Building Children’s Self-esteem through Training (Part.1) -Baghban S2E25

What is confidence? How is confidence developed? If children do not have it, what are its effects on their personality? What is the definition of confidence? This topic which was not there in the past and is now getting highlighted in this era, what is the reason for this? If this is a need, then why was this need not felt in the past? So this pressure of success, you need to be competing globally, so is it not because its need has arisen because our Mashra has become globalized? If a child does not have confidence building, what kind of effects can it have on his personality? Children who lack confidence, does it also affect their social relationships? Do such children who lack confidence, do not want to do any risky work? Children who are outspoken are also young, so how does this confidence come in them? Does it also have any relation with lack of confidence since childhood? What has the religion said about this? [Music] Said Azu billa min shaitan Ram Bismillah Rahman Rahim Assalam waleikum Nazreen Once again in our programme Baagban, Khushamdid Baagban programme whose purpose as you know is to alert the father about the education issues and to give him the necessary and essential information so that he can educate his children better. In this series we have also been discussing the educational system and the topic that we have to discuss today on various aspects of education of children is related to one of the important capabilities present in the children which we call self- confidence. Maulana Rumi says that you are in search of the world but the treasure is you yourself if a man finds himself, then it is the biggest treasure for him. What is meant by man finding man? It means that if he recognises his capabilities and lets his capabilities flourish, then He can achieve everything in this world and not only this world but he can also make his afterlife even better than that and this is what is called tarbiyat. Tarbiyat is to nurture the seed of those abilities present inside a human being and to bring out that quality from it which builds the personality of a human being, which makes a human being a perfect ideal human being and brings him closer to his Almighty. We will discuss on this topic today that what is confidence and how is confidence developed, if it is not there in children then what are its effects on their personality and why this topic has become an interesting topic at this time, especially the category which has come up in the educational institution in the name of soft skills, we will discuss on it but like every time, today also we have two special guests with us, one is first of all we have with us Dr. Imat sahab who is a PhD Psychology and is also the Head of Psychology Department Minhaj University, Assalam Walekum, how are you well, Insha Allah, I bow to you in this program. And we will definitely be satisfied with you because this topic is self-explanatory and Insha Allah it is related to your specialty, so Insha Allah we will understand those wonders about it. Thank you for inviting us for this important topic and secondly, with us is Mr. Sajid Ali who is the CEO of KB Creatives, in which he provides training in hard skills and soft skills. Children are given training on similar topics so that they are prepared for the future and develop capabilities within themselves. Alam waleukum, how are you? I am fine, Insha Allah we will also be satisfied with you in this program, viewers, like every time, before we begin our series of questions with our guest, we take a small break. Keep watching Baaghban. If you are liking the videos of Ra TV, then support us and definitely subscribe to our channel and yes, at the same time, definitely press the bell icon so that our every new upcoming video reaches you. Assalam waleukum viewers, once again in our program Baaghban. Khushamdid, today our topic is on confidence which is known as a soft skill in children and this is an important topic in itself that after all children should have confidence and not be self-centered, to what extent should it be and is our community Pakistan far ahead in the world in terms of skills, wherever you go in the world you will find people from Pakistani community but in which sectors do you find them, you will find them in professional skills, you will find them in labour and many big countries of the world in terms of development, for example if you go to places like Dubai and Amraj, then Pakistani community has made them through their expertise, if you go to England, then the best doctors are Pakistani doctors but according to the Global Compet Report, that is, according to the rank that is there in the world in terms of talent, according to its report, Pakistan is at number 110 out of 140, that is, it is far behind in global competitiveness and one of the reasons for this which is an important reason is the lack of soft skills, that is, the ability which should be there along with professional skills. It is not present in a community and one of these abilities is confidence, self-confidence. We move towards our guests and ask them questions. First of all, we would like to know what would you call confidence or self-confidence. What is the definition of confidence? I request you, Doctor sahab. Thank you very much for this, Sir. Confidence is basically an inner request, a duty, a