Narcissists Refuse to Walk Away Permanently from Their Abusive Parents #narcissist #narcabuse #npd

hey hey guys spiritual whistleblower here taking a stroll through the new york city streets hi um quick video because i was told that no one on um youtube out of the life coach narcissistic abuse community talks about this and i don't want to be the one to claim credit because i just i i know dr romani at least spoke about this somebody did and you guys can um bring it up in the comments section but i'm just going to reiterate because you know hindsight is 20 20 and looking back you know if i had to do it all over again i definitely would have looked out for certain signs oh he's so cute you guys got to see this dog he's in here cutie what's your name peaches hi peaches oh peaches what i have gathered from my experience uh with my family my in-laws and just you know coaching my clients there is a clear distinct pattern in romantic relationships with narcissists and it is this but you i mean you have to be extremely observant in the early dating stages if they bring you around to meet their family um you got to really really analyze the family's behavior and how they relate to each other so this is what i came up with and you guys let me know in the comment section whether you agree or not when you were with your partner and fellows this is for you too this is not just for ladies this is for both sexes when you were with your narcissistic partner in your relationship think back you knew well you didn't know up front that their parents were toxic if you got to meet the family more importantly the mother-in-law father-in-law and you started noticing over a course of time that their parents were extremely manipulative controlling enabling and toxic okay that's just one thing but but the issue is this your partner knows that your in-laws his or her parents are extremely toxic because they I guarantee they've complained about their parents to you they they claim that they hate their mother they hate their father they they can't stand their ways they abused them when they were children you're going to hear all types of negative ---- about their parents and then you're going to absorb observe observe you're going to actually see it at some point in the relationship but you know what else you're going to see and then you're going to start trying to you know figure it out you're like well if your parents are so ******* bad why won't you refuse to cut them off permanently or if you do cut them off why is it only temporary and then you run back to them so you understand there's a toxic codependency pattern that narcissists have with their parents a love hate thing they can talk a lot of ---- about their abusive parents but they're too ******* weak and scared to detach themselves permanently from their abusive narcissistic parents and as a result of that your relationship is going to take a hit and what he and his family she and her family will do is they'll try to force you to accept and tolerate their disgusting behavior because he refuses to change and cut them off and grow with you and what happens you're going to end up rejecting him her and their family and that's when the whole ******* family will gang stalk you because they're pissed they couldn't get you to lower yourself or dim your light to be a part of trash-ass family so I say all this to say it's always a siren in my video I'm sorry y'all I thought I'd be able to get through this video without a siren obviously not I'm a little bit out of breath let me let this siren go past so I say all this to say oh boys always interrupting my videos i i say all this to say uh the moment that you notice that there is an an issue with your in-laws and furthermore an issue that your partner in spite of them complaining about their abusive parents being manipulative and controlling they they just won't cut their parents off that is your cue to leave your partner alone. We stay, we stick in there tolerating so much bullshit. We stay too long. We stay way too long. Your partner is not going to leave their abusive parents alone. They might cut them off temporarily, but they will always return. They don't know how to sever ties. They've been taught and groomed to never depart their abusive parents. It's blind loyalty so friendly reminder if you plan on dating or getting a relationship moving forward look at the behavior of the family your in-laws and the person you're with and if they're willing to permanently cut off their family or if they've already done so if they come to the table like I don't have nothing to do with my family I'm here to break generational curses and build a new life with you know that special someone that's who you want to build with you can't do nothing if a person refuses to detach from his family's trifling ways because that ---- will spill over into your relationship it's just not going to work all right and on that note i love you guys let me get out it's such a beautiful night in new york spiritual whistleblower here have a great evening