If She’s NOT Interested, She'll Do These 5 Things (Every Guy Needs To Know This)

Hi everyone, welcome back to my channel. If you're new here, I'm Courtney Ryan and today we're going to be talking about things women do when they are not interested in you. So I thought we could use a little refresh here so that we make sure we're not wasting our time. I think there are a lot of things that can be misinterpreted for a lack of interest when in reality she might be interested in you but maybe she's just shy. Maybe she's waiting for you to make the first move so that she knows you're interested before she outwardly shows her interest in you. Those are just a few examples. It could be a variety of things. Maybe you also aren't the best at reading signals or body language or things like that. We have to leave room for nuance but overall I think the things that I'm going to talk about today are pretty straightforward and the reality is is that you can't possibly form a healthy relationship with someone who is consistently doing these things. I think that's the most important takeaway that I really want you guys to get from this video. Again, notice it's not titled signs or signals for a reason. These are not signs. I think these are very straightforward things that women do when they are not interested in you. Number one, she repeatedly uses the I'm busy excuse. Keyword repeatedly. It's normal to have obligations and other priorities in your life so to expect someone to be readily available to hang out with you 24 7 is unrealistic and not what I'm talking about here. If she repeatedly uses the I can't I'm busy or sorry I haven't messaged you back all week I've been busy type of excuses she's just not interested. Too busy to hang out with you even though you've tried to schedule a date three times now. Too busy to text you back. Too busy to make a plan a week from now etc. I could go on and on here about the different excuses that women use but I do think in order to get to know someone you have to make time to do so. The busiest people in the world still make time for the things that they care about and view as a priority so if she's not willing or able to do that she's probably not that interested in or again not at a place where she can be in a healthy relationship. If a girl likes you she will want to hang out with you and won't make consistent excuses. Now it's totally different if this happens once and she's genuinely busy but if this is a recurring thing and she's stringing you along or leaving you with a little glimmer of hope that one day she'll be available to hang out with you I think it's better to just move on. Understanding these things can be challenging which is why seeking support from professionals can provide valuable insights and guidance as you navigate the complexities of dating. Therapy can give you tools to approach your life or dating specifically in a very different way. It sure did for me and that's why I'm excited to tell you about today's sponsor BetterHelp. 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And while I can appreciate a man who goes after what he wants and who is persistent, this is not the time or the place that I would recommend doing that. Slow responses or confusing responses aren't healthy forms of communication that foster a genuine connection. And let me really drive this point home for you. No response is a response. Think about that one. Let it sink in. Again, we don't need to try harder when someone is giving us nothing. We don't need to reach out more. We don't need to buy them something. We don't need to try to change their mind. Just take it for what it is. She is not interested and take your effort and energy somewhere else to someone who is. Again, no response is a response and it tells you exactly where you stand with someone. The next thing women will do when they're not interested is cut the date short. There are many things that might happen on a date that could be a sign she's not interested, but we're all different so it's really hard to say for sure. But one thing that almost always, again leaving room for a little bit of nuance here because we can't say always, but almost always is a sign of disinterest is when she cuts the date short or she makes up some sort of excuse to leave early. If she's genuinely unwell or has some sort of an emergency that causes her to leave early, I think you'll know by how she acts after the fact. You know, if she follows up with you afterwards and tries to reschedule or something like that, I think that's a really easy way to tell that it was genuinely something that she had to leave for and it wasn't just her cutting the date short because she's not interested. I think the correspondence after the fact will be pretty telling, but if she ends the date early and she goes ghost mode on you, she's not interested. And I'll just tell you guys this, I personally don't know a single scenario where a woman cut a date short with someone that she was genuinely interested in. Anytime I've heard of a woman doing this is because she wasn't interested and no longer wanted to be there. There could be many reasons for cutting a date short. Maybe she feels uncomfortable with you or the conversation or maybe lack thereof conversation. Maybe she's unengaged or just simply not interested in continuing the interaction because she's not interested in you. I will also say I do think this is rather rude and I would hope if someone ends the date because of a lack of interest, they would communicate that to you either on the date itself or afterwards if they're a little less confrontational. But again, I think if you make a commitment to go on a date with someone, you should at least try to enjoy yourself and be a respectful, decent human being. You know, I've heard stories