Who Are You to the Narcissist? Are You Recycled Prey or the One That Got Away? #npd #narcissist

Good morning from Venice Beach, California. I'm up super early. Well, it's not early to to those of you on the on the East Coast because on the East Coast I'm up really early. I get up like 5, 6 a.m. on the East Coast. But right now you guys are three hours ahead and it's about 7 a.m. here, which would mean it's 10 a.m. on the East Coast. So I'm just sitting here on the boardwalk sipping my Starbucks and I'm waiting for all these places. It's everything's closed. They open up late here which is unusual for me but good morning as promised um i want to do a video two today for you guys i'm dropping one for from the webinar series and uh this one's a regular video for everybody the webinar series is video number three on narcissistic parents if you feel or believe that one or both of your parents are narcissistic you may want to watch it um that means you were abused and it's it's the root cause of your relationship problems today okay so that's posted there um but this video here i want to talk about how the narcissist views you what is your ranking in in the narcs life once you escape the narcissist right what is your stance because once you realize this person is incredibly toxic and um very abusive then it's really not about them it's it's about you at that point and how you handle how you handle this person i'm sorry i keep playing with these braids i love them um they go all the way down past my butt i'm a very tall woman i'm six feet tall and my braids go past my butt they're really long so i'm sitting here playing with them um so to the narcissist after you leave the narcissist you are one of two things and i want you to make that determination by the end of this video you're either recycled prey to a narcissist or you're either the one that got away okay i'll say it again you are either recycled prey or you're either the one that got away which one are you? Which one are you? Are you recycled prey or are you the one that got away? Now when I mean recycled prey, did you allow the narcissist to continue to toy with you after you broke up with him or her? Did you answer that hoover? When he called, did you pick up the phone? When he popped up at your house, did you answer the door? Did you give him any type of attention when he came back around to uh test your boundaries he knows you're mad he knows he knows damn well he was abusive he knows he cheated and he knows you're upset about it but now the fun part for him is the part you know the grooming never stops after the breakup they're still trying to groom you they're trying to groom you to demote your your ranking uh they want to make you a side a side piece side chick a side dude okay now that you've been replaced they want to see if you will uh get you know be a part of that sexual rotation their whore harem the fun house the circus the zoo you know they want to see if you'll join the zoo with the rest of their zoo uh their their zoo animals their hoes whores they sleep with everybody could be an elderly person it could be a teenager because they're pedophiles gay straight they're on the download, these these motherfuckers will go to the lowest of lows, they sleep with everybody, just know that so their whore harem consists of everything any and everything and they're trying to test your boundaries to see if you'll you'll jump in that harem, you know if you're going to be a part of that farmhouse with all the farm animals if you're going to join the rooster, the pig, the cow the ducks, you're going to join, you're going to join that farm, that farm animal house, you're going to join that circus, you don't want to be a part of the the narcissist circus, you don't want to be a part of a um you know, you don't want to be a clown, you know the narcissist, his whole his circus, you know that big giant tent is full of circus clowns, they need, they need you know the narc needs as many clowns as possible, you know in his circus, are you going to be a clown, are you going to join the circus, then you become recycled recycled prey, you are allowing the narcissist to play with you toy with you recycle you sleep with you over and over again, even if you don't sleep with them you've allowed the narcissist to come in and have a conversation, uh the narcissist should not never be granted a final conversation because you and i both know that final conversation is not going to be final, they're going to make sure that they leave your head spinning, they're going to make sure they gaslight you, they're not going to accept any accountability for the breakup and you're not going to have any type of closure they're gonna spin that final conversation, you're looking for closure you're not gonna get it so you don't have to sleep with a narcissist if you even grant them a conversation after the breakup you have just communicated to them indirectly that you are willing to be recycled I don't care how you feel I don't care if you think you are on top of things if you respond to the narcissist or any of his Hoover's you have just indirectly communicated to him or her I'm willing to be recycled I'm in my emotions and I still want to know I still want answers why I still need to know I need closure I'm having a hard time accepting this no no no no no no no no no no no you you know I don't care how mad you are you are with your body language and everything else you are communicating indirectly to the narcissist that you are willing to be recycled prey you can't play with these people you y'all cannot play with these people run there's a fire truck i tell you you cannot play with the narcissist