🎙️ When Narcissists Lose Their Power Play

Hello beautiful people, welcome back to my podcast guys, it's so good to talk to you on today. Welcome to Surviving The Narcissist with your girl, Mommy Sochu. Oh my gosh, is it just me or is anybody else listening to this kind of always felt like you were odd? Maybe it used to be that, it used to be that you felt like you were odd but hopefully now you're discovering that you being the odd one out, the weird one, the strange one, you turned out to be odd and strange and weird for a reason. It turns out we're just surrounded by people with a lot of character flaws and thank God we are discovering the knowledge now because growing up a lot of us had no idea what we were seeing, we didn't know, we didn't know. We saw a lot with our parents, we saw a lot in schools, we've seen a lot in relationships and it always seems like you are the one that people either love or hate and those that love you, they love you because they genuinely and maybe authentically resonate with you. They know your intentions are true and pure, they've seen you devote your time, they've seen you make enormous efforts to, you know, bring value, you're a team player. They know you can be trusted, although they also know you may have your issues. They know you have a strong character. Those that hate you are those that hate that strong character. They don't like that you can sniff them out. It happens to be that being odd was because of how sensitive you've always been to everyone's narcissistic issues. You've always smelled bullshit, you've always been a truth seer or truth seeker, always wondering why what felt wrong everyone was making right and because maybe you were against certain things or because maybe you did not want to believe in their beliefs and you did your own thing, you've been hated. But the people that hate you are not just regular people. These are what we now know as narcissists. These are people with a serious mental disorder, so serious, so dangerous, so detrimental that it's very demonic. Say it how you want to say it. There's levels to it. It's on a spectrum. And the higher a person goes on that spectrum of this personality disorder, the more evil they appear to be because in my opinion, to be that, you know, careless and selfish, overly arrogant and feeling the need to drain people because you're so empty inside, that is to be so callous and the way they diabolically think, oh my God, the way they don't think because common sense truly isn't common for them. You know, and they make decisions that cause people so much heartache, so much pain, so much debt, so many physical problems, so much embarrassment, and they lollygag around like they got it all figured out. They know what they're doing when really they're burning bridges and they're keeping themselves mentally stagnant. They're emotionally getting weaker and weaker as time goes on, and it starts to manifest physically as they age. They start to literally physically fall apart. They do, especially the ones that are so delusional in denial and it's never them. They refuse to take responsibility for anything they've ever really truly done. They're always going to beat around the story and run away from the accountability piece. Pointing fingers, playing victim. The worst part, the playing victim narcissist. I think that now recognizing that being an odd one really makes sense for the empaths that we are, guys. It makes sense. It explains the chosen ones that we are, and we feel everything. We feel everything. We feel when there's a need. We feel when we're being used. We feel when someone's not really being authentic. We've become very dangerous for these type of people, and I just want to encourage somebody to walk in their dangerous mode. Don't be afraid to be dangerous. Don't be afraid to be odd. Don't be afraid to be the weird one. Don't be afraid to be the one that's too quiet or doesn't want to be around them all the time. You don't want to always be out there. You're not the always outside person. Don't be afraid. Don't be afraid to be the one who thinks different. You have so many superpowers that it's dangerous. They want to dim your light. That's why they try to hate on you and come off hateful. Talk about you and completely misunderstand you. I realize as a survivor of narcissistic abuse, I've always felt misunderstood. They try to make you feel so crazy about how you see things because you are really a truth seer, and they are truth runners. They run away from the truth. So as a child, they didn't like your curiosity. As an adult, they hate your highly, not so curious, but more so analytical mind. They hate how you analyze and observe. They hate how quiet you are. You don't have to be extremely talkative. You don't have to be all extra loud. A lot of us are actually more introverted than we are extroverted. But for me, interestingly enough, as I heal, I realize that I have a little bit of both traits. It just depends on my environment and how I have to adapt. Because as humans, we all have to adapt to our environment. You have to feel the energy in the room. Some people don't know how to do that. Narcissist. They don't know how to read the room. That's why they ruin occasions. They ruin moments. They disturb peace. They're so consumed in themselves and trying to get their needs met that they can't read energy. They lack emotional intelligence. This is why we are the ones to forever stand out. And they will either love you or hate you. Our emotional intelligence is high. And the more we survive narcissists, the higher it goes, the higher we climb, the more dangerous we become. A lot of us, we're tapping into our supernova modes. Narcissists aren't getting too far with us anymore. We're learning to be wiser, stronger, braver, more courageous, speaking up more, speaking our mind more, letting our opinions be known. Knowing how to be quiet when it's necessary. Knowing how to withdraw information when it's necessary. Knowing how to not tell everything about ourselves and let it get used against us. We're becoming more and more dangerous. And the beautiful part of that is we're not just so observant that we're protecting ourselves better. We still feel people's emotions and we understand them so deeply that we still show compassion, love, and grace to people who deserve it. That's so beautiful to me. We still have so much empathy that some of us, we even look at our abusers and we're like, I feel sorry for you. Like, I'm gonna pray for you because you need it. You know, like you are the problem and that's your problem. Oh my gosh. I'm just grateful for the healing