If Someone Says These 3 Things, They’re Manipulating You

You didn't attract a narcissist because you were weak. You attracted one because you were attractive to them; your warmth, your praise, your status.

In this clip, Dr. Ramani and Jay Shetty take apart the idea that the people who end up in these relationships are shrinking violets with low self-esteem. Most of them were strong, well put together, and got dismantled brick by brick anyway.

Dr. Ramani explains why she'd scrap the narcissistic personality disorder diagnosis entirely, what the "volcano" underneath the arrogance is really made of, and why the empathy that kept you stuck is the last thing you should cut out of yourself.

Learn about the point where love bombing turns into a trauma bond, why forgiveness isn't required to heal, and the one question about pizza she asks clients who've lost all sense of what they want.