Parents Teenagers ko Nafsiyati Imraz Se Kaise Bacha Sakte Han? -Teen & Tweens S1E3.

Whatever a human mind thinks, his entire body behaves accordingly. Stress is a small thing and what is its root cause? Our negative thoughts, our mind. Our mental health is as important as our physical health. The impact of parents' psychological issues falls on the children. When everyone is stressed, he should go for a walk for 15 to 20 minutes and feel good. Teenagers are facing more stress and depression. When the elders of the house suffer from any such anxiety or depression, then it is very obvious that it will impact the children. [Music] Bismillah Rahman Rahim With the programme Teens and Twins, I am Khurram Khurshid Nazreen. It is said that human beings are complex and human beings are the product of emotions. If this is so, then it means that the outside environment affects the personality of a person, the mood of a person. If we see, the heat of the seasons The roughness of the tone and the cold seal in the attitude everywhere and all this gives rise to greed, lust and desire, political stubbornness, fear, depression, anxiety, overthinking. Along with this, if we see, we understand that the effect of these things trickles down, that is, whatever the mind of a person thinks, the whole body of the person behaves in the same way. If I am moving my hands right now, then its signal is basically coming from my mind. Similarly, in a house, when the parents, when the elders of the house are victims of any such anxiety or depression, then it is very obvious that its impact will come on the children. Today we will talk in great detail about these emotions and many psychological problems related to it. Today we have an excellent guest with us, I am saying excellent guest because you are a child counselor, you are a clinical psychologist and you interact with such children and their parents and today we will talk to them about their practices and their experiences. We will also ask them so that our viewers can get maximum information regarding this I thank Akasha Khan for coming and taking time out of your busy schedule. Thank you very much. First of all, tell me what is the meaning of Aakash? Aakash means sky. It means sky, bright future, one who touches the skies. So basically, from the Islamic point of view, it is a dua that protects you. So, it has multiple meanings, but the meaning is this, one who touches the skies. Beautiful name, very beautiful name Nazreen We will start our conversation with Akasha Khan Sahiba from here, but we have to take a small break. After the break, we will talk with her in detail about teenagers and their psychological issues. Take a little [Music] Break Welcome back Nazreen, let us start the conversation from where we took the break. So Akasha Khan, first of all, tell us whether there are psychological issues of parents. Are these transferred to the children and does their impact? Does the impact of the psychological issues of the parents fall on the children? This is a very good question, definitely, because parenting of children is very important. Many of the issues that children face in childhood, their reaction is the same when they grow into their teens or whatever happens after that, they have to face them. Now, if the parents of your house are living in a house, if the mother is depressed or under stress or there is any fight between them, then the children are seeing that, the children are also feeling that and they have to observe that thing and adopt it on themselves. For example, like abuse, you must have heard about it. Researches also prove this thing. If you see the history of a child who abuses as an adult, then his history shows that his parents also face the same thing, that is, the matter starts from there itself. The matter starts from there at that time. The time being, the symptoms of children definitely fade away because they cannot express them in that way but the thing is that when they move into adulthood, then basically all their issues, all of them, all of them are there in childhood itself and this is totally 80% but you should understand that it is the fault of parenting, whatever is good or bad in this, whatever it is, parenting would be a major part, that thing, well, there is a thing related to this, I would like to understand from you, now if the father is in depression, father's anxiety, by the way, we do not have the culture of it here, we do not consider depression as a disease at all, first tell us this and then I will come to the next question that how much sensitization do you see of it in our society, the thing is that there is no acceptance, when we get any physical illness, we are very conscious about it, if there is pain in the stomach, even a headache, or even fever, then we go to the doctors. People run to the doctor but people do not know that as much as our physical health is important, our mental health is also as important. People ignore this thing. Why do they ignore it so that the label is okay, I have talked about a very important thing here, I would like you to explain it to us as to why and how to do it. Sorry, mental health is as important as physical health is important. Then you can do it from there. Look, as I have talked about the way physical health works in your life, in your daily routine, in the same way, if a person is not mentally stable, then he will not be able to do any work. His personal, social, professional, all the areas of his life will be disturbed. Wherever he is connected, wherever he is connected, he automatically connects with all the areas. For example, if there is stress, any situation is like this, and the person is not sorting that thing out, then the next day he will go to his daily routine and will not do his work properly. Okay, he will not do his work properly, the workload will be more, okay, and there will be anxiety and depression and stress, relationships will be spoilt with colleagues, okay, you will also get scolded by the boss, there may be a risk of losing the job, after