IT'S TIME TO BE THAT ONE MF - Motivational Speech

Success isn't built in the spotlight, it's built in silence, in the moments no one else will ever know about. What people see is just the tip of the iceberg, but what they don't see is where the real story lies. It's not just about showing up when everyone's watching, it's the grind in the dark, the hours spent mastering the smallest details, and the discipline to keep going even when it feels pointless. So put in the work when no one's looking, because that's what separates those who want it from those who make it happen and there's a saying that goes no man is free who is not a master of himself ten thousand men can stand against him in the battlefield can burn but as long as the warrior commands himself no army on earth can conquer him and you are no different the comfort the cravings the excuses none of them rule you unless you let them so command yourself because the man who rules himself can never be ruled by anyone else. I don't know if I trust somebody who's never had it hard. And I don't say that because I wish struggle on anybody or I think my heart is harder than anybody else's. There's just things in this life you cannot learn if everything's been handed to you. There's humility in struggle. Your entitlement is gone because you realize you could do everything right and it could still go wrong. You appreciate your work and you find out you're not as in control as you thought you were. See having it hard doesn't make you a better person but it helps you understand when somebody else is going through it and when you've been the one that needed a hand you think twice before pointing a finger. In order to become the better version of yourself you literally have to kill off your original version because if it lingers around it's going to find you again and that's the thing people don't understand. They're like I'm looking for the better version of myself but in order to have the better version of yourself you have to have a funeral for your old version otherwise that old version is going to rise back into you and pull and try to pull you back if you don't exercise or or or draw out the potential in yourself you are going to feel depressed you're going to feel anxious because you know in your heart that you are leaving everything that you could potentially do and potentially become on the table. You cannot break someone who finds growth in everything that is sent to defeat them. You cannot break someone who finds growth in everything that is sent to defeat them. You can choose to adopt that mindset, the unbreakable one. One day you'll realize the thing that changed your life was not motivation it was a decision and a man who finally meant it failure, hell, disappointment discomfort is a great learning tool and many people don't understand that you you know you got to take ownership of what's going on in your life and you're not where you want to be and you say it's because the boss doesn't like you or it's because the girl treated you this way or the guy did this like all those things you got to take ownership of and if you're blaming all these other external things you're not going to make any changes and that's going to be a problem wishing says to your mind you haven't got a prayer but you might as well wish so when you say to the mind I wish I could it says yeah me too get over it when other people break and give up and stop I just don't right and it comes down to the story you tell yourself about yourself change is really hard I don't think people realize how hard it is because often when they think of change they think about making positive changes and so you say to people well obviously making that change would would improve your life so why is it so hard to do and the reason is because first of all change is hard because change involves loss so even though you might be moving to something better what you do lose is you lose the familiar you lose your comfort zone and a lot of us are very worried about going into a place of uncertainty a place that we haven't been before So some of us, like sort of human nature, would rather stay in the familiar place, even if the familiar is miserable or unpleasant, than to say, I'm going to risk something and go to this place that makes me really uncomfortable. They can't tolerate the discomfort of the uncertainty. The things I do in life, most of life, you're alone. You may have a whole support crew around you, but up here, you're alone. most of the stuff I do I'm training for that one those moments when you start to dive back in the cellar of your mind and you're pulling out all these all these tactics all these mental tactics to get through this and no one's coming to save you and you get through that going into the darkness I think everybody is motivated by two different things one you have the beautiful things in your life the things that are going well the things that you're grateful for the things you're moving towards instead of away you have a compelling vision of your future. It's something that you're very excited about. Now the flip side of that equation are the things that people that doubt you. It's haters. It's things you're moving away from. It's fear-based things. It's something that you absolutely refuse to let happen. One that is incredibly potent to me are the people that want to see me fail and I find in very acute moments the darkness serves you better. Every thought you think and every word you say forms a blueprint and your mind must work to make that blueprint