Valentine’s Day and the Narcissist #npd #narcissist #narcabuse #valentinesday

Hey guys, Spiritual Whistleblower here with another video on narcissistic abuse. Very special video. We're talking about Valentine's Day. It's right around the corner. It's this Monday coming up and how narcissists behave around this time of the year and what you can do to stay narc free before, during, and after Valentine's Day. Okay. And some things that you should be doing to keep yourself preoccupied if you're single. Before we get into the video, I have a few announcements. number one people keep asking me when will i start my summer tour not summer when will i start touring again and you know i always wait around the spring summer time so i will be kicking off my tour now last year i went all over the u.s i i think i don't know how many cities i did a lot of cities i won't be doing as many cities this year i've decided to do the major cities and that way, you know, people in the smaller cities can fly or come, you know, to one of the bigger cities in their locations. But, um, I'm going to be doing international traveling. So I have to cut back on my national traveling to go outside of the country. I am going to Toronto. So all my people in Toronto, Canada, this will be my first time in Toronto. We are going to do it big and I can't wait to meet you. That announcement is coming soon and some other surprises, but saturday saturday may 21st i will be in atlanta georgia hey holla swb is coming to atlanta atlanta is one of my favorite spots this will be my third time doing a seminar support group in atlanta and i always have a great turnout there will be a dj there will be food drinks we're gonna have a good time i think i'm gonna split the seminar in two parts so just look for the flyer. Atlanta, Georgia, y'all been waiting for me. Since my TikTok is blown up, I'm at 105,000 followers. Praise God. The demand for spiritual whistleblowers is growing. TikTok is really blowing me up and I'm grateful to God. So Atlanta, Georgia, I will see y'all May 21st. 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So we all know how narcissists behave in general when it comes to holidays, birthdays, special events, especially if this is an ex or a family member that you don't get along with when that special time of the year comes around, they will downplay. They won't, they won't acknowledge your birthday or they'll buy you a really cheap gift you know that's done deliberately to shoot you down okay we empaths we love we love holidays we we love you know it's just the ideal of giving and seeing somebody smile and making people happy you know whatever the occasion is and the narcissist knows that and they will do everything to destroy that moment so we're talking valentine's day valentine's day to me is a bunch of bullshit it's over commercialized um so you know it's really about money you know they sell a lot of candy roses and bullshit you know and it's a pagan holiday I would I would rather be in a relationship with someone that treated me special every day of the year every day in my relationship would be like Valentine's Day that's the type of guy I want to marry and be with, not just somebody that doesn't treat me right all year long and Valentine's Day come and he has to step it up because he's feeling pressured by society to do so. No, but, um, not when it comes to narcissists, I'll use, I won't use my last relationship because I don't think we, we never spent Valentine's Day. We never got to that. My relationship before that, my last relationship, uh, over six years ago, we spent Valentine's together, but I had to do the work to put things together because he's not a planner. Narcissists are ******* lazy. Well, broke narcissists, because I need to talk about the narcissist with money. There's a distinct distinguish, you know, fact factor there, rich narcissists versus broke narcissists, right? Sociopaths, the broke ones are cheap. My ex from six years ago, he was ******* cheap. Okay. Not only did I have to plan everything, cause he's not a planner. He's never had a girlfriend to plan anything all his exes were narcs and they were gold diggers and users and they depended on him to do the work and he he was lazy and broke right back so he never had a woman do you know and I love doing special things for people and that's where I that was my toxic trait I had to stop giving so much of myself and pouring into others and because I loved him I I had no problem giving and doing for him and I had to stop um I planned the whole Valentine's Day where we was going to dinner we went to a concert um and we had a hotel room um he bought me flowers and candy cheap cheap stuff but you know I I still I was still good about it thank you I was you know appreciative he on the other hand I think I got him a watch we went to a very romantic concert he didn't pay for the tickets by the way we went to go see Maxwell and Max and we were sitting second or third row to the stage Maxwell is not cheap we're talking about a thousand dollars for two tickets I love Maxwell and I've paid big money I've seen Maxwell almost 16 times in concert over the last 20 years I've paid big money to see him he's amazing um very beautiful romantic concert my ex sat there and he was just like he kept he was like he had ADHD he kept moving around and he was uncomfortable maybe because Maxwell see Maxwell is a good looking man and Max came out with his tuxedo on very tell you know Maxwell wear them 10,000 $20,000 tailored suits he look he look fabulous so I think my ex was sitting there looking really intimidated by Maxwell we were sitting like this close to the stage like we had excellent seats and Maxwell was just his skin he was well shaved and clean his hair oh he was gorgeous good looking man and I just watched my ex he was just uncomfortable he kept shifting in his chair and like his face was twisted and he kept getting up to go you know get some snacks or go pee which I later found out he was texting his side chick by the way that's what narcissists do if you go out on a date with a narcissist or you're in a relationship with a narcissist and you happen to spend it with them on Valentine's Day you can best believe they're also texting the side supply, the new supply, the supply they're cheating on you with, because they got to keep their supply in rotation. You're just at the top of the chain. So at the moment, they can't mess up with you because you're the grade A, but they have all the size, trust and believe you're not the only one. So he has to toss them a couple breadcrumbs, you know, to shut them up. They get to spend the day after with him. Okay. He has, he has to keep, you know, he has to pacify the new supply, the side supply, the forever supply. So they stay in place and position, but all these supplies know about you. They know you're, you're number one at the top, you're the grade a. So, you know, they got to play their position, but nonetheless, who wants to be with someone that's cheating on you on Valentine's day? Where do they do that at? But this is no different than narcissists on their wedding day. i've coached so many women uh married women who found