Your 90 day quarterly review | my 5 step framework

We are three months into 2026 and I have some thoughts. Hi Muses! Welcome back to my channel where we talk about how women can have their cake and eat it too. I'm your host Nadine and I'm here to rebuild the village women once had so we can have the right conversations and create lives that feel as good as it looks. Please like, subscribe, and turn on the notification bell so you don't miss anything. So every quarter I do a review and I know I know reviews sound so boring. It sounds like something your manager makes you do before performance reviews, but stay with me because what I'm about to walk you through is genuinely one of the most useful things I do for myself and I think by the end of this video you're gonna want to do it too. We are so good at planning. We make the vision boards, we set intentions, we write the goals in pretty journals with nice pens, and then three months go by and we're somehow in the exact same position we were three months ago. Do this four more times and the year is gone and no change has been made and it's not that we are lazy or that we don't care, it's just that nobody actually does the review or we don't know how to do it. How to look back and extract something useful from what happened so that the next 90 days actually go differently. That's what this video is about. I'm going to walk you through my exact framework, five steps, and I'm going to share with you my actual Q1, not the highlight reel, the real version, because I think that's more useful to you than me just pretending I have my life together. So as always, we don't get keep so let's step into it. Before I give you the framework, I want to make a case for why you should even bother doing this. Planning without reviewing is just wishful thinking with a prettier branding. You can write the most beautiful goals in January, but if you never stop to look at what's actually happening, what's working, what's straining you, what you keep avoiding, you'll find yourself writing the exact same goals in next January. Most of us are great planners but not so great executors and terrible reviewers and what it creates is this cycle where we're busy, we're moving, we feel productive, life happens, and we're just rolling with the punches and somehow nothing actually changes. A review breaks that cycle because it forces you to be honest and look at how things are actually going and honesty is where actual change begins. So step one, this is what actually happened and the whole point of this step is to document everything that happened in the last three months but don't evaluate it, okay? Don't reflect on it. We're not passing any sort of judgment here, just facts. You're asking yourself these three questions. What did I complete or follow through on? What did I not even begin and why? And what did I start but not finish? Most people skip this step and go straight to kicking themselves for not doing enough and focusing on how they wasted so much time blah blah blah blah. I get how we can disappoint ourselves like that but that's not a review, okay? Self-criticism is not a reflection so we need to get specific before we actually start analyzing what happened. So for me, what did I complete and follow through on? I worked out three times a week consistently. I walked not as much as I wanted to but it happened. I did my first panel talk on femininity and ambition which I am gonna come back to because it was such a big deal for me and I also stayed consistent with posting which if you know anything about content creation, it is genuinely one of the harder things to sustain. What didn't I even begin? Hobbies, okay? I have this whole plan to try DJing and knitting. I know very different vibes but honestly my time right now is split between work, content, and just keeping myself healthy and there was just nothing left. And what did I start but not finish? I picked up two books, many lives and many masters and the art of gathering. Read the first few pages of both and now they remain on my nightstand looking at me with disapproval and I also started journaling which I was so excited to get going with and I genuinely just couldn't get my thoughts onto the page. Like I would sit down, open my journal, and just stare at it because I felt like I had nothing to share. The point of this step isn't to make you feel bad, okay? It's to give you an honest starting point and you can't work with vague feelings so you need to get specific. Step two is an energy map and this is my favorite step because it reveals a lot and it's also the part I think gives people a reality check. You go back through your calendar, your notes, your memory, and you ask yourself which moments in this quarter did I feel the most like myself? Which commitments consistently felt draining before I even started them? And where was I performing versus where was I actually present? Because your energy does not lie. If something keeps making you want to cancel it before it even begins, that's not laziness, that's a data point on how you're feeling about it and something is definitely misaligned there. So the moments I felt most like myself this quarter were honestly the times I got to be around women who just understood me, the ones who want to talk about business and branding and money and also want to go do girly things and just exist together. I always leave those hangouts with this huge smile on my face and just feeling so grateful. That's the energy I want more of. What drained me? There are certain people in my life right now that I am just actively creating space from and I'm just gonna leave it at that. But I will say the moment that I started being more intentional about protecting my energy around certain people, not only did I feel like it taught them a lesson that I'm not someone who's always just gonna be available to them, but