How to Be Nice to a Mean Person

how to be nice to a mean person so before i even saw this video if you are someone that's in a situation where you have to encounter a mean person a horrible individual someone that's very negative and is holding you back in life it walks away try to avoid those situations but obviously i completely understand that sometimes we are forced in these situations and it's very hard to get out of them it is perhaps due to family members being involved it's due to work or any other environment that we can't easily get out of and thus in this video and thus in this video i want to talk about things on how to make life a bit easier when you have to deal with mean people and if you are excited and would love to see more videos like this please consider hit the subscribe button and leave a thumbs up for the youtube algorithm and with that said let's get started number one keep your voice calm so when it comes to dealing with mean people they tend to be very provocative so if you're someone that's gonna raise your voice if you're gonna allow them to have the dominant social frame what will happen is that they will misuse this they will take this to their own advantage and benefit from them so every time if you're gonna raise your voice every time every time that you're gonna show some sort of emotions they're gonna misuse this and try to take advantage of you and thus it's very important that you keep your voice calm and collected speak slowly and make sure that you've got control over your voice because what this does is that it not only comes to other individual but it also lowers the attitude towards you and if you want to reduce any sort of huge encounter when it comes to your mean person they want a mean person to like you more or at least respect you to some regard it is very important to keep your voice calm so when it comes to dealing with a mean person it can be very emotionally overwhelming it can be draining because it's very difficult sometimes to deal with someone doesn't mean someone there's a lot of negative energy sometimes doesn't make sense and it's all over the place and thus it's very important that you've got control over yourself and your own frame don't let the other individual have an influence on your emotions and i completely understand that they will have some sort of impact on your life on your environment on the choices you have to make but don't let them distract you from your grind don't let them emotionally provoke you because if they do they're the winners and you're the loser and thus if you are someone that's in a situation like this a wanna mean person to like a little bit more just take a deep breath and stay calm and collect it and sometimes accept that people are different and you don't always have to have it your way you don't always have to try to change all the individuals just let them live your life and live your own life but obviously if they encounter you and it really becomes an issue respectfully show your boundaries even though they'll continue to be a mean person next time they at least know that you actually are someone with boundaries and what will happen is that they will respect you more because a lot of times we let all the individuals go over our boundaries let them do whatever they want and even though we don't like it it's not as significant to actually make a big deal about it but what will happen is that it slowly starts to build up and they will go over more boundaries and more boundaries and eventually you'll just explode and you'll be very frustrated don't let that happen to you take a deep breath and in the instance someone goes over your boundaries don't be someone that's gonna shout at them be very mean yourself just let them know hey these are my boundaries and i hope you respect them and this way the other individual will respect you more and hopefully in the future this mean person will eventually find you nicer because the first thing you want to do is to command respect and as you've commanded respect over time you can make them like you more number three hold eye contact so a lot of times when it comes to mean people they target individuals that looks insecure they try to target individuals that don't seem that confident that they can take advantage of and thus is very important that you portray yourself as an individual that isn't insecure an individual that knows your value and you do this by holding eye contact because when it comes to holding eye contact it shows that you're actually looking at the other individual you're not afraid of them by simply holding eye contact you show that you exist that you met her and this is very important especially if you are dealing with a mean person these individuals tend to be less rude try to take less advantage of those individuals that seem confident those individuals that can command respect know their value and you can get this by holding eye contact so if you are someone that's dealing with a mean person don't try to be afraid and look away don't try to avoid the encounter know your values stand your ground command respect and you do that by holding eye contact number four control what you can control so when talking to a mean person obviously you can't change the world view obviously you can't be this individual that changes their words but what you can control is your reaction towards them so it's very important that you're aware of this so the previous points have already mentioned this having a calm voice holding eye contact but generally speaking just keep in mind that it's very very important that you have control over your emotions it is very very important that you have control over your reaction because what will happen is that if they are doing something if they are trying to provoke you if you're reacting the wrong way they'll take advantage of you but if you react in the right way it can do wonders for you you can command respect from them and in some instances these mean individuals completely start to change some individuals are mean as a defense mechanism and once they see and once they realize that they can't penetrate towards you they'll become normal again they'll be more kind they'll be nicer to you but that only happens if you are someone that's able to control what you can control and that's your reaction and sometimes the reaction you need to give is that you don't need to have a reaction at all sometimes you need to act like that that opinion doesn't matter i know it sounds harsh but the reality is that those individuals that act like that they don't really care about things sometimes all those individuals that command respect due to this attitude number five laugh it off is this individual really that important that he or she is ruining your day is this individual that important that you can't think about anything else and that you're completely emotionally provoked by this individual in most instances it's not that deep it's just one individual that's being mean and it shouldn't be a big deal to begin with usually if someone is mean they are insecure themselves they've got problems going on themselves so all you can do is to actually not take it personal just laugh it off it's not a big deal i know sometimes it can hurt but don't take it personal usually when we are angry at someone we kind of are angry at ourselves for allowing to be played and that's usually also i think what happens with mean individuals there's usually some sort of psychological reason why they're acting in this way and that's not your problem don't take that personal if you focus on yourself don't give in to their reactions have control over yourself by having good eye contact keep a low tonality and be someone that simply doesn't care laugh it off you'll be in a much better spot and you won't really care about that individual you'll be better off yourself and over the long term you realize that usually it isn't that big of a deal in the moment it might seem like a big deal on the ground scheme on a macro level over time you realize that it wasn't a big deal at all and those were five ways on how you can deal with a mean person obviously you don't always have to make that person like you but i do recommend you to get respect out of them because if you don't get respect out of them they will misuse their power they will try to find ways to get something out of you and you don't want that to happen don't be someone that always tries to be good friends or on good terms with everyone because the reality is we are all different we have different values we come from a different background and sometimes we just simply can't work together and that's perfectly fine and if you're someone that can't let go of that fact it will be very emotionally provocative for you it will make your life a lot harder and thus it's very important to let go and that's pretty much the end of this video so i hope you found informative and useful if 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