passion through which we always try to move forward and it makes it easy for me and you to reach our destination or it gives success and if someone lacks this confidence, then he can never achieve success because when there is no confidence, fear starts coming. So its purpose is that confidence helps me to overcome my fear which is unjustified and to control it. We will call this thing confidence or we can say that a person should have faith in the ability and capability present inside him that he can be successful by using these abilities. It is possible, yes it is like that, but there are a few things in it which are not interlinked, like self esteem, self FKC, self recognition, these are the concepts which basically promote our confidence but their status is separate, so when we talk about confidence, then basically it is a desire for success which is built inside me and I have faith in myself that I can do this and the condition that I am in, we will call it confidence. Yes, Sajali sahab, I would like to have a question related to this to you that because you do training in today's era, earlier we were also young, we were in schools, this topic never used to come up so much even from the father's side that whether my child has confidence or not, but today even the father often makes it a parameter to judge how much confidence is building in my child, another thing in it is that he himself may not even know the definition of confidence. You may know it in the right sense but one thing that goes viral from hearsay is that if a child goes to a multinational school then he develops a lot of confidence whereas if he goes to a local school then he does not develop confidence. So this topic which was not there in the past and now in this era is getting highlighted in the educational world, in the educational system, what is the reason for this? As far as my observation is concerned, first of all if I talk about schooling at the micro level in which all kinds of parents come, then what happens is that one our schools have also started creating a hype, like for example because I am also working with different institutes, so that slogan started getting formed, along with education we also work on the medium ourselves, there is a slogan that if there is a good school of good standard, for example, then theirs automatically gets a hype because the parents also already know their things, they are educated. Mostly but the schools at the lower level, when they see how things are going on at the upper level, they make their own slogan, they sell things, I believe they sell and market it, sir, because when our parents also think about these things that this self-confident girl or what the hell is it, those parents who are completely uneducated, they do n't know about things, then in this way awareness or hype is created, in this, the organization has a very big role, I believe, secondly, social media has a big influence that we because today's children, you know that they use devices, we ourselves get confused that what is this, so you get to see this kind of content on social media, even small children watch it, even dads, now the mothers who stay at home, the women, they also have it There are androids and they also watch these things, watch reels, you guys get a lot of things from there like what is confidence, what is self- confidence, what are soft skills, so obviously they get some knowledge from there, so then after gaining that knowledge we try to apply it on our children as well, what is this thing and how, but is it just a hype, like doctor sahab also defined it that this is an inner ability inside a human being which takes him towards success, that takes him towards success, so is it just a hype or is it really a need and if it is a need then why was this need not realized in the old times, why has it become highlighted today, the question here is our see this hype, so see on the lines of Idar, if I see, it is a hype because as far as my experience is concerned, as many children as I have met till now, from there There are no outcomes, okay, if seen from that perspective, then it is obvious that this thing is just at the level of hype, but confidence is a very important thing in your grooming, like in the age we are sitting in, if we look at our schooling, our education or college life, then it took us a lot of time on this thing, which we discussed that why it was not there before, so that is what I am telling that as far as I feel that an awareness has developed in this thing when we have a technology awareness, a mindset was formed in us, then that is our problem that we go more on the things we see, like if yours is very beautiful then why is it needed today, yes I think that it is needed because we have lost our cultural binding, my family system has changed, which I used to teach me these things at home, sometimes my aunt, sometimes my aunt, my uncle, my grandfather used to teach me these things themselves, today there are separate systems, husband, wife and children are living separately, neither this Confidence is developing. To develop confidence, it is necessary to have competition somewhere. Now, there is no competition at home because if something comes out of his mouth from here, it is immediately done away with. What you are saying is that confidence building used to happen earlier also, but it was happening through a natural