Do Not Contact the Narcissist During the Holidays #npd #narcabuse #narcissist #narcissismawareness

Hey everybody, Spiritual Whistleblower here with another video on narcissistic abuse. I know it's been a minute. Let me straighten out this camera. Happy holidays, whether you celebrate Christmas, Kwanzaa, or Hanukkah, I want to extend happy holidays to you. I got plans. I'm up packing my suitcase. I'm out of here, y'all. um I'm gonna take a social media break starting tomorrow maybe Sunday and y'all not gonna hear from me for a whole week because I'm going to be on a beach getting tanned in the sun you know how I love the vacation this whole year you know I stayed on an airplane come on y'all I went to Cancun Mexico I went to Aruba I went to San Juan Puerto Rico I went to Jamaica oh man it's cold in New York and you know I love to spoil myself so I'm up packing I got a flight to catch I have to drop this video because I am running a contest I am giving away five books five autographed copies of my brand new book my family can kiss my ass but the catch is you have to be a member of Patreon okay I posted the contest rules in Patreon early this morning to give my Patreon members a heads up if you would like to um you know i'm not going to tell you what the contest rules are you have to join Patreon and the contest rules are posted there uh the the contest started today and it ends December 31st i will announce five winners on January 1st okay so if you want a free autograph copy i will write you a beautiful personalized message it's you know that's yours um yes while i'm on vacation i still will be taking um phone consultations on certain days not my whole week but i'm gonna squeeze some time in there because i'm a workaholic um so get at me if you need some coaching y'all let's see what else okay um it's christmas eve i'm so sorry this video is late but child like i said i got packing to do um i've been busy i've been busy i keep y'all out my business but you just got to wait and see. I have a children's book coming out. I'm consistent. I'm a hustler. I grind around the clock. I, I, you know, you've got to be consistent. If you want to see constant results, if you want to climb up the ladder of success, and that's all I eat, breathe and sleep because, uh, success and I work hard for it. So I have a children's book in February, um, 2022, I'm gonna have a series of books. I'm just going to be dropping them, dropping them consistently and again worldwide access i don't care if you're in africa canada australia china you'll be able to buy the book okay big pimpin so i want to talk about um with it being the holidays i did a video two three weeks ago about holiday hoovering but this is some of y'all really need to hear this video because some of y'all are not strong enough and this is not a video to tear you down or make you feel bad okay we all have been there some of us are stronger than others i'm a beast right now i wasn't always a beast i had my moments where i felt like i was going to break down i was going to die um i fell into depression you know and it took time to heal and um rebuild myself back up but today bitch can no nigga **** with my self-esteem can no no nigga convince me that I'm not a boss. I'm not a queen. Can't no ************ get in my pockets and get my money. Can't no ************ tell me what to do, what to wear, what to dress, who to ******* hang with. Oh yeah. A bitch is back on her game. So that that's a process. Healing is a process. So this video is not to make you feel bad as just, I totally understand. A lot of people are weak around the holidays. This is a very sentimental time. A lot of people are dying of COVID have died a lot of people are without their loved ones um so it's it's really this is this is a tough time for a lot of people a lot of people are very depressed so i just want to give you this friendly reminder about no contact you've got to stay no contact a lot of y'all is sitting up waiting for your ex to contact you know he in a new ******* relationship you just want to see if he's just going to contact you to see if he care you shouldn't be looking for no hoover you your numbers should be changed your ex should have no access and a lot of y'all ladies ask me well what happens if you don't you know what happens if you have kids with a narcissist and I you know I've written about this I got a whole book on co-parenting go buy the book I put everything in there but I'm gonna say again do not leave your children with your toxic in-laws because they will train your children to be narcissistic your ex will not watch your child your ex will always drop your child off on other people, including his new girlfriend. He is not emotionally attached to the child. He's just using a child to control you. And you need to be dealing with him strictly through family court. There needs to be supervised visitation. You know they make co-parenting apps. You and your baby father should be communicating strictly through the app. You both download the app on your phone. Family court can go in and see the whole conversation. Your baby father should not be able to FaceTime you or text you or call you. Your number should be changed because you and I both know he's not calling about the kids y'all keep playing around if you want to no contact let me just remind you that narcissists ruin holidays narcissists ruin holidays why and how do they ruin holidays they're jealous they're constantly projecting anything that takes attention off of them be it a person place or thing an event they will ruin your