MOTIVATION!!

What's up? Oh, I just heard that there's a renewable kickboxer. So, what's up guys? My name is Thomas. My wife, Ashley, is very shy, so she might come up here. I'm going to give you guys a background on where I came from. I'm number 9 of 11 kids. So, my mom had 11 children. We're all from the same mom and dad. I grew up in Reno, Nevada. I moved here when I was 13 years old. My family was very poor growing up. We never had the opportunity to buy things. If I wanted school clothes or I wanted new clothes for the year, I had to earn money to buy my own clothes. I didn't have the opportunity. I came home, I want those new pair of NMDs. I want a pair of Yeezys. You guys know what Yeezys are? Everybody wants a pair of Yeezys, right? I was that person that I was like, okay, if I want something more, I have to go out and do more, right? So, I was like, well, I loved clothes, dude. I loved dressing good when I was younger. So, I was like, you know what I'll go and do? I'll go and rent people's leave, their lawns. I'll go and mow lawns. I'll go do whatever I can to make a little bit extra money so I can have my own stuff. And that's the way I had to do it growing up. For six weeks of my family's life, we camped because my parents couldn't afford to pay rent in the house with all of us kids. For six weeks, you guys, we camped in a campground and we ate hot dogs and top ramen and it was my eight oldest siblings that had to do it. So, I actually didn't have a bed until I was 17 years old. And you guys know how I got a bed? My girlfriend bought it for me, this girl right here. She bought me a bed and I had to share a room with my siblings and I would either sleep on the couch or on the floor my whole life. And to this day, we have a really nice mattress in my house and I have a great home and I wake up on the floor in the morning. How many times a day do you wake up and I'm laying on the floor, babe? How many times a day? How many times a week? Seriously, probably six days out of seven, I wake up on the floor. And it's because I've just done it my whole life. So, I sleep on the floor. Even to this day, I just enjoy it. And you know, I've never had back problems. So, I think if we did a study on people that sleep on the floor versus people who sleep on $10,000 mattresses, I feel like I'm winning. And I'm pretty active. Like I do a lot of stuff, you know what I'm saying? So, that's kind of like a background of my family's financial situation. When I was 13 years old, my oldest sibling, he was 24, he was a person I looked up to. He took gold in the junior Olympics for point sparring. It's fighting. It was the fighting in the Olympics at the time. He was a gold medalist. So, I was 13 years old and my mom got, my uncles came over to our house and told us that my brother died. He died in a car accident. It was devastating for my family. But I remember thinking, I was like, okay, that's the only bad thing that could happen in my life. You know what I mean? Like when a sibling dies, you're like, all right. I don't know. Has anybody here had a sibling pass away? Anyone? It's very devastating. It's something that you're like, okay, nothing more bad could happen to me, right? That's as bad as it gets. Well, I was 14 years old and I got a phone call from my sister that my nephew passed away. He was eight weeks old and he passed away of sins. And I was like, man, my nephew really died? How is that even real? My brother already died. My nephew can't die. Seven days later, that same sister whose son died, her husband passed away. He died exactly seven days later. They had the funeral and three days after the funeral, he passed away too. So then you got to imagine where we're at. My family's like, okay, like that's it, dude. No more death in my family. There's no way anything else could happen. I have twin boys, they're four and they're the cutest kids you guys will ever meet. I'm not even joking. Their names are Simon and Colin. Well, we had a third son. His name was Milo Tai. When he was five months old, he passed away of sins too. I was living in Ogden on 25th street and we just got back from a cruise. We were on a cruise in the Bahamas and I came home and we got one day with him after I got back from that cruise. My family had had him. Ashley went to the store. I was home watching him and I had a feeling to go upstairs and check on him and he wasn't breathing. So I'm certified in infant CPR. So first thing I did, I started working on him. I went to work and I didn't have my phone on me. Ashley had it. So I couldn't call 911. So I ran across the street, got someone to call 911 for me. I laid him down on my walkway until the ambulance got there and I performed CPR on him and I watched his life leave his body. It's really weird to explain, but in a situation like that, you'll understand if you're ever there, you'll understand what I'm talking about. So I stopped doing CPR on him and my neighbors are hovered around me and they're telling me to keep going. I'm like, I'm not going to keep going. Then the ambulance pulls up and I was like, okay. I had a sense of relief and I was like, all I could think about is what am I going to tell my wife? What do I say to her? How do I bring this up to her that our son just passed away? And she pulls up as the ambulance is in the driveway, taking him away. And she has this look on her face and I just collapsed and was like, our son passed. Our son died. And she's like, no, he's fine. He's fine. We go to the hospital and they're doing CPR. I'm still in the doctor comes to me and the whole room of nurses and doctors are crying. And he's like, do you want me to keep going? And I was like, no, go ahead and just stop. And then I held him there for a little bit. And we went through a situation like that, which was probably the hardest thing I've ever been through in my life. And then it made me kind of numb to tragedy a little bit. Cause I was like, man, that is so, that is horrible. 