Stop Feeling Behind: 5 Tiny Habits that Changed my Life. (Slow Living).

If you feel like you are always rushing, like you're always behind, like no matter what you try, there just isn't enough time. But what you're craving is that softer, slower way of life. This video is for you. If you're new here, I'm Maddie. I'm so glad that you're here. I make videos about soft, slow, living in your dream woman era. My course and all my other digital products are ready for you when you are. I will leave them linked in the description box below. Even though these habits are super tiny, they are powerful because they shift your state and not just your schedule. So many of us are so obsessed with our schedules, so obsessed with our tools. What we really need to change though is the way we feel during our daily lives. Time, Einstein said, time is relative. We are so used to relating to time in a way that's like a bank account, like an allowance, and we have a fixed amount and it's just running out. But what if time is actually not like that? Think about like sometimes when you're in your flow state or something super fun, time just flies by, right? But if there's some drudgery task you need to do, or if you're like anticipating Christmas morning, an hour feels like a century. These are gonna be habits that help you reframe your mindset around time and bring your body back into the present out of that crazy time warp that so many of us are used to relating to time in this scarcity way. Micro habit number one is to walk slowly everywhere. This micro habit is actually so powerful because if you just start walking the places you're already gonna go, whether that's like to your kitchen, down the street, to your car, if you just start walking slower to those places, I'm telling you, it's an incredibly powerful shift that's gonna take you from that rushed, crazy mindset and help you get back into your body, into the present, and make you feel like your life is more soft and slow. I started doing this when we lived in Hawaii because I noticed that people there, when we first moved there, it was a little bit of culture shock, but I noticed that people there just walked slower. I started just consciously being like, you know, I could probably walk slower to the produce section of this grocery store. There's really, like what really is the rush? Take a slow stroll, just naturally, wherever you need to go today. You don't need to like block out a time of your schedule. Let's just start walking more slowly and strolling places that you're already going. So I want you to notice how much more time you actually have than what you were previously noticing when you were stuck in, let me do everything in just one second mode. Number two, super tiny micro habit is taking a midday pause. In Italy, they take this riposo. It's like this long afternoon, somewhere between 30 minutes and 90 minutes. It really can be anything you want, but it's a break after lunch to just breathe. So after lunch today, I just want you to take a second wherever you are to just stop what you're doing and sit down or lie down. You don't have to actually pressure yourself to nap here. There's no need to meditate. Like this doesn't, you don't need to get anything done with this, okay? We're just gonna take a pause after lunch and start baking this little anchor into your life that shows your body like, hey, there are these stopping points in my day. There are these moments I can count on that make me feel safe, like your life isn't gonna just like spiral out of control based on what happens, based on this like very reactionary way of life that a lot of us have gotten used to. And let your nervous system do what it wants to do. I believe that when we get out of our body's way, it's gonna naturally heal. Like we don't have to try for it. So this is actually another very powerful micro habit that when done even for one day is going to powerfully shift your mind and your body back into the present, back into that slow, soft, savory life. Number three, super tiny micro habit for soft, slow living, a social micro connect. What I want you to do for this is to send one loving, cozy voice message. A lot of this for me is inspired by the Mediterranean lifestyle. It's inspired by my time in Italy, my time in Sardinia, and their lifestyle is so much slower, so much more savory than what I'm used to back here in California. But I've incorporated a lot of their lifestyle and seen so many just beautiful rewards in it. And this is one for me that, although it's not like walking to the market to talk to the guy that sells bread, it's like, it's much more powerful for me in a way that like really builds and has sustained incredible relationships over time than sending a text. We are creatures that need community and more than just screens. So use your phone in a way that is like the olden days where we'd call people, but do it in a way that's super accessible and super easy and super tiny. And I promise you're gonna see really beautiful rewards in your relationships from this. I've built some really beautiful friendships and rekindled some old ones this way. I invite you to try the micro social connect habit. Micro habit number four is to touch the earth daily. Put your bare feet on the ground. Maybe you water a plant, maybe run your fingers through some type of grass or your hair. Just really physically be in the moment. This tiny habit does a lot for your body, for your health, for your sleep. And the great thing about it is that you don't need any extra time to make this happen. This is just a moment for you to step out the door and receive a lot of benefit. Micro habit number five, that is super tiny. It takes three seconds, maybe less, but so powerful, so powerful, is grayscaling your phone. So if you have an iPhone, I don't know how this works on Android, but there's this button on the side of your phone on the right side. Excuse me for not understanding technology at all, but when you turn it on, if you click it three times, it switches your phone to black and white. Truly, it makes your phone in a second completely a different device. I'm not one of those people that's anti-technology. I actually love having my phone. I love having a computer. My whole job is on the internet. And I love the way that technology supports me, truly, and makes my life softer and slower. But I want to use my technology and not have my technology use me. This can be a very time-warpy, addictive, obsessive little device. And I personally have tried so many different things. I've done challenges without my smartphone. I've switched to a flip phone. I've used the light phone. And what I've landed on at the end of the day, I actually have a video that I need, I should redo, it's rather old, but I have a video about how I've dumbed down my smartphone. And I still use all those same concepts today, but the most powerful thing, the most simple, most accessible micro thing you can do right now that's gonna really change your life is just grayscaling this thing. Seriously, it rewires your brain in an instant for more calm, more peaceful, more present daily life. I think a lot of the work that I've been doing over the past few years is rewiring my brain for more peace and more calm. From that, I've seen so much more optimal function of my life. Society has truly steeped us in this, like faster is better. You want to stay not just on track, but ahead of track. I think, and it probably goes all the way back to school. We're in this competitive culture thinking like, there's only space for one of us to win. We want to gently deprogram that hustle culture that so many of us are just so over. In case you didn't know, I have a free, soft, slow, Mediterranean lifestyle newsletter that I share often enough, like maybe once a month. And I fill it with all the inspiration that is giving me life. And then I think it's gonna give you life too. I put recipes in there. I put seasonal food and nourishment ideas in there. I talk about things that I'm loving and just little tips for making your life softer and slower and more you. So I will leave the link if you'd like to receive that. If you like this video, I think you're really gonna like my feminine energy video as well. So I will link that right here and I'll see you guys soon. I don't think I took a sip of this whole.