is action the difference between you and the person living their dreams that you're watching is simply the amount of action it's not the hookup it's not the family they were born into it's not the gender it's not the cultures those are all great stories that we give but it really is the things they did and how much they were willing to do the reason why a lot of people won't become who they was is because they're too attached to who they see another reason why we won't get is because the doorway is for you to fit through you try to carry everybody else there because you try to be rescue 9-1-1 and you gotta rescue you first I am much more valuable to my family and to my community because I was willing to let them go go to the door myself teach myself or myself condition myself and then come back and Iike cognitive business and the forms of discomfort that put yourself in when you think of yourself in such a way that doesn't match your current behavior your mind will be uncomfortable because it doesn't match so your mind will begin to call you to do the thing to make your mental conversation match your behavior but there's a calling on your life that you don't get to shake and it's only yours no one else has the same calling as you you want to go somewhere you've never gone you gotta do something you've never done you gotta say something you've never said you gotta go to replacing you that you've never even been you're not sentenced to this life this way it shows if you wake up every day and sad and nothing to protect I have nothing to prove I have nothing to hide now who do I choose to see we're not supposed to tuck our dreams and all on the pillow when we get up in the morning when not supposed to leave them at home I'm not supposed to do that to do that's not who we are your human spirit doesn't care about the economy the human sphere doesn't care that my son's father went to prison like the human sphere doesn't care what's happened to your family the human sphere doesn't care about the past that you may have been molested or your family it may have been broken or you may have been betrayed or you may have a divorce your human spirit doesn't care about any of that your human spirit simply says what I command for tomorrow comparison is and will always be the thief of all joy so when you begin to look at people look at someone as a model of who you can be by taking a piece of who they are adding into the uniqueness of who you are what do you need to do more of who do you need to be more of what do you need to evict from your behavior you're at the edge watching someone else live wondering what it's gonna be like when you jump without ever jumping and I'm just here to tell you jump fear is an emotion like any other emotion fear is an emotion like love like compassion fears an emotion we just gave it more power fear reminds you that you have not arrived to the top of the mountain that you're still climbing with the rest of us fear no longer becomes your fortress fear becomes your few fear is not your enemy fear is your friend some however you step just step however you step just step sometimes you got to step out of something before you're stepping into something I'd rather you take 10 steps wrong than analyse trying to make one step right one more day while someone's waiting to be inspired by them it's what I'm really afraid of and what you're really afraid of is getting to the end of your day to the end of your life and having something left to give [Music] [Music] Barrett God there's reasons to be resentful about your existence everyone you know is gonna die there's gonna be a fair bit of pain along the way and lauda that's gonna be unfair it's like no wonder you're resentful act it out and see what happens you make everything you're complaining about infinitely worse so you think well what do you do about that well you accept it that's what life is like it's suffering put yourself together and then maybe if you put yourself together you know how to do that you know what's wrong with you if you'll admit it you know there's a few things you could like polish up a little bit that you might even be able to manage in your insufficient present condition and so you might shine yourself up a little bit and then your eyes will be a little more open then you can shine yourself up a little bit more and then it takes responsibility and I think you know if you said to someone you want to have a meaningful life everything you do matters that's the definition of a meaningful life but everything you do matters he's gonna have to carry that with you or do you want to just forget about the whole meaning thing and then you don't have any responsibility because who the hell cares you can wander through life doing whatever you want gratifying impulsive desires for a home useful that's going to be and you're stuck in meaninglessness but you don't have any responsibilities which one do you want well ask yourself which one are you pursuing and you'll find very rapidly that it isn't the majority of your soul that's pursuing the whole meaning thing because well look what you have to do to do that you have to take on the fact that life is suffering yep put yourself together in the phase of if you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs and blaming it on you if you can trust yourself when all men doubt you but make allowances for their doubting too if you can wait and not be tired by waiting or being lied about don't deal in lies or being hated don't give way to hating and yet don't look too good nor look too wise if you can dream and not make dreams your master if you can think and not make thoughts your aim if you can meet with triumph and disaster and treat those two Impostors just the same if you can hear the truth you've spoken twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools or watch the things you gave your life for broken and stoop