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The maintenance cost of our house is from 6 months to 12 months. Our house is about 12 months old. The maintenance cost. Yes, the maintenance cost. The next step is to invest in stock. Hello everyone. I'm Thuan. Welcome back to my channel. Today, I have a very special guest. This guest has appeared in my videos before. I think you can guess. But this is the first video that this guest has talked to us directly. That's Peanut's dad and Henry. Hello everyone. Can you tell me a little bit about your feelings right now? Do you feel nervous? I'm quite nervous because it's my first time uploading a video. The other day, I posted a Q&A on my Instagram story. Moms asked me a lot of questions about taking care of their children, husband, financial issues in the family, financial investment issues, in general, issues about small families. So I decided to make a Q&A video to answer the questions of moms about these issues along with Peanut's dad and Henry. I think to make this video natural, we will eat lunch and answer the questions of moms. It will be more natural. OK. Do you feel hungry? I'm hungry. OK, let's cook first. Yeah, let's go. Our video today is sponsored by Boni Meat. I think this meat is not only delicious but also convenient. Especially in the days when we have a lot of work, we can cook very quickly. Yes, that's right. I think for small families who are busy, we can prepare a few boxes in the house like this. It's very convenient to cook, and the dads can do it too. So today, you do it, I'll do it for the dads. OK. One thing I really like about this Boni Meat pan is that it's super easy to take the meat out of the box. You just need to open the plastic cover like this, then remove the metal cover to open the box. Then you just need to shake the box like this to take the meat out. Oh, look at this. The meat is full of the box, and it's not soggy. The price is so good compared to the quality of the meat box like this. Here, the lean part and the black fat part are like this. People call it the lean meat. Because this is lean meat, so when cooked, the outside will be crispy. And the inside is soft, so it will be very fragrant and delicious. Now we're going to pan-fry it. If you use a non-oil pan, you will put this Boni Meat pan in and set it at 180 degrees for 7 minutes. You just need to pan-fry the meat until it's golden on both sides like this. It's very fast. Oh my God, the meat is cooked. It smells so good. Today, we're going to eat fresh water spinach soup. Oh my God, it's so delicious. I'm so hungry that I'm going to throw up. It smells so good, Dad. Yes. It smells so good, right? Yeah. Let's eat. Let's eat with us. Today, we have Boni Meat, white rice, fresh water spinach soup, tomatoes, and kimchi. What's your favorite kimchi? It's orange juice. And rice. Wait a minute, I'll get my phone. Because I'm going to eat and answer everyone's questions. Oh. Let's try the meat. Oh my God, it looks so good. Yeah, try it. It's delicious. Yeah. It's so good. Wrap it with rice like this. Oh my God. Mmm. It smells so good. It's crispy on the outside. It's soft on the inside. Mmm. It's so good. When I made spinach, spinach was very important. Yeah. Do you use preservatives? Ah. Normally, meat is used for preservatives, right? So I usually limit it for my children to eat. But Boni Meat uses preservatives from natural sources. It's from celery. So it's very safe for babies. So mothers can give it to their children, small children and peanuts. Oh. The first question is from Anh Tran's mother. How do you divide taking care of your children? I'm an expert. I'll answer. Expert? When I gave birth to Peanuts, I gave all my work to Mr. Vinh. And I quit my job to take care of Peanuts and Henry. So I work and take care of my children at home. And Mr. Vinh goes to work at 9 o'clock in the morning and comes home in the afternoon. I stay at home to take care of my two children. In the afternoon, when Mr. Vinh comes home from work, he will bathe Peanuts and play with Henry. In the evening, he will play with his children. On Saturdays and Sundays, my husband and I don't go out at all. We spend all the time on Saturdays and Sundays to take care of my children, take them out and play with them. Fortunately, my husband and I also have grandparents to help us take care of Peanuts and Henry. Because I stay at home to take care of my two little friends and I also work. So when I need to work, my grandparents help me during the day. And my work is flexible, so sometimes I need to work in the evening. In the evening, Mr. Vinh will play with his two little friends to let me work. That is, we share taking care of our children together. For example, this person goes to work, this person takes care of it. Or this person is busy, the other person will take care of the child. It's delicious. At first, I thought that the meat would be salty. But no, it's not salty. I eat it with rice. The second question. Does Peanuts and Henry follow their father or their mother? This question is for you to answer. Our family has a difference. Usually, girls follow their father. Peanuts used to follow his father. But recently, Peanuts likes to follow his father more. Henry has liked to play with me since he was a child. Since he was born until now, he has always followed me. Henry likes football very much. Mr. Vinh likes football very much. Henry and Mr. Vinh always play football. Peanuts follows his mother. Henry follows his father. So it's the same, right? 