real. Only execution matters. Burn that into your nervous system. Do whatever you need to do to remind yourself, only execution matters. When you're working on something you want to achieve, you have got to stand up to that voice. You've got to sell yourself every day on your abilities, on what you're doing, on the goal that you want to reach. You've got to sell yourself every day, every day, every day. According to your level of belief, it will manifest itself and what you're doing. The worst thing in life that happens to a man is it gets symbolized. Because you lose the hunger for life. You think you've arrived. And once you have an I've arrived mentality, that's my biggest fear. As I get to the point where I'm at that point where life has come to me and I have that feeling of I've arrived. I now know my life for what I know it to be is over. I cracked the code to shoot me the potential in myself. So it's that quiet place. It's that place by yourself. It's just hours and years and decades by yourself in the grip of life. The life has you by the throat and choking you out. And you're sitting there calm because you're trying to figure it out. You're not panicking. You're not quitting. You're not throwing the towel. You're saying, there's a way. Thinking about it, feeling good about it, those are awesome. But if you have a vision of something you're trying to do, become whatever, and you don't execute against it, I don't need you to want to build a big business. What are you doing? how do you define it? What are your deliverables? What are the metrics by which you're judging yourself? And by the way, if you don't want a grand goal, you don't need one. But then say, what I'm trying to do is get centered. I'm trying to experience happiness. Even that, you can begin to look at ways that you can improve that. Whatever we have right now, whatever we're demonstrating in our lives is a result of what we believe subconsciously that we deserve. And part of increasing that belief level is that you have got to convince yourself every day. You can learn all the techniques in the world. If you don't believe in yourself, it won't happen for you. Right now, between me and the person I want to be, between you and the person you want to be, there is a gap of skill set and that's it. But once you know your mission and once you believe that you can accomplish anything you set your mind to, then you can do the extraordinary. The thing that people misunderstand about success is they're looking for the easiest way to get there. When everybody goes five easy steps, 10 steps to greatness, those steps for success are infinite. Infinite. You cannot count them. It doesn't matter how long you've been doing it. Those steps are constantly shifting. You don't know if they're there. Sometimes you have to trust that the next step is going to be there when you can't even see it. And sometimes when you step on that step, you go right into quicksand. But you got to be able to pull yourself back out of it again. So everybody's looking for these steps, and there are no steps. Those steps never, never end. And you just can't climb steps. Sometimes you've got to crawl up those steps, and you finally get to the top, and everything shifts. It's not about external validation. It's about your relationship to yourself. And you know when your head hits the pillow at night and when you wake up in the morning what that relationship looks like. And if that's missing something, and perhaps that's a little nudge or a call to action that you need to change things up a little bit. it's always going to be the sticking point and a lot of people like i see you know they'll quit because it got hard or just because something isn't coming to them right away they'll let up a little bit kobe he's known for saying something that was quite profound he said you have to jumping on what you love what you do every day you have to love what you do every day because those days that are hard those days that suck that's where the magic is you go do it and you get your work in anyway, because that's where you're going to find out who you are. That's where things are going to continue to happen. And you have to just love putting in the daily work because that's another token in the bank, if you will, showing up, you know, striving towards your goal. When people get the challenge, it's like, stop, you know, it's not just going to come to you. There's, but you have to just stick with it. You have to, you have to really, really believe in what you're doing and you have to have faith that it's going to work out, but you got to keep putting work in because if you don't it's it's not going to come to you you know going to fall in your lap and and sometimes when you know that all right i'm going through it right now this is tough let's just take an inch forward let's go an inch forward today that'll be better than going backward you don't want to go back but i think sometimes just man just just knowing that it's going to be a challenge i think sometimes that's uh that's a good thing to know we know okay i want to this is my goal boy it's going to be a lot of obstacles in there so let me get in shape let me get in shape with my mind and my body to be able to navigate to get to where i need to get to well you come into the world alone and you die alone my friend and you've got to be on this journey of growth for yourself can't be contingent on another person and i think a lot of people who are in pain or looking you know for some you know grounding often look to