Narcissists Don’t Want You to Heal #npd #narcissist #narcissism #clusterb #gaslighting #manipulation

Hey YouTube, I'm doing another video. I should have did this the other day, but I want to talk about healing. There are too many misconceptions flying around in this community about healing from narcissistic abuse, and I'm going to put this ---- out here one time and one time only, okay, to check all the haters, because it's the haters that are the main ones saying, you know, she isn't healed. She needs to go heal. She needs therapy. So as always, me and my big mouth is about to set the record straight and check a motherfucking bitch and really, really explain how the healing process works when you're trying to recover from narcissistic abuse. Don't talk to me about therapy. You know, I've seen and read people attack me and say she needs to go to therapy. She needs to heal bitch. I've been going to see a doctor psychologist. I've seen them all for the last 15 motherfucking years, different types. Okay. And in these therapy sessions, I probably could school them and teach them more about narcissistic abuse than what they did for me. What we have to remember in this community, narcissists have credentials. That means there are narcissists on the on the higher echelon the higher level doctors can be narcissists psychologists can definitely be narcissists school teachers uh politicians and they're more dangerous oh trust and believe they they are imagine being a psychiatrist a psychologist a therapist and you have NPD, but your client who is coming to your sessions, seeking help and healing, they have no ideal. And you know, in your heart, you're not there to help this person. You're there to milk their insurance money. You're going to speak word salad. You're going to talk circles around them. You're not going to help them get to the root of their trauma and pain. You just want to run. You're going to run them in and out your office to, to collect that health insurance. that's what a lot of these doctors are now am i a huge advocate for therapy absolutely however you got to take the time to select the right doctor for you you have to find a very empathetic doctor i would like to have someone with a spiritual background someone who has gone through domestic violence who has actually experienced narcissistic abuse in other words y'all we got to start doing our research don't let any old therapist or any doctor you know speak over your life or sit there and listen to your pain and suffering and they're secretly and sadistically getting off on it okay narcissists with credentials and titles like doctors they're dangerous nurses are narcissistic I hear so many stories about toxic nurses poisoning patients and doing hateful things school teachers that are narcissistic they bully children behind closed doors while they're at school and that the parents will never know narcissists with credentials are highly dangerous so um in terms of healing don't ever come at swb swb can show you paperwork after paperwork i've been diagnosed with ptsd of course when you come from a a long history of toxic family both sides of the motherfucking family are narcissistic yes you're going to have long-term PTSD but that should not deter or stop me from helping others when every time I get on here and tell my story unfiltered because I don't want to be like anyone else in this ******* community that's why I curse and I speak the way the **** I do I never used to curse I never used to raise my voice, but dealing with one hateful ass, jealous ass, toxic narcissist, one after the next, the last 15, 20 years, this is all I've known. And I got tired of silencing myself. I got tired of people bullying me and putting me in the corner. I got tired of people stripping my identity. So this is what SWB is today. I shout, I scream, I talk about it, I cuss, I carry on, and I don't give a ****. No one's going to silence me or tell me about my healing. Bitch, I have paperwork. I've been to several therapists, psychologists. I had gastric bypass surgery in 2003. Guess what one of the requirements are? You cannot get gastric bypass surgery unless you get multiple things cleared. You got to get your heart cleared. You got to get your stomach tested and cleared. You got to get your psych psychological cleared I've been going to see psychs all my life don't ever ******* come at me and say you need to go to therapy you need help a bitch I can train and teach the psychologist better than they can teach me at this point I'm very knowledgeable they did nothing for me you know who taught me about narcissistic abuse when I had a nervous breakdown after a toxic tumultuous relationship with a narc and I went to the hospital because I had a nervous breakdown it was a nurse a nurse sat down by my bedside not a doctor a nurse said you were targeted by a narcissist that's what that's what happened to you it was a nurse not a doctor not a therapist so before you attack anybody and tell them they need to sit down and heal they need therapy no mind your business if you don't like the way that I speak you don't like that I'm unfiltered you don't like that I curse you don't like why do you watch me why boost my numbers and my views if you don't ******* like me. But that's what happens. Toxic people will speak on your life and they don't have their motherfucking facts together. How is someone who has been abused all their entire life? How do you expect them to act? Riddle me this. A child that has been raped and molested can suffer long-term PTSD well into their adulthood. Children that are born with HIV can suffer all the way into their adulthood from long-term psychological trauma how do you tell somebody they need to sit down and heal you don't you don't walk a day in my motherfucking shoes you have not i've been raped i've been molested has your mother taken a curling iron and slashed your face open and sent you to school so the kids could laugh at you how do you tell somebody how to heal over their ******* trauma especially when they have done all the work don't ever come at me one thing i've done i've put in a lot of work to heal i'm super committed to my healing all the way back 20 years back i got paperwork going