1-1-1 Do you want to increase the score? No, I don't need it. The third question is from Lan09. What do you think about keeping your husband's salary? Keeping my husband's salary? Actually, I have never kept my husband's salary. Actually, both of us have income. My husband and I have income. And we combine it into a family fund. After that, every month, we will divide and calculate which part is the family's spending. For the family's spending, we will receive that part. Such as food, travel expenses, living expenses, beach, etc. We will be responsible for that part. We also divide the money to save and invest. Mr. Vinh will be responsible for using that money. So I have never kept my husband's salary. We will divide the money like that. And keep it together. Yes, that's right. Then divide it. The fourth question. Please share your financial investment experience with me. Mr. Vinh will answer this question. Okay. About my financial investment experience, before we got married, I had a business license. At that time, my husband and I invested in business and real estate. Luckily, in 2017-2019, the real estate market was increasing. It was good. We had a certain balance. Plus, my husband and I worked hard. In the first year of the business, my husband and I had more money. We divide the money into different investments. The first investment is saving. To ensure that the family's savings is reduced from 6 months to 12 months. Currently, my family has 12 months. To save money. The next investment is in the account. My husband and I have the right to invest in the account. That's right. Before the pandemic, and during the pandemic, the account was quite good. At that time, my husband and I had more money from the account. However, the next period, last year, especially in 2022 and 2023, was not good. Personally, for those who are not professionals like us, they will spend a lot of money on the account. They should invest in professional funds, such as Ragan Capital, Winner Capital. They will have an expert. They will invest better than those who are not professionals like us. Because we focus on business, focus on education, etc. As I shared, the third investment is real estate. In difficult times like these, we should move to real estate that creates real value. As you know, I am the founder and manager of a real estate company. I create value on my real estate, and the value of the real estate increases, and the value of the business increases. I think everyone who is watching this video will have a question. If small families have a certain amount of money, should they invest in a certain field? I think the most important investment for a young family is knowledge. To participate in any field, you have to study and research a lot, and spend a lot of time on it. If you study a lot, you won't be a newbie. You will be able to understand the investment market. If you study a little, you will be able to improve yourself, especially your knowledge. Secondly, you can save money for your family, or buy an investment fund. Actually, buying an investment fund is quite safe, but it costs a lot of money. I hope that everyone who is watching this video will have some ideas to use the money of a small family. Do you teach your child in any way? Teach my child in any way? Actually, there are many ways to teach children, but I think it depends on the opinion of each family. In my opinion, I will teach my child in a non-negotiable way. I won't scold my child, or hit my child, or use violence against my child. I will teach my child in a positive way, which is to connect with my child, respond and guide my child. I will be like a companion for my child to grow up. There are many reasons. We have discussed whether to hit my child or not. Actually, in the past, according to traditional methods, when we were young, I think everyone grew up to be beaten. How did you feel when you were beaten? How did I feel? It was painful, but I didn't feel anything. I had negative thoughts. When I grew up, I had negative thoughts. When I was young, I didn't remember much. When you were young, you didn't remember when you were beaten, but I remember. I still remember when I was beaten when I was young. Until now, I still remember twice. Really? Yes. Actually, I thought many times, did I do too much that I was beaten so badly? I didn't remember my wrong actions. I was still young, so I didn't know why I did wrong. I didn't know how to do right. I just knew I was beaten. I thought I would be scared if I was beaten. My husband and I thought that if we were rational and beat our children, we would feel that our parents can beat us and others can also beat us. If we were our parents and we beat our children, we would think that everyone has the right to beat us. That would lead to when I was beaten, my self-reflection would be gone. I thought that I was allowed to be beaten. I thought that was dangerous. You were caught in the act of being beaten. Yes, that's right. When I was young, my parents beat me. They had a violent tendency. When I was in school, they would beat other students. They thought that beating was a way to solve problems. When my parents beat me, they would have a violent tendency. My husband and I didn't support that. In a book I read, the author shared that the brain of young people is like a two-story building. The first floor of the brain of young people is to solve simple problems like eating and drinking. The second floor is to solve more complicated problems like logical reasoning. The third floor is to control whether it is right or wrong to make a logical decision. When we beat children, we make them scared. When children are scared, their brains are trapped in the second floor. They are scared and don't know how to deal with it. They don't know how to solve it. They are just scared. When they are scared, they react naturally. They scream and cry. I don't have a chance to teach them how to solve problems. That's why when they eat or cry, I usually wait for them to cry and connect with me. When I calm down, it's time to teach them. Then they will listen. I'm like an adult. When two people are angry, they can't listen to each other. We have to wait until they cry. That's why my husband and I think about how to connect with children. We connect with them first and then teach them. We tell them why they did wrong and what they should do right. I think it's important to teach them how to do right in that situation so that they won't do it again. They won't repeat that mistake. That's how we accompany and teach them. When they grow up, they will have their own personality. That's how we teach them. We can say that we are positive parents. I see. I have a few more sentences. Really? It's a dessert. Change the scene. Let's change