How To Be Positive Person

positivity you know everyone always tells us to be a little bit more positive because when life is great it's easy to be positive well if you're someone that is in a position where you're constantly trying to better yourself you're constantly trying to chase something and not getting any sort of results how can you still stay positive and sane numbers don't lie 75 percent of 18 to 24 year olds report at least one adverse mental health condition in the us in the uk in june 2020 it was three times as high compared to the years before so how can you stay positive and keep yourself going even though in such a difficult period of time and that's what i would like to talk about in this video so i love to make videos like this because i generally know that these videos help you guys out and you always have a positive response to it so if you're someone that is new to this channel and you'd like to see more content like this please consider to the subscribe button and i'll be brother out and please let me know what kind of videos you'd like to see next because that way i can help you out in the best way possible anyways with that said let's jump into the video number one surround yourself with positive people so you know it's not always easy to do this because you're not always in control of your environment but if you're someone that actually has some sort of control and notice that individuals around you are constantly negative constantly toxic and are constantly moaning about simply everything when it comes to life try to minimize your contact with them even though you're not particularly someone that is as negative as them if you're gonna surround yourself with them you'll end up getting all of the negative energy and you have to deal with it and i know that some individuals will say yes i can actually handle it i can easily filter out that negative energy but the truth is even if you can filter out all of the negative energy you should still consider this and the reason for this is that we as humans have something called a prefrontal cortex and this is your emotional center and when someone is talking to you it goes through your emotional center first before you reach your rational center and therefore even if you can filter out to an extent it will still go through this center and therefore if you have a lot of negative people around you it will still go through the prefrontal cortex and therefore it will go through your emotional system before it goes to your rational system by simply reducing the negative energy in your environment your prefrontal cortex doesn't have to necessarily deal as much with this energy and therefore it will be much easier to be a bit more positive as a person number two practice gratitude so hey i'm not telling you to become some sort of monk because i'm not one of them and to be quite frank this is one of those things that i should probably do more as well but the truth is that if you're someone that is feeling a little bit down it's always good to look back at your past i'm not telling you to be grateful in a way that a lot of other individuals always tell you be grateful that you have a house be grateful that you have a roof on top of your head because although it might work with some other individuals it has never worked for me the thing that always works for me is a different type of gratitude i always remind myself where i came from the steps i had to took to be in a position where i am today and even though you're someone that hasn't reached the top you haven't reached the success you're looking for because i know i haven't i'm still grateful that i'm so much further ahead than i previously was if i compare my present now with my past one and i dare you to do the same think about your past think about all of those experiences that you've experienced throughout the years which have developed you in the person you are today think about all of those challenges think about all of those emotional rollercoasters you've been through and the thing with this is that if you start to think about all of the times you've been hurt all of the times you had to go through some sort of challenge to reach your destination you might feel a bit angry and pissed but wait now it gets a little bit better think about all of the things you had to do and how he actually dealt with it to become and grow as a person that you are today and this is the sort of gratitude that you need to remind yourself in life because let's be honest if you tell yourself that you're grateful that you have a roof on top of your head you don't feel the same emotions compared to if you start to dig deep into your life you start to rethink about all the challenges you've been through and if you start to remind yourself this you start to experience those feelings so initially you felt a little bit down but gradually you overcame it and then you were a little bit more positive and a bit more happy in life and this is how you can hack your own emotions put yourself in a position where you were vulnerable and remind yourself that you overcame it and this is the key thing that i've always used to develop myself because when it comes to gratitude the more emotions you've got attached to something and for most of us we have a lot of emotions attached to our past this allows us to be more grateful if i'm honest i don't have particularly that much emotion attached to this water bottle but when i look into my past and look into the things i've actually been through those are the things that i've conquered gratitude from and those are the things that will allow me to become more positive number three do something nice for someone so if it's someone that is a little bit paranoid and you always feel like the other people are trying to outsmart you are always trying to outplay you you might be in a position while always trying to get something from other individuals instead of giving back to them and when it comes to us humans every single relationship of us is made out of giving and receiving and so if you're in a position where you feel like that the other individuals putting 90 percent of the effort into your relationship and you're only putting 10 percent in you'll feel like that you're in imbalance and therefore you might feel a little bit more negative about yourself and i'm not necessarily telling you to be 50 50 because you don't always have to be in this position and sometimes it's better to only give thirty percent of yours and allow them to put seventy percent of the effort into it but if you're in a position where you feel like you're not positive at all you don't feel fulfilled in life you might want to actually give back to other people and when i'm talking about giving back to other individuals it doesn't always have to be about money you can also give your time to other individuals because you know our time is extremely valuable and sometimes by you simply talk to other individuals and having a