Introvert? 5 Step-By-Step Tips to Be More Social

so is someone that's not a huge fan of being the center of the attention are you someone that rather spends time alone or with a couple of friends rather than going out where there's a huge crowd or a lot of people in that instance you might be more of an introvert person rather than an extrovert person but there's a huge misconception between introvert and extrovert because for some reason people think that if you're an introvert you're less social and you don't have any social skills well when it comes to being an extrovert it's quite the opposite but it really just depends on the person because for example looking at myself especially when i was younger i've always been more of an introvert not particularly because i'm too shy or i don't have the confidence or i'm simply too awkward just because i prefer some alone time i rather spend time on myself and do things my own way alone rather than being someone that's the center of attention at the same time i've always been very social i've had a lot of friends and i've always had control of my social life and those in this video i want to talk about how to be more social even if you are an introvert and when it comes to videos like this the only reason i'm actually making this is because it's more of a passion project for me i genuinely like talking about stuff like this and also if you feel like that these videos generally help you out definitely let me know in the comment section down below and if you have any other suggestions definitely let me know too because this way i can help you out in the best way possible all right so before i give you the quick tips and the quick hex which i know everyone always seems to love i quickly want to talk about being an introvert and an extrovert so when it comes to both extremes for some reason people always think that they either introvert or an extrovert but the thing about it is but the thing about being an introvert and an extrovert is that it's a spectrum and what that simply means is that you're only more likely to be an introvert or an extrovert rather than only being an introvert or extrovert and what i mean by this is that for some reason people think that if they're an introvert they can't have any qualities or attributes that an extrovert has but the truth is that most people are somewhere in between being an introvert an extrovert and this can change over time due to a lot of different factors say for example if you change your social environment you change as a person an extreme life event happened which has shaped your whole reality and the way you're thinking all of these components can have a huge impact on your personality and at the same time it can also have a huge impact whether you're more of an introvert or more of an extrovert and those before i even give you the quick tips and the quick hacks i want you to realize that it's not a stagnant thing it flows like water and you pretty much always change it depending on the time and who you're talking to perhaps in some social situations you're more open relative to other social situations and i know that a lot of people will probably say that yeah more outgoing with people that i'm comfortable with or people that actually know but the only reason you are more outgoing or you're more comfortable with those people is because you allow yourself to be more comfortable and the reality is that most people aren't even that outgoing that they will randomly talk to a stranger thought to chat them up and have a nice conversation most quote unquote introverted people are more extrovert in their own social situation but at the same time you've also had those social situations where you're up with people that you're comfortable with and at the same time you're with people that you know for a very long period of time but with those people you aren't even that outgoing and you pretty much keep yourself to yourself and thus it's really dependent on the situation so don't only think that you're either an introvert or an extrovert because even though you're more inclined to have attributes for an introvert it doesn't mean that you can't have any extrovert attributes and a final thing before i actually give you the quick tips and the quick hacks because i'm renting on for quite a long time a good example of behavioral change is the 2020 situation because a lot of people wear lockdown and we're staying at home even the most extroverted people have learned to be more introvert and spend time alone even though it was very hard for them and this has created a social shift for a lot of individuals alright so let me now talk about the quick tips and the quick checks so number one be confident in who you are so when it comes to a lot of individuals they always think that they're introverts in a lot of instances they're just simply shy and shyness is pretty much a lack of social skills if you're someone if you are someone that doesn't know what to do in a social environment if you're someone that isn't really experienced when it comes to talking to all the individuals you are actually shy rather than being more of an introvert although it does go hand in hand individuals that are more of an introvert always tend to be more shy and shy individuals always tend to be more of an introvert these two things aren't the same thing and thus it's very important to understand that you need to be confident in who you are because for some reason people that think that they're more of an introvert don't want to say that they're an introvert because they feel like that other individuals will see them as a loser someone that's not fun but that's not the truth because you can pretty much tell people that i'm more of an introvert i do prefer some of my own time and even though i'm spending a lot of time with you i do need some alone time to recharge myself but yeah i'm still good fun i personally need to find some sort of balance and this is something that i've said before and it's perfectly fine for a lot of individuals most people won't judge you for the things that you say it's usually more in your mind while you're playing yourself and creating the extreme scenarios that will probably never happen so just be confident and happy in who you are number two it's okay to shut up i mean it sounds quite harsh but it's okay to be quiet from time to time what i always see when it comes to a lot of introverted individuals that start to gain some social skills so initially they were quite shy but now they start to know how to talk to other individuals it's a very new world you're very excited and constantly want to impress others you constantly want to be the center of attention but what this does is that you're pretty much begging all the individuals attention and this isn't attractive at all and even though if you're not trying to oppress someone from the opposite sex it's still very annoying for your friends and family because the world doesn't revolve