These 2 Daily Habits Can Increase Your Happiness Right Now...

Let me ask you an important question. What do you really want most in life? What do you want most in life? money Yes, you want little piece of paper with pictures of dead people on it No, you might want what you think money will give you. What do you think money would give you freedom? Security. Okay. What else do you want? Love? Love how many want love in your life more love in your life? Whatever you tell me some people say I want to be closer to God some people say I want to make a billion dollars Some people say I want three perfect children What's in common? The only reason you want anything is because you believe if you get that it will change how you feel You want the money because you think how you'll feel you say no. No, it's what I'll get to know What you get will affect how you feel If you say I want to be closer to God because of how you'll feel I want my children to be so happy Why how does that make you feel when they're happy we think of ourselves in the Western world of the mind But you're a hell of a lot more than your mind Aren't you the mind is a tool that you should learn to use if you don't learn to use your mind it will use you and It doesn't usually make you happy your heart your emotions are what you're after and here's the most amazing thing Every feeling you've ever wanted that you're achieving in your business for that you're building your family for that you're voting a certain way for that you're doing anything for is to either get out of a negative feeling or increase or get a positive feel and Here's the amazing thing How many of you can think of a goal you'd love to achieve that if you made it happen you'd be so happy How many of you've ever achieved a goal that you worked really hard for and after you achieved it your brain went is this all? There is that's a horrible feeling isn't it? Failure feels better than that because when you fail you don't give up you just get up and find another way Don't you but if you succeed and you're still not happy you're not what I call Technically screwed right you don't want to be there. How long did you stay happy six years a year six months six hours So here's the crazy thing You did also change how you feel it worked for a little while then you went back Do you know they've done studies on people and they ask people around the world? What is your number one fear? And then they say what would be the greatest gift or surprise? The greatest gift that most people in the Western world say is to win the lottery It's the number one answer hundreds of million dollars it changed my life The number one thing people say that would scare them the thing that would be the worst thing to happen would become a quadriplegic now interestingly enough they've done studies on people when the lotteries and done studies on people or quadriplegics and One thing they found out was really interesting three years After either winning the lottery or becoming a quadriplegic. Who do you think is happier? The quadriplegic or the person who won a hundred million dollar lottery which one well, it's kind of a trick question It's kind of a setup right neither one is more happy Because after three years their brains adjust the person who can't even move if they move their finger they now get excited by that if they're not drugged and The person who you know was in a position whether when the lottery has only people want something from them They're usually fairly angry. They return to the same level of happiness. They were before So, how do you and I have an extraordinary quality of life? We learn that what we get will not make us happy not long-term who we become Will make you very happy or very sad long-term and so the purpose of a goal is what it makes of you But also if you learn to use your body the right way these emotions you want most you can have right now When you finally achieve that goal who's gonna make you feel like that? Who's gonna make you feel that way when that happens when you achieve the goal who? you So if that's true, why wait I? Hear people all the time say things like man, this is the most horrible thing in the world. This is so terrible Someday someday. I know we'll look back and we'll laugh about this. I say why wait, let's look back and laugh now So in order to do that You have to understand a very fundamental principle and that is that the way you feel is controlled by two things What you focus on and what you do with your body? The way you move is the most powerful piece now when I say the way you move I include your voice your face all that This area of your face right here has 37 muscles But if you keep making the same facial expressions you keep having the same biochemistry you keep feeling the same feelings But if you change your facial expression change your movement everything changes Is it possible to have a really magnificent beautiful life and not feel it is it possible have lots of people love you? And you not feel loved is it possible for you to have tremendous abundance, but feel scarcity inside of course because You can overwrite all this with your mind if you don't learn to use your body So success doesn't guarantee fulfillment fact listen to me now success Without fulfillment is the ultimate failure, so if you want a better life We got to train ourselves to use our body not just why I'm telling you here But to develop some new simple habits that'll make you feel this way all the time and so Problems can happen you like bring it to me I know a lot of people who have a great life, but they never celebrate how many have done this how many of you? Have ever had something happen where you really achieve something great. You're really excited But you toned it down around other people because you don't want to make them feel that but you know here's what happens When you have a great success, and then you try to make yourself not feel too happy or excited around other people Does that make things better for them? No, does it make them better? No does it make them grow? No, but here's what it does do it teaches your brain It's not good to be too happy, and then that becomes a habit so even when you succeed you never fully celebrate So I've worked with so many Multi-billionaires that come to me And they're miserable or people that are people you think would be the happiest people in the world very famous celebrities in music or movies or athletes and They're miserable inside because they don't celebrate so Michael Phelps a good friend of mine also Michael Phelps has more gold medals than most countries and He was depressed all the time because he'd get to the goal and just achieve it and like oh I have to do it again So one of the things I had to learn was how to train his nervous system to actually celebrate because he didn't celebrate for like Celebrate for a second work his life for eight years and then celebrate for a millisecond So let's try a little experiment What if you develop the new belief and a new belief was I don't need an excuse to feel good You know that sounds stupid just to be happy for no reason well really most people are unhappy for no reason How's it going? Oh? No like How come woke up? But if you how you feel I'm feeling so good. Why do you feel good? I don't know. I just feel good take that person to the funny farm right there's something wrong with him So I'm telling you there's something wrong with us in our culture Which has caused us to not celebrate and feel more alive because by the way When you're in a great state you treat other people better or worse better or worse when you're in a great state you perform at A higher level or a lower level which one? Higher level when you're in a great state you're better in every way, so it's not about being positive It's about being intelligent It's stupid to allow yourself to stay in a lousy state you go Tony But with all the problems in the world by you going into a lousy state doesn't make any problem get solved It lowers your energy, so you'll do nothing about it So it's our job to train ourselves