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Today I would like to talk about Zhang Ailing, one of the four talented women in the Shanghai Cultural Forum during the Republic of China. She was born in a noble family. Her grandmother, Li Jiuyou, was the eldest daughter of Li Hongzhang. Her father provided her with the knowledge of classical culture and the art of writing. Her mother brought her the inspiration of aesthetics. Her aunt, Qianyi Mohua, influenced Zhang Ailing's independent personality and the philosophy of cooking. It was in such a family that Zhang Ailing grew up and became unique. Today we will not talk about her family background, nor about her writings. Today I would like to talk about the love life of a talented woman. This is perhaps the most deeply understood part of Zhang Ailing. When Zhang Ailing was famous in Shanghai, her appearance also attracted the attention of a man. This man also completely reversed Zhang Ailing's fate. This man is Hu Lancheng. Many fans of Hu Lancheng think that he is a ruthless scumbag. He is also Zhang Ailing's only weakness. But today I would like to add that it is not surprising that Zhang Ailing fell in love with Hu Lancheng. However, this love experience has little impact on Zhang Ailing's life. If you look back at Zhang Ailing's childhood, you will know why she fell in love with Hu Lancheng. Zhang Ailing lacked fatherly love when she was young. She felt closer to this type of man. She once talked to her best friend, Su Qing, about her marriage. She said, I have always thought that men should be 10 years older or older than 10 years old. I think women should be more naive. Men should be more experienced. Hu Lancheng is 14 years older than Zhang Ailing. Besides, Hu Lancheng is a love expert. Zhang Ailing, who has never experienced love, is really unpredictable. In 1944, Hu Lancheng read the short novel, Blocked, in a magazine. After reading it, he thought, oh, how can it be written so well? So he immediately went to Zhang Ailing's residence to visit her. But Zhang Ailing did not see anyone. Hu Lancheng also heard about it. Of course, Hu Lancheng was also prepared. Zhang Ailing did not open the door. She put a small note in the door. She wrote her home address and phone number. She also added a sentence. When it was convenient for Miss Ailing to meet, she allowed her to meet. She gave the decision to the other party. Ignore those prejudices against Hu Lancheng. Do you also think that this man is sincere but has a sense of propriety? Then a few days later, Zhang Ailing really took this piece of paper, looking for this address, and opened Hu Lancheng's door. For Zhang Ailing, who was so cold and arrogant, this was an impossible thing. However, this was the first time they met. They talked for five hours. After the meeting, Hu Lancheng talked about Zhang Ailing's various beautiful words. He talked about some changes in the situation of the Chinese Cultural Forum, some views. Zhang Ailing listened quietly. Zhang Ailing felt that the man in front of her understood her. Others read her novels just to read stories. But Hu Lancheng read human thoughts. After a spiritual exchange, Hu Lancheng sent Zhang Ailing home. The two walked side by side. Zhang Ailing felt very low at this time. It's like she wrote, If you like someone, you will be humble and then speak. Hu Lancheng suddenly said, You see, you are so tall. How can this be? What do you mean? You are almost as tall as me. So we don't look good together. How can this be? For this very ambiguous hint, Zhang Ailing, who was 23 years old, could not stand it. Slowly, Zhang Ailing fell into the love formula of Hu Lancheng. He had long been a gentle king cured for Zhang Ailing. Then, the two soon fell in love. At that time, Hu Lancheng went back to Shanghai on a business trip. He did not go back to his home first, but went straight to Zhang Ailing's place. Unfortunately, the man Zhang Ailing met was romantic, but he was also selfish and selfish. When Hu Lancheng met Zhang Ailing, Hu Lancheng had already had two marriages. The third marriage had not been terminated. But less than half a year after he married Zhang Ailing, he met a nurse in Wuhan, Zhou Xunde, and held a wedding ceremony with her. Later, in the process of escaping, Hu Lancheng later married a Japanese woman in Wenzhou, a married woman in Japan, Ichi. His love story is almost never-ending, with new chapters written over and over again. Zhang Ailing's most miserable time in her life was when she went to Wenzhou alone to find a husband. In those twenty-odd days, Zhang Ailing lived in a hotel. Hu Lancheng accompanied her during the day, and accompanied Fan Xiumei at night. For a wife, it was so embarrassing and heartbreaking. I don't know how she spent those days. In November 1947, Hu Lancheng returned to Shanghai. The two lived separately at home. A few months later, Zhang Ailing wrote that famous farewell letter. I don't like you anymore. You don't like me anymore. I've been thinking about this decision for a long time, I don't want to increase your difficulties. Don't look for me. I won't write back, and I won't read. In addition, Zhang Ailing paid 300,000 yuan for this letter. That was her new movie script, an unpaid fee. After that, the two were completely separated. From the second half of the story, Zhang Ailing seems to have fallen into a scumbag trap. She paid for love and money. But what I want to say is that Zhang Hu's love for Zhang Ailing is not that important. First of all, after this letter was sent out, Zhang Ailing didn't have any money. In 1958, Zhang Ailing heard Hu Lancheng mention himself in the book, Sa Wenji, Jing Sheng Jing Shi. He wrote to his good friend, he said, I haven't seen you for 30 years, everyone is old. Hu Lancheng would say I was one of his concubines, but it was a revenge. Because he wrote a lot of letters, I didn't reply. So after receiving Zhang Ailing's farewell letter, I still wanted to break up with him many times, or get back together. But Zhang Ailing did what she said, didn't reply, didn't see, didn't see. When she loved, she put all her heart into it. Once she broke up, she was particularly resolute. Let's talk about the 300,000 yuan. Many fans think this is evidence of Zhang Ailing's love affair. Actually, I don't think so. Zhang Ailing's attitude towards money is particularly practical. The first time she made a living was when she was in middle school. She drew a comic, voted for Wanbao, and the newspaper gave her five yuan. As a result, she immediately bought a lipstick. She said, My mother blamed