around you and thus instead is very important to calm down and be quiet sometimes it's perfectly fine to be in a situation where other individuals are talking and you're just simply listening because this way you can generally get to know other individuals this way you can generally get to know other individuals and understand them better and another thing that's great about individuals that are more introverted is that those individuals are more likely to have a higher eq emotional intelligence so when it comes to understanding on individuals showing more empathy these are some skills that introverted people are better at and so definitely use them because if you are someone that wants to maximize your social skills and wants to get the best results try to use the assets that you've currently got and try to maximize your results with them and you can maximize your results with those assets by simply being quiet number three step out of your comfort zone and then refuel so i've already mentioned this that it's perfectly fine to tell the individuals that you need some down time that you need to balance your extroverted life and introverted life because if you're a very introverted person what happens is that if you're going to be more extrovert are going to be more outgoing you're constantly pushing your comfort zone without refueling and eventually what will happen is that you simply burn out or you do something stupid so it's always better to find your comfort zone and just slightly increase a little bit get out of your comfort zone and do a couple of things and then refuel yourself because this way you can constantly push your comfort zone of the long term and actually become the social person that you want to be number four preparation avoids disaster so when it comes to social situations there's a lot of external factors stuff you can't control and thus it's very important to have control of the things that you can control because this way you have more control of the social situation and the thing that a lot of individuals that are control freaks need to understand is that you can't control everything and there will always be things that will go wrong or things that are out of your control and that's just a part of the game and thus it's very important to understand this point for example the way you look you can always prepare yourself in the best way possible to give yourself the best chance in whatever the objective of your conversation is another thing that you can do is to prepare certain sentences or certain jokes and yes i know you want to be natural you don't want it to be forced but the truth is that most individuals that are the best speakers most individuals that are extremely funny they do prepare what they can and thus this way you can maximize your social results because a lot of times when meeting new individuals there will always be those standard questions such as what's your age where are you from what do you do and these are more of the boring questions by the same time you can prepare them and be a little bit more funny with them you can be playful with them for example if someone asks you what's your job instead of actually saying what you're doing if it's a very boring job just say that you clean the toilets in the building and ask them whether they were the last person that went to the toilet because them it's stinking just prepare casual jokes like this if you're someone that isn't very naturally funny and a quote that i always like is that a winner is a loser they simply tried one more time and even though the joke doesn't it even though this time the people weren't so keen in regards to talking to you it doesn't matter practice makes perfect i remember when i was younger i was quite introverted and i used to be a little bit more on the shy side as well but obviously over time if you continue to practice if you're willing to put in the work whatever it is even if it doesn't have to deal with social skills over time you will become better because for example when it comes to me making youtube videos my first few videos i was extremely nervous and if i have to be honest not even my first few videos i would say probably my first 50 videos i was extremely nervous but over time i gathered more confidence and now my speech has improved quite a lot plan ahead to maximize your social results and over time you will realize that you don't even have to plan because it will come naturally to you and other individuals will think how is this guy so social how is this individual so good at having conversations and they'll be shocked because for example when it comes to making youtube videos initially i used to plan all of them write them down on paper now i tend to freestyle them a little bit more obviously i write down the main point that i want to talk about but that's pretty much it and then i just casually talk about the topic and explain it to you because the truth is that initially it will sound a little bit more robotic and it won't sound that natural when you're gonna practice something and you're gonna execute it but that's normal you just have to push through and over time you'll see that your social skills will become better and even if you plan ahead you'll still get better results and over time you don't even have to plan ahead because now you've actually mastered your social department and now you're confident in the social skills that you possess that you can pretty much execute them whenever you want moving on to number five is to find an extroverted person so if you are someone that's more of an introvert and you feel like that's very hard for you to be extroverted and it's very hard for you to push yourself in the audience to push yourself out there sometimes it's better to find an extroverted person try to become friends with them try to join them when they go to events or go out and this way since they're naturally more extroverted you start to pick up on those traits and at the same time they can help you push you through the barrier and overall this will definitely help you to get the results that you want and these are the five actionable steps that i would recommend you to execute upon if you are someone that's serious if you are someone that is more of an introvert but wants to get more out of life if you are someone that wants to have the best of the best social life if you are someone that wants to increase their social skills and if you are someone that wants to be able to communicate whatever they want whenever they want and once you have the power to grab attention whenever they want whatever it's a big crowd or that particular person it doesn't matter but it all starts by mastering your social skills so i hope this video was useful and if you have any sort of suggestions definitely let me know in the comment section down below because this way i can help you out in the best way possible and if you'd like to see more 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