YOUR SILENCE SPEAKS VOLUMES. #empath

Hello, beautiful people. Oh my goodness, we made it. All right, let's get this ball rolling. Hey guys, just doing a mic check. I want to make sure that you guys can hear me. We are live again. I am back, you guys. Happy Monday. Let me see who's all here. I see some people dropped a few messages in the chat here. Queen Leandria, Miss Elisa Williams, How are you ladies doing? Hello, everybody. Welcome. Welcome. Come on. Take a seat. Get ready for today's live. Y'all, I'm so excited to be here. I hope y'all had a lovely weekend. It's been a couple of Mondays that I have not been here. I've been on vacation, if you want to call it that. Y'all know that I am on my healing journey and I am in travel mode these days i'm getting around and i'm traveling and i'm moving so i'm so sorry i missed y'all these past couple of weeks but i am back crystal ferguson hello brother hype man nerd for the word hello hello how you doing g719 what's up what's up how are you guys doing man i am so happy to be here on live today i've been waiting for this day thank you so much thank you thank you thank you you guys be making me blush why y'all do that why y'all do that don't y'all know i'm a protagonist like you cannot hit me with too many compliments guys welcome in welcome into my live you guys this is your girl mommy so true i'm going to give a couple more seconds for some people to join me i have a big um a big crowd from facebook jumping in on youtube today so i'm so happy and so excited for everyone to come in and join me hey dark seeker six you're so welcome thank you for listening thank you for tuning in and thank you for being a warrior because that's what you are anybody who's who's with me my subscribers whatever platform you're discovering me on there is a reason there's a reason for some reason my subscribers y'all are the bomb and y'all all resonate with me that's why we are so great together look at how much we're growing y'all this community is growing more and more and more Mario Green hey how are you DMV Mo in the house the narc is so delusional it's ridiculous I definitely needed your content thank you I'm so glad you found it I'm so glad you did hey Shirley Gonzalez how are you doing you guys i'm so excited and i'm so so ready to talk about today our silence your silence my silence it speaks volumes on so many levels i'm not going to keep you all night and talk to you about all the levels so so stay tuned if you're not subscribed to my channel don't don't don't miss out make sure you're subscribed make sure you hit that notification bell and so every week when i jump on here you're not missing out but you guys we're talking about you know killing killing this killing the killing the the narcissist killing the the whole situation whether it's walking away whether it's going no contact whether it's rediscovering yourself moving away whatever it is we're now in a season of killing it so many of you that watch these videos on youtube you're you've learned so much. That's why I don't sit here to try to educate you so much with vocabulary about the narcissist. So many of y'all can tell me something. Y'all know so much because there's so much information. I, in my recovery journey, I'm at the point where so many of you are at, where it's time to kill it. It's time to kill it because our main focus and our main goal is thriving moving on moving forward and living a happier more joyful and more fulfilling life because we've spent so much of our time doing the opposite of that our silence now speaks volumes as a survivor coming out of this type of pain your silence is liberating it's liberating but it takes time to kind of get to that point and I'm gonna get I'm gonna get a little bit deeper in i see folks are checking in hello Martisha Hicks how are you doing love welcome in welcome in you guys say we are talking about how our silence speaks volumes and the focus is on us it's not on the narcissist the message is not to focus on the message the message is for it's not to focus on the narcissist the message is to focus on you me and you the survivors the empaths the ones who made it through all of the heartache we suffered and we endured all this pain but we made it we might be painfully standing but we made it we made it we might have lost a lot we might have to rebuild a lot but we made it and so many of us made it because we learned that it was time to get silent it was time to start reacting and moving differently on on all levels, starting mentally, it was time to get silent. And our silence literally have saved so many of us. And not just silent because that's what we're being taught that you have to do and how you handle the narcissist. Silent in realizing that, you know what, this is not my fault. What I can do is pack up, walk away, and never look back. I don't have the need to explain anything to anybody. Your silence speaks volumes. When you start to get silent, you become dangerous because this is a weapon for you. After taking on so much, after enduring so much, after putting up with so much, your silence speaks volumes. Because who would have thought that the same person who stuck in this marriage, in this situation, in this relationship for so long would muster up the strength to actually walk away and not care to defend themselves and not care to explain themselves. The one who got away painfully gets away, but they silently get away because there's no point. There's no point to defend. There's no point to fight. There's no point to explain. you just vanish the pain pushes that into you it just it makes you want to just vanish