the scene. Let's continue. We have strawberries today. Let's eat strawberries together. Thank you. The sixth question. Did you buy a house before or after you got married? Of course, after we got married. We worked a little bit and then we invested. We had some money but we didn't buy a house. After you were born, you and your husband started to buy a house, right? Yes, I remember. We bought a house in 2018. We made a room tour video of our house. When we moved to a new house, my mom texted me a lot and asked me to make a room tour of our house. But at that time, we hadn't finished decorating our house. If you haven't seen that video, you can click the link below to watch it. Next question. We are a newly married couple. Do you have any advice for a couple who are planning to have a baby? From your experience. You can share with us. I am a person who likes finance. I plan everything first. I calculate everything first. I plan everything first. When it comes to having a baby, I think that I should prepare some money for my baby before and after giving birth. I think that I should prepare some money for my baby before and after giving birth. I think that I should prepare some money for my baby before and after giving birth. I remember that when we were planning to have a baby, a lady from our neighborhood told us that we should prepare 100 million VND for our baby. I think we should prepare the money first, then I will feel relieved I wanted to hear that. I just prepared 100 million. After that, when we came up to the maternity clinic. That was when she gave birth. I think that many mothers need to prepare the money for their baby before and It depends on the insurance, 1 year, 1 year and a half, or 2 years, we buy it first to make sure our childbirth is more comfortable, less financial burden. That's my experience. Because Peanut and Henry came very naturally, so we didn't buy insurance. Because I remember the insurance, she forced you to buy it a year in advance, right? Yes, about that time. So if you have a plan in advance, you buy insurance, it will be less burden, right? Yes. At that time, we didn't know. That's our experience. Next to it, I think it's mental health. Mental health is one of my biggest shortcomings. I don't think I change a lot, as I said, I don't change that much. But you're not mentally ill, you bought me a book. I didn't read it, but it's a twist. A 180-degree twist. Yes, it's a new chapter in life when you have a child. Yes, I'm a son, right? I gave birth to a son, not a mother. People say that giving birth to a son is not giving birth to a father, but giving birth to a son is not giving birth to a mother. I thought so. So when I gave birth to Henry, my second child, did you feel it was a second twist for you? Or did you already have experience? Before I gave birth, I already had experience. But after I gave birth, it was a second twist. Yes. Among the two close friends, it was hard to meet 3-4 times. Yes, it was hard to meet 3-4 times, not twice. Yes, exactly. Actually, at that time, I wasn't mentally prepared, there was another one. But until I had a second friend, I knew how hard it was. Before I had a second friend, I couldn't imagine it. I couldn't imagine it until I gave birth to a second child. I think after you watch this video, you will be able to imagine how it was. It was a quadruple twist. But I think in the future, I will make videos about preparing for a second child. Because my mom has been asking me a lot of questions. Because my viewers have been watching my videos for 3-4 years. I am 4 years old. So my mom is starting to think about giving birth to a second child. So many moms have asked me how to prepare for a second child. For a second child, when I give birth to the first child. Prepare for the first child, then prepare for the family. Prepare for the family, and how to balance the two sisters and two brothers. So many moms have asked me. So in the future, I will make more videos like this. The last question. Yes, the last one. 3 words to describe your family marriage. 3 words? Let me go first. You go first? Yes. I think 3 words are love, sharing, and respect. Love. If you love each other, you can accept when you don't get along. Because you love each other, you can let it go. Right? But when you have conflicts, you can be nice to each other. And you can sit together to share. To understand each other. I think it's love. Sharing. From the moment I gave birth to Peanut and Henry. I realized that we need to share more. To understand each other. Because Mr. Vinh goes to work from morning to evening. And I stay at home to take care of Peanut and Henry. Many people think they just stay at home to take care of their children. But actually, taking care of children is very tiring. There are thousands of unnamed jobs every day. Their sleeping habits are all different. It's not that they don't get tired at home. I think that's one of the reasons why we argue. One goes to work and the other goes to take care of their children. But we don't share. If we don't share, we don't know how other people are doing at home. And how other people are doing at work. So the more we share, the more we understand and sympathize with each other. So when I see Peanut crying and Henry being tired. I just push him away. When we share, we understand each other. My husband understands that his wife stays at home to feed him. And when he can't sleep at night, he is very upset. When he goes to work, he plays with his son to give his wife time to rest. Or when my mother-in-law shares her work. She understands that her husband is having a hard time at work. The contract is not okay. The customer's work is not good. My wife understands that her husband is having a hard time at work. So she needs time to rest. She can't go to work, rest and play with her son. I think we need more time to share with each other. My third reason is respect. I think husband and wife need to respect each other. I think that respect can be seen in many situations. A husband can't go to work and think that his wife can't make money. He doesn't respect his wife. I think that's not right. Actually, I've