A Medium and A Mortician Have an Honest Conversation While Cooking

People say to me, well, do spirits look at you when you're naked in the shower? Or if I'm having sex, is my dead father seeing me having sex? You know, you get questions like that. Sometimes people come to the funeral dressed like they're going to the club. Love it. Where they look like liquid people walking down the hallway. And I was like, oh my gosh, is that my unborn son? I think our conversation is going to be really interesting today. Since we're making truffles, I'm a little bit more excited. Make an assumption about me. That you like dead people? Yeah, well, I like them better than living ones. I don't know if they can hear me, but I try to talk to them anyway. I was driving a woman to her funeral, and I felt like she would like some country gospel. So I put on Dolly Parton and Alan Jackson. I love that. Yeah, I remember thinking, I hope she likes this. My assumption was that you are constantly hearing voices. Constantly depends on if I'm checking in or out. There's always someone with me that's probably a dead person. What's really hard is when you're on a date and then someone's family member shows up on the date. That's not the funnest thing. I could see that as a buzzkill. This is weirdly satisfying. What led you to your current profession? Both my parents died kind of young. I was confronted with death, and I thought, how can I channel this in a healthy, positive way? It was kind of my mission to help people. My mom looked really bad. Her embalming was really bad, and so I really wanted to be good at this and make sure other people's loved ones look good. I started out as a mental health therapist. My mentor was like, you know, you're really good at reading people, but I didn't know that I was reading them. I thought I was a really good therapist. I called a medium, and she said, well, you know, you're kind of a medium, right? I was like, yeah, probably. And within a few months, I started seeing spirits really intensely. It's like she triggered me. There's actually kind of like a Hogwarts that we go to to train, believe it or not. It's called Arthur Finlay. Sounds way cooler than funeral school. The fillings go in there, and then we mix. What do you believe happens after someone dies? Well, I guess I know physically what happens to them. People ask me, do spirits follow you around? And I feel like they stay where they are, and I'm caring for their shell. I see them, obviously, walking around casually. They're right here with us, actually, all the time. They're just in a different vibrational pattern, so their frequency is different than ours. When you release from the body, your frequency raises, and then you are in your consciousness of love. And some people are doing their hobbies, and some people are hanging out, and some people are still learning. You know, with people that maybe died with depression, or, you know, of tragic means, I often see them in like a spiritual hospital, and they're kind of like in recovery, and they're getting supported, you know, by angels and loved ones who are helping them kind of in their process of evolving to be in another state. I want to be a fleshy ghost. Yeah, I mean, sometimes I've seen people who come kind of like the Matrix, where they look like liquid people walking down the hallway, and that kind of freaked me out when I was staging my house. And this little boy, like, started running down, and I was like, oh my gosh, is that my unborn son? And he was like a liquid person, and I was like, this is freaky. Oh, it says put it in a Ziploc bag. What's that? This is cool. In what ways is your career misunderstood? That's a good one. There's a lot of controversy that I'm of the devil, or that I, you know, summons devils, or a con artist. Those are kind of things. When really I'm just a servant of love, I think what I do is a miracle, to be quite honest. People think that we are really sad all the time, or that our job is sad. But, you know, we're celebrating lives, and so it doesn't always have to be sad. And we do have a bit of, you know, morbid humor at work. You have to be. Yeah, it helps us get through. It's a difficult job, so it helps us get through the day. Do you have, like, a playlist, like when you're doing the whole body work that you have that gets you in the group to, like, do what you do? Yeah, I do. What's your song? Like, the funeral embalming song. What is that song for you? Beyonce's Lemonade. Oh, you're playing Lemonade when you're literally playing the keyboard. Wow. Yeah, it's like cooking. Everybody has a different recipe. All right, this is definitely getting there. I don't know how melted we need to make it, but. Oh, I'll let you take that one. No. Reincarnation. I'll add those to yours. I don't... My family's from India. You know, people in India believe in reincarnation, but I just don't know. There's so much unknown. Okay. So I absolutely believe really more in past lives. I really believe, like, our spiritual energy just continues infinitely with no stop and no beginning, and so we just put on the new outfit of the new body and the new clothes that could be a different gender, could be a different race, could be a different socioeconomic group. Can we come back as another species? You know, that's debatable for me personally. I do believe our animals do come back and find us. Yeah. So I believe that we do find soul families, soul members, animal, non-animal, that are coming back and meet each other over and over again. For purposes of growth and learning, yeah. I desperately want to come back as a cat. You would be a cool cat breed, for sure. Meow. I actually had a 90-year-old woman who was so beautiful. I had a lot of fun making her look nice, and then her family said she looked too sexy. Oh, wow. Well, I will tell you, sometimes people are characters when they pass. I mean, I had this one guy confess that he was a porn star. And he confessed that and showed his, you know what, to confirm his talent. And he sat on my lap and almost gave me a lap dance. It was a complete thing. And I'm talking to the girl who used to be his fiancee who said that's absolutely him. It's totally true. I was very embarrassed. He kind of made out with me a little bit in spirit. But it was entertaining. I mean, he brought me so much fun. Most people come to the funeral dressed like they're going to the club. Love it. People don't really come to me with the fear of dying. Some people are nervous about me seeing them naked. Regardless of what they give me, I always put a pair of socks. Because you feel like their feet are cold? Mm-hmm. I had a beautiful woman that lost her hair and eyebrows because of chemotherapy. Yeah, yeah. And I actually used her own hair to cut and make eyebrows for her. That's amazing. Yeah, and I was really proud of that. We do have something of a tummy tuck when everybody gets a little tummy tuck. Yeah, because we remove cavity fluid and so the tummy just goes right down. And we do fillers, too. Like fillers? Mm-hmm. You get your lips pumped or your cheeks filled? I do a lot of things because that's a bit of a skill, too. Are you like a Juvederm or like a Radiesse? It's interesting. People say to me, well, do spirits look at you when you're naked in the shower or if I'm having sex, is my dead father seeing me having sex? You know, you get questions like that. They just see us as light. Mm-hmm. So we're just light to them. So they don't see us in, like we don't see them in their form. They don't see us in our physical form either. Was your assumption about me correct? Yes, actually, yeah. Yeah? I felt my assumption was that we would have a really illuminating conversation and it has been. You know, my assumption about you is that you would be just open and down for anything because you obviously deal with the most vulnerable experience Okay. Cheers! Cheers to deep and dark conversations. Mm-hmm. And to our friends around us. That's literally the life and death of us. Just by chocolate. That's absolutely right.