going silent for us it speaks volumes because we cared a lot and the person who we cared about the people who we cared about they know that they also thought they knew that we cared enough to never let go and for people like me and you letting go doesn't have to be confrontational because we don't want that walking away from a narcissist we don't have to argue about it I don't have to I don't have to argue with you and and try to figure out and beg you and plead you and say why are you why when is this gonna end why are you doing this to me eventually you're just going to push this empath too far eventually God is going to put some type of strength into me and make me realize there's no need to fight there's nothing to fight for it's time to walk away in silence, in silence. So many of you, your silence speaks for you. You left with no trace of where you are, what you're doing, and it's driving them crazy. It's driving them crazy in the sense of they now have to sit back and realize that they really lost you. They really lost the real one. So many people are fooled into thinking that just because someone is a narcissist, they're not guilty they don't feel guilt they don't feel shame that is what makes them a narcissist they're full of guilt and full of shame you go in silence speaks volumes because they have to now sit back and really accept that they are really a dirty person that is something they never wanted to accept they don't want to accept it your silence forces them to feel how dirty they are You have no choice but to sit back and to feel like the bottom of the sea that you are because the realest person that's ever been in your life silently walked away. You don't know my plans. You'll never know it. You're not hearing from me. You never will. I'm somewhere unbothered and you're somewhere triggered and going crazy. This is this is how it goes. For those of you who find it hard to walk away, you need to know that the confirmation is there. walking away means that you have taken your power back this is an empowerment phase for us to walk away and to move in silence to walk away and to silently just go you leave them scratching their head you're not arguing anymore you're not trying to stay anymore you don't you don't want to work it out anymore you really want a divorce why defeat them your silence means you've defeated the narcissist you no longer care to say anything because it's pointless where is it gonna get you you didn't said it all you didn't had all kind of conversations you didn't tried it all you made all type of suggestions it's gotten you nowhere it'll never get you anywhere if they are truly a narcissist there's nothing left to do but to be quiet let them have it let them let them enjoy it and walk away and let your silence speak volumes these people don't just come back hoovering because they're crazy they come back hoovering because your silence got them sitting somewhere twitching and itching they just cannot believe you walked away after 20 30 years you were supposed to stay you were supposed to stay until death did you apart with this demon you canceled the show early. You canceled the life supply. You canceled the plan of the enemy by taking your life back. This is scary. This makes you dangerous. In the spiritual realm, learning to be silent, learning how to move silently, that's how you really elevate spiritually. It gives you a chance to sit back and see things for what it is. Your silence speaks volumes. It shows how intelligent you really are because when you sit back and when you shut up and just pay attention you see things that you were blinded to when you were too busy loving this demon but your silence will speak volumes because now you can sit back and reflect you can sit back and really think about it when you find yourself falling into that lingering illusion of oh my god I miss him I love him I need them that silence brings back that liberating power of wait no I don't because that same person who I'm missing did this to me did that to me oh yeah that too oh yeah that wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait wait let me stay where I'm at let me stay no contact let me not break that because the bad will always outweigh the good with these people it will always outweigh the good with these people walking away is so liberating it is it's so liberating that's what my sister said what have you learned podcast hey sis good to see you tonight do it and don't be scared like Nike said just do it, just do it your silence speaks volumes, it tells you about yourself I told you this has nothing to do with the narcissist this has everything to do with you as a survivor suppression becomes your silence, now you're not suppressing feelings by being silent, you're not you're not not standing up for yourself, you're not not setting healthy boundaries by being silent if you are really narcissistically abused, you you you start to use silence as your weapon because guess what, every narcissist thrives off of, can anybody tell me? I'm not even gonna say, let's just do a little a quick pop, quick, can somebody drop in the chat real quick, tell me what does a narcissist really really thrive off of, somebody said pain, somebody else tell me what do you think they really really want from you honestly this is something I really want to see your reaction thank you my sister, your reaction, that's all it's about that's all it's about because if they can get you to react, they control you, being able to control somebody comes from being able to get them to react. They've had us reacting. We've been subject to them for so long. Everything