How To Be Resilient and Not Fear Failure

[Music] [Applause] [Music] what comes to your mind when i say the word failure i fail in everything turns out everyone fails and it's never fun it's painful but many people allow their failure to control their life i can't try again nothing ever went off for me this doesn't have to be you how you respond to failure is your choice and it makes all the difference in your life with just a few tips you can learn how to be resilient and turn your failures into strength number one don't let failure stop you it can be easy to see successful people and think why is she so perfect they do everything right this is a lie don't believe me think about this for a minute what do abraham lincoln thomas edison and the wright brothers all have in common they all faced failure but then went on to great success abe lincoln went bankrupt and was defeated many times before finally going on to actually win public office at least i have this penny thomas edison had thousands of unsuccessful attempts before finally going on to invent the incandescent lamp the wright brothers had unforeseen technical problems and bad weather caused many disruptions before their first aviation success in 1903 these world changers and legends endured failure just like everyone else the difference is they did not allow failure to stop them come on orville one more time fly away they kept pushing and worked relentlessly to perfect their craft so remember if you fail at something it doesn't make you a failure it just makes you like everyone else including the greatest legends of all time number two change your perception of failure whenever you fail it can feel terrifying oh it seems like a giant pickle is crushing you holding you back from your dreams and it strikes paralyzing fear in your heart you have to stop looking at failure as a thing to fear you need to see failure as your friend hello can we be friends you're not scared of your friends right of course not because you know your friends are there to help you i wouldn't be here without you you smell like vinegar and failure is the same just like a friend it helps you grow it keeps you humble and makes victories that much sweeter you should also see failure as a teacher or a coach good teachers and coaches don't coddle you they push you to get better oh 57 50. sixty three three and a half sometimes it hurts but it's what you need to stretch outside of your comfort zone where the real growth happens and finally look at failure like stepping stones if you failed once you're one step closer to succeeding if you fail three times you're three steps closer to succeeding if you fail a hundred times okay you you get it if edison had stopped after only hundreds of attempts to make an incandescent lamp we might be surrounded by candles right now [Music] you never know when your next attempt will be a breakthrough so stop seeing failure as a negative because in reality it's a friend a teacher and a stepping stone to success number three respond to failure like a pro when you start seeing failure as a positive you now have the power to respond to failure like successful people do with resilience which basically just means the capacity to recover quickly from adversity some call this grit when you grit your teeth you're using it as a coping mechanism to endure through pain you're gonna have to suck out the poison oh get your teeth done back down you're doing whatever it takes to keep going in spite of the difficulty this is how you develop resilience figure out ways to keep going even when it's hard everyone gets whacked by life with difficult circumstances some people have stressful jobs slip those burgers faster son faster faster faster use two hands instead of one some people have mean schoolmates oh give me that some people struggle with chronic illness and some people are raised by wolves no matter what challenge you go through it's ultimately up to you how you respond you can choose to be sad despair of life and shrink into a hole or you can choose to be positive and look for ways to learn from the difficulty but no matter what the situation a positive mindset is key to resilience without it you will give up on life and hate the world i hate my life but with it you can overcome any obstacle with gratitude and hope for the future and it's this mindset that allows you to adapt to whatever life throws at you which is a critical skill to keep you moving forward through difficulties like maybe your phone fell in the toilet and broke adapt by finding ways to have fun without a screen or maybe you failed an exam seek out teachers and other students to find ways to improve this process of adapting and persisting will keep you moving forward towards success and growing as a person you'll never be free from making mistakes the world changers and legends that we look up to have countless failures but they do what most people don't they push through the pain and use failure as a tool to propel them forward to the sky boy they understand that the path to success is full of twists and turns and failure if at first you don't succeed try again and again and again come on normal just one more time it works for the legends and it will work for you so let's recap number one don't let failure stop you number two change your perception of failure and number three respond to failure like a pro thank you for watching this how-to video for prageru hope you learned something new we will see you next time and make sure that you watch our other episodes which are already out on prageru kids.com if i can make this shot like this oh wrong corner oh then um somebody gets a shout out in our next episode somebody okay nobody gets a shout out try try again again and it will go in all right let me spin oh whoa oh okay choose your player be free brother to the sky work work harder harder i got a mile three lines long i've got a mile three lines long