social phenomenon, but today, because of the social relationships that have ended, the institution has taken over this work and has made it a Kamla and from that, they are earning. This is what you are saying. But when you go into the basic definition of confidence, then it is this, isn't it, to identify the ability and train it so that it becomes successful. So, has n't the pressure changed in today's time and in the earlier times? For example, there is a lot of pressure on a child today because the competition has become global. Earlier, for example, you used to live in one area and you did not know what was happening outside the country. The news used to be very limited, but today the news is coming from all over the world. For example, a child made a robot in that world and another child got to know about it. So this pressure of success that you need to be successful, you need to compete globally, first you had to top your city, after that you had to top your country, so you used to say that I want to become a topper in the world, so isn't it because its need arose because our nation has become globalized and earlier the nation was limited, so the pressure was less. You have often seen earlier that a person used to do the same job for 30-40 years and used to do the same thing for the whole year, even now there are many areas where this thing is going on, this is not a factor in this, it is such a thing that you cannot deny this factor, but sir the thing is that you just talked very beautifully in the beginning, when we look globally, if we compare successful people, then worldwide Pakistani people appear to be more successful, but if you go to NASA, then I will not talk only about Pakistanis, but about the entire Asian world Talking about the region, look at the Asian region, talk about the entire region that is running the software industry. At present, the six or seven people who are engineers working at NASA belonged to this place. And you and I have more or less the same culture in this entire Asian region. And we do have a little religious difference. And there is and should be. This is not such an issue. And living within those differences, these people have acquired education from these places. What is there in these places today? That education has been ruined. Today, we are saying that we are not able to market ourselves globally. We are not able to do it. There are some other factors behind it. In my opinion, my opinion is that the motivation of my mother in it, that mother's motivation has now shifted to Android. We and the mother's motivation are no longer on the child. The father 's motivation, which used to be for the child's success, which we used to do in the olden times. There are people, we say that they used to give shoes to their parents, today those shoes are not worn, they say give money, make the child successful, the child never becomes successful like this, he says a very beautiful thing, Sil, I was talking earlier that we have a lot of information, but information is not knowledge, just like that, so to convert it into knowledge, you and I will have to bring it into experience, we do not give experience, we just say get a number, I want 900, that means I want 1096 out of 1100, but has he become a human being, has he learnt to use it, has he learnt to respect others, is he waiting for his turn, please notice, for 11 years he reads the universe in the book but does not observe the universe, then we have another look, there are many factors, we have raised another big issue which we talk about terrorism, I do not know if there is terror or not, but we told everyone here that if my child goes out, then it will happen somewhere. Who will not be taken away by terror, now the child was not allowed to go out, Mashallah you talked about Rumi's marriage in the beginning, look at his marriage, it is said that his age is 119 years, who lived in three parts, that is, if you make 40 years 120, he spent 40 years on studying and teaching, 40 years on traveling and the next 40 years on writing, so today he has become such a great mufar, who made him, that Mushahid, similarly let's talk about Ghazali sahab, there was a confusion in him whether God exists or not, it is like this, right, so where did he go, he came towards nature, these sad mines of yours in Pakistan, it is even said that he came to roam and Allah gave him a wisdom, gave him the understanding, where did the Mushahid come from, you say that the child comes from school, goes to tuition, comes from tuition, sleeps, wakes up in the morning and then goes to school, so sir, then neither will he get confidence, nor will he get social skills, nor will he get soft skills, nothing will come as much as we do If you wish, if you keep doing training programs for that, then I think there is a lack of Mushahid in it, which is a natural thing, the closer a person is to nature, the more normal he is, that is, in answer to this question, we can reach this conclusion that the cultural changes that have come in our past and in this era, that is social as well as technological, because of that, the environment which used to be naturally trained earlier, has changed, the child has also been put under pressure, the race of tuition numbers from school, position, somehow you have to succeed, somehow you just have to get the marks, get the degrees, this factor has come in that in this whole