and build em up with worn-out tools if you can make one heap of all your winnings and risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss and lose and start again at the beginning and never breathe a word about your loss if you perforce your heart and nerve and sinew to serve your turn long after they are done and so hold on when there is nothing in you except the will which says to them hold on if you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue or walk with Kings nor lose the common touch if neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you if all men count with you but none too much if you can fill the unforgiving minute with 40 seconds worth of distance run yours is the earth and everything that's in it get yourself together transcend your suffering see if you can be some kind of hero you might find some of this stuff inspiring you will definitely find some of it boring and you'll definitely forget all of it within a week you don't have to have a dream Americans I'm talent shows always talk about their dreams fine if you have something you've always wanted to do dreamed of like in your heart go for it after all it's something to do with your time chasing a dream and if it's a big enough one it'll take you most of your life to achieve so by the time you get to it and are staring into the abyss of the meaninglessness of your achievement you'll be almost dead so won't matter I've never really had one of those dreams and so I advocate passionate dedication to the pursuit of short-term goals seem micro ambitious put your head down and work with pride on whatever is in front of you you never know where you might end up just be aware the next worthy pursuit will probably appear in your periphery which is why you should be careful of long term dreams if you focus too far in front of you you won't see the shiny thing out the corner of your eye too don't seek happiness happiness is like an orgasm if you think about it too much it goes away keep busy and aim to make someone else happy and you might find you get some as a side effect we didn't evolve to be constantly content contented Homo erectus got eaten before passing on their genes three remember it's all luck you are lucky to be here you are in calculative on and incredibly lucky to be brought up by a nice family that helped you get educated and encourage you to go to uni or if you were born into a horrible family that's unlucky and you have my sympathy but you are still lucky now you happen to be made of the sort of DNA that went on to make the sort of brain which when placed in a horrible childhood environment would make decisions that meant you ended up eventually graduating uni well done you for dragging yourself up by your shoelaces but you were lucky you didn't create the bit of you that dragged you up there not even your shoelaces I suppose I worked hard to achieve whatever dubious achievements I've achieved but I didn't make the bit of me that works hard understanding that you can't truly take credit for your successes nor truly blame others for their failures will humble you and make you more compassionate empathy is intuitive but is also something you can work on intellectually for exercise play a sport do yoga pump iron and run whatever but take care of your body you're going to need it most of you Marber going to live to nearly a hundred and even the poorest of you will achieve a level of wealth that most humans through our history could not have dreamed of and this long luxurious life ahead of you is going to make you depressed but don't despair there is an inverse correlation between depression and exercise do it run my beautiful intellectuals run five be hard on your opinions we must think critically and not just about the ideas of others be on your beliefs take them out onto the veranda and hit them with a cricket bat be intellectually rigorous identify your biases your prejudices your privileges most of society's arguments are kept alive by a failure to acknowledge nuance we tend to generate false dichotomies and then try to argue one point using two entirely different sets of assumptions like two tennis players trying to win a match by hitting beautifully executed shots from either end of separate tennis courts by the way these don't make the mistake of thinking the Arts and Sciences are at odds with one another that is a recent stupid and damaging idea you don't have to be unscientific to make beautiful art to write beautiful things if you need proof Twain Douglas Adams Vonnegut McEwen Seguin Shakespeare Dickens for a start you don't need to be superstitious to be a poet you don't need to hate GM technology to care about the beauty of the planet you don't have to claim a soul to promote compassion science it's not a body of knowledge nor belief system it is just a term which describes humankind's incremental acquisition of understanding through observation science is awesome the Arts and Sciences need to work together to improve how knowledge is communicated six be a teacher please please please be a teacher teachers are the most admirable and important people in the world you don't have to do it forever but if you're in doubt about what to do be an amazing teacher even if you're not a teacher be a teacher share your ideas don't take for granted your education rejoice in what you learn and spray it seven define yourself by what you love I found myself doing this thing a bit recently where if someone asks me what sort of music I like I say well I don't listen to the radio because pop song lyrics annoy me or if someone asks me what food I like I say I think truffle oil is overused and slightly obnoxious and I see it all the time online people whose idea of being part of a subculture is to hate Coldplay or football or feminists or the Liberal Party we have a tendency to define ourselves in opposition to stuff as a comedian I made my living but try to