2014, this happened last year, 2015. My mom called me and said, Thomas, I have really bad news. And I was like, what? Bring it. I'm like, what else? Come on. I can handle it. My sister passed away. She died in my mom's bed. She had a heart, a pacemaker and it failed on her and she passed away. So I was like, okay. I told Ashley and, and we were like, we're a little devastated. You know, like it was, wow. Another sibling died. That's two out of 11. So I got nine left. There's nine of us left. And she is the one that lost the husband and the baby. And she has four other kids. So she's got four of them that are still alive. And my mom raises these kids. One of them staying with me right now, his name is Thomas. So they've been through a lot, a lot of tragedy. Well, two months, three months later, July, my brother, seven, his name is seven. Well, I heard he went missing. They went camping up at fine view and he's missing. And I was like, no, dude, I'm like, he's fine. Like everyone's just freaking out. He probably just wandered off and it's doing his own thing. Well, then I got another phone call that he drowned in Pineview. I don't think I saw it last year. It was a person who drowned up at Jefferson Cove. So that was my brother. So I've got three siblings that have passed away. Two of them in one year, the year before my son passed away. And I get people ask me all the time. They're like, how do you guys keep going? Like what, what keeps you, what keeps you pushing forward? And I'm like, you guys, it doesn't matter how many times you fall down. It matters how many times you get back up. You guys heard that saying before. I live by that. I have to push through. We have a lot of followers on Instagram and Facebook, and we have our own YouTube channel. You guys can go check out. And could you imagine if people were watching us in their eye with how many eyes are on us? And I gave up and I was like, you know what? Way too many people have died. I'm done helping. I'm done trying to inspire. I'm done trying to make a difference. I quit. I'm actually going to give up. I'm not going to get back up this time. How many people would, would just be devastated by that? I have to live by that example and try to inspire people and let them know no matter what you've been through and no matter how hard life gets, you can always keep pushing forward. A 70 year old billionaire was interviewed and he's talking about his failures and how many times he's failed and fallen down and gotten back up. And he says, you know what? The most important thing I learned out of all that I, all that I failed and all that I've been through, the most important thing is, is if you fail, nothing bad happens to you. It's okay. So you fail. What happened? All you can do from that is take it as a learning experience. If you fail at something, it doesn't mean you suck. It doesn't mean you're bad at it. It means so what? So you failed. What can you learn from what you failed at? What can you take from it? Right? The world will always forget. The whole world will always forgive your failures. Did you guys know that? The only person that remembers your failures is you. Ashley has tried so many businesses and failed at them. She's been a cake decorator. She has been an interior designer. She is decorated. She had a little booth out of the quilted bear. She made cookies. She has done so many different businesses and failed at them. But guess what? Now she has a multi-million dollar organization that has ran specifically under her that makes over $7 million her business makes a year because she continued to push forward and not give up. Could you imagine after the first time she failed if she was like, you know what? That's a wrap. What about the third time she failed? No, that's a wrap. It took her like seven businesses before she succeeded. So when you guys fail at something and if you're not good at it, she was not a good entrepreneur is what most people would say. But now people look at her and like she's a phenomenal entrepreneur. She's amazing. She's so inspiring that if I could ever be where she is at, I would be happy with my life. I just always had a feeling that, you know, after we were going to be entrepreneurs, I always do that ever since we graduated high school. I was like, we're going to start a business. I wasn't sure which one. So I started, I think 12 about, I used to do eyelash extensions and nails at work in salons. We opened a salon, we shut that. We've, I mean, we've done so many things, but I came across something on Facebook and it's a business I'm a part of now. And I just had a really good feeling about it. And even though I wasn't really successful at first, I just had a good feeling about it. And after about eight months, I became really successful in it and then ended up becoming one of the top earners in the company. And, um, I think because we always had that mindset, we always lived by the law of attraction and, um, whatever you think about, you bring about kind of, you know, so I guess that's, I can talk all day about my business, but I can't, I don't know about this stuff. So something that I learned early on in my life is that you become an average of the five people you hang around. So I want you guys to think for a minute, think of the five people that you associate yourself with. So when I say you're going to become an average of the five people you hang around, when I decided I was going to change my five was right out of high school. I was like, okay, who could I hang around that I want to be an average of? And I couldn't find one person. So what I did is I found five authors of books that are success is Scott Alexander, Brian Tracy, Augmandino, Dave Ramsey. I found these authors and I was like, you know