race, that confidence building does not happen, actually an opportunity opens up for the institutes that why don't we cash on it, we start talking about confidence building and hype it that brother you should do confidence building because first you yourself have made such a system that confidence vanishes, it is not built at all, after that you started selling the same product, started selling it separately, very interesting viewer. Our conversation continues on this topic of confidence and trust, on which you have given very good and interesting answers. Our conversation will continue after the break. Keep watching Baghban. If you like the videos of Ra TV, then support us and subscribe to our channel and yes, press the bell icon so that every new video reaches you. Assalam Walekum Nazreen, once again in our program Baghban, our topic is confidence and till now we have understood what confidence is and why it was not discussed in the earlier times and in today's time it has become a topic of discussion in an educational institution. Doctor Sahab also gave a very good answer on this that earlier confidence building used to happen at home, elders, fathers themselves used to do this work but in today's era of social media, in the era of gadgets, the competition that is there in education, in the race of numbers and degrees and cultural invasion. As a result of the technological growth that has happened in our country, confidence building has ended and then it has been made a big issue again by the institutions and the parents have also been forced to think whether their child has confidence or not but the reality is that confidence is really important in its own place, it is not something that was happening naturally but now it is needed more because the pressure is more. So our next question is that if a child does not have confidence building, when he grows up, what kind of effects can it have on his personality? There can be many effects. We would like both of you to look at this and see what effects can it have on the child and his personality. Basically, there was a time when there was talk of time management, now there is talk of self management from where the talk of soft skills starts and this is the whole series. Now if someone does not have confidence, then the first loss is failure but this failure is not that which Edison had failed, you might remember that he tried 9999999 times but could not make a bulb. His employee told him that you cannot make a bulb, leave it because you have failed 9999 times. He said no, you are not saying right because I have learnt 9999 times that bulb cannot be made in this way. And the next time he made a bulb but this is such a failure that after that you stop working, you do not make any effort. In today's era, many people have again made a new thing a means of earning money. That is exam phobia. When children get good marks, they get stressed, it becomes so and so but basically what happens is that they do not have confidence in themselves. When there is no confidence, we fail in English. Why? Otherwise, when majority of you go abroad, you will speak English in the same way, even better than the way they speak, but you will not be able to speak here because their This has instilled in people a lack of confidence, it has raised their self-esteem and their self-esteem gets destroyed, by doing this he becomes a victim of such inferiority, he has negative thoughts inside him, he starts doubting himself, his courage to move ahead diminishes, he does not move ahead, then he remains focused on that only, which he keeps doing repeatedly, due to which he is not able to succeed, now its effects, when you do training, often multiple children come to you, in this the children who lack confidence, does it also affect their social relationships, how does their behavior change, see, if I talk socially about the children, then if their social circle is already designed, then they remain comfortable in it, but what happens is that when they have a toxic talk here because often even now if any child from a village, like you know Lahore is a big city, then most of the people from outside come here for training, for learning. Or in boarding schools, if we compare those children with the children here, then in my opinion, as we say that we are 10 years behind, those children even today, like a child here, if he wants to make a social bonding or a relationship with an unknown person, your teacher, your mentor, you mean any of your class fellows, then he makes a relationship with him, but our person, that is a child who has come from outside, even today he has hesitation, so that confidence shows itself in terms of communication, in terms of discussion, but for newcomers or new people, they don't even like to take the greetings of the dad, which I have observed, one more thing which I will talk about technically, with which you were just discussing that what is the reason for children losing confidence or why do they lose it, it is basic or right now our question is what are the effects on the personality, see, this is what happens in it The first thing that you do is that you start cursing yourself, which I have felt that your inner satisfaction gets disturbed or at an older age, the child at this stage, yes, a 10th class child is fine, Mashallah, a 10th class child is fine these days, as much as I am telling you, the observation