also express your passion for things you love be demonstrative and generous in your praise of those you admire send thank-you cards and give standing ovations beep rose stuff not just aunty stuff eight respect people with less power than you I don't care if you're the most powerful cat in the room I will judge you on how you treat the least powerful nine finally don't rush you don't need to already know what you're going to do with the rest of your life I'm not saying sit around smoking cones all day but also don't panic most people I know who were sure of their career path at 20 are having midlife crises now I said at the beginning of this ramble that life is meaningless it was not a flippant assertion I think it's absurd the idea of seeking meaning in the set of circumstances that happens to exist after 13.8 billion years worth of unguided events leave it to humans to think the universe has a purpose for them however I am no nihilist I'm not even a cynic I am actually rather romantic and here's my idea of romance you will soon be dead life will sometimes seem long and tough and gaurd it's tiring and you will sometimes be happy and sometimes sad and then you'll be old and you'll be dead there is only one sensible thing to do with this empty existence and that is fill it fill it and in my opinion until I change it life is best filled by learning as much as you can about as much as you can taking pride in whatever you're doing having compassion sharing ideas running being enthusiastic and then there's love and travel and wine and sex and art and kids and giving and mountain climbing that you know all that stuff already it's an incredibly exciting thing this one meaningless life of yours about two years ago we were having a conversation and he said you don't even teach seems to like this peak state vs. lousy state or being an energy rich versus energy poor that a relationship you can love somebody but if the energy is low markers drop the energy is high it will he's what you swapped those words and you swap peak state for a beautiful state I said that works you know high energy state is a beautiful state any state your high energy would be like love or joy or gratitude or Drive or courage or faith or you know playfulness or fun any of those things are beautiful states so go Johnny I agree and I said and then suffering states would be low energy State so that would be frustration sadness anger resentment loneliness boredom whatever you yeah that's exactly right I could swap those because if you swap them there's something cool that you might see or do so what's my question Katie said well he said I have made a decision that I'm gonna live my life where I'm gonna live in a beautiful state every day no matter what even if it doesn't even if it rains on my parade even if people do things that are unjust he said the reason is because the beautiful state just like you teach big stay everything flows I said well it's pretty much what I've been teaching yoshi got spot if you think of the lousy states of suffering states he said then you can end suffering just by ending this thing but I realized I didn't relate to suffering like if you had told me two years ago trying to do some fights ain't kidding me I got the greatest life I the most incredible wife and four kids and I got 31 companies and I'm financially free and I have a mission I love and I'm a good health and that would all be honest and I would have been dishonest about it but what really helped me out of that conversation I left where do I suffer and I realize frustration is suffering I get frustrated you know I get concerned I get pissed off again you know worried sometimes I get these feelings and so what I decided to do was you know just really create a 90 second rule for myself where I would end suffering as it rises cuz anybody tells you can't separate all the crap the reason is your brain is a to the Leadenhall brain it's not designed to make you happy it's designed to make you survive but there's no saber-toothed tiger for you to react to anymore so now we worry about what are people thinking of us do I have enough money over the last two years but I've done is play this little 90 second role and if I feel tension in me I go okay that's suffering where's it come to what am I stressed about what are you concerned about and what I immediately do is I realize the stressful thoughts since I seen Christians yeah I kind of traded one thing but I really do now is I dig in and I noticed that the only time you have stress or suffer is when you believe a stressful block cuz what are the chances of everybody doing exactly what you think they should do the right way every day zero what are the chances the people you love doing what you want them to do the way you want to do them every day zero when the chances of you doing your head zero so your happiness will never last as long as it's got expectation planning all I did was I began to realize I made the decision it's the most important decision I've lived with your life that I'm not gonna suffer to our life's too short to suffer and I'm gonna live in a beautiful state every day and the way I do it is I catch myself and I start to get that sense of stress I let it go and I see the I to go by so your thoughts thoughts about this person messing up your business you're not falling through if I was in a room would come down to people I guarantee you 60 70 percent of the business owners have the same thoughts of times but I ask you all the time tell me your most stressful thought I worry about my children this may happen how do we be able to have that part everyone I might not make it finish it well how many thought about everybody my point is it's not your thought it's the mind not your mind when you think it's your mind you identify with it and it's you can't separate from yourself but when you realize these thoughts been around for millions of years