to different therapists mind your ******* business what are you doing to make yourself a better ******* human being narcissistic abuse there's no end date to the ******* healing process that's where i'm going with this there is no deadline to the healing Whenever I hear somebody in this ******* community downplay another person's healing process. That's a red flag That means you're a narcissist and i'm gonna give y'all a little secret about narcs and healing I'm gonna give y'all a little secret if you've ever dealt with a narcissist whether they're in your family or your love life And you're trying to move on And they slip up and they say you know what? You need to get over it I don't understand you need to hear you need to go somewhere and heal When they're trying to speed up your healing process, you know what that says? Translation, I wish you would hurry up and forget about the evil ---- I did to you so that we can reconnect again and I can come back into your life and abuse you all over again. Narcissists want to control your healing process. Toxic people want to control your healing process. They don't like the fact that you're holding them accountable. They don't like the fact that you're getting yourself together. They want you to stay broken. they want you to sweep everything underneath the rug so that they can come reattach themselves because they like to enmesh themselves with our lives they want you to get over it they want you to forgive forget everything because they do plan on coming back inserting themselves into your life so that they can start that cycle right on up again that's why they are super evil and they they will attack you about your own healing you don't tell me about my healing process you don't control my motherfucking healing process you have not walked a day in my shoes and know what I've gone through and what I've had to overcome I have beautiful skin I have a beautiful face I don't look like nothing I've been through honey it's the power of God and I get in this community every day and I don't talk the talk I walk it when I said I was going to commit to losing weight I got up in here y'all see the results y'all see me in them sexy dresses I did the work. When I told y'all I'm going to get on an airplane and go on vacation because I'm all about my healing. I'm all about thriving. I didn't talk the talk. I walked the walk. When I told y'all I was going to throw myself into, you know, um, being productive. I'm still working on my doctorate degree, but I wrote five new books this year. I wrote and released five, not one, five books and busy launched my own um tour of support groups I've been very this is what someone who is committed to healing and thriving does they stay busy they stay active so don't ever let nobody downplay your healing process or tell you you need to sit down and heal whenever you hear somebody say some ---- like that they are narcissistic narcissists never want to acknowledge anyone's healing all they want to do is control it. And they want it. They want you to heal quickly so that they can reinsert themselves and abuse you all over again. They hate, they don't want you to heal to the point that you don't want nothing to do with them. They want you to forgive and forget. They honestly don't like the healing process. They just wish it would go away. So, um, you know, heal as long as you need to, as long as you're committed to doing self growth. Um, if you're reading self health books every day. Whatever you do, yoga, meditation, if you're going to church every week, whatever your method is of healing. And I do coach a lot of you and a lot of you have said personally to me, my therapist is not cutting it for me. I feel like my therapist gaslights me. And I always tell people, go get you a new therapist. You should be comfortable. You should feel understood. You should feel validated every time you leave a session. If you're not getting that feeling that you feel validated, understood, and if your therapist or doctor or psychologist is not knowledgeable in narcissistic abuse, they are not the one for you. It is okay to switch therapists. Do not ever let no one downplay your process of healing. It takes a long time to heal from this stuff, guys. And I'm going to tell you something. I am healed from my family. I get on here and I feel like every time I share my stories from my past, I'm being transparent and relatable. But right now my family's dead to me. I'm so indifferent. I don't want nothing to do with them. I don't call them. I don't bother them. I don't go to family functions. I don't go to funerals. They're indifferent. They're basically dead to me. So I have healed from my past. When I share my stories, it's to help people. It makes people feel validated when i share my personal stories unlike a lot of these fake ass life coaches that they hide their past they don't share their past how the **** can you come to a community of broken people who have dealt with domestic violence and and gain their trust if you're not transparent and you don't share any of your personal experiences i don't do that this community deserves truth they deserve transparency and consistency and that i am okay heal at your own pace and whenever somebody tries to tell you to hurry up and heal, or you need to go to therapy, this and that, that is a red flag. They're narcissistic. You understand? As long as you're taking baby steps in the right direction, you are on the path to healing. There is no timeline. There's no timeframe. There's no deadline to this. And like I said, you could be healed from your past. Narcissists are everywhere. They're in the workplace. They'll trigger you in the workplace. They'll trigger you at your child's school. You could go to the doctor's office and run into them. They're everywhere. so they're constantly going to trigger you they're constantly going to be poking and provoking and gaslighting this is an ongoing thing and you know I'm on the phone coaching people every day listening to horror stories so that's another reason why I'm always going off I'm angry I'm angry at all the things that people are enduring so you motherfuckers out there tell me I need to heal and go to therapy This is for you.