32 - and now what? Children, pressure, work - 🇩🇪 Learn German Fast Podcast

Hello and welcome to a new YouTube podcast. We haven't spoken in a long time. Yes, we never talk between the podcasts. Exactly. All of our conversations take place only in front of the camera. Yes. Okay, doc. My name is Natalia, I am your German teacher. This is my husband, Tobias. Hi. Thank you for being here again today. Please. This podcast will be published on June 14. What is on June 14? A summer day. A birthday. It's a birthday, exactly. I will be 32 on June 14th as well. And that is what I wanted to talk about today. When do you consider a person old? 70 Oh, okay. Be careful, in how many years? In 45 years? Yes. You're saying that? No, in 45 years. In 35. Are you 80 years old? Wow. In 35 years you'll say I'm 70, but I'm not old yet. Yes, exactly. Then it's 100 years old. And when I'm 100, I don't know, 120 years old. We'll continue with the topic shortly. I would like to ask you to like this video. Give me a thumbs up. Give us. And subscribe to my YouTube channel. Moreover, you can completely get our 5-day speaking training for free. If you feel like you're not able to speak up, that speaking is difficult for you, Then just click the link below this video and get our 5-day speaking training completely free of charge. And now let's continue our conversation about growing old. Have you ever had a first experience where you thought, Am I old, or am I getting older? And if so, what was it? They can also be small things, where you thought Phew, okay, I'm getting older. When playing with nieces and nephews, because they're getting older. That means we will also get older. We spent three weeks in Australia in April. and visited our family there. There are three major vlogs, three major videos from Australia. We will of course link them to you here. Also after this podcast, you're welcome to join us as well Let's take a look at our trip to Australia. Yes, it was very nice. And I have one more thing, as I realized, that people born after 2000 And they are already of legal age. Yes, exactly. That's correct. But things like gray hair or back pain? No. Okay. I have gray hair, but... You've had it for longer. Yes. Has nothing to do with getting old. That's the stress. And you? Interestingly, recently I was at yoga. And we were four participants and one trainer. Then the trainer told us she got married recently. And I say, ah, how beautiful. Then I asked the other participants, whether they are married. And all of them like that, no, no, no. And me, the only one and the trainer? That surprised me so much. Then I asked the trainer, how old are you? And she so, 31. Then I thought, oh my God, I'm almost older than the trainer. I am probably also a year older than her. And that was such a moment, a surprising moment for me, because I thought Oh no, I'm getting older as a teacher too. Otherwise, I feel relatively young. Relatively young, it's good. Relatively young. Regarding birthday. We're celebrating together with the entire community, folks. We have prepared a very large offer for you. This is the biggest offer of the year. You can now get up to 50 percent off for all my intensive courses. And the best part, the cherry on top, comes at the end. When booking two or three intensive courses, you will receive a or two crash courses completely free of charge as well. With the best offer, you'll receive three intensive courses and two crash courses, five courses in total. This offer doesn't come around here very often. I'll give you the link below the video in the info box and leave it in the attached comment. Be sure to check out this offer. It is limited. It will soon end. Have you ever felt as though you were out of step with the times? Yes, if the young people talk partly. To be out of date. That's a great expression. You're welcome to remember that. That's the feeling when you think the world keeps turning and you're not coming with anymore. I wouldn't define it that way. But not that you won't keep up anymore, but that you simply have different perspectives and ways of thinking. Or perhaps that you develop exactly in the opposite way. Exactly, like another generation that came later. Yes. And what's different about teenagers compared to you? They just sound weird. What do you mean, they sound weird? You want me to do that now, or what? Yes, goodbye. They're always talking, aren't they? Digga, did you see that recently? Doesn't the week go like this? Hey, what's going on with you? What's going on with you? Yeah, what's going on with you? Come on, mate. I would now like to talk about something serious for a bit. Well, perhaps, What am I actually afraid of when getting older? And perhaps you could answer that first, What do you think of when you hear the expression "getting older"? Is it the appearance? Is it perhaps the time or the finiteness, Does all this ever end? Or perhaps something else? I believe these are different things. Also, on the one hand, of course, the appearance. One changes with the years. I mean, I don't look anything like I did at 15 anymore. You look better. Yes, and thank