DISCIPLINE IS REMEMBERING WHO YOU SAID YOU WANTED TO BE. - Powerful Motivational Speech Video

Everybody wants to be great until they see the invoice. Greatness will cost you sleep. It'll cost you comfort. It'll cost you being liked by everybody. And the truth is, most people aren't willing to pay it. See, we love the idea of the trophy, but we hate the process. We love the story of the champion, but we want to skip the chapters where they were overlooked, rejected, and tested. But you can't skip it. You can't borrow greatness. You've got to earn it in private, when nobody's clapping, when nobody's checking, when nobody's posting about you. That's the real proving ground. Those nights when you want to quit, but choose to stay. Those mornings when you're tired, but you get up anyway. Every rep you push, when it doesn't feel worth it, that's when you're making the down payment on your dream. And when the day comes, when you finally walk into that moment you've been fighting for, it won't be luck, it won't be magic, it won't be coincidence. It'll be because you looked at the price tag of greatness, and you paid it in full. Can you do that for 60 months? You. Can you do it for 60 months? Because I like guarantees in life. And you know what I know about guarantees? If you stick to the basic fundamentals, and constantly improve, adjust, adapt, but stick to that same activity over and over and over and over and over again, for 60 straight months, you're bound to dominate your industry. And if you do it for 10 years, the industry's going to know about you. If you do it for 20 years, the world's definitely going to know about you. By the way, nowadays, you don't need 20 years. You need 3 to 5 years nowadays. But you do need to show up and do the boring thing every single day. What's the boring thing? Show up on time, early in the morning, leave late, improve. These are boring things you got to do on a daily basis. But it is what it is. Do you realize that every day you thought you wasn't going to make it? Do you remember them days when you thought it was absolutely unbearable, and you thought you wasn't going to endure that one? Do you know that your survival rate for every last one of them bad days is 100%? You survived every hater. You survived all the evictions. You survived the firings. You survived all the trouble you ever been in. Your survival rate is 100%. You got to learn to let the past go so you can grow. Many people never act on their dreams because they allow their past experiences to determine what their possibilities are. Whatever you've done in the past, that's not a reflection of your possibilities. That's just a reflection of your consciousness. That's just a reflection of your development and your growth. The future is unfolding for you right now. The future is unlimited for you right now. No one knows where you can go. No one knows what you're capable of or what's possible for you. Can you be weak and strong at the same time? Yes. But I say be strong. Train your physical strength and exercise your mental strength by doing the right things. The hard things. The things you know you're supposed to do. Do them. And be as strong as you can mentally, physically and emotionally for yourself, for your team, for your family. Hold the line and be strong. Before we know it, we become something that we're not. And so many people in this world, they're living a life that's not theirs. And what I mean by that is that they're living a life that someone else gave them. They're living a life that pain gave them. They're living a life that depression gave them. They're living a life that a failed dream gave them. And they end up becoming that. That is not your identity, people. You got to give back to the core of your being. You got to give back to yourself. But when you decide what's most important to you, your brain goes after it. If you don't know exactly what you want or you let yourself get beyond that to something general, you're not going to achieve it. Clarity is power. The more clear you are about exactly what it is you want, the more your brain knows how to get there. Is instead of saying my sacrifices were rejected, so my hard work, my effort, everything that I'm doing to try and move forward, it's not working. And if you want to go towards hell, you keep saying, well, it's not working, but it's because of everyone else. They're rejecting me. They're not accepting what I've done. Whereas if you say to yourself, oh, it didn't work, okay, it's my fault. What can I do better? And that's how you start moving in the other direction. Don't give up. Don't let the world get you down. When it does get you down, get up and write what you want out of your life and don't stop. You know what I'm saying? There ain't no vacation. You get up every ******* day, you look in the mirror and you tell that mirror, I'm a bad ************. It's all in your mind. Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life. If you continue to believe as you have always believed, you will continue to act as you have always acted. You will continue to get what you have always gotten. If you want different results in your life or your work, all you have to do is change your mind. Wisdom comes from experience and experience takes time. The more experience you have, the more you learn from that experience, the wiser you can get. A pine tree grows and matures very fast. An oak tree grows and matures very, very slow. Which one lasts longer? And which one's stronger? Which one shelters more critters and more birds? Which one, when it's done and over and it's cut down, which one is more valuable for the lumber? We're all looking for this golden purpose. Is it this? Is it that? Is it making money? Is it my family? Motherfucker, the purpose is you. Every ******* day I wake up, I know I want to do some ******* ----. I'm like, okay man, do you want to be a bitch today? Do you want to walk around all day knowing that you could but you didn't? You have to learn how to get up and do ---- when you ain't got no ******* 5k, no 10k, nothing. Nothing exists. Your life ******* sucks. You're in the ******* dungeon. But guess what, ************? I'm still going to get it. First of all, don't aim at being happy because that's just not going to work. Especially when the storms come and barbarians are beating at the gate. You can just forget about that. There's going to be times in your life where you're suffering so much you can't believe it. And so you're going to need something a hell of a lot more robust than happiness to get you through that. And then you might say, well, what's more robust than happiness? Or maybe even what's more robust than pain? How about adventure? How about we go out and sail the uncharted seas, you know? But our life situation predominantly is our fault. It's our fault. When you get knocked down and you get broken open, that's when you really get to know your true self. Suffering is awesome. You know, you get knocked down and split in half. You walk out in the world. If you choose, you have a choice. You can contract and become bitter and never open up again, like most people. Or you can actually use the tragedy or suffering or whatever you've gone through to allow it to purify you. Tragedy and pain is life's greatest purifier. Holding the line. Maintaining the standard. Giving no slack. None. That's the discipline. What's gone? Gone is that which calls you to make the appropriate sacrifices and calls you on it when you don't. And try to escape that and see what happens. We know perfectly well, perfectly well, that that's a pathway to hell. And you might say, I don't believe in hell. And I would say, that means you don't know anything. Do you abide by that or not? Well, you do if you're wise and you do if you care about the people around you. You gotta be willing to do the work. You can speak about it all day. The easiest thing in the world to do is to complain, blame, and quit and settle. That's the easiest thing in the world to do. But it takes real work to deconstruct and to reconstruct the thought process in the mindset of an individual when they're trying to change something. That's why I always say to people, what's more important? What we acquire or who we become? Right? What's more important? What we acquire or who we become? Materialistic? Superficial? It's cool. But the people that we become? The thoughts we think? The words we speak? That's something that's going to travel with us forever. Are you a leader? Are you ready to become one? Are you willing to step up to the plate and become that person that everyone can follow into battle and trust that you won't run, you won't turn your back, you won't hide when the rocks get thrown, but you will step in front of everyone else to protect them because you don't sit on the throne. Let the process do what the process does. The process is there for a reason. The process is there to strengthen you and build you. The process teaches you things along the journey that no skipping steps could have taught you. That no faking it till you make it could have taught you. That no overnight success could have taught you. The journey isn't always beautiful, but the journey is always purposeful. So start telling yourself this is a part of the process. We are absolutely divine magnificent expressions of life. All of us, with each face is another unique expression of God. And we're not supposed to be alike. Since time began on this planet there have not been two snowflakes alike. We've certainly not been two people alike. And we're always trying to be like everybody else so we're acceptable. Our uniqueness is what makes us wonderful. Got to chase that dream before you die. You should go and live your dream. Just go see. God puts your real life in your imagination. That's where your real life ain't in your present circumstance. Your real life is not in your current situation. Your real life is not in your pain check. Your real life he tucks it away in your imagination. Ladies and gentlemen it takes courage to live your dreams. It takes courage to manifest your greatness. It takes courage to decide to live. To decide to bring out all of your talents and abilities. To decide to stretch out. To decide to take a chance. It takes courage to be happy. Just to be you. Every single day in every aspect of our lives and the things we're privileged to do and the people we're connected to. When the situation or the moment does not go our way. Because we all know what to do when it goes right. But when God says no. Who will you be? But most importantly who's watching you and who can be blessed by the opposition adversity and the challenge that you're facing. Einstein said imagination is everything. It's a preview to life's coming attractions. Everything you imagine is a preview to a coming attraction. Once Once I see it. Once I feel it. Once I see where I was broken. Then I can attack that weakness. I can fill in that gap. I can reinforce that breach. If you break it means it's time to fortify your will to make it stronger. You've got genius in you. You've got goodness in you. You've got creativeness in you. If you decide to take