you cannot allow the narcissist to toy with you whatsoever when you walk away there's no final conversation there's no no no we're not we're not going to have no closure talk y'all gotta remember these are grown adults especially when when we get into our 40s and 50s we damn we all know better we all know right from wrong what is you going to grant a 40 something year old man or woman a final closure discussion they knew what the **** they was doing when they did it to you but you want closure yeah you're gonna get closure all right you're gonna be sitting up with with a broken heart anxiety because because you had you you you spoke to the ************ several times trying to make sense out of it and every time that they speak to you they leave you rattled disgusted emotional and they're off in the streets they ghost they disappear and they go right back to what they were doing in the streets why would you grant somebody any any more of your time and attention after they didn't play with you they showed you what they thought of you when they disrespected you or or they allowed their family members to disrespect you one or the other why would you grant somebody the honor of having a final conversation with you to to to no no no no when you do that you communicate like i said indirectly you you are communicating to your abuser that you are willing to be recycled i don't care how you try to sugarcoat it or whatever no any time you allow the narcissist the opportunity to communicate after the breakup anytime you allow the narcissist to get away with popping up on you i've had people call me say oh the narc popped up on me while i was out shopping the narcissist popped up on me while i was at work they popped up at my job at my doorstep at my house i mean let me explain something the narc has to be shut down immediately y'all playing with it you're gonna get burnt real bad playing if a narcissist pops up whether it be your job your ******* doorstep uh you could be out shopping you are to have your phone ready to record video record with your ******* phone i gotta drill this into y'all head because y'all gonna be sorry y'all hit me up like oh my god this happened that i said did you record no i didn't record okay then this white ************ is toying with you they don't take you serious you've just communicated that yeah i'm willing to be your toy yeah i'm willing to be recycled you all got to shut them down from the gate you are to always have your phone ready and press record video record they pop up at your job you tell your co-workers please record take out your phone this man is stalking me this woman's stalking me please record and please call the police y'all better smarten up you're gonna need witnesses and you're gonna need evidence don't be sitting up there entertaining a conversation because they popped up oh what are you doing here well i thought no no no no no i know why you're here you're stalking me now i'm calling the cops there's I don't want no conversation there's nothing to talk about you if there any witnesses around you if it's your job you tell your co-workers you go grab your manager your supervisor please help me take out your cameras and record this man he's stalking me I want to file a police report I'm being stalked and I fear for my life you do it on site he pops up to your house you do not open the door whatsoever you take out your phone you video record you say who is this and he says hey it's me open up what you do next while you're recording you say his name johnny I told you I don't want nothing to do with you ever again I asked you to leave me alone why are you at my house I'm calling the police you're harassing me you're stalking me get it on tape and if you have a little peephole a window on your door or there's a window in the front of your house and you can you can peep out the window and video record him at your front step that's what you do too I'm tired of telling y'all this I'll be on y'all about this y'all play with the narc and all they're gonna do is toy and **** with your head the moment you you grant them a conversation again you can't block you have to change your number in some some people's cases they have to change it a few times if you suspect you have spyware on your phone get a new ******* phone new new phone new number if you got to switch carriers you do what you got to do you don't announce your moves to anybody if you got kids together baby baby in daycare whatever and the ************'s abusive switch to daycare put your child in a daycare center and if he get mad deal with it in court but bitch you're not going to pick up my child unless you're supervised don't play with the narcissist the narcissist wants to play with you and the way that you handle the situations will tell him and her indirectly that you're willing to be played with they pop up on you you pull your phone out record you yell out for help you ask somebody if y'all are in the store I've had people say I was in and I was in a grocery store and my ex popped up on me and jumped in my face and wanted to talk you know what I would have done I would have walked up to the cashier or the manager and I said please call 9-1-1 I'm being stalked and harassed this man right here is stalking me and what he gonna do lie because the store all there's video cameras all over the store. He's already on videotape. And by you telling the manager and cashier you're being stalked and harassed, you now have a witness. Y'all better smarten up with these people. Smarten up. You're either recycled prey or you're going to be the one that got away. It's up to you. Have a blessed day, y'all. I got to get out of here.