of both men and women who will cut a date short or meet you and immediately say, I'm not interested, I want to leave. And I do think that's rude. I'm sure some of you will think, you know, well at least they're not wasting my time and that's certainly one way to look at it. But I do think it's a bit rude and I think it would be much easier if we could all just be honest and, you know, directly communicate how we're feeling. But I think a lot of people will make up an excuse and a reason to leave when it's not real at all and they just aren't interested in you. So again, I think the correspondence after the fact will be really telling and if it was legit or not. So you guys can let me know if you've had a different experience, but typically I would say if she cuts a date short, she's just not interested. The next one's pretty straightforward and that is she declines a second date. Now if you ask her on a second date and she says any of the following, it's safe to assume she's probably not interested. No, I don't think so. You're a great guy, but I'll let you know. Let me think about it. Let me think about it though in a non-sarcastic way. I could see a girl saying this in a sort of playful flirty way and actually being into you, so keep that in mind. But I think for a lot of you it would be pretty obvious to tell the difference between her being playful and flirty and her like really just not being interested. But again, this could also be confusing because I know there are a lot of you who aren't great at reading body language or who can't really understand people's tone and things like that. So I could see where the water would get a little bit murky here, but generally speaking, if she declines a second date with you and means it, she's not interested. It can also be difficult to understand if someone's being sarcastic or playful over text when you can't hear the tone of their voice. Maybe they would include an emoji, I really don't know. But again, it will typically be pretty obvious when someone is being playful or flirty versus actually declining the second date. And again, what conspires after will also be pretty telling. If she declines a second date and then you don't hear from her, I'm gonna assume she's not interested. And I also want to say this because this is something I see a lot online. Unfortunately, if she declines a second date, please do not let your ego get the best of you and say something totally immature. My friends have shown me texts before where they've been honest and very politely declined a second date and the guy's responses just solidified their decision not to go out with them again. It is not a good look and I don't want any of you to be that guy. And also remember, someone can be a good person and just not be good for you or compatible with you. I think that's a really helpful and important thing to remember when you're dating. Not everyone is going to be for you and that's okay. Not everyone is going to want a second date with you and that's okay. And instead of trying to change their mind or continue to bombard them with texts or chase them or convince them that they're wrong or say something mean like, well I wasn't interested in you anyway or you're ugly anyway, like just don't do that guys. The best thing you can do is just handle it with grace and understand that you're not for everyone and that is okay. And again, to wrap this one up, if she is interested in you, she will accept a second date. She will want to see you again. If she's saying she doesn't want to see you again, she's not interested. And I know that that one will be pretty straightforward for a lot of you and you'll be like, oh I already knew that, great. But I know from texts that I've seen with my own eyes, messages, DMs, and questions that I've gotten from some of you, it's not straightforward for all of you. So I think we have to remember that everyone has to start somewhere. We all have different base knowledge. Just because something is common sense and straightforward to you doesn't mean that it's going to be for someone else. So just keep that in mind. And the next thing that a woman will do when she's not interested is continuously flake or cancel. Now similar here to the too busy excuse that I mentioned early on in the video, the same reasoning can be applied to continuously flaking or canceling on dates that she has previously agreed to go on. You know, we can give grace. Sometimes things come up and we have to cancel. But if this is happening continuously, keyword continuously, we have to cut off our grace supply. And honestly guys, I want you to understand that you deserve better than this. It is not a positive trait when someone doesn't follow through with the commitments that they've made to you. Someone who is interested in you and who is emotionally mature is not going to consistently flake or cancel on you. It's disrespectful and would be a clear sign to me that this person doesn't respect me or my time. Thanks but no thanks next. You're not a pen pal and if someone isn't going to follow through and get to know you in real life, you can move right along. So guys, that's all I have for five things that women will do if they are not interested in you. I would love to hear from you guys down in the comments. If you like this video or found it helpful, be sure to give it a thumbs up and subscribe to my channel to be in the loop for when I release new content. If you're open to it, I would love to hear your personal stories and experiences down in the comments to hopefully help some other guys out. If you haven't already, be sure to follow me over on Instagram at Courtney Christine Ryan. I love connecting with all of you guys over on there as well. As always, thank you all so much for watching and I will see you all next time.