a day or two, okay, even though he does not want it, you are saying that a toxic personality is formed, only then you will see that when he comes home, if there is a wife and kids, all the anger will be taken out there, why because it cannot be taken out on the boss, right? So after that our anger is anyway taken out on the weaker ones, exactly our anger is taken out on him too, so you see this is a chain going on, stress is a small thing, a problem is a small thing, and what is its root cause, our negative thought, okay, negative thought leads the question here, because I am talking about a very important thing, where does negative thought take birth from? Negative thought takes birth from your own thinking, in which if I say that you stop thinking, can this happen, it is not possible, just like your other physical organs are working, in the same way our mind is also working. Our brain also works, we should tell it to stop thinking. On a lighter note, the basic difference between Ashraful and others is that Ashraful thinks while Donkey does not think, he does not think. And I am sorry, those Ashraf and others who do not think should understand that they are not using the basic ability that Allah has given them. But you are talking about negative thoughts, now he is thinking, now he is thinking, okay, now the problem in that is that when those things are to be thought about, and see, if I also say that nowadays no one has any problem. Nowadays, there are stressful circumstances, however much you want to do in life, you can do it in a positive way, stress can come somewhere or the other. And it happens in daily routine also. Now in that, it happens that we want to take it in a positive way or in a negative way. For example, if there is a person, his boss, I will give a small example here of a workplace, his boss. He has greeted him and he did not reply, okay now he has passed from there, now it is in that person's mind that I may have made a mistake, now it is overthinking, okay exactly this is the root cause, now he will think that I may not know, it may be my mistake, my work is not liked, it may be that all these negative thoughts are from me, now he did not think that it may be that the boss did not hear his greeting or he was in some tension of his own that he did not understand the thing or he replied so casually that he did not understand this or that, see these are the things, a lot depends on our thinking, so in the same way our mind, our mental health is also as important as we take our physical health, that is, you are saying that first of all we should do so much about this kind of overthinking and the negative thoughts arising from it should be given a shut up call, it would be difficult but we can do it possible and if it is possible then how it It is possible, yes, see, now the thing is that we will get thoughts, as I said earlier, we cannot deny thoughts, but the thing is that even if it has come, even if stress has come, we should know how to replace it, we should know the coping strategy, how to cope or how to deal with our environment. We should know how to deal with our stressful circumstances. If we learn these things, we have to learn it. There are some reasons for this, there are multiple reasons for this. First of all, if we talk about how, before that it is important to know what the reason is. See, without the reason, when you get to know the root cause, then half of your treatment will be done like that because when clients come to us or parents come with their children, they do not understand, they do not know from where the problem is starting. Now parents bring their child saying that this child is not concentrating, this child is not interested in studies, this is not the case now. So people have come to you with complaints, but you did not know why he is doing this. It is possible that he is doing it for attention, you do not pay attention. It is possible that someone is bullying him, due to which he is a victim of social anxiety. There are multiple reasons. So it is very important to know the reason and root, what is the reason behind any issue. Well, before coming to this and teenagers, like you have talked in great detail about parents and parental anxiety, you said that it has a very negative impact, please tell us that suppose the father is in depression, is in anxiety, or the mother is upset due to some reason, then no parent wants that their problem reaches their child. Now how can they control this, that if I am depressed, like you said, thoughts come, problems also come, difficulties arise, now these do not get communicated to the children, how to resist them, if that person, like you have talked about a father figure, For example, if he is going through depression or some stress, then he should be trained on how to cope with anger because he should understand that whatever he does, whatever he expresses, the atmosphere of the house will be spoilt and it will have a direct impact on the children. Parents should understand this. Now, the parents should, for example, if we talk about psychological problems and if any of the adults or parents is facing this problem, then they should do stress management to deal with it. There is stress or anxiety. There are many techniques of stress management that we can use. First of all, it is very important to relax yourself. Now, we are in a situation where you cannot go away from the situation, you cannot change your circumstances and you cannot detach yourself from the situation. See, you should always remember one thing that you should focus on your own self. It is just your caste, you cannot change people or the environment. So how many people and how many places will you change, will you leave your job, for example, break your relationship, or will your children do something like this, in what all things, so the best approach is to change yourself according to your requirement. So you can work on yourself, I can work on myself, I am having an issue with one thing, I don't want to change you, I want to