3 Amazing Tips to Improve Your Communication Skills 🔥 | How to Talk to ANYONE | Rewirs

Without wasting time, we are going to share 3 most effective tricks with you that you can follow without being afraid, without overthinking, with 100% confidence, you will be able to have longer conversations than anyone else. And people will be instantly impressed by your communication skills and the way you talk. The first one is Non-Stop Conversation Flow. First of all, you don't need to learn communication skills. You already know it. You just can't use it in the right place. Because the people you are comfortable with, your family, your friends or relatives, do you have any communication problems there? No, right? The problem comes when you meet a new person about whom you know very little or nothing. Whether he is your online friend whom you are meeting in real life, new classmate or co-worker or any person whom you are meeting socially. Now imagine, you are on a romantic date and a very beautiful girl is sitting in front of you, whom you like very much. And there is fear here. Fear of judgment. Nervousness. Overthinking. Fear of awkward silences. Now, all these fears of yours, they destroy your confidence. And the solution to this is very simple. Start with the present moment. For example, when Barack Obama was the US President, he had a famous incident. In a town hall meeting, he started his talk with a simple line. How many of you saw the Super Bowl yesterday? Everyone in the room smiled. People started agreeing. And instantly an atmosphere was created. Then he smoothly linked that event to the topics of US economy. The best way to start a conversation is that it is not necessary that you have to be dependent on the environment around you. Keep yourself up to date with the latest news, current world event, any new movie, sports or controversy. So that you always have something to talk about. Now, suppose you didn't start the conversation and the other person is talking. So how do you maintain that conversation? Ask probing questions. Suppose you meet someone and are chit-chatting. And the other person says, I went to play cricket last weekend. Now, what will be your answer here? Oh, cricket? That's great. Now, there will be an uncomfortable long silence. Or you can reply like this. Oh, cricket? How long have you been playing? Where do you play? If you keep talking like this, then they will also start asking you questions. Do you also play cricket? No, I like football more. Now, the topic has naturally shifted from here. That is, you don't have to put a full stop at the end of your sentences. But you have to put a question mark. And now the flow of the conversation will also be maintained. But do you know who breaks this flow? Your own words. Be articulate. Don't say anything randomly, don't put your point clearly and with a well-structured. Using fillers or jargons, changing your tone again and again, it shows you a lot of unpredictable and stupid. And immediately makes the other person feel that you don't know how to talk. Okay, just watch this clip. Don't say that to her. Huh? Don't say that to her. What? Don't say this. Don't be hard on her. She's in bad. So, in this video, Shalin is saying something. But no one is understanding. He is mumbling inside himself. While Salman Khan is clearly and loudly being able to articulate his point. So, this example video was just to make you understand. To be articulate means to say your ideas and thoughts in such a clear way that the other person listens to it without any confusion and in an interesting way. Where people are more impressed with your way of talking If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough. Albert Einstein. This is the biggest problem that most people tell us that there is a thing in my mind, but I am not able to say it clearly. In the end, it gets ruined. So, the best way to practice this is writing. Whenever you get a thought, an idea or an opinion, take it to your phone's notes app or a copy pen and write it in as much detail as possible. Then read it again after a few days. If you get confused after reading it, it means you didn't say your point correctly. Try to write it in a better way. A scientific research also says that Writing helps organize thoughts and deepens understanding. When we write, we are forced to think. This helps us to give structure to our ideas. This exercise will refine your thought process even more. How to express your ideas and thoughts in words, you will become a master in this. Now, speaking doesn't mean that only you speak. Conversation is like clapping with both hands. One hand to speak and the other to listen. This was the whole part of how to speak. Now, it is important to understand how to listen. Because if your listening ability is weak, you will never be able to become a good communicator. Active listening Most people have this problem that they listen to the other person thinking about what best reply should I give him now. Whereas you will have to learn to speak less to say more good things. And this is the most difficult part of a good communicator. Listening to the other person. Not so that you feel that yes, I have heard the whole thing, now I can speak. The goal is that the other person feels that you have heard the whole thing. And now he wants you to speak. There is a lot of difference between the two. Listening is also that whatever the other person is saying, just keep agreeing with him. And at the same time, keep your replies ready. So that as soon as his talk is over, you shoot all your replies one by one. And this is a very bad way to talk to someone. Where you are selfishly just thinking about yourself. You just have to keep your points. You need appreciation and validation for your own words. What the other person is saying is secondary. Most people are like this. They just listen to listen. This is passive listening. You have to focus on active listening. A research says that active listening triggers your mirror neurons, which builds trust. Now how to do active listening? Remember this 5 second echo trick for this. First, listen to the entire conversation of the other person. Understand what he is saying. Understand the feeling behind his words. When his talk is complete, don't reply immediately. Instead, follow these 3 steps. Pause for 5 seconds. Take a 5 second pause. Take a deep breath. Summarize. Follow up. Next, ask him a follow up question after summarizing. In the same example, after summarizing what the other person said, you can ask him this question. So how are you feeling now? Or what have you thought now? By doing this, the other person feels that you have genuinely listened to him. Your full attention was on him. This builds a deep connection. You don't just talk at the surface level. And without saying anything, you become a good communicator. But if you feel that communication is just listening or speaking, then you are wrong. You clearly expressed your point to the other person. Or you listened to him well. It doesn't just depend on your speaking and listening skills. There are some cues or behaviours that make your communication more effective. And now comes the most important part, body language. Don't think of body language like this. Like the costumes of your words. Without this, your words are completely empty and naked. But with the right body language, everything you say becomes effective. According to the professor of UCLA, Albert Mehrabian, 55% of communication is body language, 38% is tone, and only 7% is words. This means that what you are saying is more important than how you are speaking. Take an example of Alice. Alice works in a local department store. Most of her time is spent interacting with customers and co-workers. There are a lot of conversations. But not just with words, but with body language. Before speaking, her body language tells people a lot of things. Like if her arms are crossed, and she is not making eye contact, then the customer may feel that she is not approachable. Now it is possible that Alice is actually in a friendly mood, but her body language is suggesting the opposite. And it is not necessary that she is doing this consciously. It may just be her habit. But if Alice becomes aware of this habit, then she can work on her body language. It is difficult to change habits. But if you take a little pause and observe yourself, then you can gradually improve your body language. Like one day Alice notices that her co-worker is quiet. His body is soft and he is sitting in a slouched posture. Seeing this, Alice may feel that something is not right. Either he is upset or there is an issue. Now it depends on how their relationship is. Maybe Alice should give him some space. Or ask him softly, is everything okay? The awareness of body language can make a huge difference in your personal and professional life. How people perceive you and how you understand others, it all depends on this. Just remember, how you present yourself is more powerful than how you speak. Sometimes you say a lot without saying anything. And because you are young and educated now, you must know how important it is to grow in life with communication skills. So if you don't want to waste your days, months and time like this, then you must watch this video now. Because this video will really change your life. So if you liked this video, then like the video and subscribe to the channel to support us. And turn on the bell notification so that you don't miss the upcoming videos. Thank you for watching.