The Reality of Dating in Thailand What Women Actually Look For

What's your name? My name is Nelly. Nice to meet you Nelly. How old are you? I'm 20, 30. You're 30 years old, right? Yeah. Okay. What are you doing right now? Like what is your job? My job is freelance. Now I'm doing education consultant and business consultant. Okay. And where are you from? Utah or? I'm from Myanmar. Okay. And why you come to Thailand? My country's situation is not really good. It's bad. So I cannot stay there anymore. So I'm here. Okay. So you come to Thailand to have a better life, right? Yeah. For a better life. I see. I'm going to ask you something else. Are you single right now? Yeah. Do you prefer to date Thai here or foreigner? Do you have a preference? Or no? Actually, I have been date with same guy with my nationality, same nationality. But I prefer foreigner. You prefer foreigner. Okay. Why? We can talk more openly and we can understand each other because our language is not same. So maybe within this gap, we can get more understanding. Okay. Do you have some foreign country you like? Some nationality? Before this, I have been dating two foreigners. One is Turkey and one is Malaysia. But it's already break up. Okay. Turkish and Malaysian. And how was it with this guy? Was nice guy or? Yeah. It was really nice. Really nice. Actually, I prefer foreigner. That's why I'm dating with them. I am Asian girl. So there is a different culture and different lifestyle. And sometimes it can be a problem. Yeah. It can be a problem. I prefer foreigner but sometimes there is a lot of problem also. Problem is every relationship has every problem. Like what problem did you have? Because with foreigner, like language barrier also, like we cannot understand each other. I'm saying one thing but he misunderstanding that what I'm not mean to be like that. Okay. I see. I understand. And what do you think about, for example, American guys? Do you want to date them or no? American guys? I never date them before. Maybe in the future if you have the chance, do you want to or? Maybe. Okay. Yeah. Okay. Because you know, so many people think the American, they are like good guys, they are free, blah, blah, blah. Yeah. Most of the foreigner, they are really good because they respect Asian girl and they admire us also. Yeah. So you think dating foreigner from the West is a good mix? From the Western? Like between Asian girl and Western guys is a good mix? Yeah. Good mix. Why you don't want to date Thai guy, for example? We cannot speak English. That is a big problem, you know. We cannot communicate in very simply because most of the Thai guys, they cannot speak English but some they can but not very well. Yeah. Okay. That's a big problem. Okay. And Thai guys, they try to date you before or flirt with you in the street or ask your number, Instagram? Yeah, sometimes like this but I never date with Thai guy before. Okay. Because they don't speak English? Yeah, they don't speak English. Do you have bad experience with foreign or foreigner before? Foreigner is foreigner from the West. Yeah. Bad experience. Yeah, like bad experience. Actually, I really love freedom because if I will be in relationship or if I will date some foreigner or some Western guy, I really prefer to be freedom for me. The first guy, a Malaysian guy, he a little bit strict because our nationality, no, religion is not same. So their religion is like kind of Indian. So he is really strict. Even my like costume also he is strict. So this is a bad experience. I don't like it. He want to control what you wear? Yeah. Okay, because the Malaysian guy, he was Muslim guy? He is Muslim? Not Muslim. He is Indian. I think Christian and Buddhism mix. Okay, and he want to control what you wear? Yeah. Okay, and you don't like that? I don't like this kind of situation. Okay, so what you say to him? Because this is my freedom. I can wear whatever I want. I can do whatever I do. Maybe if it's not mistake. Even if it's wrong, he can be advise me. You shouldn't do like this. But kind of control. What he don't like about your clothes? Like short. Short and like very small things. Like how can I say it? He don't want me to wear like this kind of dress also he don't. Okay. So you have bad experience with this guy and then with the Turkish guy also or no? Turkish guy, he is Muslim but he is very nice. Okay. Very, very nice. What about in the street when you walk in Bangkok? Like for example, did you have like some bad experience with people here? Foreigner, Falang try to ask you something or your number or try to be rude? One time, when I take a taxi. I always take a taxi because I cannot take MRT, BTS. One time, there is a guy, driver. Like he is insane. I don't know how but like I feel like something like he is looking me from the back mirror also. Okay. And then like how can I say it? I feel something like… He watch you too much? Yeah, yeah, yeah. He look at you, he look at you. And then he is driving, he is driving