what I'm going to do? I'm going to read all of these books and I'm going to associate myself with every book these authors have written. And that's who my five people. So I created my five people from people who aren't really my friends, but all I do every day. And to this day, I use the five people that aren't even near me to be an average. If I can become an average of those five self-made millionaires, what does that make me? If I'm an average of millionaires, I'm a million because I'm an average of all these millionaires, right? So now after I made those people, my five, two of those authors are my friends on Facebook and write me every day. I'm going to go on an adventure with Scott Alexander, the author of rhinoceros success, because I made those people my five. I wanted to be an average of someone that was great. You can become an entrepreneur. You can own your own business. You could do anything you want to do in your life. You just have to pick and choose what you want and run at it. You can't give it halfway. Every success book I've ever read says to be successful at something, you need a hundred percent. You have to give a hundred percent. You can't be like, well, I kind of want to do this and I kind of want to do this and I kind of want to do this. So I'm going to do like one third of each percent. You can't do that. You have to say, okay, this is what I want to do. And I'm going to go get it. I'm gonna do everything I can in my power to get that goal and what I want. Have you ever heard the term you can do anything, but you can't do everything that goes along with that a hundred percent focus for success, right? Imagine that. Think about it for a second. I can do anything I want, but I can't do everything. You want to be a professional soccer player? Guess what you got to give up? Video games, man. I feel like I see his hands up and they're like, I just want to play some Call of Duty. So guess what, dude, that time you want to spend playing video games, dude, go run, go get so fast, go create so much power that you're just, you shine, you're different. We have to give that a hundred percent focus. We can't do everything, but we can do anything. I had sponsored snowboarding, I had sponsored skateboarding. You know what I did? I was big on a hundred percent focus on things. I want to be successful, right? So I took all those out of the, off the table. But I'm not going to skateboard anymore. I'm not going to snowboard. I'm going to give everything I have. Within those three years, the first two years, I became the most known fighter in Utah. I had the USA kickboxing team call my gym and say, Hey, we want Thomas to come try out for the USA team. There are 3000 competitors. So I was like, come on, like, let's be real. I'm not going to, there's way too many people they want. I made the team. I fought in Ireland. I fought all over the world. I'm the two-time North American kickboxing champion. Within those three years, because I gave a hundred percent focus and everything I had to fighting, it paid off for me, right? You guys don't understand how powerful your mind actually is. You guys have to put whatever you want out there and make it happen. Earl Nightingale is, does this video on YouTube called the strangest secret. A farmer will plant a row of corn and then he'll plant a row of deadly nightshade. It's a poison. Nightshade is a poison that will kill anything that grows. He says, what happens to that corn when it starts to sprout? If you plant that nightshade next to it, it'll die. The corn represents whatever dream, whatever goal you have, whatever you want, but the deadly nightshade represents any doubts, any fears, any excuses you have. What do you want to be man? What's your name? Lorenzo. Professional soccer player. So what are you doing to achieve that goal right now? Are you playing soccer? I didn't make the team this year. You made the team that year? I didn't. So that doesn't mean anything. No. So all that means is you didn't make the team this year, but we still got next year. Yeah. You still got summer. You've still got so many things you could do. Just because you didn't make the team doesn't mean you're not good enough to make the team. The fact that you didn't make the team could be your deadly nightshade, right? You could say, you know what? I want to be a professional soccer player, but I didn't make the team in high school. You know, Michael Jordan got cut. You know, he didn't make the team. They said he wasn't good enough. Who's the greatest basketball player we talk about today? Michael Jordan, man. So what could you do Lorenzo? Right? Yeah. I'm bad with names dude. So what I'm saying is you could use that deadly nightshade as your excuse. Can you imagine if I woke up and was like, well, I'm going to be a world champion, but I'm just probably not good enough. There goes that deadly nightshade. There goes that poison that's going to kill my dream. If I wake up and say, I'm going to do everything I can to be the best, I'm going to keep pushing. It doesn't matter if I lose. So what? You know, I'll share with you guys something. My greatest fear in my life, my biggest fear, the thing I'm most afraid of is fighting. Can you believe that? My greatest fear in my life is to fight. Ashley's biggest fear is public speaking, but guess what she has to do? She has to get up at a conference at her work in front of 20,000 people and talk. So like she she's too afraid kind of to get up here and talk a little bit, but she'll get up in front of 20,000 people. I'm like, and she gets up there and she's so nervous all the time and she's squeezing my hand. I'm like, man, you got this. You got it. Then she gets up there and this calmness comes over her. She's so amazing. She's just so relaxed. She doesn't shake at all. She speaks very fluently. Everything comes out perfect, but it's her greatest