the initiative to change the current quality of your life. I say to you that you will find that the universe is on your side. You're not great because you're poor. You're not great because you're rich. Your greatness is not based upon your income. It's not based upon inheritance. Greatness is not talent. Now this is very important. So listen. Greatness is not talent. There are some people who are good at doing but they're not good at being. They're great at doing something but they're not great at being someone. Start pointing your finger. You lose power immediately. As soon as you start saying that somebody else is fucked. What you do is say I'm a child and I need somebody grown to handle this. Own it. Like what's yours? Now we're not talking about something somebody else wants you to own. What is yours that you're not owning? Life is on your side. Now will it be turbulent? Yes. Would it be easy? No. No. Will you have some opposition? Yes. Will I make a lot of mistakes? Yes. But the great thing about it if you love the process when opposition and adversity hits you will have a way of embracing it and using it not only for yourself but you will use it to make everybody that's connected to you stronger because your vision has to be larger than yourself. If everything that you do is just about you and for your personal gain something's gonna come up against you that's gonna be a lot tougher than you and if it's just about you the moment you hit it you're gonna quit and give up every time. Greatness is not cheap. Greatness will cost you something. Greatness will cost you something not somebody else. It'll cost you something. It's gonna cost you some time. It's gonna cost you some energy. It's gonna cost you some sacrifice. It's gonna cost you some resources. It's gonna cost you some hours of your life laying down, paying the price, going the extra mile, doing what other people are not willing to do. Greatness is not cheap. Greatness always costs more. That's why there's not many people who achieve greatness. They're not willing to pay the price. Maybe you're here because you need to hear this here. Maybe you're here because you need to dust off your dreams. Maybe you need to explore your imagination. Commitment is staying true to what you said you were going to do long after the move that you have set in and has left. You see people think commitment is saying yes, I'll do it on the days when it feels good. But I've been committed to everything that I ever started in my life and I never stopped and I never quit it. And so by being committed to everything that I started, I finished it. It built a certain type of spirit. It built a certain type of mentality. It built a certain type of individual. And so now I couldn't quit even if I wanted to. I couldn't lay in a bed even if I wanted to. I couldn't stop even if I wanted to. I had too much sweat equity in my life and everything that I was doing. Viktor Frankl calls it unavoidable suffering. You can't duck it. But most people spend their life not wanting to deal with the pain of rejection, the pain of defeat, the pain of being disappointed, the pain of losing, the pain of failure, the pain of being criticized, the pain of not being liked. The pain, the pain, the pain. That's called life. Life is full of pain. Bishop Jake said, I would hate to die and never do the thing I was born to do. Every time you break and in every way that you break, while it's a chance, it's definitely a chance for you to give up and for you to just to fall apart. There's opportunity to get stronger and get smarter and get faster and get tougher and get more stable and get more resilient and get better. Ask yourself the question, what would your life look like if you decided not to care what people thought of you? Your gifts all alone. They were given to you because you make a difference. You make a difference in the lives of others. Your gift until you unleash it, until you unpack it, until you discover the levels that it can go to, there are lives that will be lost because they needed what's inside of you. There are purposes that won't be fulfilled until you give away your gift. What's your gift? Those times when you get up early and you work hard, those times when you stay up late and you work hard, those times when you don't feel like working, you're too tired, you don't want to push yourself but you do it anyway. That is actually the dream. That's the dream. It's not the destination, it's the journey. And you've got to go ahead and stop putting brakes on yourself. You've got to remember that you're significant. You've got to remember that somehow the day wasn't promised but you got it. That means that there is more promise still in you and we've got to pull that out. And how do you pull it out? That means you go ahead and you ignite your will with intentionality and action. You put together discipline and purpose and develop habits. Those habits are hard to maintain because it's easy to procrastinate but not once you realize that you've wasted years already, you've wasted weekends already, do something now. Your hardships, your challenges, your situation will either be the reason you don't make it or it will be the story you tell when you do make it and you get to make that choice. Always say to people people don't burn out, quit, underachieve, stop, don't accomplish because of what they do. People burn out, quit, underachieve, don't accomplish because life makes them forget why they do it. What you do now will echo in eternity. What you do now will echo in other generations because there is