that if they did not step up, I was not about to maintain whatever it is that we had. And the performing versus being present question? Okay, this one is interesting because I did my panel talk this quarter which is on my vision board and I am so proud of myself for doing it, but here's what I struggled with. I wasn't really nervous about the talk itself as much as I was nervous about the mingling after because here's something people don't always know about me. I am an introverted extrovert and it fully depends on who I'm around and when I'm in a room full of people who follow me online, there's this pressure I feel to be the version of myself they see on their phones and I'm actually a very quiet person in real life. So I'm standing there in the after event in my head literally telling myself to relax, breathe, smile so I don't have my RBF on or I don't come off too cold because I actually get told that I do and I didn't want that because I was honestly so excited to meet these girls and my girlfriend who was the host of the event, she kept trying to make eye contact and catch my eyes to remind me to smile and be more upbeat. Meanwhile, I was actually having a full-on internal anxiety spiral. That's performative for me, okay? And it's something I'm still learning how to navigate so I can show up fully as myself. Okay, so step three is where we stop feeling and start rating. You score yourself honestly across six areas of life on a scale of one to five. Five means it went really, really well and you are genuinely so satisfied and one means that this area needs serious attention and the six areas are mental clarity and focus, physical health and energy, finances and career, relationships and community, personal growth and inner work, and joy, play, and rest as one category. And I want to be so clear again, this is not about judgment, it's about data. Low scores are not failures, they are your roadmap for Q2 or whatever quarter you're heading in when you're watching this video. So I have my own ratings in here that I'm going to share with you girls. So mental clarity and focus, I'm giving myself a four. I felt locked in for the most part. There were weeks where I was a little scattered, but overall I knew what I was doing and why. Now for physical health and energy, I am also giving myself a four. I kept up with my workouts, which is genuinely something I'm so proud of. I kept my word on prioritizing my health and wellness even above work, which was the reason that I failed at it last year. Now finances and career, also a four. I went full force this quarter, okay? I did my panel talk, created my two freebies, the hobby menu and the routine menu, and then I picked a date for my local community event in May, which if you are in the Bay Area, I would love for you to come. More details coming soon on my newsletter, so if you're not subscribed, link is in the description box. Relationships and community, a three. And if I'm being honest here, I was struggling in this department because certain relationships I just kept putting off dealing with because I needed to focus on my business and I knew that engaging with it would cost me a lot of mental energy I just didn't have. But on the flip side, the community I've built online, I am absolutely loving it. We went from 100k to 195k on Instagram this quarter. YouTube went from I think like 15 or 20k to 45k. That growth and more importantly, the quality of the women who are showing up, I am genuinely astounded and so grateful. Personal growth and inner work, maybe like a three, three and a half or four. And what's interesting about this one is I didn't actively set aside dedicated time, no scheduled journal sesh, no routine meditation or inner work practice, but I caught myself using all the tools I've built and learned over the years in real time, like managing my emotions in the moment, evaluating my thoughts as they were happening, or like reframing negative self-talk on the spot. And I remember thinking to myself, wow, I'm actually really different than who I was six months ago. Nothing dramatic or anything, it's just I noticed how the work I did compounded and that felt like a big win to me. And lastly, joy, play and rest. I am giving myself a two, okay? Yeah, because my rest this quarter was watching C-dramas and short films in the small windows of downtime that I had. And the rest went to getting enough sleep because I have the worst allergies right now. And I'm not even going to go back and talk about hobbies, okay? Because this is clearly the area that needs the most attention in Q2 if I decide that this is going to be my main focus. Now, step four is the most important step because it's one thing to know what happened and it's a completely different thing to understand why it keeps happening. Step four is pattern recognition. And this is what separates a review from a journal entry. You are asking yourself, what mistakes did I repeat more than once? What kept getting delayed and why? And what external circumstance did I use as a reason or excuse to stay small? The last question is the most important one because we all do this. I'll start when things calm down. I'll focus on that when I have more bandwidth. I just don't really have enough time for that right now. And we say it like it's a fact when in reality, it's not. For me, I wouldn't call it a mistake exactly, but I noticed a pattern of saying yes to invitations that I ended up feeling like weren't really worth my time. But then the thing is, I do think it was necessary for me to go to these events to know that they weren't for me. You can't just opt out of everything on the assumption that it won't serve you. But I also think some of those yeses were just me not wanting to miss out on things. What kept getting delayed? Planning my community event. It's been in the works for like six months now and it was supposed