Why People CHEAT IN RELATIONSHIPS - with Allan Lawrence

Presenter Ali, your entertainment PA. By the way, the air is always Amazing stories to fill the first Human interest stories and sometimes one relationship one and only Alan Lawrence. Spinaminutes, if you were to become a single day, where would you go? Safe travels, thank you so much for being back home So it's an honor; I don't take it for granted. Working with you is amazing And congratulations to us, tumefika 200,000 We earned 200,000, the team is very happy. Nini ngekuwa na wa surprise kuenu lakini The girl is 300 years old. No worries, I'll handle it. You know me, I believe in life The moment you see somebody making progress It means that God is watching over you You can also achieve that. I have always learned to celebrate Because what you celebrate, you tend to attract. You can never attract what you attack. Amazing, that's great Today we are talking about The exact reason why people tend to cheat in relationships Because it's something that happens in more than 50% of relationships You're together, you cheat The whole world knows that you are together. But there's someone out there who will let you cheat What really happens? You know, the one thing people need to understand That person, anyone who goes so far as to cheat you Believe me, this person will still cheat on you. And it all comes down to one thing Cheating is a personal decision. You can't tell me that it was just a circumstance. You found yourself, and you cheated. Cheating in most cases The people we find as victims In most cases Men Why? Because when you look at it from this angle Men, we are sex-driven. Women are love-motivated. That is why today prostitution is selling Why? Because a man will just see anything Anything that looks like a lady They will sleep with But a woman before you sleep with this person Before you do anything It means that she needs to prepare mentally. There is so much that goes through a lady's mind. But men, we are just like that. The thing is, it's a personal decision. You can't tell me it was just a circumstance. So for men They cheat because of Sexual drive For women? For women, they cheat because they tend to seek love. That is why you find a woman will tread upon herself Will offer sex In return for Love For a woman If you realize a woman has cheated It's because maybe in a relationship She does not feel love. Exactly It is the question of whether she is seeking love. Does that mean a woman can never Cheating for sex? No, she can't. But very minimal cases Whereby, perhaps In that romantic relationship For some time then the man is not there He is not romantically Available for her We are human beings. And we have emotions If you talk to them And you just tell them Why are you cheating? They will have this answer. I have been with him for a long time. I don't have feelings for him Is that a real thing? One thing that comes to mind Is the foundation of this relationship Because you realize that this person Was not looking for commitment He was looking for To satisfy their sexual desire Because after you satisfy your sexual desire You see, the project is done. That is why in the previous video You said that men are project-oriented. As long as I had this woman in my life And I have slept with her for some time. I am like no one else The project is complete, so we are done. We move on to the next chapter That is what usually happens in most cases. So we can say he has already Satisfied his desire There is nothing new I look forward to. Because men tend to be We are always chasers. I need to be looking At something At least I have the motivation. To keep chasing after her I have seen many relationships. They say we've been together for 50 years. And I have never cheated Even in a day I want you to make Some of the viewers believe that It is very possible. Because relationship is not based on foundation Of feelings It is a commitment. I am committing to this person. For better or worse At all given times Temptation may come, but due to the commitment The other person may choose to cheat. But due to my personal commitment Due to my value system I can't cheat no matter what the other person is doing Because you realize Some people tend to cheat. As a form of rebound So even if the other person is cheating I am such that I will adhere to my principles. No matter what happens, I will never cheat. And it stays with me Even fluttering Fluttering is also a form of cheating. Because you are emotionally Just as you divert attention The attention you are supposed to give To a significant hub, you give to the other person That's cheating. That is emotional cheating as well. So how many types of cheating are there? We have emotional cheating Then we have emotional infidelity Emotional is where You might flirt with someone, maybe. You can flirt with someone. You're supposed to be telling your wife Or are you supposed to be telling your husband only? You are telling the other person It feels bad. I get you What might be another reason why people cheat? Because some people have low self-esteem In a way, they have low self-esteem. Just the only way they can find fulfillment The only way they can satisfy their ego Are they going out there to cheat? Do you understand? Let me just speak to men Today we are not celebrating. People who have many girlfriends We are not celebrating people who Have skill in the bedroom But we are celebrating people who are making an impact. So you realize, for us men We have that ego. Just to please Just to make a point to our fellow guys To please our boys' club But in the long run, we are hurting ourselves. It's just like taking poison and expecting Another person to get hurt So it cannot do you justice It is a question of you having And holding on to your part of the bargain Because the moment you commit yourself The moment you are devoting yourself to this lady You have to do anything and everything To sustain this relationship