someone who made a way for you. Someone opened doors for you. The way you give them a thank you is by what you do for others. And when you need motivation yourself, don't look for someone to scream and yell. Don't look for someone else to give you motivation. Look at yourself. Look at yourself and remind yourself why. Why you are doing what you are doing. Remind yourself that this struggle, this temporary pain, this fight, this fight that you're in, this is what will make you stronger and faster and smarter and better. And there, with that motivation, go forward. Every time I've lost, people say, you gotta jump right back up. I disagree with that. After you lose, or when you get knocked out, stay down there for a minute. Understand why you lost. What were the reasons? Why are you down here? Why did you lose? So every time I lost, I stayed down for a second. Minutes, hours, days. But when I stood up, I was different. I was smarter. Now you start putting the pieces that are necessary to win over and over and over again. When you look back over your life, you'll see that there are many people who've sacrificed and given so that you could be great. You owe it to yourself and you owe it to them to be great, fulfill your purpose, chase down your dreams. I promise you, my friend, I promise you that when you release your potential and you unpack those gifts that are just for you, you will do things that you never thought possible. But it begins with a determined mind today. Into the fray, into the storm, into the heat of the battle where victory is forged. And that's necessary because it's often the case that you wake up at four in the morning or at least sometimes the case that you wake up at four in the morning when things haven't been going that well and wonder just what the hell the point is of your futile and miserable life. You have to have something real to set against that. It can't be just rationalizations about how, you know, you're a valuable person among others even though that's true. That's not good enough. Observing courage in yourself is definitely one of the things that can help you sleep soundly at night when things are destabilized a little bit around you. So some of you are going to experience a breakthrough. Some of you are going to go back and look at your dreams and brush them off. Some of you are going to begin to look at yourself and say, hey, look here, I know I have not done all that I can do. Whatever goal that you have in mind, I want that to be a goal that will challenge you, something that will make you stretch. It was Osborne who said, unless you attempt to do something beyond that which you've already mastered, you will never grow. What is it that you looked at at some point in time and you decided that you couldn't do it? That you talked yourself out of it. Whatever it is, bring it back out there. How are you going to do it? That will come to you in due time. So you don't get in life what you want, ladies and gentlemen. You get in life what you are. It depends on you. You may have to forgive yourself for some mistakes that you've made. You may have to forgive some other people so that you can unlock your potential to trust and love and give and not hold back. You don't need these walls. You need to scale them. You need to unblock yourself. Unleash yourself. Discover what's in you and unlock your potential. Life and society made this big world with all these endless possibilities. Endless possibilities. My life made my possibilities this big because it made me afraid of all these different things. So all this stuff trapped my mind. It shackled my brain. It made me a prisoner within my own self saying this is all I can do. Because why? I'm afraid of this. I'm insecure over here. I got self-doubt over here. That behind me. Who knows what's behind me? I'm not going to look behind me. So your life is this big versus it being like I can do all this out here if I start to break down these different walls and barriers because I was afraid. But you overcome those fears, guess what happens? The whole world, you unlock this door and everything opens back up again. As long as we are on this planet, you're going through two things. You're going through recovery and discovery. Recovery of our past. Recovery of what we're dealing with right now. And then discovery. Identity is a key because if we don't know who we are we're going to be chasing our identity for our whole life. And so I believe that when you find out where you came from, who you are and what your purpose is, you cannot be stoned. And it's this whole idea of you've been born an original, don't die copy. But my challenge was is that what my true identity was was not true. For the next few minutes I'm going to talk about you. I want you to just think about you for a moment. I want you to think about your life. I want you to think about how you're living versus how you'd really like to live. When you set goals, when you have an intention on something that you want to change about your life, your brain helps you. What it does is it opens up a checklist and then your brain goes to work trying to remind you. And I say that word purposefully. The skill of knowing how to hear that inner wisdom and that intention kicking in and leaning into it quickly. I could not undo these things. Isn't that why it's so difficult for you to make changes in your life? Because you think that things can't be undone? The fact is, any excuse that you come up with, you can undo. Tuition can be reimbursed. Apartments can be leased. Plan B can be invented. So I got up, I repacked