BE REAL WITH YOURSELF - Will Smith | Best Motivational Speech Compilation

set your life on fire and seek those who fan your flames hey will i want to be an actor man i want to be an actor just like you these people say stuff to me like that i'm like yeah man you know you do is give them an encouraging word but i was just sitting here thinking and it dawned on me 99 of people that say stuff like that are not willing to do what it takes to make their dreams come true and that's just real at the center of bringing any dream into fruition is self-discipline your mind is giving command of your mind to be able to choose actions that are in your own best interest every day we are choosing it's not in our own best interest right so if the world is attacking you and the world wants to fight you and the world's trying to hold you down so you will stop yourself from getting what you dream you cannot make a person happy you can make a person smile you can make a person feel good you can make a person laugh but whether or not a person is happy is deeply and totally and utterly out of your control being realistic is the most commonly traveled road to mediocrity there's a contribution to the world inside of me that i can't reach there's a thing that i'm supposed to be doing there's a person that i want to be that i always saw the reflection in my grandmother's eyes you know of what what it is but i can't reach that thing there's so much more that i feel that i have to offer that i can't access in myself we tend to base our self-esteem on what other people think and that's not really self-esteem self-esteem is supposed to be how we feel about ourselves i was just saying how dangerous it is to allow other people to determine how you're going to feel about you there's no easy way around it no matter how talented you are your talent is going to fail you if you're not skilled if you don't study if you don't work really hard and dedicate yourself to being better every single day you wake up in the morning your life means something to somebody other than you to live in service not to you but to live in service to humanity the road to success is through commitment and through the strength to drive through that commitment when it gets hard and it is going to get hard and you're going to want to quit sometimes but it'll be colored by who you are and more who you want to be self-discipline is the center of all material success you cannot win the war against the world if you can't win the war against your own mind cause i was like i want to be the biggest movie star in the world i look at skill and talent separately like you're born with talent you know it's like there's certain things that you just do naturally you were gifted with a talent but skill is acquired through discipline you know i've never seen myself as particularly talented where i excel is i'm willing to die in the process of acquiring skill the concept of improving lives runs through the center of everything i do and then i realize that the the way to improve lives is to continually improve yourself good people have to get out of the bed every day and try to empty the ocean with a ladle it is your commitment to your personal evolution your personal growth for the purpose of assisting others [Music] life is hard right like yeah you might get hurt your heart might get broken you still gotta commit don't hesitate go commit you got to commit you know you might get hurt you might lose something but it's like you can't experience the the joy that is intended for you in life if you don't go we actually have to cultivate a taste for peace we're actually addicted to things that agitate and aggravate us i'm going to be quiet i'm going to be still and i'm going to be alone [Music] prerequisite for spending time with any person is that they nourish and inspire you they feed your flame put your phone down for just a second and look around look to the people around you are those people throwing logs on your fire or are they pissing on it the people that you spend time with are gonna make or break your dreams everybody don't deserve to be around you you gotta defend your life with your life to sustained happiness is through disciplining your behavior but it is for damn sure your responsibility to figure out how to take that pain and how to overcome that and build a happy life for yourself fault and responsibility do not go together it sucks but they don't when something is somebody's fault we want them to suffer we want them punished we want them to to pay we want it to be their responsibility to fix it but that's that's not how it works especially when it's your heart your heart your life your happiness is your responsibility and your responsibility alone taking responsibility accepting responsibility is not an admission of guilt taking responsibility is a recognition of the power that you seize when you stop blaming people and you know i want to be the biggest movie star in the world but i studied that and i worked out i got my body crazy and i did you know just got my head around doing everything i could do to be the biggest movie star in the world and then i had a taste of that and i realized that even though i had achieved all those things on the inside i was still that same insecure little boy and what i realized is that the only sustainable mission throughout your whole existence is to improve lives there weren't a lot of people i saw do things that i felt like i couldn't do right when i when i look at people and i see things i don't i don't feel like i can't whether or not i will is something different but i don't ever feel like i can like taking responsibility is an act of emotional self-defense taking responsibility is taking your power back to be that guy that does what people say can't be done i want to be the person that is the first person there and the last person to leave food to success is through commitment and god placed the best things in life on the other side of terror [Music] and to to people who are watching confucius said one time he who says he can and he who says he can't are both usually right i want you to keep in your heart just know that you can you