we did was attached to them and they love that They love that and they enjoy that. This is what they miss when we're gone. They miss the reactions that we gave because every day with them was hell and you being who you are living in that hell situation, you always react because it does not feel good and by you reacting every day was a different story with the narcissist, this could have been the parent I don't care who it is, it don't matter who they are as long as they are that narcissist this applies as long as you are giving your reaction you are making them happy so you want to know how to kill a narcissist you want to know how to make them miserable you want to know how to be listen your silence speaks volumes you don't have nothing to say to them for what? There's no need to pour out your heart to these people. Your feelings will be used against you. There's no need to explain what you're thinking. There's no need to explain what you're feeling. There's no need to explain or tell or overshare or even share. Narcissistic family members in particular teach you how to shut up about your life, how to stop talking about your plans your goals your movements you better keep all of that to yourself keep all of that to yourself because you know what you're doing to a narcissist when you do that you're confusing them they think they know you so well they think they can set traps before you get you get to where you're going and we make it easy by telling everything sharing everything trusting them with stuff your silence speaks volumes stop telling me stop sharing because guess what they don't care they don't want to know what your goals and your visions are for the benefit that you think they should know it for no they want to know it so they can plot against you they want to know where your mind is at so they can plot against you a narcissist is always worried about what you're thinking if you've been in a relationship with them you know what I'm talking about you can't even ride in silence with them without them awkwardly wanting to know what you think what's on your mind what you got going on over there you want to know what I'm thinking so you can try to plot ahead of time try to block it try to kill my vibe try to kill my energy before you even get there so your silence speaks volumes it lets them know number one you cannot control me I speak when I want to I speak when I want to I speak on what I want to speak on as well your silence speaks volumes it lets them know who's really calling the shots you ain't my leader I am my own leader I don't have to respond to you and this ain't just responding by words this is by reaction too because what they're good at doing is try to get up under your skin and for you what you got to get good at doing is is remain unbothered right there in their presence a narcissist will teach you how to become numb in the physical you'll learn how to literally sit there and let them talk to their self argue with themselves I got to a point where I would just be like you know what you can fight by yourself enjoy that argument by yourself and then now so mad so pissed off walks out perfect get that get get out get the hell out leave me alone please your silence speaks volumes they cannot handle it they cannot handle it those of you who are suffering with a narcissist let me tell you something if you can't lead make them lead how do you do that mommy so true how how can i how how how your silence speaks volumes stop talking stop letting them keep you on the phone unnecessarily all these unnecessary conversations stop letting them bombard you in text messages still y'all still having text wars narcissists are professionals at keeping you on the phone, keeping you distracted. If you got to deal with one, learn how to be silent. Learn how to start giving them those silent stares because anybody who's not a narcissist, if you did that to them, they feel crazy. So for a narcissist, a person who thrives off of control, for you to just get quiet on them and make them feel stupid, they're going to end up leaving you alone. This is what you want. If you're dealing with a narcissist and you need help you need to push them away by being silent this is going to help you go no contact your silence speaks volumes because once you start getting silent when you start recognizing that you do not need to explain yourself for what why you are grown you have your own mind they feel that energy they like damn i really can't control her no more for real so you know what's gonna happen, what you need to be ready for, they will go back to old supplies or find new supplies. But this is what you want. You want them to leave you alone. Your silence speaks volumes. None of us are obligated to stay and deal with a narcissist by any means. The power is within us. The power is with us. There is no way we can allow the narcissist to continue to have power over us when they shown us that we're more powerful they are weak they are weak everything they did to us was to feed their weakness all of that making you feel bad about yourself it's a reflection of who they are so the best thing you can do is to take your power walk away silent move silent learn to do things silently and dealing with the narcissist stop trying to fight physically your silence speaks volumes it will literally fight for you it will literally help them pack up and leave you alone as they should this is what you want this is what you want Rhonda Owens get a life guys I got so many narcs that are just bored with life and don't know what else they want to do with themselves somebody is mad at me because of