you. But of course there is also a certain fear involved. because one knows that with some aging people, They get sick. They have some ailments one wouldn't really want to have. That means one or I then think about it, Okay, what can I do so that I hopefully don't have it? Or how would I deal with it? On the other hand, it's also nice to grow older. because somehow the more one learns how life works what life brings with it. One is wiser. Yes, yes. The older one gets. And when I was young, I always thought My parents don't understand how things work nowadays anyway. And today I sometimes think back to those moments, what my parents said to me back then, and then I think, okay, You were right all along. how life works. And likely it will be the same in the next generation. If we tell them anything, they'll think, You don't have the slightest idea about it anyway. And in the end, they will hopefully then also realize, that it might be true. Is there a moment when you feel the bite of time Have you noticed it in you for the first time? My knees. Okay, we'll get to that shortly. Can you briefly explain the look-out? Tooth of time? Time's tooth means that it gnaws away at you. That means one gets minor ailments, that time just keeps moving forward, piece by piece and one cannot simply stop her. Come on. So you notice, you're getting older. What about your knees? Ah, they're just broken. Tobias recently completed an Ironman. also a triathlon, the middle distance. And I also have a video for that. Be sure to check out our Ironman vlog. That was so, so cool. It was truly a wonderful experience for me as a spectator. For Tobias, it was also a wonderful experience. Running was very exhausting, because I had problems with my knee. But otherwise, it was a lot of fun. Swimming was top. Swimming and cycling were top. Yes, cycling could have been a bit faster. but it was good too. For me, it's like that. I will be 32 now, and I'm still four years younger than you. And yet, I have more problems with growing older than you do. And I believe, because I have the feeling, The pressure is increasing more and more every year. After all, there are two kinds of pressure. The societal pressure coming from outside but also the inner pressure I impose on myself. And there are countless things about which I constantly think. Also, in general, societal expectations, including those from families. My parents are getting older, and they also wish for grandchildren. And it is always loving. It is never in any way negative. But still, I can tell they'd really like grandchildren. And of course, I want her to enjoy it too. and be able to experience with grandchildren and not that they end up being extremely old and unable to do anything with them anymore. Moreover, it feels like 90 percent of my female friends have children. or talk about having children. Yes, perhaps, but 90 percent still don't have children. Alright, but it's just buzzing around in the air like that. Exactly. And then there's the pressure you put on yourself. Am I successful enough? Am I working hard enough? Do I have enough money for a child? Or am I already too old? Also maybe too old, perhaps not yet, but am I slowly getting too old for a child? Do I absolutely have to have children now? And these are things like then become increasingly intense with each passing year. I know, we've had exactly the same conversation had on my 30th birthday at the restaurant. Do you remember? I can also send you a link to the video. But by then I already had this feeling, Expectations are rising or the pressure is getting worse. And now, two years later, I feel it even more intensely. Can you say something about it? That's okay. We are having a discussion here. You wanted to get rid of the things. That was my monologue. I might also be able to make a podcast on my own. What can I say about that? I know it's like that, but you don't need to put pressure on yourself. Also, I don't think I'm putting any pressure on you. Rather, it is socially and inherently so. Is there also pressure on men as they grow older? Are you under pressure? I don't think that has anything to do with getting old in my case. I mean, on the one hand, men have an advantage. Yes, they can always have children. Yes, well, I wouldn't go that far right now. But at least simpler, exactly. But I mean, by working, I'm already working enough, and so on. Of course I do too. But I no longer know whether that has anything to do with aging itself. But with what else then? Generally with the attitude towards life. And I don't understand that. Can you run it? German or English? A little in German. Well, one can basically either be very relaxed by nature and say, honestly, I don't really care about work in life. Or one says, okay, I have certain goals I would like to achieve. And that might have something to do with getting older, because then one naturally ends up thinking about it at some point, Okay, I should already have been further along. as I am now at my age. But on the other hand, it doesn't help either to think about it like that. because on the one hand, you can also, Even