that U-Haul and I drove out of town. I let myself make a U-turn in life. Go out and aim at something. It's like otherwise your life is meaningless. Well, what should you aim at? Well, I don't know. Well, pick something. Pick something. Aim at it. As you move toward it, you'll get wiser. Then maybe your aim won't change. That's okay. But at least it'll change in an informed way. It's like discipline yourself in one dimension. See what happens. That's exciting. And I think that's something that's open for everyone. You can do that. I shouldn't say that because I don't believe that. I think you can find yourself in a situation that's so dire that there's no escape from it. But that doesn't matter because there's still... The hero myth might not be... The best we have might not always work. But it's still the best we have. And the fact that it might not work doesn't mean we should throw it away. It's still the best we have. I mean, everyone dies and so we fail in some sense. The fact that a symphony ends doesn't mean that it wasn't worth listening to. If you ever find your gut battling your head, save yourself the drama. I guarantee you your gut is right. Guarantee you your excuses can be undone. And I guarantee you you can make a U-turn in your life right now if you want to. Desire is there. Again, it's about how do you go from knowledge to action. So the first thing in this story that's important is realizing that the answer was in me. And my mind was telling me, pay attention. Because remember, your brain is wired to stop you from doing things that are uncomfortable or uncertain or scary. It's your job to learn how to move from those ideas that could change everything into acting up. Everyone visualizes whether he realizes it or not. Visualization is one of the great secrets of success. That's where we build a picture in our mind. When Van Gogh was asked, how do you do such beautiful work? He said, I dream my painting and then I paint my dream. Well that's the way it works. Solomon said, where there is no vision the people will perish. Now that doesn't mean they're going to die. It means their results are going to get weaker and weaker and weaker and they're just not going to be making it happen the way they want to. Everyone visualizes whether he realizes it or not. Visualization is a great secret of success and it intensifies your wisdom and enables you to make use of advantages you formerly failed to recognize. I think, you know, everything starts with a thought. I mean, everything that you do in your life you have to have a thought before you initiate an action, right? So, if you believe that your thoughts have something to do with your destiny like any great leader in history understands that. The first thing you have to do is you have to decide, are you going to be defined by a vision of the future or are you going to live by the memories of the past? It's harsh that the rewards of life are indiscriminately distributed but it doesn't help. It doesn't help to become bitter. Most people wake up in the morning and your brain is a record of the past. It's an artifact of everything you've learned and experienced to this moment, right? It's a memory bank. So, most people wake up in the morning and they start thinking about their problems and those problems are connected to certain people and things at certain times and places. And the moment they start turning on those circuits, those memories are actually causing them to think in the past. Every single one of those memories has an emotion associated with them and emotions are the end product of past experiences. So then, the moment they recall the event or they recall some problem in their life, they start feeling unhappy, they start feeling discouraged, they start feeling anxious. Now, thoughts are the language of the brain and feelings are the language of the body and how you think and how you feel creates your state of being. So, we could say that most people's entire state of being when they start their day is in the familiar past. Well, if you live in the familiar past, then it makes sense you're going to create the predictable future. There isn't a better way to live your life. There's no right way and wrong way. There is only the way that gives you more energy. There is only the way that gives you fulfillment. When you have those things, when you're fulfilled by what you're doing and it's giving you the heart you pursue and it's giving you more energy, you're on the right path as the Greeks would say which means you're on a good road and that's what I want people to understand but I don't think that it is a universal path and so the only universal path is to do the things that give you fulfillment and energy. So, if spending time with your friends gives you that, then you should be spending more time with your friends. If dating gives you that, then you should be dating. So, you don't need to want to be the best in the world at something. You don't need to want to make a lot of money. You don't need to want to be an entrepreneur like all, they're literally just stand-ins, they're proxies for fulfillment and energy creation. That's it. So, those are the punchlines of what's the meaning of life and all of that stuff. It is to do something that makes you feel a deep sense of well-being which I'll call fulfillment and something that gives you energy where you're literally excited to attack the day. I start with identities because I think that's the root of all our challenges. It's starting at the root, not starting at the symptoms or the superficial or the surface