Are These Helicopter Moms Smothering Their Kids? 😬 II STEVE HARVEY

Where's Gloria? I have this 21-year-old that's my baby. Okay. She thinks I'm overbearing, but I'm a protective mom. When she leaves to go out, I have to have a telephone number, where she's going, who she's going with. I have to have their telephone number, and let's not even talking about dating. The boy has to give me his phone number, his email, I have to meet his parents. How do you feel about this, Steve? It's so much stuff going on in the world today. You're absolutely right. It's so much stuff. Now, you are a loving mother. Thank you. But you are overbearing. Oh. You know, you can beat both things at once. This is your baby. I got that. I have a 21-year-old daughter, but my wife's philosophy with all our kids is very smart. She taught this to me. Their wings work. Your children's wings work. You have to let them use them. You can't monitor her like that. At one point in time, you have to believe that something you've taught her sunk in. You just gotta trust them. These kids, all these kids ain't crazy. These young people now, they're very connected, technology and everything. So, you know, they can get around all this you do. They got ways of knowing everything. But you're just being a bit much right now. You gotta give her the space. Is that your daughter? Yes. Let me ask you something. Stand up. What's your name? Elyse. Yeah. How you feel about this? I've been dealing with it for so many years. Yeah, 21. Yeah, it's a long time, though. Yeah, if you in prison, yeah. No, but she, no, but look. 21 years on Earth is nothing. But no, but she made it sound light. Give me an example. Okay. Something crazy she's done. All right, so let's see. Recently, I get off from my job at 12.30 midnight, right? So when I go to my house, sometimes it's not parking right in front of the house. So you have to go a little bit further down the street. So she's like, Elyse, call me when you get home so I can know that you're here. So one night I'm like, you know what? Let me just do what she says. Let me call her. So I called. She said, okay, wait, wait right there. I'm gonna come get you. So she wakes up off the bed, wakes my cousin up out of her sleep to get in the car with her, to come, not even a block down, to drive to come get me. Right, right. You're too much, you're too much. Can I say I'm in love with her, Kirstie? You love her. I love her. You love her like a hostage. That little girl, man. I parked four doors down. My daddy come get me. You know what, you're gonna have to give her some space. You've raised her well. You've taught her everything. She remembers the lessons, but she gotta go out there and put them to practical use. If you never allow your child to put it to practice, you can't lean on. My 21-year-old moved out. She moved out. My daughter has her own apartment. She 21. My 21-year-old boy, he got his own apartment. I want him out. Get out. Get your own place. You gotta let her fly, okay? Thank you. If I have an 18 to 19-year-old boys, I want them to get a job and do what they need to do to move out and get on their own, but I'm afraid. I don't want them to take public transportation or to get their driver's license because of all the crazy things that we hear going on. What type of balance can I come to where I can have a peace of mind and relax, but yet he can also do what they need to do? Okay, this your husband? Yes. How do you feel about what she says? We've been married for nine years, Steve, and I feel I'm the opposite of how she feels about the situation. I'm not go out there and work. Oh, I got what it is. So these are your sons from a previous relationship. Y'all been married nine years. Oh, you probably can't even believe this here. Um, see, you know. No, I'm not. Quit hitting him. I saw that. He tried to say something, she went. I do take the 18-year-old out to work with me sometimes so he could get a feel of society's jobs, works. He just graduated last year. I just wanted to come out here and put this out there so she could, the way you put it out. You gotta let this man right here. You gotta let this man show them how to be a man. Listen to me. Women, single mothers do an amazing job with boys. You're a single mother, I applaud you. You can turn him into a good student, a good citizen, God-fearing, you can make him a law-abiding citizen, you can make him patriotic, you can make him hard-working, trustworthy, loyal. You can't make him a man. I don't care how hard you try, you cannot make him a man. He will only learn manhood from another man. They gotta get a male mentor in their life and you have one living in the home. You should let him do that. You gotta let go. I got a new job working at a college and it's about two hours away from my original city. I have a 17-year-old son who's living with his dad right now while I'm away at this new college. He's there because I didn't want him to miss his friends and to miss his school during the last year of school. But come this fall, he got accepted into the college where I worked at. Now Steve, I'm a very overprotective parent and since he's been with his dad, I've been monitoring his social media, I've been checking in, I've been texting his dad to find out what he's doing and although his marks are okay, I know that if I was around, they would have been so much better. So what I think is gonna happen is that when he comes to school with me and he starts to live with me again, I think I wanna talk to some of the professors because I know most of them. I wanna talk to the president of the college. I think I still wanna monitor his social media when he's out. Steve, do you think I'm doing a little too much? I just want him to succeed. Well, Steve didn't get a chance to answer you. Because the audience didn't take over. Yes, you're doing too much. I want him to succeed, Steve, because I think that when he's with his dad, his dad doesn't push him and I push him to do. What do you mean his dad doesn't push him? They're almost having a vacation there. No, he got, no, listen to me. Your son got accepted into college. Yeah, he got. While living with his dad. And I didn't help with the acceptance. He did get accepted on his own. Your son is fine. As a young man, he gotta know some more stuff. Yes. You can't just be book smart and make it in this world. Right. There are a lot of book smart people who are just stupid. Let me tell you what you're gonna do. You're gonna over parent this boy, he gonna resent it. Don't push him away. Is he gonna live on campus? He wants to live on campus. And you should let him live on campus. Because listen to me. Can I tell you the truth? Yep. What college taught me was people skills. How to socialize, how to deal with other cultures. I went to all black elementary, all black junior high, all black high school. I went to college and had three white roommates. It was culture shock for them. Your son is gonna be fine. Leave that boy alone. Let his father handle him like he been handling. He gonna be fine. Let him live on campus so he can grow up. He gonna be fine. Thank you.