that other person if I date that person then I'm gonna be okay it's never the case like you've got to be okay with yourself in order to attract that person you know into your life to begin with I don't know how you can compel that in somebody they've got to figure that out for themselves thinking of myself as the person who's just good enough to recognize that other people are better stopped me and now start thinking relentlessly about acquiring new skills that's it like whatever be inspired by people that better than you great that's amazing but don't sit there and lament which is what i used to do that you're not as good as them find out how close can you get most times we live a life of have to do i have to study i have to work i have to do this and i have to do that i have to have to have to have to where did the love to go we just end up living a life of have to and i forgot about our own selves. By subscribing to the pressures that come from all fronts in our lives, we've forgotten to live our own lives. We don't have time to unwind. We don't have time to spend with our own selves. We don't have time to be with nature and take a deep breath and just relish the crispness of the air. We don't have the time to do all of that. When the pressures are so high and the pace is so fast, we just don't have time for ourselves, ladies and gentlemen. We are just so extensively in crisis all the time, and I just wonder if this life wasn't meant to be full of love and joy and happiness. I just think we're getting it a little bit wrong. So, life is hard. None of us get out of here unscathed. It is hard. I'm not a Pollyanna minimalist on the things that cause us suffering. If you don't fix yourself with limited identities, if you do not compare yourself with anything, See, if you want this tree to grow to its fullest thing, that's why I said not the fruit, root. If you count the fruits, maybe that tree is bearing more fruit than this one, that's not the point. You nurture the root, the fullest possible nurture if you give to the root, what it has to become, it will become. A blade of grass cannot become a tree, but is it not wonderful? So I think success is a funny thing which is we all seem to pursue it, but we don't know how to measure it or actually how to define it. So how do you pursue something that you can't measure? I think we must all stop measuring promotions, salaries, and these things, but rather measure the momentum of your career. Does my career have momentum? Can I see it moving in the right direction? Can I see it gathering moss, you know? Can I see that it's becoming easier for me to keep the momentum? It's becoming easier for me to grow the size of this thing. It's requiring less effort. That's the thing we need to measure. That's the thing that we need to be cognizant of, which is the momentum of our career is not just the markers that we think define our success. We snap, we react at the drop of a hat just because we are out of balance. People who have a balanced life know how to handle pressure. People whose lives are not balanced sink under pressure. About two years ago, we were having a conversation and he said, you know, you teach the secret to life is peak state versus lousy state or being energy rich versus energy poor, that a relationship, you can love somebody, but if the energy is low, the energy is high, well, you swap those words and you swap peak state for beautiful state. I said, that works. You know, a high energy state is a beautiful state. Any state where you're high energy would be like love or joy or gratitude or drive or courage or faith or, you know, playfulness or fun. Any of those things are beautiful states. So he goes, yeah, yeah, I agree. And I said, and then suffering states would be low energy states. So that would be frustration, sadness, anger, resentment, loneliness, boredom, whatever. He goes, yeah, that's exactly right. So I can swap those. He goes, if you swap them, there's something cool that you might see or do. I said, what's that question? He said, well, he said, I've made a decision that I'm going to live my life where I'm going to live in a beautiful state every day, no matter what. Even if it doesn't, even if it rains on my parade, even if people do things that are unjust. He said, the reason is because in a beautiful state, just like you teach peak state, everything flows. And I said, well, that's pretty much what I've been teaching, Yoshi. He asked, but if you think of the lousy states as suffering states, he said, then you can end suffering just by ending the state. But I realized I didn't relate to suffering. Like if you had told me two years ago, Tony, do you suffer? Are you kidding me? I got the greatest life. I had the most incredible wife and four kids and I got 30 working companies and I'm financially free and I have a mission I love and I'm in good health. And that would all be honest. I wouldn't have been dishonest about it. But what really helped me out of that conversation, I left there and I went, well, where do I suffer? And I realized frustration is suffering. I get frustrated. I get concerned. I get pissed off. I get worried sometimes. I get these feelings. And so what I decided to do was just really create a 90-second rule for myself where I would end suffering as it arises. Because everybody tells you you're going to end suffering. It's all crap. The reason is your brain is a 2-million-year-old brain. It's not designed to make you happy. It's designed to make you survive. but there's no saber-toothed tiger for you to