me for not keeping that banknote as a souvenir. But I'm not as emotional as her. For me, money is money. I can buy all the things I want. From this point of view, I don't think Zhang Ailing is at a loss. She doesn't want to be entangled in misunderstandings with bad people. Spend money to buy freedom. I believe many women who have met scumbags can empathize with Zhang Ailing's approach. Problems that can be solved with money are not worth spending time and emotions on. In fact, the reason why Zhang Hulian is so popular is largely because Hulan City is too good at manipulation. Hulan City likes to show off his love history. He also likes to talk about his ex-girlfriend with a new woman. And he put these stories together into a book called Jing Sheng Jing Shi. To this day, it is still in Zhang Ailing's flow. I believe they got together because of love. I also believe that Hulan City was sincere and dedicated Once Zhang Ailing sees through such a heartless scumbag, he may not have such a deep feeling for her anymore. But under the influence of Hulan City's literature, everyone feels that the two people were in love with each other. After Jing Sheng Jing Shi was published, Hulan City's good friend, Taiwanese writer Zhu Xiening, wrote to Zhang Ailing. He said he was going to write a book Zhang Ailing, of course, did not agree. He did not want his life to be talked about by others, nor did he want his story to be monopolized by another person. In fact, this was also the opportunity for Zhang Ailing to write her own autobiographical novel, Xiaotuanyuan. In Xiaotuanyuan, the love ratio was less than half. Zhang Ailing's second marriage took place in the United States. Many people did not know. In 1952, Zhang Ailing was 32 years old. She applied to return to Hong Kong under the name of Zhang Ying to continue her studies interrupted by the war. Three years later, she left the United States. She never returned to China in her life. After arriving in the United States, Zhang Ailing's writing career was not going well. Naturally, she could not get any manuscript fees. So in March 1956, she applied to join a literary camp called MacDowell. This is a camp provided by literary figures to let them concentrate on writing. It was in this camp that Zhang Ailing met Laiya, who was 29 years old. Laiya is described in the book as a tall, fat, 80-kilo bald old man. This old man was very famous when he was young. He was a top student at Harvard University and published many popular works in the newspaper magazine. When he met Zhang Ailing, As for why Zhang Ailing fell in love with Laiya and stayed with her for 11 years, Zhang Ailing wrote in a letter, There is another detail that helps us understand Zhang Ailing's choice. On October 1, 1958, was Zhang Ailing's 38th birthday. Laiya, who only had the concept of merit, knew in advance that the Chinese were celebrating the lunar birthday. She specifically remembered this day. That day, Laiya began to accompany Zhang Ailing seriously from the morning. Accompany her to go out to write letters. Accompany her to walk in the autumn scenery after the rain. Waiting for her to dress up beautifully. Then we went to see a movie together. In fact, this is an ordinary daily life. An ordinary date. Zhang Ailing told Laiya that this was the happiest birthday she had ever had in her life. From these details of life, you will find that from Hulan City to Laiya, Zhang Ailing's need for love has never changed. That is, the spirit of harmony goes beyond everything. Even if Hulan City is a traitor, she will stick to this love like a flying goose. Even if Laiya is so much older than her, and her illness is getting worse and worse, Zhang Ailing can ignore it. What she needs is an understanding, a lover who can support each other emotionally and spiritually. Not long after she married Laiya, Laiya had a stroke and was in bed for two years. In bed, she urinated a lot. Zhang Ailing always took care of her. On October 8, 1967, when Laiya passed away, Zhang Ailing was 47 years old. At that time, she was on the doorstep of emotion. Until she died, Laiya was her last name. She began a quiet and secluded life. From Zhang Ailing's emotional experience, she always believed in love, but not superstitious love. She always kept her mind clear. When she was in love, she put all her heart and soul into it. When she broke up, she was determined to get a divorce. She could afford it. When Zhang Ailing was young, she had a kind of vigilance. At that time, there was an exhibition in the middle school campus. Every senior high school student wrote about their hobbies, personalities, etc. For example, what do you hate the most? Do you know what Zhang Ailing's answer is? Zhang Ailing wrote, A woman with talent suddenly got married. In fact, this is due to the fact that Zhang Ailing's female classmate was very talented. But after marriage, she forgot about literature and stopped writing novels. She became an ordinary housewife. Zhang Ailing felt very sorry for her. In her opinion, a woman's talent is the greatest value of a woman, more important than marriage. She didn't want to see a woman sacrifice her talent for the sake of her marriage and family. She thought women should be independent and free. A few years after marrying Laiya, she decided to write an English novel with Zhang Xueliang as the background. The name of the novel was Young Marshal. She wanted to go to Taiwan and communicate directly with Zhang Xueliang. At that time, Laiya's health was very poor. She was very dependent on Zhang Ailing and didn't want her wife to leave. But Zhang Ailing was very determined in this matter. She thought of all kinds of ways to ask people to help take care of Laiya. In the end, she went to Taiwan by herself. Perhaps it was because of Zhang Ailing's family background and the influence of Western education, she also had a special understanding of the identity of a mother. She said, We must respect women. Women are first and foremost human beings, and then women. And then maybe a wife. And then maybe a mother. Otherwise, a woman's value is just a mother. Those who admire motherly love should be vigilant. Don't let a woman become a mother all over. Zhang Ailing is a beautiful scenery that cannot be obtained in many times. She is cool, honest, sincere, and talented. Such a person also encountered a scumbag. Fortunately, after four years in the mud, she woke up and left. Today, many women around us have encountered scumbags. So how do you identify a scumbag? We will continue to talk next time. I am Beiying. Talk to you every day.