The Secret to Manifesting Most People Miss 💫

Manifesting does not have to be complicated. Here is the core, simple truth that you need to understand in order to manifest the life that you want. Hello, my loves. Welcome back to Lavendaire. I'm Aileen. If you're new here, we talk about personal growth and life design. Today, I'm so excited to share the simple truth to manifesting. One of my favorite hobbies is listening to manifestation audiobooks. And I love the classics. I love Esther and Jerry Hicks, aka Abraham Hicks. And I was listening to one of their audiobooks the other day, and I was reminded of this simple truth of how to properly manifest our lives. Whereas everything else is just like the surface level techniques and strategies and ways to get there. But this is the core truth of how to be a master magnetic manifester. You ready for it? Feeling good, period. Feeling good about yourself, feeling good about your life, feeling good in your body. Like you have to truly feel good as much as possible. That is the secret to being a master manifester. The more you can align yourself into that feeling of feeling good, the more easily you can manifest anything you want in life. Because that feeling good is the high vibration of, I already am, I already have, I already love, I already enjoy. It's like you're in that feeling where things are good. And when you feel good, you manifest a life that feels good. So it's one of those, the more you feel it, the more you attract it in your life. Because law of attraction states that like attracts like. The higher, brighter, better feeling you are, the higher, lighter, brighter feeling your life is going to be as a whole. So that's the secret feeling good. Now I want to break it down a little bit more so that it becomes a little more actionable. So you understand that is the core foundation of what your goal is. You want to get to a place where you feel good. That means you want to make decisions for yourself in your everyday life that feel good. For example, if somebody asks you to go out and you're kind of like, Oh, I don't know if I really want to go out. I'm not sure. Like you should make the decision based on what makes you feel good, not based on what I think people would want me to go, or I don't want to make this person mad. I don't want to. So think about all the times you kind of doubt your own internal feeling because you're putting someone else's desires above your own. You're putting someone else's emotions above your own. So consider that. Always come back to making choices for your life that feel good for you. If you are overworked and feeling stressed and burnt out about work, but you have this inner need to like keep grinding and you just don't feel good about resting. Ask yourself, what would truly feel good for me? How can I do something that makes me feel good? Maybe it's just taking a break, taking a nap, going out, taking yourself to a cafe. Maybe it's playing a video game. Maybe it's doing something that you've never done before. So whatever it is that will make you feel good or feel better in that moment, that is the right decision for you. Your body always knows what is the best decision that makes you feel good. So I just talked about your choices and your decisions and your actions in life. The next one I want to talk about is your thoughts. So we want to get to a place where we choose better feeling thoughts for ourselves. Better feeling thoughts that better serve ourselves and are feeling good. How simple is that? I know it sounds simple. It can be hard to do depending on where you are in your growth journey, but this is all about becoming aware of your self-talk, becoming aware of your self-criticism, your self-doubt, that negative voice in your head. This is the practice of being kinder to yourself, of being more supportive and loving to yourself in your head. You want to get to a point where everything that you're telling yourself in your mind is supportive. It's not making you feel even worse. Whenever you have a thought that makes you feel even worse, start noting it down. What was the thought? How did it make me feel? Why did I even choose to believe this thought? And once you become aware of those negative thoughts, you can then choose better feeling thoughts. Like, instead of feeling this way about myself, why can't I try feeling this way? Why can't I choose this other thought that feels better? So the more you do that, the more you practice this in your mind – it's a practice – the better you get at choosing better feeling thoughts. For example, a lot of us have social anxiety. We might feel a little awkward when we're in public. So when you go out to an event where there's a lot of people you don't know, you might have these thoughts creep up, like, Oh, I feel so awkward. Oh, I don't want to be here. Or, Oh, this person might think I'm weird. I can't believe I just said that. And you just might be very self-conscious and in your mind. Well, those thoughts aren't exactly making you feel better. So why don't you instead try putting on some better feeling thoughts? For example, you go out to this event. You don't know anyone, but you're open to meet new friends. You're like, I feel so good about myself today. I love the outfit that I picked out for myself today. I feel like I have some exciting stories to share. Or I feel like I'm a very interesting person that these people would be interested in getting to know me. And I am interested in getting to know them. Whatever positive feeling thought you can think that makes you feel better, that is what you want to try on. So it'll be different for everyone because we all kind of have different minds, different limiting beliefs and different perspectives on things. So just try experimenting, exploring with better feeling thoughts. Try to find a thought that makes you feel so good about yourself. I walk into the room, I am loved. Everybody loves me. I love myself and I am lovable. If that makes you feel good, wear that thought. Wear that thought throughout your day. It also doesn't have to be focused on you. It could be, I'm so interested and so excited to learn about somebody new. I'm so excited to learn about someone else's perspective. Oh my god, I'm excited to meet this person. What can I learn from them? That is a feeling good thought because you have excitement there. You're not even thinking about yourself. You're just ready to focus your attention and learn something about someone else. These are all examples of how you can choose better feeling thoughts. And this is something that you can practice every single day. Whenever you catch yourself thinking something that makes you feel negative, try a different thought. Just try it on. The next point I want to make is, the goal is to learn to feel good about all areas of your life. Honestly, the first step is simply awareness. And once you have awareness, awareness is the power. You know what needs to be done to make a change. And so that's what's so beautiful about this, is you have a very simple compass to living a better life. It's simply what feels good. And this is holistically feeling good. Your whole body feels good. Literally getting to a place where your mind, your