someone that I'm dating god these narcs are just sick and it's only happening because i'm on the internet and people know my business and i'm telling y'all to move in silence because i know what i'm saying move in silence because narcissists love to thrive on your life they like to dig in your business they like to jab just just ugly disgusting bullies for no reason but what you're gonna do is give no reaction and remain unbothered right so queen Leandria says, I rose from ashes into a beautiful queen. I love that. I love that. What you've learned podcast. I moved silently when he least expected it. And he was super shocked to see I finally really left. Never looked back. Super shocked. I bet. Now you know you will do better. Yeah. Now you know you will do better. We all fell prey to the narcissist. I'm sorry. Terrible terrible things happen to you absolutely silence is peace says Montisha Hicks yes it is yes it is peace our pain and our suffering are all blessings yes they are yes they are you guys I'm loving it I'm loving it it's a great feeling it's a great feeling it's liberating it's liberating and like Queen Leandria says silence is golden it's golden it's golden these people thrive off of your reaction it's like this is how they they live you know you're giving them life when you react you're giving them life when you show you care and after so much of the pain after so much of the unnecessary bs you really don't care you just you but you become silent by default they actually cause their own discard they they can't they cause their own reverse discard for those of us who ended up just cutting them off on our own and walking off going silent on their own they did it to themselves a narcissist is good at pushing you out of the door as much as they think that they're trying to control you or that they have so much control over you it really does not work at the end of the day because God being so good they ended up messing with the right person and that right person is you and after so long you were like I'm done I am done they crave and thrive off your reaction they do elisa williams says my granddaughter handed me a phone last week and it was him he started laughing uncontrollably because he thought he had me i told him who i was and never said another word oh man this is crazy they is it's crazy he's still this day even after all this time with you not being around him look at the extent that he's going for a reaction that's what I'm saying it's like they need your reaction and if you've been the person that was with them for all these years do you know how much they miss getting your reaction your silence screams volumes your silence is first of all telling you how amazingly real you were there is not really letting you go, this is not just about a narcissistic supply, they don't, they don't go back to every supply, they don't mess around with every supply, they don't think back to every supply they're not looking for a reaction from every supply, it's something about you though, they can't seem to let go of, yeah, call me and laugh uncontrollably and what did you get out of that because all it did was confirm that you're still a fool, oh my god, your reactions and your, your it's just, it's crazy, um, but they're not the dynamic of a narcissist when it comes to the power of control to us, for us survivors this is our superpower, to us survivors, this is what we need to thrive on, it's like damn, you really are weak, what and I know how to shut you down, I'm gonna just go, I'm gonna just go ghost, I'm gonna treat you like you're dead, I'm gonna just go silent, you know, if I'm still living with you, I'm gonna treat you like you're dead and let you figure it out from there because this relationship ain't real anyway, you know, you're not, you're not nothing but an extension of who they are and the more you react the more you react the more they rub off on you, this is another goal, they want you to be like them so they're poking and poking and poking and poking, hoping that you gonna end up like them and what you ain't got time for is, is all that, it's trash, been there, done that don't want it no more walking away is a new lease of life it is man it is it's it's it's choosing life over death when you walk away your silence screams volumes when the narcissist has to go through third parties and other people to try to get to you you know when they gotta jump on your live to make sure they're they're screaming comments to get to you it's like your silence bothers a narc because they want you to feed into what they want to give you. But you're too smart, you're too intelligent, and you're too done with the pain. You don't want that gift anymore. You've accepted the gift of pain for too long. You've accepted these jokes from this clown for so long. Everything they've offered was a joke. So at this point, your silence is golden. You have nothing more to say. There's nothing to say. It's a waste of breath. There's no point to react. It's not going to get you nowhere you've learned that you've learned that there is so much power in walking away and staying silent man and treating them like you just never knew them because honestly you never did you never will we none of us really know the people that we're addressing as a narcissist we really don't even know who they really are that's just the truth we really don't know who they really are what you've learned podcast said I learned it through the the psychopaths of narcissists I allowed in my life yep they love to make you feel low about yourself they are sadists they love to see you crying they do they enjoy it they