react to anymore so now we worry about what are people thinking of us do i have enough money over the last two years what i've done is play this little 90 second rule and if i feel tension in me i go okay that's suffering where's it coming from what am i stressed about what am i concerned about and what i immediately do is i realize the stressful thought since i've seen christianity i kind of traded one thing what i really do now is i dig in and i notice that the only time you have stress or suffer is when you believe a stressful thought. Cause what are the chances of everybody doing exactly what you think they should do the right way every day? Zero. What are the chances of the people you love doing what you want them to do the way you want to do them every day? Zero. What are the chances of you doing the right thing every day, even if you're talented and disciplined? Zero. So your happiness will never last as long as it's got expectation behind it. What I did was I began to realize I made the decision of the most important decision I believe of your life, that I'm not going to suffer anymore life's too short to suffer and i'm going to live in a beautiful state every day and the way i do it is i catch myself when i start to get that sense of stress i let it go and i see the eye to go by so your thoughts thoughts about this person messing up your business are not falling through if i was in a room with 10 000 people i guarantee you 60 70 percent of the business owners have the same thoughts at times right i ask people all the time tell me your most stressful thought oh i'm worried about my children this may happen how How many of you have had that thought? Everybody. Uh, I might not make it financially, blah, blah, blah. How many have had that? Everybody. My point is, it's not your thought, it's the mind. Not your mind. When you think it's your mind, you identify with it, and you can't separate from yourself. But when you realize, these thoughts have been around for millions of years, and I'm just thinking the same thought that so many people thought before. Like, how many people have ever thought, I'm gonna kill this son of a bitch? Now, you didn't do it, because you didn't believe you were really gonna kill them. but you felt it, you said it, you were there, right? So we all have thoughts. It's only the stressful thoughts we believe that mess us up. So what I try to show people is, if you can start to realize, these thoughts have been around for millions of years. If I told you a million, a thousand, a hundred years ago that we're gonna go to the moon and back, you'd call me a lunatic or crazy. If I said a hundred years ago, you can have a little box like this, it'll fit in your pocket and you can click on it and you can see what the weather is any place. You could click on it and see a live person on the other side of the earth and talk to them by looking in this box and the way it works is invisible waves are traveling around the earth and it pulls invisible waves in the box. You go like, read between the lines. There's no way, you dumb idiot, it's never gonna happen. So what I want you to realize is thoughts are invisible waves. When you turn on TV, it takes invisible waves and depending on the channel, you're gonna see a love story or an adventure or a drama or a comedy or a horror. The way you use your body determines which of those thought waves come through you. One moment you're pissed off, the next moment somebody makes you laugh, you change your body, you change the channel, you change what comes through you. So what I've tried to do in this very beautiful state is simple. First, identify where you're suffering, what's your favorite flavor? Are you a worrier? Are you a pissed off person? Yes, angry. What is it you do? Second of all, decide you're gonna kill that monster while it's little. You're not gonna wait till it's Godzilla taking his city. You're gonna break the pattern. You start to feel the stress. You see it as thoughts going by, And then you focus on something to appreciate, enjoy, or love. Appreciation, love, and joy destroy suffering. You can't be grateful and angry simultaneously. It's possible. You can't be worried and fearful and grateful simultaneously. So I tell people gratitude is one of the emotions to cultivate that will destroy the suffering. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today. Life ain't about medals. It ain't about ******* certificates. It ain't about houses, money, cars. Fame all that bullshit. It's about scars So when you get judged when everything is said and done with you won't get judged on your medals To get judged on your scars. Those scars show your willingness to get to the side. They show your failures They show your willingness to start from scratch They show what you're willing to do to go the distance to see what you're capable of So make sure in life don't be afraid to get scars. Stay hard There's always going to be people around that are better at something than you are. You can get bitter and you can get resentful, and worse, you can get hopeless. You really have to stop comparing yourself in some ways to other people. And the reason for that is that the particularities of your life are so idiosyncratic that there isn't anyone really all that much like you, you know, because the details of your life happen to matter. Who do you know that you can compare yourself to? That's easy. You. Yesterday. if your life isn't going the way it is now you can find someone else to blame or you could think okay how do i know