When A Man Says No Like This, Women Respect Him More

You tell her no. She says, really? And suddenly, you're explaining your work schedule, your family situation, and why you haven't slept properly since Tuesday. She asked one question. How did you end up defending your entire week? When a man says no like this, women respect him more. Here are five ways to stop making a simple answer so difficult. First, quit giving her excuses to argue with. A woman you know asks you to come over tonight and fix her laptop. You've just got home. You're tired. You want dinner and about two hours of nobody needing anything. But instead of saying that, you start guessing which excuse she'll accept. I've got an early morning. It'll only take ten minutes. Well, I haven't eaten yet. You can eat here. Congratulations, you're going over there. You gave her two problems, and she solved both of them. You still haven't told her you don't want to come. Try, I'm staying home tonight. I won't be coming over. That's an answer. She can understand it. You don't have to spend the next six messages pretending your car won't start. And listen, having a quiet evening is a plan. You don't need concert tickets to be unavailable. Second, actually say what you like. You're out with friends. She suggests moving to another bar. You hate that place. The drinks cost a fortune, and the last time you went, you spent 40 minutes shouting your name at someone. But she's excited, so you say, yeah, sounds great. Does it? Because your face says you're waiting for a root canal. Say, I'm skipping that place. I'll stay here for another drink. She asks why. Tell her. Too loud. I actually want to hear you talk. Now she knows something about you. You have preferences. You can disagree with her and still make it clear you enjoy her company. Women notice when you agree with absolutely everything. After a while, they stop asking for your opinion, because they already know the answer will be whatever they just said. Give her an actual answer. She can handle having different tastes in bars. Third, don't let a little flirting change your answer. You say you can't help her with something this weekend. She tilts her head. Please, you're the only person I'd ask. 10 seconds ago, you had plans. Now you're wondering whether they were really that important. Come on, you know what just happened. You like being the guy she wants help from. It feels good. But you're about to agree to something you don't want to do, because you want another 30 seconds of that feeling. Smile. You're making this difficult, but I'm still busy Saturday. You can flirt back. Enjoy the moment. Just leave Saturday alone. She'll take your answer more seriously when a compliment doesn't immediately change it. And you won't spend the weekend carrying furniture Fourth, offer something you actually want to do. She wants you to join her and a few friends for an entire Sunday out. Lunch, shopping, another stop, maybe dinner afterward. You'd like to see her. You do not want to spend your day outside changing rooms saying, yeah, that one's nice too. So tell her, I'll meet you for lunch. I'm heading home after that. Simple. You pick the part you want it to do. She says, you can't stay a little longer? No, lunch works for me. What time? Notice how quickly that gets the plan sorted. You're giving her something definite instead of agreeing to the whole day and spending half of it checking your watch. The same goes for a favor. You can give her the number of someone who can help. You can show her how to do something herself. Offer what's convenient for you. Then let her decide whether it works for her. And if you don't want to offer anything, stop volunteering. You've already answered. Fifth, don't get weird afterward. You finally said no. Good. Now why are you acting like you just want to fight? Some men get so carried away with this that they stop smiling, start giving one word answers, and wait for her to acknowledge their new authority. Nobody's presenting you with a medal. Carry on with the evening. Say, anyway, how did your interview go? Finish the conversation you were having. Laugh when something's funny. She gets to see that you can disagree without making the next hour uncomfortable. That's a man she can speak honestly with. And please, don't undo the whole thing when you get home. Hey, hope you didn't take that the wrong way. I would've helped, it's just... Put the phone down. She said okay. Believe her. The next time you want to say no, say it in your normal voice. Give her a straight answer and let her respond. You might be surprised how quickly she accepts it once you stop treating it like bad news.