enjoy it it's it's it's like it's mind-blowing it's mind-blowing and that explains you know the lack of empathy that explains why you can never get past anything with them that explains why nothing just you can't resolve nothing with them that explains why they're always digging to get the worst reactions out of you it just explains it you know it's it explains why they're so manipulative because they they have to get a certain reaction to feel good inside and you are the perfect target for that your energy is everything that they're looking for it's so sad it's so sad oh man said they really tell you they are God they act like they're God they act like they're God's Zandra Miranda hey love welcome Shirley Gonzalez said I stopped talking they don't listen anyway yeah I mean come on come on come on oh man so sad so pathetic lord jesus they mirror you says marticia hicks they do or at least they try to they mirror others they mirror others they mirror you they mirror any and everybody that's why we don't know who they are they're just fake there is no real person behind that it's so sad whoo it's so sad nothing but a liar nothing but a liar i caught my husband cheat on me this morning on his phone He tried to say it wasn't cheating. Of course not. Of course not. The manipulation and in the gaslighting to try to make you think that what you saw is not what you saw. This is the professional doing of a narc. That is so sad. Oh, Jesus. Run, run, run. Jesus, Lord. Run, run, run. Don't say nothing no more, says Lakeisha Walker. Yeah, man. What's the point? What is the point? you just you ignore fools fools are to be ignored I don't have time for them she said my ex-husband cheated even before we went to get the marriage license on the steps to get inside Jesus I can't even finish reading it she said to get inside city hall he admitted it and me stupid instead of walking away that day I stayed and married him no don't call yourself stupid trust me we we all did we've all have done still do and do dumb stuff we're human okay we're human i ain't perfect i'm human i but that is that is one of those things where it's like that accountability factor because that was the red flag like you're not the only one i've heard so many stories just like that it is the red flag that we ignored you know i ignored major major red flags a controlling liar um leave them you control your own destiny marticia hicks girl listen there's a lot of they follow a strategy i get you before you get me that's all it is it's it's it's tit for tat it's a game it's a game in their mind that's why i said in one of my videos i said it's plotted it's pre-planned it's it's it's it's not your fault it's not your fault that's why when you recognize what's happening you take your power back and you walk away walk away and you let you let life take its take its course you let life you know handle it so oh lord ignore them and move on you couldn't have said it any better you couldn't said it any better man ignore the haters they added to your views i know i love it you guys look i am so unbothered by all that nonsense it's just like okay clown activity all day whatever ignore these narcissists because they are demonic and so jealous i know girl i know girl i know i know ooh kim says that fool had me on the phone for eight hours one day even when i advised him i had things to do i'm so glad it's been a couple years since i last saw him and spoke to him he always talked nonsense it's crazy they will keep you on the phone for a whole shift you could have got paid for those eight hours oh my gosh lord jesus bullies but yet lord girl get out of here she says i'm doing better found a good man been with him since last month nothing like the narc okay okay on to bigger and better things sis i love to hear it i love to hear it she said what is the best weapon for the narc your silence baby walk away walk away the best weapon turn your back disarm disengage detach get away i mean i couldn't even i couldn't even say it any differently like seriously like seriously so oh yeah guys that is so cool i i really love it i love the engagement um oh my gosh somebody asked about my tattoos i have a lot journey easily i currently have about 15 tattoos and I get them I get them often um my entire body is almost tatted up and I have a video coming up one of these days about um my journey with tattooing and how that has been my coping mechanism of um coming out of narcissistic abuse i started tattooing myself a few years ago and got addicted to it and um but that's a whole nother that's a whole nother story for a whole nother day but um you guys i'm coming to an end because i really just wanted to touch base on my perspective on what i feel for my warriors my survivors and my thrivers when we're talking about the liberation of our silence you know as painful as it was to walk away as painful as it may have been to stay away we had to do it for our own sanity for our peace we did it it's been necessary and it will always be necessary and this is the key indicator for us because at the end of the day they forced this relationship on you you ain't going looking for it they were determined they did everything they could and they pushed the relationship they pushed the marriage and they got you the lock-in until you unlocked yourself and freed yourself and your silence speaks volumes there's no need to explain there's no need to fight there's no need to go back and forth let your silence do the work let let let let the work you're doing on the back end speak for itself for those people who have so much ---- to say so much criticism so much to