change myself, so that it doesn't have any impact on my children and all the people related to me, so this is very important, if we understand this thing and talk about stress management, then there are multiple techniques in it, you can do that, along with that, people refuse exercises a lot, they feel that they should not do this, before I move on to the next question, you have talked very well about this exercise, is there any combination of exercise, tension, depression, anxiety, any relation, definitely a combination, please tell us about that. See, when you are under stress, certain chemicals are released in our brain, which take us towards tension. You must have heard about our flight and fight, all of them respond to us. So when we walk or we are doing some exercise, those chemicals in our brain will be released, which give us a feeling of well-being, which makes us happy. Or you can also personally experience this thing that when a person is under stress, he should go for a walk for 15 to 20 minutes, he should feel good, the problem is the same. See, things happen step by step, the problem will not be solved but he will start feeling good. When he starts feeling good, he will also think that how do I sort out my things, he will also understand how to tackle things, when the mind is so exhausted, so stressed or you are not feeling good, then how can it be done? So it means that when parents themselves are in some depression or problem, And you want it not to reach your children, firstly you should control yourself, control yourself as well, number two go for a walk and do some exercises, so that they feel good because research also proves this, so this can be one technique, after that replace your negative thoughts with positive ones, okay now as I gave an example earlier, let us refresh it again that for example now if the child has expressed his feelings on something or on the parents, if we are talking about the father, like the boss thing has happened, then he should think that this can also happen, see you have thought negative thoughts also, that means like we say show off your happiness, your boss has passed by you, you must have thought negative thoughts also, why can't you make it positive, it's an amazing thing, yes, by working hard, if you have thought negatively, then you can make it positive as well, now if you have thought that it could be good, it could be that I have made a mistake, you can also think that this cannot happen, it cannot be possible when If half the chances are negative then the other half can be positive as well. So if we feel that we cannot come out of this situation, there has been a financial crisis, a lot of things come up, any problem has come up, loss of love one or anything, then when we feel that we cannot come out of this thing, then it only feels to us that there is nothing related to you and you cannot do it, wonderful, okay, see, if we understand this thing, then we can make our life very smooth, so first of all we have to work on ourselves and we have to replace the things, if no problem has come up, a situation has come up, you have broken down, doesn't matter, let it be go, just move on, just move on. So, take courage, from whatever you have discussed till now, the only person who can take yourself out of it is you yourself, and its easy solution is to move on, move on. Move on, move on with your life and it is said that I am unable to move on, as you just talked about, you are saying that psychologically if a person decides, then he can move on, he can definitely do it, these are small things, okay, maintain your emotional stability, give yourself positive gestures, use coping strategies, okay I can do these things, you want to boost yourself, right, but when you are doing the same, when a thought can let you down, put you in depression, then why can't a small thought take you out of there and Allah Ta'ala says that I give to my person only that and I deal with him only that, as he expects from me, as he expects from me, we will take this conversation forward from here, it's time for a small break, after that when we come back, we will talk to Akasha Khan in more detail on similar important issues and psychological problems, we will take a small [Music] break Welcome back Nazreen, just now Akasha Khan was telling us very beautifully about the parents of children. She told that parents should control themselves, should exercise and should try not to let their problems reach their children. And one very beautiful thing that she said was that if you can have negative thoughts, then why can't you have positive thoughts? It was a very beautiful thing. And then Allah says, as we were saying before the break, and on top of that Allah says that whatever you expect from me, I will give you that. Some time ago, Dr. Joseph Murphy in Power of Subconscious Mind says that there are two parts of a human brain, one is the conscious mind and the other is your subconscious mind. Dr. Joseph Murphy says that your conscious mind behaves the way your subconscious mind signals it to, and when you sleep, the conscious mind sleeps and the subconscious mind does not sleep. So whatever you said, always give a positive message to your subconscious mind, conscious positive behavior. You, who are practitioners, clinical psychologists, tell us what kind of common problems do you face with teenagers. Now let's talk about them step by step. First of all, we think that depression is only in grown-up children or in adults whose lives are affected by workload or students etc. But it is not so. Teenagers are facing more stress and depression, as compared to parents, because if you see, it is from parents' side as well as from schooling, there is peer pressure as well and after that, there is a stage, there is a phase of life when they have to step out into a new world, so this is a very important phase and they face these things in it. Mostly, I think all children face this thing, but the thing is that if you and your parents contribute to this beautifully, then