if my judgment is accurate and the question is well have i really done everything i possibly could to set my life straight well so there's a there's a task living a world where there are media companies whose mission it is to deliver your eyeballs to their advertisers run the experiment pick up the newspaper tomorrow and count the number of positive stories to to negative stories and it changes our mindset and it puts us in a state of fear and your brain is the most powerful weapon once you put away your phones and your computers and all that ---- we have nowadays that's great but your brain is the only thing you have when you're going through depression when you're going through hard times you're going through real life ---- you can't google that ---- man you're alone you're alone you may have a shrink you're going through you may have a best friend you're going to but there's 24 hours in the day where you're alone in this brain and your brain is talking to you in all kind of ways and it wants to control you pull you in these different pockets if you can't control your own brain and your brain controls you you're fucked you got to tell your brain where you want to go and how you want to go and how you want to get there you got to control it if not it's over hard work the only way anything gets accomplished that's all i heard back in those days you gotta work hard go back again go back again go back again going back and going back and going back until the ---- just becomes your mind would say **** okay we're gonna figure it out you know find a way because he is not going to stop and that's how you do three things you put in yourself you immerse yourself wherever it is And you become that. Hardest part About change is not making the same choice as you did the day before. And the moment you decide to make a different choice, you're going to feel uncomfortable because you're stepping from the known into the unknown. See, you can do anything. You can get up any hour, read any book, take any class, make any change, develop any skill, do any discipline. I mean, you can do it all. When this how and the why, or when the why starts to grow, The how gets simple. Most challenges, opposition, adversity that we encounter are internal. Even though on the surface it looks to be external. Because when you come up against something, whether it be a person, situation, or circumstance, in perception, our perspective will go to a space and place that is external. When the course and the path to victory is internal. Meaning we possess everything we need in order to be victorious over the things that we encounter. But we look at problems, situations, circumstances, adversities as something to be external, when really it's something that's internal because we possess everything we already need in order to get through it. There's a peculiar magic in realizing you're not the same person who started the journey. It's not a loss of who you were. Rather, it's an evolution into the person you are always meant to become. Embrace the transformation. Fear is a mile wide and an inch deep, and so it looks like this ocean that you're going to step into and drown. But as soon as you step into it, you realize it was not that deep at all and you can keep walking through it. Face your fears, whatever they are. The fear that we might not do a good job. The fear that it might not turn out as we hope it would. The fears that are lurking there, some that have come and have been there even maybe since our childhood. Life is consisted of both fear and faith. Faith of course is the ability to overcome your fears. But what you have to do in terms of your fears about perhaps your own inadequacy, not feeling strong enough at the moment, you just have to face those fears. You just have to go to work on them. The pursuit of your goals will rarely be easy. You're going to feel discomfort, frustration, and self-doubt most of the time. But instead of getting discouraged, understand that there's growth in the struggle. You can't become someone you've never been by doing the things you've always done. Be proud of the effort you're putting in. Be patient with the results, because it's only a matter of time before you come out on top. It's a part of life. We were made to evolve and grow, and that means you're going to outgrow people. That means you're going to outgrow situations and places and things, and that is okay. Most people will not understand your obsession, your drive, and your determination. Success is a lonely journey. That's just the reality. And most people are not going to understand why you're so driven, why you're so obsessed. And if you try and make them understand, you're going to end up frustrated. The best advice I can tell you is go on the journey by yourself. It is the best journey, man. Leveling up, becoming the best version of yourself is the most awesome journey you will ever go on. But it's a journey that you will probably go on by yourself. You always have to be the person who roots for you before everyone else does. And it's usually a single clap in the auditorium for a very long period of time. It is a slow clap that's just you, rooting for you. Sometimes sitting there thinking about the life that you want to live and the person you want to be simply isn't enough. If thinking about all the things that you want in your life isn't enough to get you going, why don't you sit there and think about the things that you don't want? All the feelings you don't want to experience. All the pain you don't want to feel. If you