Can I EVER Trust My Husband Again? 💔😔 II STEVE HARVEY

I've been married for 16 years with my husband, and right now I'm trying to figure out how to turn the I from we, and what I mean by that is, we were very young when we got married, you're talking about 18 and 19, we were military, I'm 37 now, but of course, you know, we were going through the growing stages, a lot of growing up, and so there were a lot of mistakes made. And so within those mistakes, I had to put the I back on because I had lost myself a lot and it was to the point where I didn't even get certain things accomplished because I was so worried about our relationship. So once we got into a place where we thought we were going to divorce, I literally took that, that I had back on, started rebuilding myself, started to encourage myself and all of that. But now that we're, we're back, you know, we're growing back together, I'm, I'm having the hardest time not saying I all the time. And you know, it's making him feel some type of way that I'm not saying we when it comes to things like we need to make this move or we need to, you know, I don't know what to do there. Okay. Maybe I missed something here. Is this the same guy you've been with? Yes. And y'all split up for a while? We did for about a year and a half. We were separated. Yes. So you had to, you were on your own. I was. And you was trying to make it work. Correct. Whose idea was it? Get back together. His. He was crazy. Came and got me. See, he was crazy. Came and got you. Cause he knew he shouldn't let you go in the first place. Right. Okay, cool. So now he wants you back. He went out there and found out wasn't nothing out there better than you. Now he came back. And whose idea was it to split up? Mine. Oh, that's the problem we got. It was your idea to leave him, but it was his idea to go get you back. And now you keep talking about I instead of we. And he's scared you might decide to go again. That's his problem. Huh? Uh huh. And well, let me ask you a question. And let's just have an honest conversation. Are you all the way in? Or are you kind of hesitant because you think you might have to go again? You either all the way in or you've got a little toe out the door. Just are you all the way in? I mean, I am. I don't have a toe out the door. I mean, I'm scared if that's what you're asking. Yes. I mean, you, I don't, I don't want to be scared, but you don't. I promised myself I wouldn't look stupid again. And that's my thing. It's like, well, see now that's the problem. Because, and I ain't trying to get in your business, but if you left for trust issues and you looked stupid before and you dealing with a trust issue, that's different. So now he wants you to be all in when he the one calls you to get out in the first place because of how he made you look. Well, he just going to have to get over DNA. You know, he created this dilemma. See, that's the funny thing about us men. We create a situation, but now cause we said, I'm sorry, we want it to be all right. Oh, right. Soon as we say, I'm sorry, but no, no, that ain't how the game work. You created a damaged piece of goods. Now you hurt me over a period of time. You said, I'm sorry. Now you want everything put back in place like it was. That ain't how it work. And I'm sorry, but see Bishop Jake's one time I was listening to him and he said, I'm sorry fellas. Cause you say, I'm sorry. Don't, don't fix it all. She'd been hurt for a while. You got to get on your stomach. Sometimes you got to crawl back in. See the thing with seeing is seeing make you stay longer than you want to stay and it costs you more than you want to pay. Now he did something to cause your distrust. Well now it costs something to get back in. Too damn bad. Yeah. See? No, you good. I know he wanted, why you keep saying I, and you don't want to say we. You did this. That's why I had to ask him what happened. Now he wanted everything back like it was. Prove it. Let him earn it back. Now ain't nothing wrong with making a man earn it. We used to that. We know we got to do certain things to make the team. We know in order to get a varsity leather jacket, we got to do certain things. We know to get the gold medal, we got to do certain things. We know that. We know if we want to be on the podium, we got to place first, second, or third. Fourth, don't get you on the podium. Now if he want you back, he got to do something to get on the podium. If he don't want to do that, tell him to kiss your ass. Make sure you subscribe to always know what's happening.