birthday. They will ruin your holidays. They're jealous of happy people. That's why they will call and contact you and you answer that phone. They don't be wanting nothing. They just want to trigger you and then they're going to disappear again. Your ex should have no access to you, honey. And I'm going to tell you something. This is what helped me get through my healing process. Let me write it on the board for y'all. Hold on a second. Now, if you're struggling because it's the holidays I want you to do this for me I want you to get a piece of paper and I want you to make draw exactly what I did I want you to make two lists bad good and I want you to write whatever comes to mind about your ex good or bad so right now I'm gonna use my ex as an example right now I can't think of any good things about him I would say the sex but the sex that was it it stopped being good when he started treating me bad this is what toxic men don't understand you treat your woman bad she will start to lose feelings and the sex will feel robotic because you didn't kill her feelings towards you she's just tolerating you at that point and trying to please you and keep you quiet which is why she keeps sleeping with you if you belittle and make a woman feel bad about herself she will lose sexual attraction to you so i can't even i won't even use the sex and say that's a good thing uh he was good at lying but we're gonna do um right now all I can think of is bad things so I'm gonna write a list whatever comes to mind about my ex this is what I want you to do okay so I've written six things here I can't I still can't think of anything good about my ex if it comes to mind I'll write it down but right now I guess because I program my mind like he's dead to me the only reason I talk about him is I use him as my last relationship I use that as like a template to teach y'all how to avoid trifling niggas like that but I killed him off a long time ago he is so dead to me I am so repulsed I don't want to look at his face he used to be handsome to me he's ******* ugly inside and out ugly his family specifically his parents trifling so right now I can't think of anything good I can't because I understand that I was being manipulated from beginning to end. From day one, he was manipulating me. Once he got me to move in with him, he had me trapped, isolated, thousands of miles away from my home, my friends, my family, my child. And it was like a cat cornering a mouse. You ever see a cat when it corners a mouse? The cat's going to tap it and play with it. The poor mouse is trapped. So when a narcissist gets you isolated, he now has you underneath his thumb. He's able to control you and break you down and um he knew that was the only way he could get me out of my element and out of New York City in order for him to break me down to be the perfect slave to be like his mother while he go out in the streets and cheat with the bitches and come to find out you know uh both baby one baby mother was in a relationship and that guy is very wealthy I now that I look back I think my ex was jealous of her relationship and his other baby mama was coming out of something her ex-husband ex-boyfriend so both his baby mothers are involved with other men so he felt worthless coming out of prison and lo and behold he calls me up because I'm motherfucking beautiful I'm ******* successful he used me to make them jealous and equally so he used them to try to make me jealous it didn't work so this list here number one violent he was very violent he brought a pocket knife he pulled it out and he tried to intimidate when he was accusing me of cheating he pulled it out and threatened me I saw him pull it out on his mother I was strangled I was beaten I was strangled on multiple occasions disrespectful not only was he disrespectful to me I saw him disrespect others okay you got to remember when it comes to judging someone off their character don't just judge them by what they do to you and how they treat you you got to closely monitor how they treat others because if they treat others like ---- they're going to eventually turn on you and start treating you like ---- so he called his mama a bitch he disrespected his mama he came in every day after work cussing his mama out that means guess what he was going to eventually do it to me anyone close around him can get that type of treatment envious jealous of my success 20 years in prison no college he he wasted 20 years he could have been in in prison they give away college degrees and ---- in prison what was he doing the whole 20 years he came out of prison no ******* degree there's only a couple things they could do in prison beat they dick which we all know they don't gamble watch tv play sports and **** each other so i figured he was gambling and ******* dudes and playing basketball that's it because he damn shouldn't use none of his time creatively or productively to get a motherfucking degree so that when he got released he was on his a-game he came out trying to find the closest piece of pussy to lay up on and get the woman and you know build himself up off the woman I wasn't having it I left verbally abusive again disrespecting his mother calling her a bitch he did turned on me messy gossipy with women in the family two-faced it okay make that list y'all and do not call your ex and do not accept anything during the holidays or ever I got a flight to catch I got to go on vacation I'll see y'all on the 31st I'm about to disappear and go have a fabulous time I love you be good to yourself and stay the **** away from toxic people God bless you