When they know they lost you

Do not fall for the facade. Narcissists definitely suffer when they lose a real one, a good one, a different and rare one. No one knows how much of a loss it has been like that narcissist. Don't fall for the facade. So many things are happening because they know they really lost you. Let's talk about it. Hello guys, welcome to my channel. This is your girl Mommy So True. Guys, it's so good to see you here on this beautiful day. I want to take a moment and let you know how much of a winner you are. You've always been, especially when you finally became done with trying to please someone so unpleasable like this narcissist. Enough became enough. You could not satisfy your mom and dad. You could not satisfy those family members, those friends, that that partner wasn't really a partner. You got tired of the one-sided relationship. You got tired of being pulled in the wrong direction. You got tired of feeling how much this person was not pouring into your life. And even worse, you got tired of being the one to keep pouring, keep trying to pour into a black hole. They lost you eventually. However, and whenever in the relationship, or I should say in the manipulation ship, however, or whenever it fell apart and it broke, they lost you. Shout out to all my wonderful subscribers. If you're going through this, whether it's, you know, a fresh breakup, a new escape, a new discovery of the word, and that you're finding out you've been abused by your parent this whole time, or who someone who was supposed to love you this whole time has not been loving you and is incapable of loving you because of how highly disordered they apparently turn out to be. They lost you because you can't make excuses anymore. It's not just a toxic person. It's not just someone who's had a hard childhood. This person is literally traumatized by demons. This person is literally influenced and probably controlled by evil forces. Because look at all the evil they brought into your life, or at least tried to. Look at all the evil situations you found yourself in. Look at how much you gave yourself to receive nothing in return. I want to point out to you how much of a winner you are. So much is happening because you are a winner. You were caught up in a game of nonsense. You were caught up in a game of frustration, jealousy, conniving lies, secrets. You were imprisoned, entangled, and entrapped in a dark world that you probably knew nothing about. You might just be discovering all of this now. But there is a moment for every survivor who's been victimized by a narcissist, there's a moment of waking up, taking your power back, and maybe even falling all the way back from that narcissist. This is the moment where the narcissist really becomes afraid of you. Fear gets activated when you reject a narcissist. They are now going to be panicking. Why? Because this person needs people. Not only do they need people, like every human being needs people to love on them, pour into them, give to them, do for them, be there for them. No, they need people to feel like they exist. They need to be able to blend in with people because they truly don't have what it takes on the inside to be a good person. So they need people to help them cover up the bad person that they really are. That's why they wear a mask. That's why they come in your life lying. That's why you don't know this is the monster that they are until years down the road when the mask starts to slip and one day completely fall off. They're so good at what they do, they can keep their mask tucked for a very long time, years and years and years, decades. As much as they love to talk and brag and come off as confident, present themselves as godly and church going, come off as maybe smart, very book smart, highly intelligent, maybe even talented, skilled and crafty. As much as they appear to be good, maybe nurturing because they give, they're charming. It's a facade. Deep down inside, this person has no happiness. Deep down inside, this person truly feels unworthy because of past trauma, past failures with relationships, career goals, issue after issue. They've been mentally battling things even way before you came around. It's just that at some point they were young, it was easier to control it, it was easier to cover it up. This person spent their entire life mastering their manipulation tactics to the point where they were able to influence and deceive you for as long as they did. You had no idea though that they were playing a dirty game with their own life because this is really ain't have nothing to do with you. It has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them and their issues and how empty they are. Because you didn't know the severity of what a mental patient you were dealing with, you dealt with them. You poured, you stuck around, you tried and you did it while being the best that you could be in that time. You were so empathetic to their needs that you probably abandoned a lot of your own and they played with your head so much that eventually it became all about them. You didn't know you were tangled up in this haywire of a manipulative mess until it became too much for you to consume and hold on to anymore. One day you woke up and you switched up. You were no longer moved by them. You were no longer interested in being controlled by them. You were no longer giving them power by enabling them anymore. You were now seeing right through the excuses, laser vision going right through the bullshit and they started to lose you. You started to smell the lies. You became less and less naive. You noticed they were so smart but very stupid. They started to leave evidence. They started to tell on themselves. They started to