level, but let's go to the root. If you're playing a role, if you're wearing a mask, if you're dressed in clothes that are not yours, then you end up living a life that's not yours because guess what? When you fake being someone for so long, you think it's your reality and that's what happens to all of us. We play a role at work, we play a role at home, we play a role with our family, we play a role with our friends and we think that role is us and we lose ourselves and to me that is the core reason why we're chasing things that are not important to us. A lot of you that are running from things instead of running to things and that's a huge difference. Running from something versus running to something and so I want you to think about that for a minute because you don't have to move across country to change your life and you don't have to do something drastic to experience drastic positive change and here's the thing about running away from your problems, running away from your past. Have you ever noticed that when you run away it tends to follow you? All we have, which everybody talks about is this moment, this precious second right now so the more I can be here right now the more I'm living the life that I want to live. Too much about the future, too much about the past, I can use those as something to hope for in the future, as a guiding post from the past but right now is the moment that every one of us has. I never really aspired to happy because happy is usually determined by external factors. I go for the joy because when you have joy at home, when you have joy inside, it don't matter much what's going on out here. You understand? You got your joy and you can come home to your joy no matter what is going on in the world. Far too many of us have our happiness, our peace, our joy, our value, our worth hooked into some external stimulation and then we wonder why we're stressed out and overweight and can't sleep. You have those scars in your brain from life but what we don't do is we try to hide those scars. We don't want to go back and revisit it. So I started realizing that my life was causing a whole bunch of scarring on my brain and I had to go back and really break open that scar and let it bleed and that was a very painful journey for me to go back. Who are you letting ruin your dreams? What scorecard are you judging yourself by? Screw that. This is your time. This is your opportunity. This new world that we live in with access like you listening to me right now. Access to so much knowledge. We have access to information. This is your time. There's no better time. There's no different time. This is your time. The only way it'll happen is if you change the story in your head. If you say change the scorecard, change your desires, find your passion. When people tell you stop dreaming, tell them I'm sorry you gave up on yours. I'm not quite there yet. That's the response you need to share. Every day I'm winning. Every day I'm winning the other voice in my head. So I'm very at peace with myself. The things I do for fun are like me bettering myself but I also love accomplishing and overcoming myself every day because every day is a battle. Every day is a battle because your mind wants to choose the path of least resistance every day but you don't become better by ever doing that. You become normal and I don't want to be normal. So it may not be a life for everybody but I find a lot of peace in not being normal in my life. Dreams without goals are just dreams and they ultimately fuel disappointment. Goals on the road to achievement cannot be achieved without discipline and consistency. As Shakespeare noted, there is nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so. There's nothing good or bad, right? There's just stimulus and then there's response but people think that it is objectively a certain way. So now because they think it is objectively a certain way, they feel they are supposed to react based on those emotions that are getting kicked up in their mind. If you want to always be moving towards your goal, you want to be optimized you've got to learn to get control of your emotions you've got to learn to understand to tell yourself a narrative that isn't predicated on necessarily identifying what is objectively true because I don't think that we experience the world that way. It's identifying what's going to work to get me to my goal. Your joy, your sadness, your happiness your misery is determined by something or somebody around you. The chances of you being joyful in your life is remote. Is it true that human experience, joy or misery, agony or ecstasy madness or sanity everything is created from inside? At least if you're a manager if you're going to be a manager, at least what is happening from within you must happen your way. Because essentially management means having situations the way we want it. Yes. Management means what? Having situations the way we want it. Well, if the world is not happening your way, at least this one must be happening your way, otherwise what kind of management is this? I want to convince you that the human brain is a naturally creative instrument. It is designed for making connections between ideas for envisioning DEF and beyond. It wants to go in that direction. Creativity is not a function of some freakish genetic wiring that occurs in the brains of a few people. It is instead the function of awakening and exploiting the natural creative energy we all possess. Well, highly creative people have both. They have the knowledge and the experience plus the mental fluidity