they can get rid of it. Many children get depressed in that thing, many children fail to face it, then there is anxiety, anxiety, panic attacks. Often you see that there is no pressure, no pressure, no social pressure, but still they are facing it. Basically, now one of the most common things that I think is social anxiety is social anxiety. First of all, tell us what is social anxiety? Well, the social anxiety that teenagers are facing basically happens in this that your socialization reduces a lot, that is, the children avoid social gatherings, either they just get stuck and think that they have to stay at home or they have problems with social gatherings. There are multiple reasons that could be behind this, which could be the reason, one could be having some inferiority complex that I cannot face people or the public. Okay, where do such things come from? See, such things can come from multiple things. Like in this phase of yours, your physical appearance is also changing, your mind, so many things can together do this, it is possible that someone is thinking that if we talk about self-esteem, then it can be in any way, either he is not satisfied with his physical appearance, that maybe I am good looking, nowadays this is a trend, it is the era of social media, children who were not like this earlier, now the basic problem of children, in my opinion, is that they have to use social media and they also have to act according to the social media and when they are not able to fulfill this thing, then it is obvious that they will have low self-esteem, they will not be able to face it, how will they say it among four people, how to talk to friends, so there is no answer to this thing that we do this in this way, then in that some such trauma has happened, some such accident has happened with the children, then they then tell that thing to outside people. Okay, mostly they will either stay at home or with their parents and if there are some parenting issues going on at home or something like that, then they will also avoid that thing, so basically social gatherings have to be avoided, okay, if you find yourself suffering from subjective anxiety, then what do you recommend to the parents, look, there are proper counseling sessions for this, okay, parents should get the children counseled in a proper way, now when parents come, if we talk about printing and this field of children, then in this, 60% of the parents are counseled and 40% of the child is told because basically all the action is coming from there and the reaction has to come from here, okay, so we basically have to counsel the parents as to how you have to act and whatever you behave, your child will react to it. Do this thing and from here I am getting this idea that the parents who do not understand these issues as issues, then how are they destroying the personality of their child. Understanding or not understanding the issue is a second thing these days. I think they do not even understand this, they do not focus on the children these days. You should see this because now according to me both the parents are working, okay, women are also working these days, where do they have so much time to give quality time to the children, there is no quality time, then from where will the quality of the generation come, see when you do not have quality time, then only screening time, yes, of course you have given the children only this thing that they do not become a burden on you or you cannot give them time, you have given them everything like tablets, phones etc. okay and also see that without first negligence that you did not give them quality time, secondly you did not even think about this, you ruined them, secondly you did not even think about what content they are watching, then you talked about self esteem and All those things from where you think now, not just any girl in social media, now even children will be visible to you on social media, they have set a standard, they have more followers, exactly, so now see, he has set a standard, so now people, children who will see him, will follow him, so he has become an ideal for them, he is a hero, they want what he is wearing, they want what he has, the things, the watch, the car, anything, in this way, boys and children want what you are seeing, your teenagers who are following you, they are showing it to you, so now you are seeing that, you want what you are seeing, so now every parent or every child has his own family background, economically as well as financially, and in terms of your upbringing, it is also different in terms of bring up, so if not, when those things are not available, then there will be conflict, right, there will definitely be disturbance, but now what should parents do here, now parents should go on in a balanced manner, okay, parenting should be like Parents have to give confidence to their children in a balanced manner. It is very important to focus on it. You have to pay attention to your children because when you don't pay attention to them, they seek attention from somewhere else and then many big and dangerous problems arise. There is one aspect of this that our teenagers fall prey to. You have seen the whole chain. It continues along with the chain and then it continues further. At the end, when the child's mental health is damaged and then the parents start taking them around, so first you should see what you are doing with your children. Pay attention to them. I am not saying that you should not give them anything. It is not like that. Keep a time for everything. There is schooling, the children have to go to school. They have to do their homework, they have to go to tuitions, academies, etc., whatever academics are, that is one side of your time. Then keep a suitable time in which they can use the phone, etc. Their sleep, now you see, a small child of this age goes and thinks, what will happen to him at 12:15, then what will he get up like that, then he will get up in the morning, go to school and see that irritability, that frustration