conversation you can generally make other individuals day because some individuals don't have enough people to talk to and therefore if you start to talk to them they generally feel a bit more fulfilled and they feel like you actually care about them and hey look what will actually happen if they will be genuinely nice to you and give you a compliment it will actually go to your prefrontal cortex and therefore it will go through your emotional system before it comes to your rational system and therefore if they'll be nice to you and will give you a general compliment it will definitely make you feel more positive because that's the key i always see some individuals always being negative to other individuals always trying to get everything out of the conversation always trying to manipulate other individuals but that won't actually help you out in life if you're someone that wants to be a bit more positive and you want to prosper in life by you simply giving back to others they'll be happy to give you something back because if you're genuine to other individuals and you actually care about them they start to care about you too they will start to give you compliments and this will definitely make you more positive number four stop the negative self-talk this is something i like to call the victim mentality and unfortunately in the world we have a lot of those individuals but luckily since you're someone that is watching this video and is generally trying to improve themselves not that you're someone that has extreme victim mentality is quite low but victim mentality i mean someone that never likes to take responsibility and always tries to blame it on something else think about individuals they always say that they can't find a job because the economy is rude and although i would be lucrative if i said that that wasn't true to an extent but there's always opportunity out there and therefore a positive person would reword it and will say that there actually have been better opportunities before but nevertheless i can still give it a go and do my best and i know that laughless individuals have experienced some sort of victim mentality when we look at our own situations but regardless that doesn't necessarily mean that we need to continue this because for example if you approach a girl and you're saying wagon painting and then she responds with that she's not interested you can take it in two ways the negative way and the positive way the negative person will have some sort of negative self-talk and therefore if i was in that particular situation i would say maybe it has to do because of too much facial hair maybe it has to do that i'm an ethnic minority and i'm not accepted and obviously this is ridiculous because you and me don't know the exact reason why she rejected me and that's why the positive mentality is much better the positive person will say that it sucks and is honest about it but regardless the other individual doesn't exactly know who you are they don't know what your personality is like they've only seen you for two or three seconds and therefore you're like whatever let's move on to the next one so stop talking yourself down and acknowledge the fact that you didn't like it but try to reword it in a way that will allow you to move on and make it better the next time number five celebrate progress so this is quite an interesting one because we always like to compare ourselves with other individuals we like to compare results with other individuals but you need to understand that you are you and no one can be you better than you are and i don't mean this in a cheesy way because everyone is different and everyone has different goals and everyone will achieve those different goals at different times and therefore i know it's easy to say that you need to stop comparing yourself with other individuals and therefore the politically correct way is for me to tell you that you need to stop comparing yourself to other individuals but the truth is you'll still do it i'm still doing it but how can we cope with this in the best way possible which will allow us to feel more positive about ourselves and this is where the celebrate progress part comes into play because look if you're someone that never goes to the gym and you went to the gym for the first time you need to applaud yourself because you've done something amazing you've started to do something that you've never done before but what actually happens when initials start to go to the gym for the first time they start to focus on the initial big picture instead of applauding themselves for going to the gym for the first time because after they've put the first step into the gym they're like all right fine i've done this but what's the next step let's gain one kg of muscle in one month i've achieved this nice let's go to the next target and then they aim high and higher let's gain 10 kg of muscles in one year wait i haven't achieved that now i'm feeling sad about myself because i saw that the other individual that i was going to the gym with actually did achieve this and they stopped looking at the results that they've obtained i know this is the sad part because a lot of those individuals get tremendous results and it doesn't necessarily have to be in the gym it can be in any other sort of aspect in your life but they don't recognize this they always want more and more and obviously this is important you want to have more in your life because this allows you to develop yourself into a position where you're gonna reiterate the steps you're gonna take which will allow you to become more productive but the issue with this is that most of those individuals always talk themselves down if they don't achieve those goals if you look at the bigger picture if you look at your past just like i previously mentioned you start to rethink what you've actually been through and therefore by you simply starting to recognize all of the things you've achieved and actually applauding yourself for it you really start to become someone that's more positive and this positivity won't end up being a mindset shift but a lifestyle shift and that's what you're looking for you're trying to change your lifestyle in a way which will influence you to be more positive while at the same time allows you to change your dreams and allow you to conquer the gosh you want and that pretty much sums it up for this video i know that i've talked a lot in this video and i've provided a lot of value and i hope you found it informational and useful if you did please let me know in the comments down below and leave me a thumbs up for the youtube algorithm because that gently helps this channel out i'm aiming for 10k subscribers and therefore if you're someone that is new to this channel and want to support me please consider to the subscribe button and help your brother out anyways with that said thank you so much for watching i hope you have a great day and i'll see you my next video bye bye [Music] you