which gives them the ability to see more possibilities in the world around them and to maximize to realize to its fullest the natural connecting power of the human brain. You know, it is really identifying who someone is at their core and starting from that place it can be really confusing. I think it is always a discovery process, but I think we have to define moments in our life, you know, that is kind of a helpful framework is to figure out what are the times in our life when we felt completely connected and in the moment. When did we feel like we were rooted in what I would call a spiritual experience that wasn't outcome based that wasn't based upon making a bunch of money, but was based about being in this beautiful moment and going, gosh I am exactly where I need to be and this is who I am. So I find it is helpful for people to first figure out what are those moments and that starts to create a framework for someone realizing okay, those moments I can kind of describe who I am. Is it terribly obvious to me what you are working on what skills you are trying to develop what projects you are trying to complete to stretch yourself, to grow yourself or is every day another reaction day? Because listen if every day is another reaction day, you are in a fixed mindset write it down if every day is another reaction day, you are in a fixed mindset. You stopped believing in big projects that would require you to schedule stuff out you stopped thinking what skills must I master to grow because you are just trying to handle all the problems. Remember you are stuck in one signal of problems challenges are what really grow us your life is a great story every person's life is a story the question is, some people's story is a warning some people's story is an example right now you are an example that is growing and expanding and you have a chance to have this be the most incredible life but it won't be a life without challenge and the challenges we are facing right now give you an opportunity to grow like very few generations if you watch a great movie, if you read a great book the size and the power of the hero, how much you become as a hero is defined by how tough an obstacle you face, how difficult is the villain, the opponent sometimes when I've been to the toughest times in my life, one of the questions I've had to ask myself or note to myself is, ah, I finally have a really worthy opponent, this is scaring the hell out of me, this is challenging this is making me crazy but I also know in my gut and in my soul that if I can push through, it's just like you've done in these years, you've pushed through tough times, I'm sure of many of them but as you push through those, you become more, as you become more, something magical happens, you don't just grow you expand in your spirit, in your soul, in your capacity, in your skill, and all of a sudden fear becomes less and less a part of you. If you're going to be uncomfortable your reward has to be big. So if you're going to be making a change ask yourself, why is what I want to achieve so important to me why am I willing to to, you know, use my new willpower persistence and why am I willing to go through the discomfort of change, why am I willing to you know, listen to the negative talk that I have or the emotion that I have and still do it anyway and if you don't have a big enough reason, the first time you have a chance for an excuse, you'll take it or they say, you know what, I'm not happy in my relationship and you know, two weeks later they're back with the same person or they find another person just like the one that they left or people are afraid to leave their jobs because they don't like the discomfort of change. Well, the only certain thing in the universe, the only constant is change, everything that's the only constant in the universe it's oxymoron, it's like how can change be the only constant the only stable thing, because everything is changing, so why not acquire the skill to be comfortable in change, the meaning that I give, remember I said you have to reframe things, the meaning I give things now is when I'm uncomfortable I'm changing and I'm growing and then so we go through these waves of comfort and change, comfort and change and that's just like the waves of life moment of willingness and the moment of trusting the universe like people talk about rock bottom, I mean that's just a moment, you know, like you could always go lower, to me a rock bottom is a moment of being spiritually deflated, defeated essentially hating your life and I can always go a bit lower, but there's always a window, I feel like the universe from my experience creates a window if you do want to change, if you do want help, a window is created now it may not be the window you want and it may not be this fabulous great site you want to open up, but there'll be a window because all of a sudden your mindset is believing there's a window and it believes that you can change and I just think there's always that opening courage comes from, courage means to take heart, it's the awareness that life is on your side that love always wins, that peace always wins, that joy always wins because the higher frequencies are way more powerful than hate and disinterest and resentment and animosity and a pseudo control a false authority love always wins in the universal scheme of things so with that we take heart we have a level of courage and we have to have the courage to opt out of the old paradigm, you have to ask yourself on a regular basis what am I doing as I'm opting out of the old what am I doing?