level, he will not be focused, he will not understand how to do it, his schooling will also be spoiled, your academics will also be spoiled, there also you can be bullied and you can also do it, right, so there are so many things in this way, so parents should make a schedule for the children according to a proper schedule, do it according to that and the quality of time is okay, I can totally understand that nowadays there is not that much time, okay, by the way, I would like to ask one thing here that the parents who do not have time for their children, then for whom are they doing all these things the whole day, for whom are they leading such a tough life, they are doing double jobs, the mother is also doing, the father is also doing, then for whom should they do it, this is the issue, we do not know at all. This is the only shortcoming because of which the punting is getting spoiled. The root cause of punting is that they do not even realise what they are doing. That they are doing all this and for what they are doing, that is what is causing the bad thing. So these things are important. You should walk in a balanced way, there is no issue, you should give them quality time. If you are going for a walk yourself, make a plan for short walks on weekends, not on weekends. If you are going for a walk with the child, take the child along because the child imitates what the parents do, the child will do the same. You can do small things. If you are going for an exercise, going to the gym or anything, take the child along with you. If the mother is working in the kitchen, then make her stand with you. Why should you spend some time with them? It is not that you get the work done. It is your bring up, whatever it is, but what is it that you should have a little communication with them. This is the issue. There should be no communication between us, there is no communication between our children and parents, parents do not communicate with children and when children have to tell about school, whom should they tell, you have handed it over to the maid, now she has become more attached to the maid than to the parents, right, so when your own things are like this, then how can you expect that children will behave like this for you or these issues of children, that is, when you practice, children come to you, parents come, the basic thing that you see is that parents do not give quality time to children, from which all the issues start taking birth, Nazreen is having a very thought provoking conversation, Aakash Khan, we will continue the conversation from here, but we have to take a break here and we will be back after the break, welcome back Nazreen, Aakash Khan, tell us why there are so many mood swings in teenagers Well, we can see its multiple issues. Nowadays I will also focus on diet. You should see what diet the children are taking. It may be junk food or something else in that way. You should understand that there are no proteins etc. in it in the way a child should be fed. Now this misconception of people is that perhaps diet does not disturb our sleep, our eating pattern, but there is a huge link connection of your mood swings with your diet. That means you are saying that parents should first take care of their child's diet. What do you want from diet? The intention behind diet is that it should have proper proteins, calories, vitamins, whatever are the requirements of your body or whatever your food intake should be, it should be in the proper way. If the child wants to eat junk food, you should give it once a week or gradually, okay, children drink cold drinks. We use a lot of drinks, there are some juices or the other, now the sugar in them is also so high, you should understand that the sugar in them is also not good for your health, so diet is very important that we keep the diet in a good shape for swing, after that, if the child is under stress, it is due to any reason, due to any reason of schooling or parents, if the child is personally under stress, then that stress and the way of expressing it, which is also a depression of adults, then adults will express it by being sad and alone, the way of children is different, the way of children is not like this, the way of children is that sometimes they will go into a very high state, they will be happy with small things and in that way and sometimes they will feel very low, what is it that there is no stability in the personality and who is to give stability to the parents, well, this problem is found in adults as well, it is there in adults as well, see, the same thing. It must be so, earlier we used to talk about these problems in adults and elders and you are saying that whether it is in young girls or elders, it is a psychological problem, it is a problem, this is something that should be understood, this should be highlighted. The second reason is stress, if a child is under any kind of stress due to any reason, then definitely due to this thing, he has mood swings. Now like in adults, your depression and stress, it is expressed in different ways, okay, but what happens in children, sometimes their mood will be very good, sometimes it will be very low, so this is the stability of mood swings and this is the instability of personality and where is this coming from, parents are not giving it, absolutely right, the attitude of parents and the bring up skills of parents are doing that to your children in this way, and the third reason is sleep disturbance, mood. In swings, mood swings have a lot of connection with sleep disturbance. That is, irritability, anger issues. The reason for this is that how many hours of sleep should a teenager get for a sleep disturbed person? Parents should focus on this. If I talk about biological aspects, whether he is a teenager or an adult, it would be seven to eight hours. But if he is a teenager or a child, then definitely parents should make a schedule for it. Whatever it is, it doesn't matter whether it's a weekend or Sunday, or if you are going out somewhere. It often happens that you go