if you haven't managed it by 30, you can still achieve it by 40. or even 50 or 60. There are plenty of examples that have not achieved it by 20. not what they wanted, but just older. In the end, you can't change what was in the past anyway. And that's why one simply has to make the decision on how to deal with it and then make the life choice accordingly. Do you know the word "Torschlusspanik"? Yes, can you explain that a bit? Yes, for example, when one feels that one will soon no longer be able to have children and now afraid that one must quickly have children. But it's not just that, right? It's generally the fear of missing out, isn't it? Yes, yes, already. That's why I was just about to give an example regarding relationships. When you haven't had relationships for a long time and then suddenly start to feel afraid, that one can no longer find a partner, then that one quickly gives in under pressure to want to find someone Or if you want a cooking pot and are feeling rushed, You're afraid that the door will close when loading. And you won't get this pot anymore. You are not old. Hm, I have... You are always as old as you feel. That's true. Or as old as your great-great-grandfather claims. Yes, or your Garmin. How old are you there? 29. Really? So alt. How old are you? 22 Your fitness age is even better than mine. Ah, ah, ah. Sorry. There you go, working on it. Yes. We are slowly approaching the second-to-last section in my script. Growing old together. Also, I would like to talk a bit more about the relationships. Of course, we each have our own ideas about it in some way. what we want to achieve by when. But we also have a lovely relationship. And does spending time together make getting older easier? Oh, I believe it already. First of all, because we don't have to endure this stress, I want to have a relationship now. Or if people want to have children but do not have relationships, Eventually, time will slip away from you too. There are also possibilities there, but still, yes. And that is why I believe having a partner already is sufficient, It already helps with getting older. But I also believe that if one happens to be together with two people and everyone works on their own goals, but we still keep an eye on things together, Okay, how does that fit in there? That can indeed be a certain relief, because we are simply working together toward the goal and can support each other when things aren't going well. That's correct. Or not going in the direction one would like it to go. What do you envision when you think of us in 20 years? What gives you joy or fear about this? Twenty years old, how old will we be then? I'm in my mid-50s then. I am 52. They probably have one or two lovely, dear children. Still doing triathlons. They're probably on the golf course. Have a wonderful vacation and work hard. Are we still living in Frankfurt then? I don't know that yet. Yes, we also really enjoy spending time in Spain. Perhaps the worst months in Germany. Weather-wise, we are spending time in Spain. I don't really fear what will happen in 20 years. Yes, that's true, I don't either. Now I have a funny question. How can you tell that a relationship has aged together? instead of staying still? I have my answer. Also, that one has developed together. That one is no longer the same person as at the beginning of the relationship. That is your answer. My answer is. What a statement—that is your answer. We argue significantly less than we did at the beginning. But I don't know if that has anything to do with stopping. versus having to develop together. Of course. Some may argue less at first and more later. In our relationship, we also had countless strange misunderstandings. that simply no longer occur now. And I think that's precisely what's best about it. that we simply accept each other better, understand each other better. But honestly, it's not just about the relationship either, but also on how one has worked on oneself. Because we have both worked very hard on it, that we also no longer fail to express ourselves over every little misunderstanding, directly annoyed or pouting or whatever it may be. And "pouting" is also a good word. Since this is my birthday video, I wanted to ask you something. We've known each other for a few years already, specifically twelve. What has changed the most in you over the past twelve years? Everything. Yes, but I'm not completely a hundred percent a different person right now. But maybe there are a few things where you say. I have become calmer. Yes? Yes. At the beginning, you always had to take over everything everywhere. The leadership, everyone says what needs to be done, even with friends and so on. Planning. And now you've become a bit more relaxed. You have plenty of other things to do in your life. Maybe. Okay, yes, that was already my trait. I was very active and very committed. That is a very nice way of putting it. Yes, how would you not put it politely? Annoying? What's that called? So overtaking, so captivating. Yes, well, I wanted the whole thing. Check everything. Check everything, yes. Little control freak. Yes, I must