of children is strong, even a 5th class child does not go to school, he also thinks so much about himself, you cannot even imagine, so children, you see for yourself that in our times, if I talk about your times, my times, then teachers used to beat us, family members also used to beat us, then we did not feel hurt, then today you see for yourself that even if you scold the child a little, today immediately the question comes of self- respect, we did not even know what self-respect is, I mean we have been beaten in front of teachers, we used to be beaten, then the teachers used to beat us, parents also used to beat us, but see today those things have ended, children If you scold a child then it happens in this way, it means that the child is learning a lot about this thing from the environment and he thinks about this thing that I have some self-respect and I am something but this thing is my belief that this thing is okay but if the child thinks so much about himself from now on then it means that there is some courage in him but these children who were in 10th standard, I have had more experience with these children, we are talking about those children who do not have confidence in themselves, how does it come out, there is harm in it, or is it normal, okay, see or not, it becomes difficult to compete for those children when a person is not even able to do anything, that means a child makes a good design and I tell him that friend, you mean you are a very good designer, then sir ji I am a graphic designer now understand the matter friend, it means he should do this thing that brother you made this design A very good design was made, for example, now what does that child do that he is not doing it, it means the same thing that the reason for not turning on that thing is that he has to believe in himself that I have made such a good thing, now if he does not believe then he will not move forward, if today he makes a good thing, if he turns it on then he will move forward, he can make a better thing than that, okay, it definitely affects his personality, it has effects and he is not so positive, it becomes difficult for you to compete, it becomes difficult to settle something for yourself, to place yourself at some place, such children who lack confidence do not fall prey to risk aversion, that is, they do not always want to do any risky work, in our Pakistan very few people play on risk, maybe an environment has been designed in such a way that they are not adventurous, they do not do what they want, a person who is like this, like a creative person, a person who does adventures, he does not even think about these things. No, the question is whether building confidence is related to taking risks or not. Psychologically, basically, lack of confidence comes when we step out of our comfort zone. We have created our own comfort zones and just like we don't take risk-taking because we are afraid. Or even children are afraid that if they study this subject instead of this subject, they will fail. When I often talk about this, I tell them that failure is a very bad thing because make failure an opportunity and the one who makes failure an opportunity in life, he is successful, the other has never been successful. Majority of you must have fallen down when you learned to ride a cycle. Was that not a failure? If you have kept it for yourself that if I go again, I will fall again, then you will have to come out of the cycle, which means your comfort zone, all your life. And a child comes out of his comfort zone when his parents tell him and when their parents tell them. If both these agencies try to take the child out of the comfort zone, then he comes out and in building confidence on him, then another aspect comes that the child should be taught to take risks, in the same way the biggest role is of the parents because what they are talking about, like failure, we are saying in the subject that failure is not a big deal, but this is not the case with every parent, that is, if we also do this, then from this we can also make a parameter that if a person does not take risk, stays in the comfort zone like in your area, it means that there is a lack of confidence in him, there is a lack of this pyramid, this is the ability, there is a lack of confidence in him, due to which he does not take risk, often people do not leave their jobs, they get a good opportunity, they do not come towards business, do they get a chance or not, let whatever is going on, I do not take any risk, it is like this here, it is like this, but on the other hand we see that outspoken types of people There are also children, youngsters, they are taking so many risks on motorcycles, they are taking risks on cars, they are doing this, they go out with guns and these are usually the ones who are not well educated, even in school their performance is not good, so how do they get this confidence because they are free, this is not a big deal, actually two things are becoming clear in it that if on one hand there is confidence, on the other hand there is overconfidence and if while building confidence you move towards overconfidence then the gun will be in his hand, it is not that it will not come in his hand, now here again the role that will be performed by the parents and teachers, until they do not challenge their children, do not create a challenge for them by taking them out of the