out somewhere, but your sleep hours and the start and end of your sleep, or your up and down, should be fixed. This way your sleep is maintained. Parents should ensure that the child is doing his fixed timing properly or not because the sleep If your cravings are not fulfilled, even we adults when they are not fulfilled then a strange mood happens, mood disease happens, irritability happens, anger issues, it provokes anger issues, then if the child goes to school, okay, or if he goes to any social gathering, he will get angry, will fight, then bigger issues will arise, so these are small things which become the root cause of mood swings and all other things, along with this, since you are talking about diet, it is very good, you have elaborated it, diet disorder also happens, mental disorder in children, which is absolutely good, eating disorder happens in children and some of it can be called like bulimia nervosa in which too much of anything is eaten, children often get stressed, well now under stress people feel that maybe not eating under stress reduces your appetite, but it is not so, okay it depends from person to person, okay it is possible that one person is not eating. And another person is eating too much and now I feel that this overeating is increasing, earlier he used to eat less but now he is eating too much, so now children are also like this, they will start eating too much, stress, okay, there are all kinds of things like stress, stress anxiety, getting anxious, getting panicky, getting anxious, to cover that thing, to solve that thing, there is just one strategy, you have a compensator for that thing, okay, like for example, if I talk about an adult, he starts smoking in an unhealthy way, drinking alcohol or doing something in an unhealthy way, so he has to avoid it, okay, now in that, some girls, especially those females, these females are more prone to this thing that they do n't eat food to just maintain their figure, okay, right? And this is more in children. This is more common in teenage girls. Compared to this, when they talk about all those TikToks and videos in their peer group, what happens is that you don't eat at all, you do n't eat. They feel that eating would be the solution, which isn't it, it is a disease in itself. See, even if you go to a dietician, she will never recommend that you stop eating. She will tell you that you have to eat everything but in a portion. She will also never give you these things in her weight loss plan. So these small things should be taken care of. Parents should take care of this eating disorder. It is absolutely good because time is less and there are many things to ask the father. And quickly, I will ask you this, we see that one child is very active and another child is a little lazy, quiet, sitting on the side, does not interact, even when he goes to relatives, he remains a little aloof. What is the reason for this and how to overcome it? It can be done well if that happens that corner loneliness, yes, yes, it is okay to stay to yourself, it means that your confidence level is low, okay, your broad top parents have made the child very over sensitive, okay, okay, small restrictions, small things, see, there can be two things, small restrictions are also okay and by providing small things, by pampering, okay, right, you have made him so sensitive that he will feel small things in everything, whether it is in the sense that these things are restrictions, okay, so either he can have the other side of the situation that or he is so stressed that he is not able to face the stress, he has failed in some small test or there has been a fight between the children, then he could not tolerate the whole thing, so the parents have made the children so over sensitive that they are not able to tolerate this thing and they are not able to handle the situation. There is no skill to do this. Parents have not given the skill because I am being repeatedly reminded. Time is running out. Last question and with this we will end the discussion. What tips would you give to parents to handle all these issues? In short, first of all, the tip is to bridge the communication gap. Okay, give proper attention to children, give proper assessment of children, spend time with them, give them quality time as well. Along with that, focus on this thing. You should not give them over-attention. The problem also arises due to over-attention. Okay, they do not need over-attention. You have to bring up all their skills by keeping them in a balanced way. You have to provide them with skills. Give them enough confidence in such a way that their self-esteem should be boosted so much that tomorrow when they stand on their own feet or go out without their parents, they should have enough guts that they can do it. So that they can face the things and secondly, if they feel that the child is having some serious issues and they are not able to deal with it on their own, they are not able to handle things, then they should take help from a professional, there is no harm in it because the children themselves did not know it, it is the parents who have to take them there and the parents have to try to get the children counselled and all these sessions done, so it is very important for the parents that they should have psycho education. In the conversation that we heard from Nazreen Akasha Khan Sahiba, parents should first of all believe that whatever hard work they do, whatever efforts they put in, they are doing jobs, they are earning, they are doing it for their children, so spend quality time with the children for whom you are doing all this and if you see that your children have any such disorder as Akasha Khan Sahiba told us today, then immediately consult a clinical psychologist. Get the children counselled and also get yourself counselled and understand what are the basic problems of my child, only through this we can give a good Mushra presentation, with this I would like permission from today's programme Teens and Twins, please allow me, Allah Nigehban [Music]