戀愛之前—應該明白的相處之道!多少人是自我感動式戀愛

It's a rare time for everyone to be at home for Valentine's Day this year and I'm known for being a serious driver and I admit I'm freaked out But aren't they cute? I'm not going to talk about flirting Those are sorceries don't learn without talent and when people are in love even if you Why are you so naughty? There's nothing to talk about in love. What I'm going to talk about today is just a few things we need to think about before we fall in love The first real recognition is that I am a unique individual. Let me give you an example. There is always a certain kind of person in love who is moving Moved to hurt themselves and heaven and earth They only see their own giving and emotions and they don't see the other person's real needs or think they do I can't believe it Then blindly pay the mouth said no return but never accept no return love out of breath This kind of person is actually in a relationship with their own will no you think no I think but each of us is unique we have diff erent upbringing we have different cognitive levels We have different preferences and ideas. Spicy is sweet You can do two copies to watch variety shows and documentaries separately You'll find a lot of harmonious relationships where you can even attack and defend each other based on the fact that you recognize and respect the other person as an individual If you really want the other person to accept your point of view or your hobby you can try to influence it with behavior No one wants their hobby to be pointed at or even belittled by others A little bit of disrespect starts by ignoring or ignoring the will of the other person and starting by recognizing that this will make your relationship easier The second is not to profit from each other It's about getting better together. I saw a short video earlier called how to Marry a Tall, rich, handsome man. Isn't that the female version of PUA Are there so many rich and handsome people or are they just here to trick people like me who are trying to love their way out of poverty Men and women are indeed a game of genes Everyone wants to win this game and women want to find a reliable man because of the survival pressure of having children If you don't do a good risk assessment, you're going to put yourself on the line. So women have a very complicated selection process when they're looking for a mate What scientist can solve this problem today and a man They instinctively want to pass on as many of their genes as possible and they are not interested in participating in the upbringing and if they never compromise then neither of them will pass on their genes One side loses the will to fight In order to end what it means to be better together the two parties should not be in a competitive relationship but in a mutual achievement and support Not to push each other down but to grow together You and I both have weaknesses not weaknesses to attack each other You want to play to his strengths like he has short legs and you can' t make him run the 100 meters but you can make him lift weights and a lot of people ignore the growth together How many relationships end when one person stagnates and the difference grows Third, learn to fight seriously. It's true that fighting can promote affection and understanding. But find the right posture Simply complaining rather than addressing the problem and then escalating to personal attacks or bringing up old scores does not make you more advanced in this argument The correct posture should be Now that it has risen to the level of a fight There are a lot of grudges before there are a lot of ordinary do not want to say out a little stimulation can be said today, such as common misunderstanding grievance And the heart many times forget it It's no use said There must be some people who don 't want to talk who are more likely to be self-absorbed than simply aggressive It's better to try to be the one that makes him want to open his mouth and feel like it doesn't matter the sec urity and the trust That's how it's built up When you have a conflict, you should work it out together and not work it out with each other Let's say neither of you wants to wash the dishes today We can't agree on this but we can agree that you both agree that the washing of dishes should not be done by one person so we can both go out and buy a dishwasher One person can even pay the other person to do the dishes as long as they're on the same page and there are a million ways to solve problems and the last thing I want to say is that love is an experience and it's a learning process How many of you look back on your ex years later and say that he taught me so much Falling in love is also a process of self-knowledge. Our self-esteem, our perception, always needs a mirror The most important thing for us to see our limitations is that no one is perfect and no one is born to be a good lover You used to be cured by others, and then you may become the one who cures others. So everyone should be in a good relationship. That's what I put in See you next time