HOME BIRTH VS HOSPITAL BIRTH | PREGNANCY VLOG

I [Music] [Music] you guys crazy crazy today I am 11 weeks pregnant I can't even believe already so 11 weeks I have not had a prenatal checkup yet which is funny because I feel like usually you know you like call and skip to an appointment and go right away and you do that confirmation ultrasound or whatever it is something you know you get things going with your care this thing's been a little tricky for us so we actually have our first appointment scheduled for tomorrow but it took a while to get there because we couldn't decide what we wanted this birth to be like and what we wanted our birth clan to be like so I'm gonna walk through with you guys some of our decision weighing and like kind of the pros and cons I feel like - each at least for me personally you know - a home birth and a hospital birth and I just wanted to take you guys through that with me so for us we've actually had four of our babies in a hospital setting the first two were with an OB in the second two were with a midwife with Tyler I had an epidural it was kind of a rough experience I feel like her birth was the most traumatic for me and my friends had babies I didn't know what to expect I was scared and a lot of times with an OB with a normal healthy pregnancy things can escalate quickly there was talk about the c-section like while I'm pushing and all this stuff and none of it in hindsight and what I've learned like none of that was necessary see I was really over me so that changed everything so when I had Elena I was determined like where it going natural and then I think that interest grew and grew from there I wanted to have a home before but I think John was a little bit nervous about it and so finally we got pregnant whenever we were like I'm having my brother always wanted this and so I loved it like home birth is this amazing awesome thing but then there are some reasons where I was like I don't know if that's the best choice again so let's start weighing the pros and cons for me personally of a breakfast program we still one of the things that was there's obviously a huge factor is finances depending on where you go and what your insurance takes like there are so many variables to the cost of a birth so a home worth out-of-pocket would be much cheaper than a hospital birth out of pocket the issue that we are having is that the Midwife and provider that I liked for the hospital does not take our insurance so we would have to self pay for the doctor Midwife portion which would actually be more than our portion for a home birth so we're looking right there at a big like okay this is a big cost difference like what obviously that's a huge factor but we didn't want that to be the only factor because in reality having you know your birth be as smooth as possible and just to be you know an experience that's as close to what you'd like as possible is important and so first we're willing to invest in that if we needed to but on the flip side for me I was like well here you have the home birth it's cheaper but there's also then you know the pressure of having to prepare everything and prepare our home and have our room be clean and have everything in order which isn't a lot mind you like it we had we got the supplies that we needed and I was able to set it but even for me right now like keeping the house clean is such a hard thing that was like I wouldn't think I want to do together was sorry okay at the hospital you don't have to worry about that they obviously have everything they need you bring your stuff you get some you get comfortable but you have to worry about the tools you want to worry about I didn't have to clean personally but I didn't have to worry about anything being cleaned or anything like that like you're outside of your space okay so when you are planning to get birth at a hospital you have to know when it's time to go which sounds crazy right okay but for me it's never been up my waters breaking oh go to the hospital like pack your bags go um and it's never been a okay my contractions are consistent I mean with Tyler I think it was but they were so sure I was not in labor she was like yeah you can come in but I don't think you're in labor and I got there they're like oh you're five centimeters okay like like yeah so the thing is then I got stalled out around six and meters and ended up staying overnight and then they break my water and they become okay but as my Labor's as I've had subsequent children I feel like it gets harder and harder to know when it's time to go with Everly's birth and if you haven't seen her birth video you can go back and watch it I was at ten centimeters and not in pain like it was the most out of like this world experience I was literally standing there like I feel them but it's not like crippling and they're like okay well we should break your water and choke them out and I'm like can I just try to push like I'm already at ten can I just like can we give it a go like I was literally like that seething and talking it was so weird so no I'm like man I can be at home like that 10 centimeters I mean by then I had pretty consistent contractions so I can think that I would be at the hospital but you know I'm saying like I don't want to go and only be six and be there for two days or have him send me home so that's what happened with adilyn's birth without a hospital and went and we were there I asked her to hold off on breaking my water because I was having consistent contractions and I just wanted to see if if I could do it because I've always had my water broken and so I just wanted to see if I could do on my own this is a D and um it was about five o'clock in the morning and she was like I either break your water you mean and by this time like the Midwife that had been on call I was like I don't John heard it baby like I just don't feel comfortable her she's been pushy and rude and like I was the tears so we ended up leaving the hospital at five in the morning at six centimeters and staying in hotel coming back the next morning thank God my favorite Midwife was on call and she's actually the one that delivered addy but you know I'm saying so here I am like oh we do the hospital again I have no one to go in I don't want to go and have somebody come and watch our kids and then get sitting home and then because we have so many kids you have to get babysitters for somebody who can come in and so that's a huge factor but then on the other hand with home birth it was hard for me to get into labor early and almost because when you're in a hospital they your midwife or OB they have other patients so they're doing rounds and they're checking other people the nurses are checking on that people at home I'm not only patient so like I felt like I could chat and talk it you know not being in a super amount of pain was like I'm like I'm like like entertaining almost and it just felt like when I'm sitting in the birthing pool like trying to close my eyes every time I open them they're just like sitting around looking at me I'm like for me that is not like that is not my ideal situation being the center of everything like that so it was very hard for me to get in a place of like letting my body relax and like get into labor zone and like go you know so that was what was different about a home birth for me where I just in the hospital setting I'm by myself and