also say that I still feel it inside me and have to continually hold it back a little. That will never go away either. Yes, because I know that all people are also self-employed and can make their own decisions as well. You don't always need my support. No, that's how it is. But I would most of all always like to help everyone, always tell everyone how everything works. Yes, and otherwise you're very pretty. Ah, become more beautiful. Or nicely preserved. You were pretty, and now you're differently pretty, even more beautiful. But it's interesting that you say that. Maybe something else has also changed in me over the past twelve years? You've become more orderly. Ordered. Yes, indeed. Do you mean in the house? You know where your documents are, for example. Done. That's right, yes. Accounting is always... General documents. Documents, accounting—this is becoming increasingly complicated. And really, guys, feel free to write in the comments how it is in your countries. But in Ukraine, there were no letters. We never received any letters. And then I came to Germany. One letter after another, always something in the mailbox. And I said, I never bothered about it. It was scattered everywhere in the apartment until Tobias sorted it all out. And looked at what was important. Today I would say I can already very well assess by myself what is important and what is not. But earlier, it was a catastrophe. That's definitely improved. Moreover, I now also have employees, companies, and numerous expenses. And there I must already do a bit of the bookkeeping myself. To have the overview. Exactly, that's why. Yes, that was rescued out of necessity. This, this ability, that I've become properly organized now. Okay, I think we're almost at the end of this video. Hey everyone, remember that there's a birthday offer just for you. You can save up to 50 percent on all intensive courses. Be sure to check out this offer. You can find the link in the attached comment. And now we're at the last part of the video. What keeps us young? I don't just want to be sad about getting old. I also want a plan, a plan to stay young. Be well organized. Yeah. Wow. Sports. Ah yes. But not too much sport, otherwise it will get old again. Yes? Yes. If you push your body too hard. Also regeneration, sleep, nutrition. Yes, exactly. Sleep is also lasting, even in youth. Not children after all. Wow. I believe they can certainly keep them young as well. Yes? Sometime when they are older. There are also two pillars that one should use as a guide. Physical and psychological, mental. And then for the physical pillar, I'd say sports definitely help. Also the movement. Yes. That one stays in constant motion. Something a little bit every day. And the mental pillar. How can one stay mentally young? Don't be too stressed. Yes, but that's difficult. Well, but make sure to consider it carefully, Okay, can I change what's currently causing stress in me? If you can't change it, you don't need to stress yourself. It's hard, but one can work on it. I'm not fully up to speed yet either, but I'm getting better. Learn, never stop learning. Keep learning new things constantly to keep your mind fresh. Reading a lot also helps. It also goes hand in hand with learning. It's simple, that one keeps receiving new impulses again and again. Those are things you just can't stop for. Hey, what do you think? What should one do to stay young? Or do you even want to stay young? Maybe someone just wants to grow old. Classical surgery. Yes, I don't know, because I think this is general anesthesia. I'm not a fan of it either. This also affects your body. Then maybe you're young here, but inside you have other damages. That's why I'd rather choose sports, physical activity, and lifelong learning. I would like to conclude this podcast with a positive message. Well, yes, I do have a bit of respect for getting old. I also speak publicly about it. But I know deep inside that being able to grow old is also a privilege. to have children as well, to be allowed to perform this job as well. None of this is taken for granted. And I am very grateful for it. I believe this is very important, because one realizes that there, that one realizes it, because firstly the alternative Growing old, in fact, is not so beautiful. Exactly, I'd also rather grow old. at best, grow old in good health and enjoy time with family and friends. Simply being happy to be here and that we are allowed to experience what we experience. I hope you had a lot of fun with us today. It was a bit philosophical, also a bit funny. Please write a bit more seriously. Feel free to write in the comments what you think about growing old. about societal expectations and pressure I am very excited. I always look forward to all comments. We read everything, and we'll see you next week in a new video. You're listening to this podcast on the 14th. June directly on my birthday. I will spend this day with my family, With my beloved ones and celebrate growing old. No, we're celebrating your 32nd birthday. Has nothing to do with getting old. Stay focused and keep working hard. See you soon. Bye.