just can't visualize the bright future ahead of you, why don't you sit there and contemplate all the darkness that you're going to be surrounded by if you don't do what you need to do? like sitting on your deathbed wishing you could do it all over again differently but you can't wishing you had done what you need to do now when it's too late to do it ask yourself the question what does the future look like if i don't do what i know i need to do once you've take that first step you've looked the beast in the face and you'll start progressing not linearly but exponentially in speed so what's cool is that it doesn't really matter how small that first step is because it'll start doubling and anything that doubles grows unbelievably quickly and so that's a very useful thing to know too I think the bigger question is do you know yourself you know I think like there's unlimited people who are successful and happy they got straight A's and there's unlimited people who are successful and happy who got D's and F's the question is who are you which version of the game are you what do you like who do you want to be and I think that's what you need to focus on you cannot wish for a strong character and an easy life each is the price of the other what if what you're going through isn't hard what if you're just sensitive at some point you have to forget what other people think about you nothing you do has to make sense to anyone else your dreams don't have to align with what others think is best for you because you're the one who has to live with the consequences of your actions start prioritizing your happiness above being a people pleaser. It's your turn to be the main character of your story. Most people are standing jobs or working things or even marriage or relationships because they fear change. Can I do better? Can I get a better opportunity? Will somebody hire me? Will somebody date me? Will somebody marry me? Will somebody want my kids that I have? That's a fear and people don't want to make change because they've already told themselves they can't do it. And when you make adjustments, when you when you stop yourself first, you're really insane because let somebody else tell you what you cannot do but in the process of that prepare for success in other words are you willing to put time in your next move stop beating yourself up and stop judging yourself we all go through chapters right like sometimes you're super in love with your partner and like that's all you can obsess about you know other times you're you know super into your profession because you got a new initiative i think this comes down to judgment stop beating yourself up there is not even a close framework for what's right. Everyone's balance is massively individual and more importantly balance ebbs and flows forever. We are not just blessed, we're privileged. We are truly privileged. There are not many people around this planet who are this lucky. Yet majority of us chooses to live in mediocrity and I've done that too. You know if we are so privileged to be this rich and we're not comparing ourselves to neighbors, we're comparing ourselves to the neighbors far far away on other continents then why do we choose mediocrity if it's in our hands to actually do something and we have to do something if we want to continue living on this beautiful planet to realize that you really can depend on yourself you you you of course have to have many great people around you but I knew that if it was going to happen for me I had to keep moving forward maybe that was a stumble maybe it was a crawl maybe it was just barely trying to put one thing in front of the other during that time but I kept pushing for it I kept moving forward and I think that's one of the lessons I still carry forward with me to this day when I see things getting tough but when I see things that seem insurmountable to other people I know we just have to stay the course we have to stay focused and we keep putting one foot in front of the other the key is to keep moving and and that's something that I think really was that turning point for me. If you actually make pretend nobody else lives on earth, nothing is scary. I think people got caught. I think they just get caught that everybody's in this framework of other people's opinions. Like, just, it's how we're raised. This is why I put out so much content. Maybe today's the day that I say it a different way that makes people realize their mom and their girlfriend and their boyfriend and their uncle and definitely anonymous people on social media and Lewis and Gary's opinions actually don't matter, the liberation to then actually do ---- and now you're doing ----, full throttle because of whether you win or lose, it doesn't matter. I have 24 hours in a day. I try to take advantage of every hour. And I have certain rules that I initially tell people on a regular basis. If you want to start living a successful life, start walking into a consistent time that you should get up every day. Don't let it deviate. If you say get up at eight o'clock, don't hit the snooze and get up at eight-thirty. I get up at four-thirty. That's is my time. I'm not a happy guy getting up, but that's a goal I set. And I would just tell you this honestly, if you're about to make a change in your life and you feel uncomfortable, that's the best feeling you can have. Because for the first time in your life, you're making a decision that's going to be best for you and not what somebody told you to do. And that's when all bets are off because you're