Here Is WHY Are Not Progressing In Life | What Highly Effective People Do - Vishan Lakhiani

I'm gonna be talking about how to be unfuckable all of us as we grow up we through the conditioning of our parents of a society of media we develop these holes within our being and unfuck with the bow is really about going from these holes to being hole so unfuck with ability is basically this extraordinary minds do not need to seek validation from outside opinions or true the attainment of goals instead they are truly at peace with themselves and the world around them they live fearlessly immune to criticism or praise and fueled by their own inner happiness and self-love now the reason we need to be unfuckable is because without disability we don't have the skills the invincibility the power to go out there and truly pursue life transforming goals if we care what other people think of us good or bad we limit our abilities we fear for example I did not write my book for many years because I fear what people would think what if the book sucks oh my god if the book sucks what people really like continue buying line value products I did not get on stage for many many many years because I thought well you know what if nobody claps I remember in college I never asked a girl I liked out for many many many years because I was afraid of rejection heck it took me two years to ask my wife out because I was afraid of rejection and so all of us go through this this is what causes us to want to dress up in a certain way to get that six-pack because it you know apparently it means something to buy certain cars of things or vehicles just so we can compensate for whatever we might find lacking but the problem with this type of attitude is that the fear limits us it limits us from really doing epic things because to do something big you got to be prepared for rejection you got to be prepared for failure and the bravest people in the world are able to do the incredible things they do because these things do not represent them the attainment of the goal the accomplishment the object the man of the woman are just nice to house but they say nothing about who you are but what I found over the years is that there are three ways to get to the state of unfuck with the book to get to the state where you know when someone compliments you you're good with that but you don't need that compliment if you give a speech and nobody gives you a standing ovation you're cool with that you know it's not you it's maybe the speech or it's something you said or maybe it's it's the method that you use and you're like okay great I can hack that method I can improve this way I can rethink how I give a speech but it's not you too many people make it about themselves and this is what causes the limitation in how they grow forgiveness is about facing your past it's about looking at the shit that happened to you in the past and being able to heal that so that you can move on now you're unattached to your past it's about writing a new future for yourself where you are enough so you can go out there and not give a damn about criticism or judgment or how people think about you now this means that you can do what needs to be done to fulfill your mission in life without fearing other people's opinion you can accept race that's good but you don't need the praise you can look at criticism and just see it as a simple way to improve without seeing that criticism is wound into your own soul so you have the past you have the future and if you apply these in your life people everything changes these models have helped me make the last year among the most successful years of my life that notice how simple they are you do not have to spend thousands upon thousands of dollars learning them in fact the illusion is their simplicity it is simple to forgive it doesn't happen overnight but with practice as I've shared in my stories you can forgive even the most vile crimes that have happened to you and it's directly within yourself you forgive people think you need to get the other person to forgive you no it's within your own power to forgive it is a choice you can make you can feel enough no one can do that to you but you can hack your brain through the right techniques to train your brain to make you be enough all of us are born as kids feeling enough Society is what pokes the holes into us but you can reverse that with the right technique and it can happen incredibly fast and the third one is simply be present you can do that you can do it right now you can do it over lunch you can do it in the cruise today it is that easy and when you do this welcome to unfuck with ability you