out their ex was cheating on their honeymoon imagine getting married and then y'all go on vacation for your honeymoon and your your husband is texting his side chick on the honeymoon that's how narcissists are because the moment marriage you're locked down it's it's they they show their true selves because you're trapped in that marriage. So Valentine's day, you get all of them, but they, they ruined the holiday. I guarantee you're going to do most of the planning. You're going to probably spend more on your gift or something else that they love to do is they steal jewelry. They steal pocketbooks, clothes from other women and they re gift it and give it to other women. My ex gave me some raggedy jewelry. I was like, where did he get this from? He did not pay for it. I could tell it was used. Oh, do you know they recycle engagement rings? As quick as they'll give you an engagement ring, they'll take it back from you and give it to another woman. So they do steal gifts from their side chicks and whoever, and they will re-gift it and give it to another woman. That's how cheap they are. Now, the narcissists that have money that are a bit wealthy, they control their victims by spoiling them with gifts and stuff, but there's no emotional connection. Here's a couple of dollars. Shut up, you know, till the next time. So I'm ready to deal with you again or sleep with you. They just, they just control their victims with money. So what about your ex hoovering you? What to expect? To all my single people, this is the time of year and Christmas where your ex is either going to invalidate you. Again, this is the time where they do the reverse hoover. And if you don't know what a reverse hoover is, is when the narcissist will deliberately disappear to try to prompt you to contact them so it could go either way on Valentine's Day, they could do the reverse hoover you are not to contact your ex, I don't care how lonely, how desperate you feel, do not pick up that ******* phone, your phone number should be changed by the way, we all know blocking does not work, narcs, narcissists will just call you from other numbers or they'll put their family and friends up to calling you, y'all need to stop playing around and change your ******* number, that irritates me so well, I had my phone number for years and I ain't ready to change, well you're not ready to heal then give it up, you, yes you can change your ******* uh, I had that number for solo, I don't care if you had that number, so don't call me for coaching if you're not ready to do the work to heal and the work that is required to heal means cutting all access off, blocking does not ******* work with a narcissist, you block that number, they will call you from other numbers, they will put other people up to call, y'all know that, quit playing with me, change your goddamn number, you secretly want to keep holding on, that's what it is, don't call me for coaching you know, crying and stuff and then saying, you know, listen, do I really have to change, do I really have to change my phone, yes you have to change your phone number, yes yes you do I don't care if you had that ******* number 20 years ago, change your number and then you're sitting up crying wondering why people keep gang stalking and bullying you and prank calling you and you you don't have no peace in your life it's your fault if you don't shut down the you know the ******* access and reinforce your boundaries and pick up the phone and call the police it's your fault at this point because you're weak and you will not change that phone number and that's how they're going to access your ass and you secretly like the drama that's why I don't **** with a lot of people that keep coming back to me oh this happened to me well you're not doing nothing to put a stop to it so what you call me for let me stop because I get upset I can't deal with toxic codependent people that call me for coaching i can't stand it um so we talked about the um the reverse hoover that's when a narcissist deliberately disappears on purpose with with the intention and the motive to get you to call because they they want you to feel ignored that ---- don't work on me please ignore me you're doing me a favor i don't want you um then the regular hoover a lot of them will call a lot of them will put the new new supply on one of their side chicks up to texting and calling and contacting you around this time again your phone number should be changed again your facebook should be deactivated until you feel well enough to get back on social media if you're not healed get off of social media the narc will have their sadistic so they know valentine's day is a sensitive time of the year and they just want to tease you and **** with you and they'll ghost you just to hurt you on valentine's day stay no contact now me oh this was the other announcement i knew i had another announcement and we're going to tie it in and wrap up this video new yorkers my Valentine's Day pizza party for single people is going down this Monday, Valentine's Day, in the heart of New York City. Everyone that emailed me about it, I have sent out all the info, the location, the time. Check your emails, and I am still if anyone still wants to go, it's not too late. You email me at [email protected] and I will send you the information. Speaking of which, this is a great segue. If you're single, don't you be at home moping and crying and depressed. Get off your ass, go treat yourself to dinner, call up a friend, go to a movie, go ice skating, go have some ******* fun. Why do you gotta be traditional? Break the rules and go have a great ******* time. Go roller skating, grab a friend and have some fun. Create your own holiday. I can't stand people that you know, stop doing the self-pity things. Get out of that victim mindset. So what? It's Valentine's Day. It's a lot of married people that are ******* miserable. There's a lot of people living together that hate each other. Single does not mean not happy, and marriage does not mean happy. I know a lot of miserable people stuck in marriages dead in marriages, so I don't get caught up with the Valentine's Day ----. I go out and I have, I make my own holiday. So on Monday I'm bringing the gang. It's gonna be a gang of us, we're gonna have pizza we're gonna be up drinking having a good time we're gonna make fun we're gonna make our own holiday and that's what i want to caution you you do the same you create your own joy and peace you are in control of your life not your ex not not your ex-spouse not you know don't even take no calls from family. If you have children, your children are your Valentine's. Another great ideal, bake cookies or make a Valentine's cake with your children. Make a special holiday with your children. Snap up out of that victim mindset and take control of your life, all right? I want to wish y'all a safe and prosperous Valentine's Day. Don't be sitting around depressed. Again, I will be kicking off my tour, my seminars, my support groups starting Saturday, May 21st in Atlanta, Georgia. Tickets will go on sale next week. Look for the flyer. I love you guys. Spiritual whistleblower with another great video. Love you guys.