and I'm just thinking the same thought but so many people thought before like how many people have ever thought I'm gonna kill the son of a [ __ ] no you didn't do it can you do not believe you're really gonna kill him but you felt it you said it you were there right so we all have thoughts it's only the stressful thoughts we believe that mess us up so what I try to show people is if you can start to realize these thoughts have been around for billions of years if I told you a million you know thousand five hundred years ago that we're gonna go to the moon and back you called me a lunatic they're crazy if I said 100 years ago you're gonna have a little box like this they'll fit your pocket you can click on it and you can see what the weather is any place you could click on it and see a live person on the other side of the ref and talk to them by looking this box the way it works is invisible waves they're traveling around the earth and it pulls invisible waves in the Box you're going read between the lines there's no way dumb idiot so what I want you to realize the spots are invisible way you turn on TV it takes invisible waves and depending on the channel you're gonna see a love story on adventure or a drama or a comedy or a horror the wave your body interments which of those thought waves come through you one moment you're pissed off the next moment somebody makes you laugh you change your body you change the channel you change what comes through you so what I've tried to do in this area beautiful state is simple first identify where you're suffering with your favorite flavor are you a warrior are you a pissed off first arrest angry what is it you do then second of all decide you're gonna kill that monster while it's little you're not gonna wait till it's Godzilla taking the city you're gonna break the pattern you start to feel the stress you see it as thoughts going by and then you focus on something to appreciate and joy or love appreciation love and joy destroy something you can't be grateful and angry simultaneously it's possible you can't be worried from fearful and grateful simultaneously so I told people gratitude is one of the emotions to cultivate that will destroy the sullen [Music] we don't really know who we are and I want people to admit that when they look at their books the truth of it is is that we really don't know who we are we have many different selves there isn't never oneself this is a concept that's very deeply ingrained in Buddhism that's greatly influenced me our self is constantly in fluctuation we're not the same person we were as a child in the course of the day we have different moods we have one self over with a lover we have another self when we're with a boss that I alluded to earlier so to think that there's one consistent stable self as an illusion and neuroscientists have pointed this out the brain tries to create for us this sense that we have a stable consistent world so that we don't constantly freaking out about the actual chaos of life so we even simplify ourselves into this idea that we have this one consistent authentic self your authentic self is actually coming to terms with this chaos and accepting it and not trying to imagine that you're some consistent great do-gooder moralizing person and the other thing is you have a dark side you have dark desires you have aggressive impulses you have anger you have things that I call it the shadow that's not me it's a concept from psychology you have a shadow side to yourself well that's also part of being authentic and you tended to repress it so embracing the many different sides of who you are including embracing the fact that you're not nearly as good or moral as you think you are actually would add up to be more authentic to ground yourself in reality you would first have to grind yourself in yourself you have to know who you are you have to detach yourself from social media from all the other influences that people are giving you so when you don't know yourself when you're not in touch with your own tastes and desires your own impulses what makes you different what makes you unique you are alienated from the one basic reality who you are and it creates I think a lot of anxiety and a lot of depression because we all have a deep need to sort of express our our personal opinions our personal tastes to find some outlet in some career to give expression to what makes us different from others and so if you're constantly listening to what other people are saying if you're plugged in to the matrix continually and that's your only reality then really what you're doing is you're never understanding who you are what you see when you look in the mirror is a reflection of all the other opinions that other people have opinions of you opinions of politics opinions of what's politically correct of what's good and what's bad you've become a reflection of other people and being alienated from yourself is a deeply deeply depressing experience it can lead to taking drugs to stimulants to all kinds of addictions so we can say certain basic things about yourself you you were born very different from other people your brain is wired in a very unique way your DNA is unique you are going to die someday you're mortal you have to fend for yourself in this world people aren't going to give you things this is sort of a basic kind of ground for your feet to sit stand upon an understanding that is sort of understanding reality and a lot of people are fleeing from that because living in that kind of matrix world of social media and all the fantasies you don't really have to confront yourself you don't have to deal with your own demons with your own weaknesses with your own flaws but you pay a terrible price but I think the principle ProSource of the problem is that people are running away from themselves and on social media that process is deep is greatly accelerated you [Music]