The Truth About Dating In Thailand

So if you clicked on this video, there's a high chance that you're single and Bangkok has one of the highest number of single people, like 50% of the city is single according to this article that I saw. From my perspective, coming from a small town in the US with a population of 5,000 to 6,000 people, I think there's a higher chance of finding a partner in a big city compared to a suburb because you increase the exposure to the amount of people that you meet, so there's a higher chance of you meeting someone that matches you. And nowadays there's a lot of digital nomads, people come and go especially in a big city, but if you use a bit of strategy, you can actually find a partner. Lately I've been trying to give my friends dating advice even though I'm not an expert, but I want to share with them because I used to be quite single, but after moving to Thailand four months later, I met my current boyfriend. We've been together for almost two years. Before I met him, I was basically super single and low-key lonely during that four months before I met him. Meeting him made my Thailand experience better and it makes me feel more like home because he's here. Yeah and it's a healthy relationship. I don't plan on showing him on camera because I want to keep him private and I feel like he doesn't need the judgment online. Basically I'm not trying to hide it, but online it's like a lot of weird people. Okay back to this video, it's like some dating tips from someone who was once super single, but I used a bit of strategy. It's actually harder for a girl to get a boyfriend in Thailand, especially if you're a foreigner. I guess I'm a little different because I am Asian, however it's super easy for a guy to find a Thai girlfriend in Thailand because there's so many decent single girls and even now like there's so many girls that are single and it's so hard for them to find a Thai boyfriend. So that's why I think a lot of them find foreigners. Asian Americans actually have a hard time dating in the U.S. which I don't really have experience with because when I was in the U.S. I have zero dating experience. Most of my experience came from after I left in 2023 and I started like traveling and then meeting more people. The thing about dating in U.S., especially if you're not living in a big city, is that things are really spread out. So maybe you meet someone and they're like an hour or two hour drive away which is a waste of time and money. That's why I recommend if you're single it's better to move to a city so that you get the exposure to people and then dating is also easier because you're probably like 10-15 minute train ride away. So it's lower cost, more efficient but at the same time it might be competitive because one person will be seeing multiple people. So you got to know your objective or what you're looking for either casual or serious and if you are serious maybe you accidentally attract someone that is casual so that's why you gotta filter people. But I can tell you one thing this is kind of universal. A lot of girls don't really care about appearance of a guy. I mean they care to an extent like okay the basic okay you trim your nails, make sure your hair is washed and some girls actually don't prefer guys with long hair but maybe some do. Make sure your face is clean and clear if possible but if not like I think um the thing with acne which I used to have during a certain phase of my life when I was quite sad or like my mental health was not that good and that is when I broke out. It cannot be fixed overnight but it can be improved over time so that's why I never comment on people's acne. Some people they'd be like bro you can't fix that overnight it heals over time. There's some actually in Thailand there's like some sort of injection that can dissolve your pimple on spot which I have not tried. Back to what I was saying most girls they just want a guy that take care of themselves hygienically. Maybe some girls prefer a guy that looks good but a lot of times we just want someone with good personality and that'll make that person appeal or appear more attractive. However I noticed that a lot of guys actually want a good-looking girl. I guess it's a personal preference thing but when a guy just wants a pretty girl it tells me that they're not mature because I feel like a mature guy would look beyond the appearance. All of these are generalizations but these come from some sort of truth. I noticed that a lot of people lately are getting back onto bumble in Thailand. Here CMB coffee meat bagel is more popular among Thais but if you use bumble it's actually easier to find international people. And the platform itself I prefer bumble and that is also how I met my boyfriend about two years ago. So there's a filter on bumble it's free you can filter the language and the height. I think height now it's not part of it anymore it's age and language. So the thing with language I recommend filtering like let's say you're trying to find Thai boyfriend you filter it with English and Thai because not a lot of Thai guys know English. A lot of Thai girls know English and Mandarin so it's really not hard like as long as you're a decent looking guy take care of yourself. Super easy for Asian Americans especially to find girlfriends. So if you're feeling single AF and you don't know where to find girlfriend this is the place but also be careful because I also heard some stories from guys like bad experiences with girls. Good thing about bumble is that the girls talk first so as a girl you're more in control. A lot of times you can tell what someone is like based on the way they text. I kind of believe in online dating I mean like meeting people online because a lot of times I like for me I always knew that I would meet my boyfriend online before I even met my current boyfriend because I am introvert and I don't really go out basically so the only way for me to meet someone is online. I wouldn't recommend you purposely joining clubs just to meet people because maybe you don't even like that club that you're at but you're just there to meet people so then you maybe end up people that you don't vibe with. For my case I feel like the chance of me meeting my ideal type in real life is really low so it's more it's higher chance that I would meet that person online and I did. We're kind of in the area of digital nomads and people come and go especially in a big city that's why it's always good to have a home base so that you can tell people oh I am base here or at least you have somewhere to go back to. When I have that traveling phase in my life and I tell people that I'm just traveling one way one way one way it comes off really unstable so then the people that you attract will be also be unstable that's why you attract what you are oh I always recommend my friends to make a list of qualities physically what they want and the qualities that they look for at least you know what you're looking for and you're not just getting whatever person that comes into your way like you have standards basically but some people's but you got to evaluate yourself if you match what you look for actually one criteria on my list back then is like don't have anger issue because I don't have anger issue why would I want something that has anger issue I don't want to take care of nobody so that's why you got to become the person that you write on the list in order to attract that person that you want my life motto in terms of dating is like if you don't like me when I'm crusty don't like me when I'm glowed up okay this is the ironic part because everyone wants someone who is the best version of themselves at the same time I want someone who is part of the growth and not when I'm already growed even with my boyfriend he met me when I was low-key crusty and at the time I had 3,000 followers on IG which numbers don't mean anything but at that time basically I was kind of not where I want to be but I want someone who is there to grow with you so everything that I'm saying in this video you don't have to implement but if you think oh it kind of makes sense then you can think about it but I just want to share my perspective and opinion if you're a guy and you want to date a girl here I'm not sure how you would do it oh but one thing I would say though is that Thailand or Bangkok specifically Bangkok is a place that makes you glow as a person it might be a little bit of pressure but it's also a good thing because it makes you want to look good and then when you look good you become more confident in yourself and then you attract better people I mean like maybe you attract the person that you want to attract my final tip or advice as cheesy as it sounds just be yourself because there's all these rules in dating oh like you should wait five dates before you hold hands or do this do that but I don't really believe in these rules like it shouldn't make you think super hard it should be really easy and natural like oh everything kind of works and flow and that is when you know that that might be the person that you're looking for I didn't use any like rules I just was myself and that's why I guess it worked with my boyfriend luckily it worked I'm quite independent and then a lot of guys actually want a girl that they can take care of if you're more independent then there's a high chance that you'll find a guy that is more feminine or a guy that is really confident in themselves to be able to accept an independent woman yeah I feel like the girl should also be financially independent but anyway that is it for my mini chat I think a lot of people are interested into relationship stuff it's a really universal topic I hope you got a bit of information or insight into love oh and I will see you in another video