How To Make Your Communication Effective? By Life Coach Amita Devnani

Hello friends. Communication is a very important part of our life. If we want to achieve anything in life, be successful, make good relationships, be happy, then our communication should be good. Why? Because we live with others. When we live with others, it is very important to have proper communication with them so that they can understand me and I can understand them. It is a two-way process. When we understand each other, when we can convey our message to each other, then only we can move forward towards any goal. We can make our relationships good. So friends, how to improve communication? Today I will give you some tips for this. Friends, I am Amita Devnani. I am a counseling psychologist practicing in Gurgaon. So friends, why communication? Why should we be effective? Why should we know how to communicate well? Because if we are not able to communicate well, if we are not able to convey our message to others, then we go through a lot of stress, tension, chaos. If we want to achieve any result in life, then we also have a team. There are some people around who can help us do this. Going alone can't do anything. You are in a relationship, you are in a family, you are in a family. There you have to communicate with your loved ones, with your husband, with your parents, with your children. If your communication is not better, if you are stressed over small things, then you can get a lot of stress and tension. That's why it is very important to understand communication and improve your communication. So let's understand some tips. Let's understand some tips on how we can improve our communication. Tip number one. If you want to work on your communication, you want the other person to understand whatever you want and work with you on the same page. So first of all, keep your emotions away. Many times we involve our emotions in a lot of situations. Let's say you want my husband to understand that he should get up early in the morning. In this case, when you go to communicate with him, there is some anger in the voice, some irritation, because he is not listening to you. And many times you have already communicated with him. In this case, you want to communicate that you care for him, you want him to take care of his health, get up in the morning, do something, but that communication does not reach him because you are emotionally laden. You are angry, you are shouting, so he does not listen to you, he starts avoiding you. So it's always better that whatever communication you want to do and you want the result to be positive. So first of all, keep your emotions away. Your anger, your anxiety, your irritation. First of all, get him present. Keep him away. If you communicate with him, the other person will listen to him. Otherwise, he will come in a defending position. As soon as you get angry and say something to him, as soon as you get irritated and say something, the other person will come in a defending position and he will not listen to you. And your communication will be ruined. And you will think that I say this for his own good, but he does not listen to me. So friends, always control your emotions a little and if you communicate, you will feel that better results will definitely be caused. Number two, whenever you want to communicate, which is really important for you. You want this to reach the other person. The other person should understand what I am saying and the other person should listen to me. So in this case, it is very important for you to take care of your body posture, your voice, tone, and your body language. Why? Because much more than our words, the impact of our body posture, facial expressions, and voice tone. If you are saying anything with your mouth, but your body posture is telling you that you are climbing on it or it is telling you that you are angry at this time, your facial expression is telling you this, then your communication will be ineffective. Or you want to communicate with someone, but your voice and body posture are such that you feel that there is no confidence in it. So in this case, the other person will not listen to you because he will feel that there is no weakness in you, there is no such thing in you that your words are accepted. Therefore, if you want to communicate with someone, then first of all work on your voice, tone, body posture, and facial expressions. Because if you see confidence here, if you see here that the other person is saying for my benefit, he is not angry, then the other person will listen to you, to the extent you want to convey the message. Suppose you have to tell something to your colleague in your office, you have to have a conversation with him, you want him to listen to you. In this case, if you say it with a confident voice, then definitely he will value what you If your voice tone is like this, that he feels that he does not have confidence in himself, your body posture, facial expression is such that someone is scared, then he will never pay attention to what you say. So friends, it is always important that whatever you want to communicate, first communicate it confidently. Number three, friends, if you want to effectively convey your communication to someone, you want the other person to listen to you, understand and listen to you, then first provide him listening. What we often do is that if we have to communicate with someone, we forget a lot. Here, talk less, listen more. If he does not listen to you, then your communication will be ineffective. So if you want to make your communication effective, then first get present to another person's word, listen to him, understand him, then say your thing, tell your thing. And the more you will be in questioning mode, the more you will be in asking mode, the more you will ask him what you want, what do you think, how can we do it, tell me how it can The more you will ask, you will find that this communication is much better than telling that do it like this, it will happen like this, I am telling you, do it like this. So if you want to have an effective communication, you want to cause a result, if you want to have a work performance, then definitely you should be more on asking mode than telling mode. Number fourth point, try not to judge other person. Sometimes when we communicate with others, we have a very bad habit that there is a person who will say this, so our mind is passing some judgment from its past, there is already an image in his mind and we are communicating with the other person from there. We are not exactly communicating with anyone from where we have to cause things, from where we have to create things. We are doing it from there that what image is in the mind of the other person and he will not agree. Still, I speak and see, still I say and see. And when we are coming from a lot of judgment and evaluation, there are a lot of conversations going on in our mind, so in this way our communication can never be effective. Why? Because the other person has this sense that he is already thinking that it will be like this, then it will be like this, then it will be like this. In this way, whatever result you want to cause in that area, it will not be caused. So always, if any communication is very important for you and you want to cause results in it, then remove your judging mode, your evaluating mode from the front and do it with it as if you want to create your conversation from there, build your communication. And friends, the last not the least here. Communication should be clear and result focused. Many times we do our communication, but we ourselves are not clear in the head that what exactly we have to communicate with them. And when we are not clear what communication we have to do, then we say anything and we get the same answer from the front. So whatever result we want to cause, it does not happen. Take the example of your husband. You want him to get up early in the morning and exercise. Your intention is that he takes care of his health. So what is your result you want? You want him to be healthy. He should take care of his health. But where are you communicating from? You are communicating from here that you do not get up, you do not understand, getting up is very important. You are not even clear in your head what your intention is. So you are not able to communicate with him. He sees blame somewhere. And when he sees blame, then your communication cannot be effective. So first get it clear for yourself. It is very important that if there is any important communication and you want to cause any result, then first be with yourself. First think about what exactly I have to communicate with him. Bring clarity in your mind. Write some points. It's always better. Call someone. If you feel that there is a very important communication and you really want to get results in that area. So it is always better that you sit with someone and call a mock call. So that you really get the clarity that what I have to communicate, how to communicate So friends, if you follow these tips, then definitely you will see that your communication has become much better. And whatever result you want to achieve in your life, friends, it will happen automatically because your communication is much better now. Thank you friends. Bye Bye.