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Recently, Liu Yifei's story about Meigui caught everyone's attention. It seems that all women, those who are married, those who are preparing to get married, those who are divorced, those who are preparing to get divorced, can find their own shadow on the girl Meigui. The four boys in Meigui's story appear in four different stages of Meigui. In fact, each of us has different needs for a partner in different stages of life. The cutest thing about Meigui, in my opinion, is that she has always been in love for love. In each stage of life, she is more of a spiritual pursuer. Liking this person has nothing to do with this person's wealth, career, and family background. She just purely likes this person. Such a girl is actually very, very precious. But such a girl in love for love is beautiful, smart, capable, and has a good family background. In love, she is still hurt in a physical way. There are many scars. So where is the problem? This is also the topic I want to talk about today. How do girls choose their other half? I have summarized three principles. Mothers must pass it on to their daughters. They will benefit from it forever. The first is to have a matchmaker. This matchmaker is not an old-fashioned one. It actually contains great wisdom. A matchmaker is someone who has a similar family background, has received a similar education, and has a similar social status and material conditions. Only in this way do you have common topics, similar values, and right and wrong views. Under such conditions, it is much easier to become a partner than to marry into a rich family or to marry into a poor family. It will be easier for both families. Liu Yifei played the role of Meigui. She was born in a wealthy family. Her parents love her and are all high-ranking officials. Although her husband graduated from a prestigious university, he has a good career, but his family is poor and his social status is low. This kind of child always feels inferior in the process of growing up. It is easier to feel inferior. Therefore, she tries hard to change the situation and change her fate. However, no matter how high her education is and how successful her career is, the inferiority that her family has brought her is like being stuck in a pit. It is very difficult to disappear. A woman marrying a man is actually marrying the family behind her. Meigui and her husband brought their mother-in-law to live with them. One day, Meigui bought a bunch of flowers from the flower shop. When her mother-in-law saw it, she kept nagging. She said, In my hometown, there are a lot of these things everywhere. I have to spend money to buy them. It's a waste of money. In her mother-in-law's heart, her son is so successful. He has a career and money. Who can marry his son? That's a high-ranking official. For Meigui, it's always I can't get used to this, I can't get used to that. She is very picky. In such a family, Meigui is almost suffocating. In fact, this is called a three-way relationship. It's hard to adjust a three-way relationship. It actually has a lot to do with a person's original family. What does the matchmaker look at? Isn't it just looking at the original family? How is the relationship between parents? Their educational level, wealth pattern, attitude in life, all aspects. If the difference is too big, don't really get married. Girls, especially don't get married. Second, you must choose a man who is emotionally stable. How do you judge a person's emotional stability? It depends on the lowest point of a man. It's not about how considerate and gentle he is when you're happy. It's about his personality when there's a conflict. For example, when you quarrel, for example, when you're short of money, for example, when your career falls to the bottom of the valley, when your family is in serious trouble. The lowest point of a rose's first love is The lowest point of a rose's husband is He controls the rose's life, controls the rose's social life, suppresses her from continuing to study and find a job, and even knows that the rose has been adopted by a senior kindergarten, calls the kindergarten behind the rose and says, the rose is pregnant again and can't go out to work, so that the rose loses the opportunity to enter society and be independent again. Living with such a person for a long time, no matter how good you are, no matter how confident you are, you will gradually lose your sense of value and become more and more inferior. If these grudges are projected onto the next generation, then a family will be full of negative energy. That's really going to destroy the third generation. It's not scary to be poor. As long as you work hard, you won't be poor for a while. But if you want to be inferior, even if you have money, the sense of inferiority and the strong desire to control are difficult to change. If you are still not or are preparing to have an infertile marriage today, I hope this video can help you. If your precious daughter is already married and finds that the other half of her personality is inferior, what should you do? What I'm going to say next, you must listen carefully. It's very important. First of all, don't be anxious. Don't be confused. When you have the ability to be a girl like Meigui, bravely choose your life and have no fear of the consequences in the future, congratulations! You are an excellent girl. You are really amazing. When you don't have the ability to become Meigui, you can only be an ordinary nanny, a full-time wife. When you face a lot of problems all day long, don't think you're bad. You have to remind yourself all the time that even if I can only be a full-time wife today, even if I can't get a divorce like Meigui, I still believe that marriage is happier because of my existence. Children are healthier because of my existence. Wait until you have the courage and courage to get a divorce, then make a choice. Don't be impulsive. In today's society, a woman who does not rely on her own marriage has become an excellent title. But at the same time, a woman who silently contributes in the family and is not afraid of being constrained by marriage is also another excellent title. A woman who sacrifices her career for her child and contributes in marriage is actually a reflection of her ability to work. It's just that most of this value is not seen by the family. In marriage, you learn to accept your imperfection, to accept your husband's imperfection, to accept your mother-in-law's imperfection, which is to accept an imperfect marriage. This may be a lesson that every girl who wants to be Meigui needs to learn. The third is to learn to be unique to yourself. Meigui's story tells us that there is no perfect companion. No matter what troubles you encounter in life, no matter what kind of sad companions you meet, in the end, you have to walk this path with yourself. So, as a woman, the most wonderful thing in this world is never love, but to live your life well, to live out the quality of life, to broaden the breadth of your life, to be able to tolerate everything. It's good to meet a reliable companion. It's good to meet a mother-in-law who knows you well. That's a great thing in life. Marriage and happiness are never because you married the right person, but as a woman, you have the ability to make yourself happy, and you have the ability to make a living. In marriage, you have to live out yourself, find yourself, have a direction, have a goal, don't give up, insist on doing what you like to do. This is also the best example for children. If you can do all three principles I shared with you today, your life won't be too bad. I'm Weiyi. I chat with you every day.