throw let them do it who cares it shouldn't be you those flying monkeys they call them that for a reason let them enjoy it there's no need to explain let your silence do the talking when you're silenced you're unbothered you don't care you don't care and if you do say something you're gonna say one or two words and keep it going. To the person that's pissed off about you moving on and doing what you're doing, let them be that. Who cares? However they want to make the situation look, let them have that. You don't owe nobody no explanation. You owe yourself peace though. And sitting back and being silent allows you to work on yourself. That's the biggest part of it for me. I get to sit back and I get to reflect and I get to accept how imperfect I am, but also accept that I'm ready to take accountability to work on whatever the hell I need to work on at my own pace for me, right? So your silence speaks volumes, man. Don't give up. Do not give up. It's hard, y'all. This is a journey. That's why there's so much to say because this is a journey, a major journey, you guys. Narcissists can kill, Ruth. Yeah, they kill all the time. You have those sneaky, covert narcissists who may not be violent, but they can secretly kill because they inflict so much pain that people are dying from internal diseases and other issues as an effect of the emotional abuse from a covert. Then you got the malignant, those harmful, violent narcissists who are definitely there to kill and are killing they kill all the time they kill all the time crystal selden oh okay you guys are talking to each other oh i love i love the engagement y'all i love when y'all are showing all this love and light to each other i really really love it i really really love it those of you who are trying to get in depth with me um i won't be able to do it tonight on live but make sure you reach out to me though there's a lot of contact information the ways that you can reach out to me you guys um you know hit me up facebook no don't message me on facebook because i'm not gonna see it you can dm me on instagram you can reach out to me on tiktok you can email me that's probably the best way or hit me up by joining my texting list you guys um i know my triggers when my narc attempts to trigger me how do i become none to it so you're living with a narc is what it sounds like. You're living with them. See, living with them and trying to be numb to your emotions is very difficult because you're human. I don't know how I can sit here and try to tell you how to be numb to someone when you're human, right? So it's very difficult. That is why we say you have to run. You have to make an escape plan. You have to find somewhere to go. You have to find a way to get away if that is what needs to be done. There's different levels to a narcissist, you guys. Everyone doesn't leave a narcissist. Some people learn how to deal with them, how to live with them, how to all of that. For me, it just really depends because we're all human. And if you understand the spectrum of narcissism, you understand that we all fall somewhere along that chart. But if you're dealing with someone who's up there, you know, capable of killing you to that extent, capable of hurting you. You've got to escape. You've got to get away. You've got to protect your life. You've got to protect your future. You know, so there's so many different ways to look at this. There's so many different dynamics. So just be careful, you know, and utilize resources. Reach out to me. I'm more than happy to sit down and talk to you and help you dig deep into figuring out where you are and what's going on in your situation oh man there's a lot of great information in here he admitted it when i said thank you for telling me dang sis i need to talk to you one-on-one because it sounds like you have a juicy juicy message like just too beautiful i told mine it was all game he knew it he knew i was over it he said he was done and hung up on me best thing ever my friend saw him dating oh your friend saw him on a dating site two weeks later of course of course then tried to contact you after that of course he did that's why you got to remain silent because you're dealing with a clown and leave that clown in that circus show like for real clowns we don't have time for it you don't have time for it oh man thank y'all so much for joining today's live man it's been great it's been great it's been great i really appreciate y'all being here i appreciate that engagement thank you for listening on today y'all man i do apologize for the demon that's been in the comments tonight y'all just ignore it like i am but my apologies to anybody who read any of that demonic bullshit don't pay it no attention y'all it's all gay it's all childish in and um but i i do want to leave you guys on a good note for tonight i'll be back with another video i'm just glad that i was able to come back on live it's been a couple of weeks since i've been gone um but i'm glad i'm glad i'm glad i had to take some time away um new york was great y'all i i needed to do that it was so so so important for me to do that and i'm so glad that i did that but i'm back and we are going at it we got this y'all let's keep going let's keep thriving let's keep rocking i'll be back and i'll check in with you guys another time so much love and so much light y'all be blessed on tonight i'm gonna go ahead and try to read some more of these comments but you guys um let's just make sure to reach out if you need to reach out to me and ask any further questions i'll be here but much love and much light until next time everybody have a blessed night y'all