to happen in March, but I postponed it. And I am a recovering perfectionist, okay? So the closer something gets to being real, the more I want to control every single detail to make sure everything is perfect. The vibes, the energy, the food, the attendees list, and the more I want to control it, the more I procrastinate starting it. And that's kind of the pattern. It's honestly probably some kind of fear that's buried in there that's dressed up as preparation and list preparing, right? We know all about that. And also making time to walk. I get my workouts in and then I'm glued to my desk for the rest of the day. I know walks are good for me. I know they help me with my nervous system and I still find a way to skip them when things get busy. And my go-to excuse, can you guess? It's I don't have enough time. Meanwhile, I can't sleep so I'm scrolling my phone and watching shows. So let's be real, it's not about not having time, it's avoidance. No one is really that busy. And if it's an energy thing, get it out of the way before you run out of energy. For me, noticing a pattern doesn't mean I'm beating myself up about it. It means I'm no longer running on autopilot. And finally, step five, your inventory of wins. I save this for the last on purpose. I know there's like a temptation to start here because it feels good. But when you do this last, after you've been honest about everything, after you've named your patterns, after you've sat with the hard stuff, your wins really do land differently. They feel earned and they feel real, not like a consolation prize to make yourself feel better. So here, I want you to write down three things that you're most proud of, one moment you showed up for yourself when it was hard, and one way that you grew that isn't really measurable. So sharing with you my wins for this quarter, three things that I'm proud of. One, again, I know I won't shut up about it, I did my panel talk. I know I keep coming back but this is something I really want you to understand. I have really bad social anxiety. Okay, I'm also a recovering type A perfectionist. So standing in front of 50 women to speak about something I care about deeply, that was terrifying, but I did it anyway. Two, I followed through on my workout schedule consistently. I joined the 5am club because I kept saying I didn't have time, so I made time in the morning. And this is also the moment I showed up for myself when it was hard. Because the morning of daylight savings, I could have stayed in bed. I had every reason to, but instead I got up at 5am, which was really the old 4am, and I got myself to the gym. And it was empty, okay? No one, and I mean no one was there. But I showed up and it felt good. And then the third one, I held my boundaries and my relationships. There were certain situations this quarter where the old me would have let things slide in order to keep the peace. I did not do that this quarter. I did not care what drama followed or what fallout came after. I held my line. And the last thing, one way I grew that isn't measurable, and I touched upon this already but I want to be more specific. I started noticing how fast I'm able to clock something, reflect on it, reframe it, and shift my behavior in real time. And that's definitely not a skill I had just a couple of months ago. I would have like spiraled or took like two weeks to process everything. I would have needed to journal my feelings. Now it's almost instant. And that's the work showing up. And I'm proud of that. Now based on everything I just reflected on, I want to set my intentions for the next quarter. And the rule is you can only choose three. One focus, one habit to build, and one thing to release. My one focus is my community event in May. I kept delaying the planning. I named that as a pattern. So this quarter it gets to be the thing. The event is happening. It's on the calendar. My one habit to build, I am sticking to the gym and adding more high protein meals. Physical health was one of my higher scores, but I want to build on it and not just maintain it. And what I'm being disorganized with my clothes and my vanity. I know it sounds so random, but hear me out. Literally everything in my home is organized and intentional, except for this one corner of chaos, a pile of clothes that has been living on my chair since like last year. And my vanity looks like Sephora had a breakdown. Okay. Every time I walk past this corner, I just feel this low level friction that I know is annoying me. So it's going to go. I need some kind of habit or routine of putting things back when it comes to my clothes or makeup. One thing that came up for me when I was doing this review was how I was structuring my routines because when my routines were solid, everything else was more manageable and accounted for. But when I had no real structure, everything felt way harder and more chaotic than it really needed to be. So I built something to help with that. It's the routine menu and it's a free notion dashboard that I made to help women figure out which routines they actually need and how to build them in a way that works for your real life. It's linked in the description, it's free, grab it. And if you're doing this review alongside me, I genuinely think using the routine menu to set up your quarterly habits is going to be a really good combination. So this is the whole review, five steps. And if you actually do this, like really sit down and do it, I promise you the next quarter is going to look and feel so different for you. And if you do your quarter end review, please come tell me in the comments. I want to know one pattern you noticed or one of your Q2 focuses. I read everything and I love hearing from you. That's all the cake I have for you today. Thank you so much for watching until the end. I appreciate it so much. 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