heard a lot of mothers say that. Respect is in the place of gratitude. A husband should be grateful that his wife is at home. To sacrifice her work and time to take care of her children. To take care of her children when they are young. A husband should respect his wife. When he understands that her wife is at home to take care of her children. A wife should respect her husband to a certain extent. I think that respect can help two people to be closer to each other. That's great. What about your three words? My three words? One is love. The other is commitment. The third is empathy. I think that when it comes to each other, there must be love. When we are young, we have to love each other. We love each other because we have a child. It's more than just a child. It's both love and compassion. This is love. Love is the feeling of being with each other. This is compassion. You don't want to cry, do you? No, I don't. I don't cry when I'm in love. This is compassion. I'm so touched. My wife has been through a lot. She gave birth to a baby twice. My wife had a surgery. I felt so bad. The second is commitment. As a man of the family, especially as a man, I have to be responsible. I have to make sure that my family's life is good and comfortable. I have to make sure that my children are well-educated and have fun. I have to try my best. You have to make a commitment to yourself. I have to make a commitment to myself and my children. You have to make a commitment to your family. That's right. The third is empathy. Thanks to the times I threw the baby to my husband. I was so tired. When they were sick, I got really tired. They were sick for a few days. I woke up late, and I was really tired. I can feel it. I don't have to say. I was quite embarrassed. Embarrassed? I've heard it from many people. But I've been through taking care of my kids, and nights when they were sick and couldn't sleep. The night you and I had to isolate Peanut and Henry, because we were afraid they would fight. I took care of Peanut, and you took care of Henry. I only took care of them for 1-2 nights, 3-4 nights, and I was very tired. Because my wife is only a few years old, we had to take care of them every year, not every month. We took care of them for more than 4 years. It was very difficult. We tend to forget. We don't know why we have to take care of them. It's not as easy as it used to be. That's right. In my book, it says that a mother's instinct will focus on her children when they are still young. Mothers tend to focus on their children, and what they remember is their food and sleep. They don't pay attention to the outside world, or the world around them, or what's going on in the society, or the drama. That's right. So it's a bit more luxurious compared to those who go to work. That's right. Sometimes I tend to forget because I lack sleep. I think the biggest problem is that I have to drink milk and do all kinds of things every night. When my children are about 3 years old, their sleep will be fine. That's right. Before that, they used to stay up all night. Henry stayed up all night. They were still dreaming when they were 2 or 3 years old. Because of the development of their brain, from the age of 3, they were stable and started to sleep straight. That's why I tend to forget. So take care of Henry during the day and at night. Especially Henry. He has a hard time sleeping at night. Try to take care of Henry for 2 or 3 nights. He will sympathize with you a lot more. He will sympathize with you because he tends to forget and only remembers more about his children. There are many other problems but I try to sympathize with my wife's hardship. Then I will understand why she tries so hard. I think young families with children will easily overcome it. It's not easy, but from those things, they will sympathize and share with each other. They will overcome the period when they were young. When they are 2 or 3 years old, they will be fine. They will start to focus on raising their children. Oh, I forgot one more sentence. My mom texted me after this. That's the last sentence. One more sentence. She texted me when I sent the message yesterday. So I will include it. One more sentence. It's from Thuy Ngoc's mom. After starting a family, I have a lot of things to worry about such as work, finances, children, etc. I wish you and your family to always be happy and keep the fire in love. How to keep the fire in love? It's easy to live. Like my husband and I, there will be days when we go out to eat alone. Luckily, we have grandparents to take care of Henry and Peanut. They are still young and we still have work to do. So my husband and I will take care of Henry until he goes to school. After that, we will go back to Nha Trang. In the past, we used to meet in the evening. When we have children, we will meet in the afternoon. For example, when Peanut goes to school, we will meet in the afternoon. When I go to school, we will meet in the afternoon. We will find time to eat together and watch movies together. In the past, we watched movies in the evening. Now, we watch movies in the afternoon. It's fun. We will find time for each other. What about you? I think my wife and I will try to give her very special gifts and I will try to give her very special gifts. For example, I will give her a very special gift when she gives birth to two babies. I will give her a very special gift when she gives birth to two babies. She will give her favorite woman a gift, right? You should remember the gift. We are happy. Women in our family are happy. Especially when she likes the gift. Exactly. If she likes something, she will tell you. She will write on a paper and give it to her husband. And he will give it to her. I think this video is quite long, so we will end the video here. If you have any questions for us, please leave a comment and we will answer your questions. And if you like this video as much as you like our guest and like the topic of this video, please leave a comment for me to continue inviting this guest for a few more episodes. Thank you everyone for taking the time to watch my video. See you in the next videos. Bye Bye