comfort zone, till then this lack of confidence and overconfidence will keep on going here and there, I sir, if you permit me, then we have a theory in psychology whose name is Rixon, he is a great person, he did not have regular education for even a day, there are many successful people who have not even had a day's education Those who were fired became Bill Gates. There are many such issues but I am telling you this particular one because this person says that if you do not give a child a chance to take initiative, he will never move forward. So what is initiative? It is risk taking. And I have beautifully coined it with my culture in such a way that there is a small child whose age is just two years. Just look at that child, his wish is to wear the shoes himself. His mother says that you cannot wear them, no no. So I just teach him no no. So the purpose of this is that he lives with this no all his life. So he says that you teach him, help him and when he wears them, praise him, back him up. Then he will also gain confidence. We have to come towards these practical methods. We cannot explain everything to our viewers and parents in one or two programs, but at least a struggle and a direction can definitely be given to the viewers. But through this Before we move ahead, we will take a small break here. Viewers, stay with us and keep watching our program Baaghban. If you like the videos of Ra TV, then support us and definitely subscribe to our channel and yes, at the same time, do press the bell icon so that all our new upcoming videos can reach you. Welcome back Viewers, once again in our program Baaghban, Khushamdid. Our question which was going on was that when the children who lack confidence grow up, what kind of effects does it have on their personality in the future. Doctor Sahab and Sajid Sahab were having a very nice conversation on this that one thing is that they have risk aversion, that is, they do not want to play with dangers or we can also say Doctor Sahab that they do not choose big goals and obligations in their life, their goals become small and they do not move towards big goals. Yes, you are right, but small goals do not lead to big goals; a person goes step by step but he does not have the courage to achieve his targets. I want to achieve my limits or expand them, but the situation that has arisen in today's era, you have come into the fast moving world where everything is moving fast, an ability related to this is very important, today even big giants pay a lot of attention to this, they look at two-three things while selecting an employee, even if he is a software expert, but they see what is his decision making power, how good decisions he can take, how quickly he can take decisions, so what is the decision making or impairment in decision making, which we call a failure in decision making, often making wrong decisions or not having the courage to take a decision, giving up, ah you are right, you are right, I don't understand what to do, is this also related to lack of confidence since childhood, is there a big element in this, yes it is exactly like this, when he does not have confidence, he does not come out of his comfort zone in any field, he has a desire that no one can work in his place Do it and I just sign it and tell him okay this is the fine, in everybody's good books, in everybody's good books, which we call that nowadays in our administration this is what happens mostly and we don't offend anyone, so people say that the one who has no enemies, has all his friends, then I do n't want to use that word work because it is said that it doesn't happen otherwise, it happens at some place or the other, so see, the thing in this is that the initial training that happens goes on with us, it is applicable that there keeps on changing in it, the reason behind that see, a child is born on the nature of Salim, sins are prostrated, there is a demand for forgiveness, and for Hajj it is said that when he comes back after Hajj, then his purpose is on the nature of Salim, then he starts afresh, so this meaning brother, that we can bring him into this aspect at any place within the training process, but the condition is that the training It should be on those parameters which have a bias to bring that child on the right path. Let's say, risk taking, I remember you mentioned it sometime. I remember one thing that in the army, you know, there are a lot of army personnel who are into swimming. There was a Major sahab, he was a very good swimmer, but his son was scared of water. He tried very hard, did a lot of training and a lot of things, but one day he thought, ok friend, leave all the trainers aside, now I will do it. He pushed everyone away, went himself and threw the child in the pond and told everyone not to catch him. Now see, he tried his best to survive, he came out of his comfort zone and saved his life. And this is the thing that we do n't bring children out of that comfort zone and because of this, from the beginning till the top, the same pattern has been formed that this has to be given to the child, you have to do this work, you have to give this to the child, this homework has to be done, this has to be done, this has to be done, apart from this, tell me any other thing which you can give to the children. If we are giving them this, then how will their confidence develop, that is, all these effects happen in the