heart, your spirit, your emotions, your energy are all aligned. Like you are all in this alignment and this energy of feeling good. Now I'm super excited to share this challenge that I prepared for us to do this June. And if you're watching this a little later, it's okay. You can do this challenge anytime. This is the challenge that will help us put this concept into practice. Every single day for 14 days, you are going to do something that helps you align to this feeling of feeling good in your life, in your body, in all areas of your life. Okay? So this is what's going to be part of the challenge. I'm creating a feel good manifestation affirmations audio, where it's basically an audio where it's like, I feel good, I feel good. I feel good about my family. I feel good about my health. I feel good about this and that and this and that. And it's something that you can just press play, listen to it while you're getting ready, while you're doing your evening routine, whatever, like while you're cooking, while you're walking. It should be so simple to integrate this into your life because it's just an audio. You don't have to do anything. You just have to listen to it. So when you listen to this audio, you're already putting yourself in that energy, that emotion of feeling good about yourself and your life. And not only that, which brings me to the second part of this challenge is you can then get some inspiration on what to work on. Basically the second part of this challenge is two journal prompts. The first journal prompt is what we just talked about, having the awareness of what parts of your life don't feel good yet. And then reflecting on what can I do? What can I change to make that area feel better? So as you listen to the affirmations, we're going to go through all the areas, all the angles of life. And there will be some statements that are easy for you to say, but some statements that are not exactly easy because they don't feel true yet. Like, I feel good about my health. And some of you might not feel the truth in that yet. So when you feel that resistance or that misalignment, that is your clue. Oh, this is an area that I don't truly feel good about yet. So why? What can I do about it? I'll let you reflect and figure out your own plan on your own. The second journal prompt is scripting. So scripting is one of my favorite manifestation techniques. It's basically writing in the present tense of you having everything you desire. So this scripting prompt is about script as if you feel good about everything in your life. And I want you to script for as long as you want, write as much as you want. So I set a timer in the app for five minutes. So five minutes of scripting and you just go at it. So the challenge is run in my app Resonance. It's free to join. The link is down below. Just enter your email. We'll send you all the details on how to start your free trial and get signed up, download the app. And then when you're in the app, the challenge has these three actions, the affirmations audio, the two journal prompts, but you don't have to do everything every single day. Basically you choose the action you want to do each day. So today you might listen to affirmations. Tomorrow you might do some scripting. The third day you might do some reflective journaling and planning for how you can make changes. So I leave it up to you, or you can do all three in one day. It doesn't really matter. All you need to do is at least one day. So the challenge is 14 days total. And if you do every day, like if you keep a streak, you get more rewards. But if you don't keep a streak and you skip a day, it's actually okay. I'm making this challenge very fluid and soft. Like you don't have to do all 14 days. All you have to do is at least nine days in order to officially complete the challenge. So that's like leaving some open room for flexibility because I know we all have busy lives, but it is really fun. What I love about Resonance is it gives you a space, a sanctuary for your inner work. It helps you stay consistent. It has all the content in there. Plus it has this gamification that's really fun and motivating. And what I love about this is I've spent over a decade teaching about personal growth, manifestation, lifestyle, design. We get so much information online. I don't think we lack the information or the knowledge anymore. Literally, you probably have saved so many reels from Instagram or so many videos where you're like, Oh, that's a great idea. Oh, I would love to try that one day. But you actually never end up doing it. So the point of Resonance is not to give you anything new, but it gives you a container to stay consistent with your practice. You can do meditating. You can do journaling. You can do focusing. There's so much that you can do. The goal is just a space for your inner practice, your inner work. And once you're in the free trial doing the challenge, you also have access to everything else in Resonance. We have so much content, audios, music, journal prompts, and more. So I hope you have fun exploring. I'm super excited about this because it's our first time doing a Lavendaire-wide challenge with Resonance. I used to do challenges back in the day, but it's honestly been a while. I think the last challenge I did might have been the 30-day meditation. That might've been two years ago. We did a 30-day meditation challenge. So yeah, it's been a while, but we used to do a lot of challenges and I find it really fun. And also with this challenge, if you don't want to do it in the app, that's okay. I totally get it. I will be posting the affirmations audio next week on this channel. So you would just have to wait a week in order to start the challenge and you can just do it yourself by listening to the YouTube video. But if you want to try my app and explore what's inside, the free trial is 14 days and you have all the audios in there, all the journal prompts, and it's ready for you. Also, a challenge is nothing without our community. So the couple places we'll be sharing the challenge is our Discord. So we have a Resonance Discord. There's a challenges channel. And that's where you can talk and connect with other people who are also doing the challenge. And if you are sharing anything on social media, you can tag us at resonance.app and use the hashtag ResonanceChallenge. So we'll be checking the posts there, reposting. I'm excited. It'll be so much fun. All right, my loves, the link to join the challenge is below. Sign up with your email and then we'll email you with all the details. And then I will see you in Discord. I'm in the Discord. I'll be reading everything so you can chat with me there and we'll share how we are going along the challenge. I'm so excited because this is the longest challenge we've done in Resonance. Usually we do like seven days and less. So this is a 14 day challenge. We actually created a new design just for this challenge. Regardless, I hope you take this lesson with you that the secret to manifesting is simply choosing to feel good, choosing to feel good about yourself, about your life and about your future. All right, sending you so much love. I will see you in the next one. Next week's video is the affirmations audio. Bye!