snitch on themselves. They started to do way too much and you started to notice that you were probably settling and putting up with abuse that you do not have to put up with. And although at this moment when this change happened you were probably in pain, feeling bamboozled and betrayed and hurt, confused, maybe even angry. But it started pushing you away from them and they felt it. They sensed it. They became very upset about it. The first thing that happens when a narcissist knows they have lost you is they become upset. This person has become dependent on you. You have become an emotional punching bag and they were expecting you to be a permanent fixture and newsflash they did all that work for nothing. Now this black and white thinking individual is looking at you as the bad guy. Now you've betrayed them, you've hurt them, you've switched up, you're not who they thought you were. Now they're looking for everything to blame on you. They're looking for every little thing you're doing wrong or right and make it wrong. Make it a problem. They're fishing. They're fishing for things intentionally because you have upset them by switching up. You're not usable anymore. When you're not usable to a narcissist now, you know, you're an enemy. Now you're an enemy. Now they will start to show you who they really are. The mask will start to fall more and more and more. You will start to see that they really do not love you. You will start to see that they really don't know how to love you. You will start to see that they really want to deny even trying to love you because don't you know some narcissists, they hurt themselves stepping into your life because they messed around and fell in love. And now because a narcissist is upset not being able to control you anymore, you're no longer that daughter that they can talk to like a child. You're no longer that that usable son that they only call on when they need money. You're no longer the puppet of a wife or a husband that they're so used to playing with for the last 10, 20, 30 years. You're no longer allowing them to talk to you crazy. You're actually seeing that this person is a liar and a future faker because everything they ever promised you, everything you ever talked about, where is it at? You're not dumb and they have the audacity to be mad at you for not being dumb. How dare you stop being dumb? The dummy thought you were a dummy too, huh? In the eyes of a narcissist, you waking up shows how smart you are. Now they feel duped. They feel victimized. How dare you take your power back? How dare you see right through them and start to protect yourself from them? So what's going to happen now because they know that doing that means they've lost you? What's going to happen now is this person needs to soothe their pain. You've caused an injury, a narcissistic injury, a major blow to their fragile ego by snatching your power back, by noticing that they're fake, by no longer falling into the facade of this fake life they're creating and want people to believe. The only way to soothe that narcissistic pain is to aim to cause you more pain. When the narcissist knows they really lost you, it's time now to see how they can really hurt you. So the things that you're noticing happening, it's intentional. Every move that narcissist is making because they know you're done, you're finished, you've walked away, you cut them off, you're no longer answering, you're no longer reacting. Oh, it's time for them to get revenge. They must feel on top whether you're still together or not. So you see the things that are happening. You see this new life this person is creating with this person that's new or old. Who cares? They're just now madly in love. They going on all these trips. They posting all these pictures. They even got married. They're having children with them, building this life. It just looks so lovely. There's no way you could really be that done. So let me aim to hurt your feelings because once upon a time you cared so much about them talking to their exes, them wanting other people, them leaving you for someone else. Now that you seem unbothered and don't care no more, what can I do to break that wall back down? Does it mean I need to change my Facebook status to married so you can be bothered? This is what's happening when they know they really lost you. What can I do to hurt her from a distance? You might even be dealing with one that isn't making it known that they're on social media. They are ducked off. They're quiet. It's intentional. They know you so well. They know you're waiting to see how bad they're doing. They know you're waiting to see how unhappy they really look since you've been gone. Until they have something that they can show off, that they know they can show off to possibly hurt your feelings, they're not going to show nothing. They're going to be silent. The thing is, they're so good at what they do. It includes stalking people. It may appear that they're silent. It may seem like they're not paying attention to what you've got going on because they are. This person has 10 different profiles, maybe even 100. They have multiple profiles on TikTok, multiple Facebook, multiple Google accounts, different YouTube accounts. They're keeping tabs. They're just good at doing it in a very secretive way, just like they were good at hiding all the secrets that you're probably still discovering. Maybe even go as far as to be somewhere trying to change. They working out. They in the gym. They done changed their habit. Everything that they're doing in life now is based on the life that they had with you. They can't even help. They can't even help but to wake up every day trying to compete with you when you're not even in their life