future. Even the smallest decisions should be made by the children at home. If you have to change the furniture of the house, then you should ask the child what to put here. You are designing the interior, setting up the interior, you are changing the car, then do not take the decision from the child. He is also your child. You would not have raised that child. In today's times, a big disease of the self comes and that is depression and anxiety, sadness and restlessness, and for that tablets are being taken, everything. Is it not related to these things that if confidence is built in the child from childhood, then he will not fall prey to these things. My opinion about depression and anxiety is that depression is basically a group of people who are depressed, so the one who does not come out of his comfort zone, that group is depressed, so definitely he gets depressed, he does not know that this How do I get out of depression? I do n't have the courage to do it. When I looked at a lot of things and talked about it in the context of positive psychology, I found a place in the Holy Quran where it says that if Allah's friend becomes mine, then there is no problem or disappointment for him, so there is no depression. Its purpose is that when we talk about doing our own work, it is my responsibility to make an effort, the result is not my responsibility, and when I make that result my responsibility, then I will also get depressed and I will also get anxiety, as a result, then I will take the pills, when I take the pills, the body will be de-framed and de-structured. Here, if we connect this topic of confidence with the religion of Islam, then what has the Prophet said about it? There is not much about confidence, but look, I only request about confidence that it is said that a believer is not bitten twice by the same clue, so if he does not have confidence, he will go there again and again, if he is not futuristic, then he will stop at the same place again and again, if he has no confidence, he will go there again and again, if he is not futuristic, then he will stop at the same place again and again, If there is no vision, then he will stop and will not move forward. Can't we say that what Allah has written in the Quran for man is a very lofty purpose, to get close to Allah and to create the divine virtues within oneself. This can only be done by one who has a very high level and great courage. That is, without confidence, not only is he unsuccessful in this world, but he cannot achieve his purpose fully. And Deen has taken Iman forward and linked it with faith that believe in what is there, if a person also believes in the capability that is within him, then this is achieved by the same confidence. I will only add this much to it that faith is not in words, it is Iqra Bili Sani Tasdiq Bil Kal and faith is if that faith is formed, then today's modern psychology also accepts that there is a transformation in our behavior, we start acting accordingly, but what happens is that we do not have full confidence, so we are pretending, so that confidence basically comes from the heart, from the core of the heart. We should try to do what our heart says, then the religion also says the same and modern psychology also says the same and Islamic psychology also says the same, all positive psychology talks about this, the Quran gives the status of Imamat to a Muslim, to a believer, that he has to lead the world and today this thing is prevalent in the world that Pakistanis are good workers but not good leaders, so this is also probably the reason that we do not have the confidence to lead the world, we should lead, we should remain just followers, so I will take a little difference with you, I will go back, in 1950, the Koreans were your disciples, the Japanese were your disciples, they learned from you, yes, where have we gone today, there was a time when we are talking about today, sir, then we move ahead, so it is not that we did not perform the duties of Imamat, we gave donations to many people in this country Pakistan and also gave them loans, then after that whatever circumstances came, there are some factors behind it that our that which There was a relationship, that relationship broke and what was that relationship with our God, we believed in the same Pukhtun that we had in America, we had it here, as a result we are going in degradation and poverty right now, otherwise we are still the same people, we are still the same humans, thank you very much to you, but this conversation is also going on in our part two, viewers, the time of this program ends here, but we will continue another part of this topic in our next niche, till now we have seen what is confidence, what are its effects on the child, but now we would like to know from our special guests that what should parents do to build confidence, instead of relying on the institution to teach confidence to our children, after all what are those small things that we can do ourselves, so that our child's upbringing develops this ability in them so that their vision also becomes big, as a result of this confidence, one should be high-minded, adventurous and really, the world Let me do the work of Imamat, let me lead the world, viewers, thank you very much, you stay with us, Insha Allah, we will be present again in the next part, stay with this topic, keep watching our program [Music] Baagwan [Music] [Music]