about to enter some uncharted waters that's going to force you to challenge yourself to be perfect in so many ways, and shoot for perfection is all good. You don't shoot for average, because you're not going to hit all of that. If you shoot for perfection, and you hit good or great, you're winning. So what I'm trying to say is that sometimes when we think that we don't know the solution, we don't know the decision, it is not because we don't know. In my 42 years, I've learned that we always deep inside know the truth, but we're just so scared to face it. There's a famous formula, which I'm sure you've heard of, E plus R equals O, where E is the event, something happens to you, R is your reaction, and O is the outcome. And the only thing that matters is your reaction to whatever comes up. Because you know in life, in business, stuff's going to come up at some point. You just don't know what it is, and it's all about your reaction and how you deal with that. So to me, the biggest thing is the humility was such a factor. I didn't realize how big of a deal that was, how much that worked for me. It's like, I don't believe I'm as great as I know I am. My logical side knows that I'm up to something, but I just don't internalize it. I won't let it penetrate my soul. I think I have the ability to be the biggest deal, but I will never believe it. I believe anyone can change. It's never too late to change. And you can actually use the things in your past, use the darkness, you can redeem it. Every experience that comes your way is a tool. when we lost our home and we had to go live with my grandparents, I understood that these are just material things, that that doesn't define you. It's not, it doesn't make you. So when you get these challenges, when you have these things that come up in your life, continue to move forward, baby steps, baby steps, become intentional about what it is that you're going to do. Nobody in your family may have done that. Nobody in your community, your city, your country may have done that. But if that's what's been put here for you, take it in baby steps. Begin to see how that you're going to move forward. It's exactly what I did once I came and I understood my purpose and I understood what it is that I was supposed to be doing. I set down a creative plan as to how I was going to go about deploying that. And I think that's what you really have to do and take it in baby steps. Don't try to do the whole thing at once. Sit it down, look at it, break it down, rebuild it, put it back together, and then assign timeframes to everything that you want to accomplish and break it down in phases and then focus everything you have on that phase. We are obsessed about this idea about every one of us has a talent but the truth is that we are multi-talented and if I compare myself facet to facet to facet there is always someone who has different energy who's better at this who's better at that but what makes me valuable is the combination of what I don't have to compare myself In fact, if I compare myself, that's the surest way to depression. I promise, if you want to try. When you don't know where you're going in life, do not look four years down the line. Do not look two years or a year. You look next week, next month. You keep your goals short. And that way, as you accomplish those goals, then you can start piling up little trophies or little moments to know that you're actually accomplishing something. You're actually climbing the steps to success. When people make the mistake and their goals, but a goal that doesn't allow them to qualify success quick enough. And so I always tell people, shorten your goals, shorten your window, and that's how you find your voice. You cannot find your voice if you're trying to, if you're coming to Hollywood to be a star. Well, if you come in just to be a star in entertainment, or you're going to college, and you're trying to graduate in four years, and what you're going to do, it confuses people. That's why a lot of today's millennials, they see short-term success as a faster way of finding their voice versus a college degree those with the greatest hope have the greatest influence and I love that like there are two kinds of people in the world there are people in the world that think the world is getting better and there are people that are think the world is getting worse who do you want to hang out with and then you assign the time frames I think the time frames the timelines are the critical piece to it because that's where so many people go from just having a hobby or a a dream and I'm sure many people understand that dreams are tough because without a time frame a timeline they may just stay dreams when you assign a time frame and a plan of action to it it can become a goal and then it can become attainable and I think that's what you have to do is it brings it makes it very present that you have your work cut out for you you know what you need to do and now it's just about doing it let's come out of this leaning into humility and Gratitude, and that will be the springboard to everything you know. You know, just be grateful. Like, grateful for the time you're spending with family now, grateful for the innovation time, the thinking time. Gratitude and humility. The single most important thing in your life is your dream. It's your dream. It's what you dream about. If you see it, you can achieve it. If you don't have vision, get in this world. You need something to sustain yourself through that. It's not optional. because the the price of