journey. I'm grateful for the fact that I can look back and say, wow, all those times, all those years that I spent in my life feeling like I was weird, feeling like I was an issue because everybody else just was immature. Emotionally, they were immature. Mentally, they were immature. Like, I've always had a mature sense of wisdom to myself and I truly believe that a lot of you listening to this, this is you. You've always been so wise, so intuitive. You've always seen through BS. You've just been around people who try to make you not see that, make you doubt that that even is a gift for you. Some of you, you dream and your dreams are real. Some of you, your imaginations are really prophetic. You are that. So gifted, like spiritually, you tap in because you're a natural healer. You were born with purpose and they envy that. Narcissists envy that because a lot of them, they have these talents and skills, maybe even gifts, but they don't know how to use them. And here you are, we're talked about, looked at crazy, but your accomplishments are outstanding. Your strength is remarkable. Your resilience is beautiful. Your mind is beautiful. The way you accomplish things, the way you take care of people, it's amazing. You're so unique. That's why I say those that love you, they love you because they treasure you. They cherish the type of person you are. You pour into others. You don't, you don't put yourself before other people, not because you're a fool, but because that's love. You show love, unconditional love, not conditional love. My goodness, we are overcomers. If you're listening to this and you don't feel like you're an overcomer, the fact that you're here, you're going to get there. Start trusting yourself, start loving yourself, start remembering, or maybe knowing who you are and who you were born to be. And know that the abuse and the people around you that act like they don't like you and act like you're a problem. They don't like how strong of a character you have because they have a poor one. And when they're around you, they see their reflection because they compare themselves to people. They compare themselves to you. They think that there's something to compete with. And maybe there is, but you, you are not in competition. They are though. They are. That's how, that's how insecure most narcissists are. Even your narcissistic parent, he or she may really envy you. And that's why they treat you a certain way and talk to you a certain way. Narcissists criticize, belittle, and demean for a reason. They want to break you. They compare you to other women for a reason. They want to break you. They aim for your confidence and your self-esteem because as long as you have those two things, you'll be way too powerful. You'll see how weak they are. You won't allow them to control you. They won't be able to manipulate you. And once that starts happening, you become a problem. You become the one that thinks, you know, you're too good. You, you're too good. Why are you staying away? Because you're isolating yourself more. You're distancing yourself more. You're disconnecting from all the drama more. You're not answering. You're talking less or maybe talking more. Maybe you're healing loudly and it's irritating them. Those jealous siblings can't stand to see you thrive. That narcissistic ex can't, can't take it that you're moving on. But too bad, so sad. Because you will keep thriving. Oh my goodness. Thank you guys for listening to me. Thank you for joining this podcast from wherever you're listening from. Much love to you. I appreciate you so much. Can't wait to talk to you again soon. Just wanted to drop in a brief word of encouragement to you on today. And just let you know that once again, we are powerful beings. And we're surrounded by a lot of weak people. And they, they want to drain us of our energy. Calling us names and making us feel crazy. Trying to humiliate us, trying to control us. They'll use religion to do it. They'll use sex to do it. They'll use money to do it. And they'll play with our, our, our personality. They'll play with our, our character. They'll play on our empathy. They'll play with our love. Man, it's exhausting to be around narcissists. And I think that a lot of us have always felt the exhaustion since we were young. Always felt it. It started with our parents for a lot of us. But the good thing is, as abusive as it's been, it's building a monster within a lot of us. Like, not a bad monster, though. Maybe I shouldn't say monster. To them, they're seeing us as monsters, though. That's why I say that. Because we start scaring them. We start being scary to them. They start literally being afraid of us. Now they start making, you know, lies up and trying to assassinate your character and trying to make, you know, a whole new narrative with new people and come off as different. Like, whatever. That's because they're intimidated by us switching up and becoming wiser and stronger and standing on business. They can't stand the fact that we wisen up and become strong. Like, extremely strong. So strong that some of us can be in the same room with them and not be bothered by their tactics. Actually learn how to drive them crazy. Use their tactics against them. Oh my God, that's what they're really not ready for. And I don't know about you guys, but as time goes on, oh my gosh, my mouth is becoming lethal for narcissists. I'm not the one they want to take their try because I'm going to shut them down. I'm going to say something that most people in their life are afraid to say. I'm going to say things to them that they didn't even know anybody knew or saw or noticed. I'm going to use my gift. And destroy that demon as needed. And the monsters we've become, really, I should say, we've become demon slayers. Out here slaughtering narcissists left and right with our swords from above. The divine is like, man, y'all got it. I gave you guys the tools. Use it. I gave you that intuition for a reason. I put you in isolation for a reason. I let you go through it for a reason because I wanted you to tap into your inner strength. You've never been crazy. You've never been odd. You've always been divine. You've always been angelic. You've always been sent with major purpose. And it's to demon slay. It's to not let any narcissist stop your glow, stop your shine. They tried. But we've woken up to it. We've ripped the mask off. We see what's behind it. We see what's inside of it. And we see what's not there, too. Oh, my gosh. Yep. Forever winners, forever champions, guys. Until next time, beautiful souls. Take care. Much love. Stay blessed and stay true, guys. Bye.