Because security in a relationship Is always guaranteed by the man And it is the lady who determines When will sex occur in a relationship? Discussion for another day So security For a long-lasting relationship Is the man's job A man will provide security. And a woman will decide when they will become intimate. I've never thought of it that way. But I would just like to ask Is there any Another reason Before I ask a very important question The other reason I think Some people do it because Rebound Low self-esteem Sexual drive Just to echo that Would you attest That probably The fact that you are not You never Learned many things About sex when you were You were not in a relationship. Or you were not married Because some people say There's this popular saying Do these things Because when you get married You just drive And now you get married. He does these things. Because you don't do them Is it real? Not really, because people tend to be ignorant. Of the important things in a relationship They use it as a cover-up. Why should I say that? Especially for us men I long for a day when we men Will be sitting down to discuss these important matters. Because today Today To a point where A woman wants to get married. You see people organizing bridal showers When she gives birth They organize a baby shower. But the idea of a baby shower You look at it in history Where the friends come Older people try to guide them. But there's a day We sit like this There's a day Society or men Tell me to sit like this We need to get to that point here. We have discussions as men Serious discussions As far as relationships are concerned When we get to that point We get it right Whereby people are like Those who rush the process They tend to crash in the long run Because if you're looking at staying For the longest time in this thing Possible and to have a long-lasting Relationship You will be intentional. We are going to look at the chemistry. Sexual compatibility There's nothing like that. It's like right now When you go to the yard If you want to buy ProBox You will get a test drive But if you are told Right now you will get a Porsche You will buy a Porsche. Do you know you can't test drive it? Until you buy it That's true So when you meet someone who says I must take it for a test drive That person has that self-esteem. To a certain extent If you believe in yourself If you know what you're doing You don't need to be test driving. Everything operates on principles. So when you come across someone Those things won't work. I know society has made it too casual. But it is a profound matter. It is a profound matter. Because I believe one day We will have this discussion. As far as sexual education is concerned Because getting intimate with a person There is a lot that it takes in. So it's not that easy. That's when you come across someone Who is single? But the way they test drive That person is single. But the spiritual Mileage As in spiritually Spiritually, this guy He is polygamous, but physically he is single. So you have been You have been You have made a big mistake. Because true love waits Because it's better for you to wait Other than to waste What is the remedy? Without cheating Every time you are tempted to cheat What should you do? Because real men Will always think with their mind You think with your mind And by the time you are able to control your mind You will be able to control Anything that happens around you So it's you who expose yourself To the right information Because we act based on the kind of information we have It's like right now If they play music We will find ourselves in a certain mood So in the same case The environment to which you expose yourself What matters most Because if you are not in an entertaining environment Then you expect to be clean. You can't hang out with friends. Because you gather where you are connected You look like the friends you keep The friends you have are the prophets of your destiny. So you just have to be intentional. With the kind of friends you keep at that particular time Because you can be surrounded by toxic men Or toxic friends Who normalizes cheating Who told you that you are the biggest thing that has ever happened? When you cheat, you are the biggest Like there's nothing Because if you channel that energy into doing something constructive Because the moment you are idle That is the moment now You find yourself doing all these things It's like right now if a man is sitting here And he keeps hitting you How will you get the next story now? Will you have time to cheat? So it is a question of Like try to do something productive Distract the attention That means after cheating You can always go back And become a man of principle Because then If you realize Stay accountable Company to a point whereby You know people think you're weak when you ask for help. It shows that you are wise. It's like right now when I get a camera If I don't know When I come and tell you that I can't Don't insult me If that is the correct word But it shows that I am wise and I am ready to learn. That's amazing I have never seen great people; I have only seen people who were helped. Thankomed very much for your time Thank you for always coming here. To grace the screens With so much information, Wataza Maji And as much as we are trying To give them an opportunity We are also trying to provide them with information. And educate them on various topics And you have a great man named Alan Lawrence. He is the one we are coming to. To tell us a story on the topic of The topic of drugs My last message is Never trade your future destiny For two minutes of pleasure So don't just End up having casual sex Because you will end up a casualty of life Amazing Behind the camera is my good friend. His name is Eric Mukabwa. Or you can call him Director Mukabza. I am the host of All Your Entertainment PAA is always for amazing And I'll see you all in the next video. Until then, take care. Peace