I can just tune everything out everyone out with my music like nap sway walk around like whatever I want to do get comfortable and just really like Zone in on the contractions and on letting my body do it it's supposed to do and on God and on you know worship music and like really get this place and I felt like even though I was home and it should be more comfortable and I didn't have you know and I abhi pour it in and I didn't have it you know distractions and nurses coming in and checking on me or monitoring the baby like I still felt like I had a hard time getting there because everybody's watching me so another thing about the hospital is you know with Tyler it was I ended up getting an epidural which I don't even know how far I was probably eight centimeters like what I did I it didn't work herself like I couldn't I could just don't feel everything they up the medicine I could still feel everything they try to differ medicine and then like everything was known after that like in my arms it was crazy but then from there you know they wanted to do an episiotomy and then it was if you don't push the baby out now you're gonna have a c-section that was like this thing after thing it was scary you know and I just felt like there was so much pressure and that was with an OB that's where I switch to a midwife and so things were so much better after that and I really do love a midwife she delivered Jude and Adeline and she was amazing and so calming and exactly what needed in those moments you know so so for me like I have this good memories of these birds like Jude's birth if you haven't seen her birth video it was the most peaceful spiritual like amazing thing for me and I really fell in love with birth from that you know but the other thing there is you do after you have the baby and you're trying to recover you have nurses that come in all night and push on you and they press on you and they wake you up and they take your blood and they want to you know do tests on the baby and all this stuff where is that home they got the measurements of everything they cleaned up for me they got me some food and then they left and I got to just sleep and be my own bed and be comfortable they came back the next day to check the baby I didn't have to go for a whole month at all of Everly's appointments they came here and they took care of that so I didn't have to take her to the doctor so that was another really great thing about the home birth versus you know the hospital you go home and you have to come back to the doctor or the pediatrician in two days to make sure if he was gaining weight for me like all these things are floating around my head and I'm like I just don't know do we anymore do not like the food at the hospital I hope everybody talks about hospital food but for me it's just like not having to make anything or worry about anything it's nice just to like sit there and order something and I don't like it they have veggie burgers that are actually pretty good and french toast every day so I can live with that like I love that and the hospitals right across from a whole food so you can get snacks and smoothies and here they made food but also like what we had whom we didn't have very many groceries and so I know like after I'd have it really there was Domino's Pizza and I was like I don't I just go sorry don't want to eat you know I couldn't eat what I wanted to eat we didn't have any groceries and so there's this whole thing so some so silly as I'm saying it but for real that's a factor for me I to just eat what I'm craving and after you have a baby like crepe I don't know like you're like during pregnancy I feel like that was craving specific things each time but then part of me is like you know it the little break from the other kids and from the chaos at home might be nice even though I love love love having them here I loved having Tyler cut every lace cord and having them be able to meet their baby sister right away it still has been nice in the past if you like to get a little bit of break from that and a little bit of okay this is strictly like time from me and this new baby took BOM and John like the three of us to bond and just be there and the girls would come to the hospital but it was just this nice little like break from reality almost and this is time to you know get the hang of Nursing and not have to worry about anything no it's it just it's like a holiday it sounds so great but we don't get a break very much so that's what it's not like so yeah that's also something that we wanted to take into consideration there's so many things do you see like this is why it was like a grueling decision going back and forth between what's worth it to me and what's not and then I think John has been super neutral he's like whatever you want to do is fine so that wasn't tremendously helpful so leave me a comment below let me know like have you given birth at home in a hospital what was your favorite Y I will say I like I said I love the hospital I love the home birth experience that is something I've always wanted to do and I did enjoy it so much but this time around we decided that it would be less stressful and overall better for us to deliver this baby in the hospital with our same midwives as before and so I don't know I'm excited and anxious about it part of me is like gonna miss the idea of the tum birth and the water birth because that's something I really wanted and I didn't get however early in the water but at the same time I know I'm going to need and enjoy the break from the girls and just that one-on-one bonding time with this new baby and I know that like I said the ability to just order food and get what I want to eat and just have that little break it's gonna be so good for us especially around such a chaotic time of the year face it we already have two birthdays before Christmas many of Thanksgiving and Christmas like all within the same four weeks it's just a mad time of the year for us so we decided to go to the hospital / throughout this time still planning on in October but that is where we are it's our first appointment with our midwife is tomorrow and yeah I can't wait to share this journey with you guys I hope hearing some of this is helping anybody way the decision out if you haven't had a home birth I would totally go for that like for me I think there's extenuating things that affected my decision I love I love the idea of it but it was it's hard for me being a person who needs to be alone and in my zone to labor to be the center of attention like that and it was hard for me to hear on my other kids downstairs and you know in the back of your mind you still are worried about that one who's taking care of them and how they're doing and whatever's going on and then you know those days like shortly after if we didn't have five already and if I if I didn't want to be split alone and a zone to leave her and so all these things factored in that position but I'm excited about it yeah like I said I can't wait to share it with you guys so click Subscribe if you haven't already I'd love to chat more in the comments below throw you know any questions you have my way I feel like I've done that all I haven't had a c-section but aside from that definitely had a lot of experience with labor and birth and be happy to came to questions or chat with you guys I love y'all and I will [Music] remember