fear. So she is doing her greatest fear all the time. Public speaking at her conferences. I'm fighting doing mine. What's your greatest fear? You can share it. No one's going to hate talking to people. It's scary, right? Have you ever, have you guys ever like faced a fear and regretted it? You would never turn around and be like, why did I do that? I'm so stupid. You'd have this feeling that I'll do that again. What is your goal? Oh, that's Ashley's car. That was her on her dream board. She bought one. Yeah, they're dope. They're good cars. Her Range Rover smokes my Mercedes. I have a Mercedes C300 and her Range Rover is so much faster than it depresses me. I will persist until I succeed. I was not delivered into this world into defeat, nor does failure course my veins. I am not a sheep waited to be prodded by my shepherd. I'm a lion. I refuse to walk, to talk, to sleep with the sheep. The slaughterhouse of failure is not my destiny and I will persist until I succeed. I have to tell myself that quote every day, because I want to do something so much bigger than just make money. I was telling Ashley on my way here, I was like, babe, I'm like, I feel like we could do something so much bigger. We can make a difference. Like we can actually change the world. You know why I say stuff like that? Because I believe that I can. I believe that us together, we put our minds together. We can do anything we want to really make a difference in this world and change it, to do something so much more than we've ever done. So you know what my new goal is? I want to change the world. I want to do something so much bigger than anyone I know has ever done, not for myself, but because I want to make somewhere a better place. I want to make a difference for someone. If we, instead of bringing people down when they tried something new, brought them up, how much of a difference could we actually make in this world? Imagine what we could change if everyone was lifting everyone up all the time. We were always trying to motivate. That's how we can make a difference in the world, right? How many times have you been knocked out? Never, never been knocked out. I've been hit so hard that I see four people, but I've never been knocked out. And guess what? I got a 25% chance when I see four of you, I'm going to hit you. I like my odds. I broke this kid's nose and his orbital socket. I'll tell you what, you know what I did after the fight, right? When I won, I didn't jump up on the cage and celebrate. I knew I broke that kid's face. I got on my knees in the middle of the cage and I looked at Ashley and I told her that I loved her. And then I crawled over to him as he's bleeding out of his eye and his nose. And I told him, I said, Hey, just because you lost doesn't mean you have to give up on your dream of being a professional fighter or being a world champion. But just because I beat him, didn't mean that I had to jump up and celebrate that I just broke this kid's face. Instead, I crawled over to him and told him that Mike, you're an awesome person. And I hope you don't give up on your dream of being a fighter. Just because you lost, just because you failed, doesn't mean you have to give up. If there are fighter fans, then yes. But my wife is very famous. And she's like Facebook, Instagram famous. Now that is, we're like, we'll go places and people will go. We go to like, if we go to Florida to the events where her company is at, she's like Kim Kardashian there. She'll get like a line of hundreds of people. And then I just stand there. I'm like, you guys, I'm like almost a world champion over here. No one wants to take a picture of me. No, for real. They're like, Oh, can you take a picture of us? I'm like, I'm on the USA kickboxing team. You guys are in a position right now where college is coming up and your applications for what schools you want to go to are coming up and you got to really sit down and be like, okay, if I'm going to do this, I'm going to do it a hundred percent. I'm going to charge at whatever I have to do. Like Scott Alexander says, he's the one who wrote rhinoceros success. You have to charge a hundred percent on whatever you want to go and do and go and do it. Go to school. If you don't think you could be something, you got to really evaluate where your situation is then because you can go do whatever you want to do. You can go be whatever you want to be. You guys can go do whatever you want to do. You just have to believe you can go and do it. Any more questions? I was just going to say that. You guys are all going to be in my YouTube video. So I just think in a situation like that, talking with those kids, you've got to open up to them and show them that you actually care about them by sharing certain fears that you have. Like I shared with them my fears. I shared with them like really terrible things have happened to me. And it gave them that ability to open up to me and be like, to share with me their fears, you know, to not be afraid to be like, okay, well this is what I'm afraid of. I'm afraid of dying. I'm afraid of failure. And when he said he's afraid of failure, the kid who didn't make the soccer team, I felt so much emotion for that kid that I wanted to just hug him. I know it sounds weird, but I wanted to be like, hey, it's okay. You didn't make the soccer team. It's okay. Guess what? I used to suck at everything I tried, but I just didn't quit at it. And I continued to push forward and get better at it. It tears me apart that people like that, because he didn't make the soccer team think that they should just stop playing soccer. My dream is to be a pro soccer player. I didn't make the team. So I'm just going to quit forever. So I know you just have to open up to them to get them to open up to you. And that's how you can really show them that you actually care about them. Please subscribe. Ow!