no more. Waking up every day trying to make plans on how to be with somebody new, how to love bomb somebody even better than they love-bombed you. Because they weren't prepared to lose you and it turns out they really needed you. So you accidentally intensified the problem. The problem is this person is afraid to be abandoned and rejected. And losing you is the ultimate rejection they are not prepared to face. So now they're going to make crazy decisions. They're going to make it look however they can make it look to make sure you are affected. You're hearing about it. Your kids see it. Oh they're putting on a whole show. The whole town must either know that they are good without you or that they are so hurt because you betrayed them by not sticking around and letting them destroy. Because they lost you maybe they gotta play victim. That's the only way they can get the next victim. Crying my ex that they did me wrong. Just so the next person can come with their empathy and step in and be the next the next puppet the next doormat. Ultimately losing you is very painful for a narcissist. Extremely painful because of the amount of supply you gave without even knowing that's what you were doing. Above and beyond. And not just the supply. It's the fact that you saw this person in a way where no one has ever seen them before. You really saw the need. That's why you really worked so hard. That's why you really stuck around so long. That's why you really allowed a lot of crap. Losing you is very hard. It's very difficult. This person is so mentally and emotionally disabled that it took for an angelic being like you. They had no idea you existed and they used you and abused you. And you took you took your angelic gift away. And they feel the difference. It's like taking away a child's most favorite toy. That three-year-old just can't figure out why you took that toy. So they are pissed. They're mad. They're throwing things. They're yelling. They're fussing. They're holding on to that pain because they're a child and they don't know how to process it. They're being vindictive. Now they don't like that mom or that dad because they took something from them that they held dear to their heart. That's that narcissist. Having a whole Tampa tantrum because you left. Having a whole Tampa tantrum because you are no longer allowing them to be that narcissist that they are in your life or that they have been all this time. Mad because you refuse to accept them for what they are. Even the whole family will have the audacity to be mad at you for not wanting to normalize the issues. You trying to reach out to family. They're like looking at you crazy like why are you even saying something? Like wait that's that's your brother. That's your sister. That's your child. That tells you a lot. The whole family is disordered. So all the smearing of your name, the talking bad about you is bound to happen because they know they lost you. They know they lost you so bad they can't come back. You're not coming back so why not assassinate your character? Why not make sure I destroy your self-esteem before you pack up and leave because I know you're done. I know you won't come back. Let's not forget to mention how much the narcissist will become determined to make you look crazy now that you are healing. Oh you're taking care of yourself. You're taking trips. You're going out. You're interacting with friends. You're engaging. You're socializing. Oh you're a bad mom. Why aren't you home with your children? Are you taking care of your kids? You know they're gonna pivot it to negativity. Narcissistic families will find ways to make you look like a bad guy or you're evil and rebellious because you are choosing you. You are living your life. You are maybe even living your best life somewhere and it's all completely due to jealousy. Complete envy. They are somewhere counting your pockets while you are chilling on the Bahamas. You are enjoying cruise ship and they are worried about you paid for it. Don't worry about my bills. They getting paid. They mad because maybe they struggling to pay their bills and they got to keep on putting up this facade. This fake lifestyle of money and glory and riches and they always losing and don't have enough or whatever opposite. You make it. You do it. You work hard and you play hard and they got the audacity to be mad because you don't even play all the time. You're always working. You're an overachiever. You're an overworker. Oh my goodness. These people just be hating just to be hitting just for hating purposes. You truly are an amazing person. You're going to go out here and be great because you are great. I know your determination. I know your passion. I know your skills. I know your heart too and I'm jealous because you're going to leave me and give it to someone who's going to be capable of giving it to you. The narcissists know they aren't giving it to you. They know they suck at loving you. They know they suck at being a father or mother to your children. They know they're just narcissists and instead of addressing it and getting help, they do even worse things. They find ways to actually avoid taking that accountability. They'll find some way to put it on somebody else. If you're watching this and you notice that things are going crazier for them, it's because they know they really lost you. People can't stop talking about you because that narcissist know they really lost you and they won't stop talking about you. They're having conversations about you right now, either to themselves or to other people, good or bad. They can't believe they lost someone who was once upon a time so usable like you, so innocently usable. 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