TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE! | POWERFUL Motivational Video Speech Compilation

Everybody thinks they can have the perfect decision. There is no perfect decision. There's just life. Who am I? What do I desire? What do I know? The reason you have memory isn't to remember the past. The reason you have memory is to not do the same stupid things again in the future. That's fundamentally the reason and so you remember some things and you don't remember other things and there's your memory has a shape and these stories fit into that shape. And so at minimum the stories have evolved to adapt to your memory. Now, I would say since your memory has evolved to adapt to the world that implies that the stories have evolved to adapt to the world. Ultimately what we're trying to do is get to a place of stillness and clarity and focus so we can be a hundred percent locked in in whatever we're doing. That's what this is all about. And sometimes you're flashing forward. Sometimes you're looking to history for perspective. Sometimes you're empty in your mind entirely every situations got different handles and you grab on to the right one at the right time. What you believe will dictate your thoughts on a moment by moment basis. So if you believe that you know money is hard to make is a simple example. You're not going to have ideas or thoughts around money that would be lending to making it easily, right? So what you believe dictates what you think and they're always aligned, right? Your beliefs dictate your thoughts dictate your emotions dictate your actions which produce your results and your results when you look at them then just reinforce the original belief. And so we're caught in that construct, right? But the linchpin is the belief system. So the question is how do I actually change what I believe if my beliefs really do dictate my destiny, right? Which is I'm not the only person suggesting that the question becomes how do I change my beliefs and in that is is an inherent challenge because by definition beliefs are that which are true. What does being a victim get you nothing absolutely nothing. So if you're getting nothing from one direction, why not turn around and go to the other direction? I mean to me it's really common sense, but you have to break down that and you have to give people this understanding that it's okay to have had something happen to you. Like you're not a bad person because of that and it sounds crazy unless somebody's watching this who's gone through something, you know, the guilt you feel and the things that you carry that you haven't told anyone because you're a shamed or all these things that's okay, but continuing to allow it to affect you. That's on you. That's not on the abuser. That's not on the situation. That's on you. It's a choice you have to make of I am no longer going to let this happen. The world that we exist in is really a world that is happening cognitively in our minds based on beliefs rituals culture social indoctrination and what our mom and our dad and our media and our priest and our teachers and our preachers tell us to be do and think that's the culture scape, but we don't see that because like a fish swimming in water. We don't realize that the rules in which we live life are not necessarily true for everyone else. They're only true for us because of our conditioning. Now the problem with this culture scape is that many people believe it's real and thus they become a victim of the culture scape the things that happen to them a breakup a business failure being hospitalized severely influenced them the world happens to them. See great stories are their representations of patterns of adaptive behavior. The fact that a great story is true at multiple levels of analysis simultaneously and truly great stories can be interpreted at multiple levels of analysis simultaneously. That's actually what gives them depth. So when you say a story is deep. Here's a meaning. Oh, look, here's another. Oh, look, here's another one. And then the meanings often exist in parallel with one another and great stories and they really archetypal stories are like that the story of Moses. For example, that's that's an archetypal story the idea that people escape from Tyranny go through a crisis spend time wandering in the desert are moving towards a better place. It's like that's the story of life how we look at the world is the world is objective, but how we look at it determines what we're going to be able to do to it. Epictetus says it's not things that upset us. It's our opinions about things, right? And so realizing like, oh, okay, the world is objective. My opinion is what determines everything by opinion. He means judgments, right? The other he says is not things that upset us. It's our judgment about things. So it's really judge maybe judgments a better word than perspective. I would either be in a powerful state of being states like joy curiosity excitement calm peace. Passion or I would be in a primal state of being boredom anger frustration some form of fear. I'm always in one of those two states and I'm never in two states at one time that those map beautifully to the sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system, right? So in any moment, we're either in fight-or-flight or we're in rest and relaxation through my journey. What I realized was the only cause of that switch to be flipped was my own thinking. The meaning that I was giving the experience the experience itself wasn't dictating whether I was in a primal state or a powerful state whether I was in sympathetic fight-or-flight or parasympathetic rest and rest rest and restoration or relaxation was the meaning I was giving the experience and so that meant that all of my personal suffering was within my own control. I needed to start controlling the meaning. I was giving the experiences of life life can happen to you or life can happen from you and at this world at this level life is emerging from you. You are creating the world as you want to see it. You don't like the university system. You create Mindvalley U. You don't like the way mobile phones work. You create the iPhone. Now it doesn't have to be something as big as that. It could be the way you hack your education. It could be the way you start your business. It could be the way you told your parents that you were not going to blindly follow their fundamentalist religious ideas even though they had been part of your family for 300 years. You create your own rules and this is when this great awakening starts happening and I'm going to use this for everybody. Everybody's so crippled by decisions, but you never know how the other thing worked out. Let me give you an example. Let's say you don't go to college and you start this business and you were a hundred percent right and it's huge and you're doing so great. What I'm saying is you're not going to know so choose live and then if it works out great and if it doesn't adjust. The simplicity of just knowing that you're not alone is really not simple. It's massive because in those dark moments you are alone. For the most part you are physically alone. And so then it's not that hard to take it from a physical to a mental state of I'm the only one being molested. I'm the only one being beaten. I'm the only one with alcoholic parents. I'm the only one with a mom and dad who hate each other. I'm the only one that lives in a really wealthy community, but everyone's lying to each other like you it's really simple for that to happen. But the the reality is is you're not and when you're not alone you have community. What is community give you safety, right? It all comes back to like being safe. And if I feel safe then I have power and then I can do something and control and all these different element. The world as you see it is an artifact of a previously held point of view. Your eyes are always looking at the past everything. We see in this room in as we get out of this room as we go home as we survive in the world as we go to our jobs. It's looking at artifacts of the past and at this level the level of awakening you come to see that and so you're constantly thinking about how can you create a new world that suits how you want to live life. And so you know that thing about how thoughts create reality at this point. It's true. And you know, it's not the mumbo-jumbo version of your mind creating reality. Not that that's not real here. Your thoughts are actually creating reality because you are questioning the cognitive plane. You are questioning the rules and the assumptions and the cultures and the beliefs that we hold on to so tightly thinking they are real. Many of these have hit their expiration date, but people still leave that leave it in their fridge like sour milk. And what you're doing is opening the refrigerator door looking at what rules what beliefs have hit that expiration date and discarding it and then creating your own stuff to put in that refrigerator. Believe that life is working in infinitely intelligent ways for our greatest growth our greatest prosperity our greatest evolution that at any moment. It's a moment of perfection right that that that it is supposed to happen. And so so in that we can we can live with acceptance. We can live with surrender. We may not actually see it in the moment how it's working for us, but we can choose to trust that it is if we want to of understanding that you're in control. You control your destiny. You can create what you want to create. You have gifts that nobody else on the planet has you have talent. You have everything everything you need to become whatever you want is right here. And I don't care what the limitations are physical mental spiritual. I don't care any everything is there for you. Go fought be a visionary. Don't take no for an answer. Question the rules and live life on your terms as you make a dent in the culture scape and create new things things that truly give you joy that that that you're truly excited about that make the world better for all of us in unity.