with not normal way, you know. Because I am watching via my map but the way is rough. So, I face that kind of experience. Okay, and the taxi driver was Thai? Yeah. So, there is nothing wrong but he dropped me my destination and that's it. But my feeling is not really good. Yeah, you feel not good that time? Yeah, good. Because I always going like alone. Mostly, I am doing alone like I am traveling for myself, for my business a lot. That's why, yeah. If you have to pick between a guy that is rich and ugly or poor and handsome, what do you pick? Oh my god. Actually features, facial features is not problem for me. Because I am really intent to attitude. Attitude is most important for me. Even if he is ugly or poor, that's not problem for me. As long as his attitude is very nice, he is smart guy, then I will. Okay, so who do you pick? The first or the second? Let's say both have good personality. Yeah, handsome and poor. Okay, okay. Next question. For you, why Thai women and Myanmar women in your case want to date foreigner? Maybe most of the western guys, they have already stable future and stable financial also. I think there is a different way of thinking. Because my opinion is just my opinion. Other girls' opinion will be different. My opinion is I am dating foreigner guys because they are open-minded and they cannot control a lot. And then they can understand, they respect, they admire us. They are really respectful when we talk also. That's why I prefer foreigner. But for other girls, I am not sure. Maybe there is other ambition like different lifestyle, different culture, something like that. Okay. Is it different with the Myanmar guys? Very different. What's the difference with the Myanmar guys? If we are dating same nationality, there is a lot of problem. Because even if we talk, if we talk for a while, maybe we can meet to be, there is some, how can I say, bad words that I meant to be. I feel like I date a lot of Burmese guys, not a lot, only three guys. They are good, they are good. This is my opinion. But there is a difference. They want to control. I think it's the same attitude. Most of the guys have this kind of attitude. They want to control to his girlfriend. Okay, like they want to control you. And you, you don't want to be controlled. Yeah, no. I want to be freedom. Okay, but when you say control, what is control for you? For me, costume and also maybe if I want to go somewhere, like there is a guy also there. Even my parents also, they don't control me. Maybe somewhere I want to go, they allow me. Of course, they want me to say, but not control. They control a lot. If you want to go somewhere, you have to ask to your boyfriend to go there. And if he says no, you cannot go. Okay, yeah, it's a big difference. Next question, why foreigners, they like Asian girls? My previous talking guy, he told me that why he loves me. Because I have open-minded. I'm really open. I'm extrovert. So I have open-minded and the Asian girl, mostly they're really beautiful, really cute. And their skin, even skin tone also is not same. And like there is a different ways of imagining that. Your ex-boyfriend, he said that to you? Yeah. Like he prefer Asian girl than the girl he is in his country. Okay. I feel like most of the Asian girl culture is very polite way, you know. And even now, maybe if we fight, we have a tolerance, you know. We have a lot of tolerance. Even we fight, we cannot like shout, blah, blah, not like that. Like we can be solve every problem in very peacefully. I know some guys, they say the Asian girl, they take care better of you. Yeah, yeah. Do you think it's true? Right, for me also. How do you take care of your boyfriend? What do you like to do for him? I will take care of his health. It's very important. And I will take care of his daily activity also. Have to do gym, have to eat more healthy food, something like that. And then have to take care of his business also like paying good advice. I want him to be very happy with me. I'm very comfortable. Okay, I see. And what do you expect from him? Just only caring and love. What is caring for you? Caring like messaging me, calling me, and messaging me, yeah. Message you? Message me, yeah. Okay, like every hour or something? Not every hour. I'm not a kid. Not every hour, maybe. He just text me what he is doing. Within 24 hours, maybe there is like he eating lunch, eating with blah, blah, blah. Some kind of romance, you know. Do you like him to offer you some gift or take you to the restaurant or things like that? What do you think about that? Actually, in relationship, guys have to take care of this also. Not because the girl want to be like… It's just caring each other, you know. Maybe taking to a good restaurant, good food, and some good gift, something like that. The girl will be more happy. Okay. And what do you think about 50-50 in relationship? 50-50? Yes, what do you think about that? In the Philippines, mostly they are using like 50-50. But in Asia, no.