existence is so high that without that sustaining meaning it it corrupts you it it embitters you and and once you're embittered things go downhill rapidly you get vengeful and and you get angry and and you get destructive and then there's really no limit to that and i've been suggesting to people that the sustaining meaning that they can find in their life isn't to be found through happiness, let's say, because happiness doesn't work when you're not happy, when things have gone badly for you, even for accidental reasons. But you can find sustaining meaning and responsibility. Because God sent you here, and no human being came to this planet empty. No matter what you've done, if it didn't kill you, there's more left. Turn your wounds into wisdom. you will be wounded many times in your life you'll make mistakes some people will call them failures but I have learned that failure is really God's way of saying excuse me you're moving in the wrong direction a fixed mindset is when you believe your talent and intelligence are fixed traits a growth mindset is when you believe your talent and intelligence are malleable traits that you can actually change them you can improve them you can get better over time smarter over time more competent over time and to do that you just need to reframe the failure as a learning experience so that's one of the big ones people that can really fail without losing their enthusiasm you've got to stop asking how little you can get away with and start asking one of the most powerful questions in the universe which is how much can you bear you came here loaded and you came here to make a deposit and deposit you will make and if If you don't make, you are a generational thief because you stole from the next generation. The next generation is supposed to benefit from what you came to deliver. And if you settle down on what you've done and not do what you could do, then you robbed them of what you came to leave for them to enjoy. That is why you should never allow what you've done to stop you from doing what you could do. Take responsibility for yourself, and that works. And then if you do that properly, you can take responsibility for your family And then if you do that properly, you can take responsibility for your community and you can continue to burden yourself voluntarily, let's say, with a greater and greater range of existential challenges. And all that that does is make more and more and more of you. And that works as an antidote to the catastrophe of life. The highest, grandest vision possible for your life because you become what you believe. When you wake up in the morning and your life means something to somebody other than you, that you have a purpose. If you don't go do the things that you're going to do, people's lives will suffer. And I think that that kind of purpose, that like to live in service, not to you, but to live in service to humanity, to live in service to your family, to live in service to your church, to your city, to your country, to the world. Living in service is that I feel like that is the purest form of joy. Woe is me. It's not my fault. It was so and so. They did it to me. I want you to stop that immediately. Remind yourself that you own your life. Remind yourself of cause and effect. Remind yourself that you are in control. You could make a different decision and you could get a different outcome because you can't control the world. You can't control other people. You can only control yourself. And between that stimulus and that response is your ability to make a different choice. You can be still long enough in all of your endeavors, the good times, the hard times, To connect yourself to the source, I call it God, you can call it whatever you want, to the force, nature, Allah, the power. If you can connect yourself to the source and allow the energy that is your personality, your life force, to be connected to the greater force, anything is possible for you. I'm talking about being honest with yourself about what you're doing, about how you've performed, about whether or not you're being weak in something. Because if you're being weak, the only problem with that is ignoring it, is pretending like it's okay, is not holding yourself to a standard. It's going to happen from time to time. But if you're not honest with yourself about where you are, if you're not having that hard, direct talk, then you're never going to make progress. You've got to make a decision. Listen to me. You got to make a decision. What's the decision? What's the thing you came here for now? We're at the moment. The clock is ticking people say all the time. Hey life is short Let me tell you something, life can be long. You bury your dreams, you quit, this life gets long See, time's relative. Two minutes of you being with your sweetie doing whatever you like to do with them that can go by quick Right, what about the last two minutes on a treadmill? Does that not seem like it goes by for like four hours, right? So if you're enjoying it it's short. If it's painful, it's long. Life can be long. When you lose your job, when someone you thought you'd be with for the rest of your life said, no, we can't do this no more. That's when you have to stand. That's when you have to begin to live this faith. And that's not on you. That's when you got to call on something. How do you let that mind be in you? You got to be out of your mind to believe in spite of these numbers, you can still make it. In spite of the pain you're feeling, you can still come back again. I believe it.